New developments
Posted: Sun Jun 11, 2023 12:14 am
I had honestly thought my days posting on this site were over. But life can surprise you sometimes and it surely has gotten interesting for my wife Jen and I this past three weeks. Let me quickly bring you up to speed and then tell you why my stomach is tied up in multiple knots as I write these words.
In my earlier posting, titled “My Wife Fell in Love With My Best Friend” I told the story of how my lovely wife Jen, with my consent and encouragement, started a very high energy affair with a married man who we both knew well and who was– at that time at least – my best friend. The man – Dan – eventually got divorced. After his divorce the affair evolved into a genuine committed polyamorous relationship where Jen became the primary partner for both of us and lived with Dan for substantial periods of time on a regular basis. For several years we all thrived in the relationship. For reasons which I won’t get into here (you can read all about it in the prior posts) Jen cut things off with Dan a couple of years ago. He has remained out of the picture ever since. Since then Jen has had no extramarital relationships of any kind, nor evinced any desire to pursue one, despite my not so subtle suggestions. Instead she has focused her energy on our daughter and granddaughter.
For some time I have feared that the sexually adventurous phase of our lives had come to a close. But all that started to change in a hurry two weeks ago.
As readers of the earlier blog posts know, I run a seasonal business providing tour excursions, mostly for cruise ship passengers. We are extremely busy from May through September every year with July and August being our biggest months. The business is predicated on the relationships I have developed with several of the major cruise lines. As long as they are pleased with our services (and we don’t have any more pandemics!) we are in good shape. So as you might imagine we do everything we can to keep them happy.
Last month we were contacted by a cruise line we had not worked with before about possibly signing up with us for the 2024 season. I ended up making a short trip to their headquarters in Miami and asked Jen to come along and enjoy a weekend away. We splurged and treated ourselves to first class tickets both ways. We were ticketed to come home on Sunday afternoon but my meetings on Friday went so well that the client asked me to come back in for another presentation on Monday. Jen needed to get home as she is the day care provider for our granddaughter on weekdays, so she flew home on Sunday by herself.
And that’s where things got interesting.
Jen was sitting in her first class window seat (she always likes the window) with nobody beside her. Shortly before takeoff the flight attendant brought up a passenger from coach who was upgraded at the last minute to fill what should have been my seat. His name was Bart, he was from Miami, he was a few years younger than Jen, well dressed and very articulate. Jen has always liked talking to strangers on planes (I hate it -bury my nose in a book or a movie every time) and even before takeoff the two were merrily chatting away.
But this was no ordinary “talk to the person in 4B who you will never see again” chat. Jen found Bart fascinating – and from the way she described it to me later he was into her just as much. They talked nonstop the entire flight about a wide variety of topics. Jen said she was conscious of a strong attraction to him – not just because of his looks (which were nice but not “wow”) but rather because of his intellect and enthusiasm. And she had no doubt about his attraction to her.
Bart knew Jen was married. She was wearing her ring and explained to him in the first few minutes that her husband was supposed to be in the seat but had been delayed by business. That did not deter Bart. Before the flight ended he gave her his business card and then wrote his private cell phone number on the back of it. When Jen told me this over the phone later that evening I asked “What did you say when he gave you his number?” Her reply was a bit of a shock. She said she took the card, said thanks, then looked him in the eye and said “You’ll be hearing from me.”
This was all real sudden and a huge change for us. Jen has not had any interest in any other man since the relationship with Dan ended. But she was not just attracted to Bart – she was genuinely interested in him. She told me he was someone she would like to see again and explore the possibility of a relationship. Not a one night stand or a few nights of athletic sex with a decent looking younger man, but a real relationship.
I was taken aback by her frank statement of interest. I thought those days were over for us – or at least for Jen. I am still having an off again, on again relationship with her younger sister Deb (described in detail in the earlier posts, we can update that some other time) so I was in no position to argue when she said she wanted to pursue this. And truth was that I was excited to see her want to “get back in the game”.
