I would imagine with more time, and her knowing you feel secure, that she may yet enjoy a "sleep over." Knowing she would be enjoying herself more is an honorable goal, but I admire and respect your patience, and your respect for her feelings.
Thank you. The one thing I have learned through this experience is that the relationnship between my wife and her lover (and honestly the entire 3-way relationship including me) does evolve over time. While the core of the relationship remains the constant...the core being our marriage of 37 years...and my wife being the main variable, I have seen her go from being quite timid about having sex with a man other than me, to just a week ago her being comfortable enough to initiate the next meeting. She asked me if I "wanted to arrange a time for her to be with Brian again". So that is actually set up for tomorrow (Tuesday).
I came to the realization that in the process of wife'sharing, if it continues long enough, it reaches a point of no return. The sexual cat is now out of the bag and will not be put back in. Juli now has a sexual relationship with Brian that is unique to them, and desirable. She and I still have our very strong marriage remationship, and our sexual relationship is still primary, but Juli and Brian also have a sexual, and to that extent an emotional bond of their own.
So now I'm a 3 year verteran "husband of a hotwife"...and if I were to offer any advice to another husband who is either starting down this road or contemplating the lifestyle., I would say to be prepared to see your wife develop a relationship with another man, to the point where she no longer tries to hide or deny her desire to be with him sexually. I'm not saying it has to be detrimental to your marriage, in fact I am convinced it has strenghented and added to our own marriage....but just know that at some point, you will be sharing more than your wife's body. A woman can love two men (albeit in different ways and different levels). Juli doesn't love Brian as a husband...not the way she loves me...but she loves him as an intimate friend. I am still quite positive about our 3-way relationship with Brian and am very glad to see Juli enjoying her sexuality with him. I'm just saying that it is a transition. I now realize that Brian is now a co-partner in our marriage and will be for the foreseeable future.