Our Hotwives

I’m still in shock that there are people who don’t like fingers and oral sex.

Honestly, the separate bedroom and pouty condom behavior is a no-go for me. The no-fun attitude about what are relatively basic sexual acts just makes it seem like you’re not missing out on much.

My question is pretty simple.... Do you hide anything from your husband's? Any secrets or details that you know he would love that you don't tell him? I’m also in the privacy club. I try not to mislead anyone, I won’t lie. But I believe that everyone should be able to define the amount of privacy t...

Humans have a range of sexual turn-ons that basically translates into every person having traits that will be found attractive by someone. Everyone is sexy to at least one other person, and usually a heck of a lot more. I happen to desire a variety of male-bodied people with the main commonality amo...

In Portland, the number of Facebook groups for poly and ENM people to connect either socially, for support, or for dating is significant. I’ve met friends that way, but I haven’t gotten a date out of it yet.

I just finished reading Polysecure and I can’t recommend it enough. It’s just that good. It starts with an accurate and up-to-date explanation of attachment theory. (I’ve been trained to lead multiple attachment-based parenting courses by experts in the field who originated the methods, and everythi...

Just to pipe in here… For many people, some sex acts carry with them an emotional quality that isn’t immediately obvious to others. And the sex acts that trigger these more complex emotions vary from person to person. To make it even more complicated, one might find the same act comfortable in one c...

So many thoughts after catching up on your thread! Multiple forced orgasms (as from the two Magic Wand experience with Sir) are very intense for me emotionally, too. I’m so glad your men took care of you, even if they weren’t both available in person. And I’m amazed about you fitting the head of the...

I need more spontaneity like that in my life.

“It makes sense that with swinging the vibe should be mostly about sexy fun. But I like lusty passion. This was a good experience and all of us had fun, but I wouldn't say it was great. I like great sex.“ Your sentiments are very close to how I felt about our threesome yesterday with one of JS’s lad...

Compersion in a man is sexy. I suppose there are different contexts for it. Is it compersion if he sees the woman as carrying out his fantasies? For JS, and at least some of my other guys, it’s not just that. (And, not incidentally, it’s not just my own wish-fulfillment when I see JS aglow from sexu...

My husband has suffered from depression in the past—both seasonal and major depressive episodes. One of the major symptoms for him has been anhedonia, in which one doesn’t experience pleasure, or it is muted. As part of this—amplified by his issues regarding his sexual preference that have become cl...

I think that we’re getting now to a substantive point—if one partner’s love language, so to speak, is sex and physical affection, then it’s really important not to deny that person sexually. That partner should advocate for their own needs in the relationship, which might not be understood by their ...

That other thread was totally different. That husband isn’t being neglected. Their sexual connection is just changing its form.

Welcome, D!

Don’t worry about size. Look for someone who will meet you both for a non-sex date first, actually show up, show interest in details about the desired dynamic and contribute to the discussion meaningfully (preferably based on actual experience), and communicate well. If your wife has deal-breakers, ...

I am glad to have this update and hear how you’ve found something just as special for the two of you. You sound very happy. I hope your love for each other continues to flourish.

I can relate a lot to what GoddessJ says. I have always been someone who has a lot of deep friendships in which I get to share different parts of my personality and interests. I’m naturally very loving and find knowing intimately a variety of people endlessly fascinating. I can do that type of frien...

I love this whole birthday remembrance. The sex sounds hot, and I love the dialog between you and D.

Love this thread!

Ok. My wife would like her first time to be organic. Like she bumps into a guy during the normal course of her day preferably on vacation (haha) and thinks happen. She knows this is highly unlikely so she entertains other methods of contact. My question today for the hotwives out there is “ what wa...

I am amazed… and tantalized. What an incredible experience you’ve had! Your Sir is clearly an enthusiastic, talented, and worthy partner. I hope you have many more adventures with him.

Hotwifing is in a poorly defined place relative to other forms of nonmonogamy. Some couples start out monogamish, where they enjoy occasional assignations (either the HW solo or with the husband) as a way to spice up their shared life. Some start out with the expectation that the wife’s lovers are a...

It’s not gone that far with us, but my friend and his wife who are swingers know Ann has boyfriends has suggested a swap. The problem is that although we like them as friends, we don’t find them at all sexually attractive. I’ve managed to put him off for now, but I am struggling to think how I can ...

There are many ways to be womanly, and there is an enthusiastic audience out there for most of them. I can dress to the nines and out on a faceful of makeup—and I might get a lot of looks. But I put on a simple wrap dress and not a stitch of makeup and get a lot of looks, too. Why? Because people ar...

I like the condom compromise. I appreciate your view, but why should he compromise? If this is his kink, then go for it. If it’s not, then why should he give anything up? It just seems so unfair and one sided. I get the cuck dynamic, it’s a tremendous turn on, but only if it’s what you want. Outsid...