My wife's lover also is divorced.
He was a longtime friend/neighbor; his divorce happened about a year prior to he and my wife getting together.
This man is my wife's exclusive lover.
He is a classic Alpha male.
She gets the best of both worlds!
And I'm very happy for her
We stopped being lovers not long after she hooked up with him, now more than 15 years ago.
She said it just didn't feel right to be sleeping with two men.
She is is always bareback with him?
And on the pill or is he snipped?
Always bareback - as she always was with me when we were lovers. ( We ended up making three babies...) My wife is the most "natural" and "organic" woman I've ever known, so of course she would never take the Pill, and we both abhorred condoms. But she really knew her cycles and so we wouldn't have sex if she was really fertile at the time. This worked fine for us.
By now my wife is post-menopausel and so needs no birth control. She lets her lover come inside her, or she finishes him up with a blow job. She prefers he cum inside her while banging her from behind - her favorite position. He prefers to hold back until after she has her peak orgasm and then pulls out and she takes him orally. I was seldom able to bring her to orgasm, and she NEVER sucked my cock. But her man is easily twice my size and brings out the hidden sexual beast in my wife. Though she is happy to be married to me - her steady "rock" after all - she has a whole 'nother life with her lover. She loves sucking his cock; she loves the way he manhandles her in bed. But she wouldn't want to be his wife and live with him. She really has the best of both worlds.