Des 31 wrote:
We have been in the lifestyle for several years and all of our encounters have been with guys on swinger sites. The other day at the gym she saw a guy she would love to play with. My question is how and what is the best way to approach a new playmate?
We have been at this awhile. Some may come up with "rules," but my wife has met men in a variety of circumstances. All she does is engage them in conversation, and that often develops into a personal connection. Sometimes, that has been at her first meeting. Women instinctively understand how to allow a man to realize she's available if he asks or makes a move for intimacy.
If she is willing, there shouldn't be a problem eventually. Those things just happen, a lot more than most husbands realize.
It is pretty simple. Smile.. Talk.. Laugh.. have fun conversations. Then say “we should have a cup of coffee or a drink sometime”.. that is when he will see that there is a chance to spend time with her and maybe progress further. If he agrees to that, the chase is on !! If he does not agree with that say “we’ll, if you ever change your mind, let me know”. This will give him time to think about it if he didn’t pick up in it quick enough the first time. It is actually pretty simple !!
If it was me talking to a woman in the gym I would do the same thing. And if she agreed to meet for coffee or a drink I know that her thoughts are the same as mine and we would progress from there. If her thoughts were not the same she would politely decline and we would still be friends !! However.. i never rule out the possibility she will think about it and feel arousal begin to increase and at a later time say “maybe we should meet for a cup of coffee” !! No woman or man will meet another alone for coffee or a drink without some degree of sexual attraction.. no matter how well they want to keep it hidden !!
And it is so easy while in conversation to say “where do you work ??” And no matter what the answer is you say “I am going to be shopping near there next Tuesday.. want to meet for a cup of coffee or a drink after work ??”. Then say “here is my number.. text me when you get off work”. Now he has your number and will probably give you his.. or say “give me your number so I know who you are when you text”. Then do a “test” text to each other to make sure you got it right .. now you are texting !! You can always text next saying you are excited about next Tuesday.. etc.. etc.. etc.. see where this is going ??
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