Once Jen had my support she did not waste any time. She texted Bart, told him she had some business of her own taking her back to Miami and asking him if he would like to get together for dinner while she was in town. He got back right away and said he could be available for her “anytime”.
So Jen did it. I told her that if she was going to do this she should do it right. We made a reservation for her at a new cutting edge hotel. She flew down there this morning and spent the afternoon in Miami Beach picking out a very chic new outfit. Once she was back in her hotel room she FaceTimed me to show me how she looked all dressed up for her date. She looked so fantastic. Classy and sexy – that’s my Jen at her best. And she looked so young and excited – I swear I could see the glow of New Relationship Energy. Then she headed off to dinner at a romantic restaurant selected by Bart. She is still with him as I am typing these words.
Our arrangement for this evening was simple and straightforward. I told her to enjoy herself and have a good time without any preconceptions of how things would go. Worst case scenario she gets treated to a nice dinner by an interesting guy. Best case scenario – who knows, we did not set any limits. Jen elected not to wear her wedding ring, she wants to feel like a single woman on a first date with a fascinating guy. She was undecided what she would tell him about our relationship. Maybe tell him about the openness we have embraced in our marriage. Maybe just let Bart think he had met a wife open to someone new.
I told her I trusted her to do and say whatever felt right under the circumstances. The only thing I asked was that whenever Bart went home for the evening that she give me a call right away. That was our agreement when we spoke shortly before 6 this evening.
It’s now 12:34 am and I haven’t heard a word. Doesn’t take a whole lot of imagination to guess what is going on. In fact, it’s looking more and more like he was not only invited up to her room after dinner, he may be spending the entire night. I know Jen well enough that if she lets Bart spend the night it means she is really feeling something for him. Definitely not her style to have him stay over if this was just sex.
That’s why my stomach is doing flip flops right now. It’s been years since I have been in this position, probably never anything quite like this. With Dan we both knew him so well and for so long before their affair started that we all knew where we stood. I never really felt threatened by it. But this is so different. I have never met this guy, all I know is what she has told me and what I have been able to learn Googling him (of course we did that). What I can sense is that Jen is seriously interested in him, and not just a pure animal attraction but as a man she might want a genuine relationship with.
What is she feeling right now as she lies beside him in her charming hotel room? Is she sleeping in his arms? Are they making love for the third time? Is she thinking of me and thanking me for supporting this unexpected opportunity? Or is she totally focused on him, maybe even falling for him? We all know from experience how powerful new relationship energy can be.
For now all I can do is wait til my beloved Jen calls. Maybe it will still be later tonight. Maybe it will be tomorrow morning. Maybe she will be with him all day and night tomorrow too (her flight back is not until Monday). Maybe they are already making plans for their next rendezvous. I just won’t know until she calls.
I thought after all our prior experiences I would be fine with this. It is a turn on to have her be with someone else. I like being supportive of her having outside relationships, as she has been supportive of mine. I just need reassurance right now that she will always love me and never leave me. Because I love her with all my heart and can’t imagine life without her.
It’s 1:15 now. Going to be a long night.
LG3
In my earlier posting, titled “My Wife Fell in Love With My Best Friend” I told the story of how my lovely wife Jen, with my consent and encouragement, started a very high energy affair with a married man who we both knew well and who was– at that time at least – my best friend. The man – Dan – eventually got divorced. After his divorce the affair evolved into a genuine committed polyamorous relationship where Jen became the primary partner for both of us and lived with Dan for substantial periods of time on a regular basis. For several years we all thrived in the relationship. For reasons which I won’t get into here (you can read all about it in the prior posts) Jen cut things off with Dan a couple of years ago. He has remained out of the picture ever since. Since then Jen has had no extramarital relationships of any kind, nor evinced any desire to pursue one, despite my not so subtle suggestions. Instead she has focused her energy on our daughter and granddaughter.
