yielding william wrote:
Even during cuckolding, a wife and the other man often feel love between them, That might happen to most cucking wives at the moments they're fucking. It has with my wife during hot sex but when she comes down the feeling dissipates. It's common though for a deeper friendship to develop with my wife and most often with me as well.
If a marriage is otherwise solid, those feelings would be unlikely to be a threat. Cuckolding wives tend to stay with their husbands. Even those who cheat (very) rarely leave their husband for another man unless there are serious problems that don't involve sex.
Very well said William. Our experience has been much the same as yours. My wife naturally has an emotional bond with her lover. All of the various labels (intimate friend, fuck buddy etc.) are so subjective, it's difficult to choose the right one for any particular circumstance. And I think each couple have their own unique bond anyway.
I never went into the lifestyle with a naive notion that my wife could make love to another man and not develop some feelings for him...or him for her. And I think that knowledge is part of the arousal for me as a cuckold husband. To know that another man is enjoying not only my wife's body, but his own unique emotional bond with her. Not to the point of him taking over my place as her husband, but somewhere between a platonic friendship and a marriage bond. I have never felt threatened by him that way, and I know Juli does not desire more than a sexual / intimate friendship with him.
But I do think this is one area of the lifestyle that often gets over looked. It's easier to talk about the physical sex that takes place between a hot wife and her lover, but the emotional connection between them is much more vague. But it is also the most erotic part of the lifestyle for me as the husband.
You two gentlemen are on to an aspect of open relations that is typically treated as threatening, yet has the potential to create a greater marital bond between husband and wife. The act of cherishing your wife's pleasure, both physical and emotional, can be the most intense and satisfying aspect of a marriage based upon loving devotion to each other. Women do have the capacity to emotionally and physically bond with more than one person.
Whether your wife carries on a relationship by herself in a classic affair, or you share the bedroom together with other partners, to see the glow in your wife's face, the extra energy in her step; this is worth the "risk." I believe the over-wash of love, lust, and romance this generates back in the marital home is worth it.
I see this as an evolution of adulthood. Once men and women reach either a certain time in their marriage and/or reach a certain age, the interest in extra marital adventures increases. It does not have to be the beginning of the end of a marriage, as it is so often portrayed, but a natural evolution of it.
This does not to have to turn into a negative, but it does require a higher level of maturity on all parties involved to be successful.