Hi, responding to the following questions...
1. Has your sex life with your wife been affected?
Yes. In the beginning it was insane in a good way. I had to bed her for a night off. She was insatiable.
But she now has sex with her lover far more often than with me. I guess the ratio is usually about 11:1 in his favour.
Am I unhappy about that? Not at all. I enjoy the fact that her BF is now her primary lover. We aren't into overt humiliation but when my wife takes him by the hand and leads him to our bedroom, well that is somewhat humiliating.
Her lover knows that he is her preferred sexual partner. He knows that she prefers to have him as her 'mate'. My wife doesn't close the bedroom door and her lover enjoys undressing himself so I can see them together naked.
His cock is about 3 inches longer and has a lot more girth that I have. My wife said to me once "that I come a lot more than he does. Maybe because when he comes he is a lot further up inside me that you are."
In an ideal world I would love to have a situation where he could be with her everyday and have sex spontaneously several times a week.
If you have any other questions please ask.
Now that you are in this "11:1" ratio, would you say that your wife denies you a lot, or is this simply the way it's turned out? In other words, would it be more accurate to say that you have a relatively lower libido as compared to your wife's boyfriend, or that it's your wife who only permits occasional sex between you and her?
In my case, both my wife and her boyfriend are much younger than I am, and they both have a much higher libido than me. They make love much more frequently than her and I do, but that's not because I'm ever "denied" in any way. I'm simply happy with sex once a month or every couple of weeks, or so.