Tell us, JMNBABE, do you yourself still fuck your wife? And if so, does she tell you about it?
I just saw this............sorry for the delayed response:
We do fuck, although rarely. I can count the number of times on one hand yearly and have a finger or two left over. Its only when she is for some reason unable to be with him and she gets needy........with me she uses her diaphragm and I am required to wear 1-2 condoms. My sperm has not touched her for appx 4 years.
Sounds HORRIBLE.........but its not really. She jerks me off in to a condom a couple times a week while telling me all about their most recent trysts and I am cleaning her up afterwards. Sometimes even on the weekend too if they are together. We are "sexual" in all other ways, just very limited intercourse. As I don't last long anyway, am small in size and have little longevity, and always wondering if she (or any woman actually) is truly enjoying this or putting up with it (my own particular obsession) and I cum MUCH harder from being jerked off, especially when she adds to the situation with her own tricks to make it better and MORE draining, than while worrying if its too soon or good enuf and oh shit I came too fast again..........I actually prefer things the way they are.
She is getting LOTS of great sex, she is VERY turned on by him and what they are doing and I KNOW she is by her response to me and the condition she comes home in that she's having a GREAT time!! Not for everyone, but it works for us.