When there is genuine attraction and intimacy, and yes even love, it adds so much more for all three of you. Yes, there is extra risk, but there is a corresponding extra thrill. My wife is in love and lust with her lover so i appreciate this scenario.
I totally understand and agree with that. My wife is in a similar boat. She has been seeing a man for 2 months now and there is that intimacy and attraction they both have for each other. She meets him a few times a week and last weekend they went out of town to be with each other. I do have the usual mixed emotions in such a situation but the bottomline really is that she is happy and more confident about herself and satisfied. And believe it or not, that makes me happy to see her that way. Our sex life has also improved a great deal since her affair started.