For some time I have feared that the sexually adventurous phase of our lives had come to a close. But all that started to change in a hurry two weeks ago.
As readers of the earlier blog posts know, I run a seasonal business providing tour excursions, mostly for cruise ship passengers. We are extremely busy from May through September every year with July and August being our biggest months. The business is predicated on the relationships I have developed with several of the major cruise lines. As long as they are pleased with our services (and we don’t have any more pandemics!) we are in good shape. So as you might imagine we do everything we can to keep them happy.
Last month we were contacted by a cruise line we had not worked with before about possibly signing up with us for the 2024 season. I ended up making a short trip to their headquarters in Miami and asked Jen to come along and enjoy a weekend away. We splurged and treated ourselves to first class tickets both ways. We were ticketed to come home on Sunday afternoon but my meetings on Friday went so well that the client asked me to come back in for another presentation on Monday. Jen needed to get home as she is the day care provider for our granddaughter on weekdays, so she flew home on Sunday by herself.
And that’s where things got interesting.
Jen was sitting in her first class window seat (she always likes the window) with nobody beside her. Shortly before takeoff the flight attendant brought up a passenger from coach who was upgraded at the last minute to fill what should have been my seat. His name was Bart, he was from Miami, he was a few years younger than Jen, well dressed and very articulate. Jen has always liked talking to strangers on planes (I hate it -bury my nose in a book or a movie every time) and even before takeoff the two were merrily chatting away.
But this was no ordinary “talk to the person in 4B who you will never see again” chat. Jen found Bart fascinating – and from the way she described it to me later he was into her just as much. They talked nonstop the entire flight about a wide variety of topics. Jen said she was conscious of a strong attraction to him – not just because of his looks (which were nice but not “wow”) but rather because of his intellect and enthusiasm. And she had no doubt about his attraction to her.
Bart knew Jen was married. She was wearing her ring and explained to him in the first few minutes that her husband was supposed to be in the seat but had been delayed by business. That did not deter Bart. Before the flight ended he gave her his business card and then wrote his private cell phone number on the back of it. When Jen told me this over the phone later that evening I asked “What did you say when he gave you his number?” Her reply was a bit of a shock. She said she took the card, said thanks, then looked him in the eye and said “You’ll be hearing from me.”
This was all real sudden and a huge change for us. Jen has not had any interest in any other man since the relationship with Dan ended. But she was not just attracted to Bart – she was genuinely interested in him. She told me he was someone she would like to see again and explore the possibility of a relationship. Not a one night stand or a few nights of athletic sex with a decent looking younger man, but a real relationship.
I was taken aback by her frank statement of interest. I thought those days were over for us – or at least for Jen. I am still having an off again, on again relationship with her younger sister Deb (described in detail in the earlier posts, we can update that some other time) so I was in no position to argue when she said she wanted to pursue this. And truth was that I was excited to see her want to “get back in the game”.
Once Jen had my support she did not waste any time. She texted Bart, told him she had some business of her own taking her back to Miami and asking him if he would like to get together for dinner while she was in town. He got back right away and said he could be available for her “anytime”.
So Jen did it. I told her that if she was going to do this she should do it right. We made a reservation for her at a new cutting edge hotel. She flew down there this morning and spent the afternoon in Miami Beach picking out a very chic new outfit. Once she was back in her hotel room she FaceTimed me to show me how she looked all dressed up for her date. She looked so fantastic. Classy and sexy – that’s my Jen at her best. And she looked so young and excited – I swear I could see the glow of New Relationship Energy. Then she headed off to dinner at a romantic restaurant selected by Bart. She is still with him as I am typing these words.
Our arrangement for this evening was simple and straightforward. I told her to enjoy herself and have a good time without any preconceptions of how things would go. Worst case scenario she gets treated to a nice dinner by an interesting guy. Best case scenario – who knows, we did not set any limits. Jen elected not to wear her wedding ring, she wants to feel like a single woman on a first date with a fascinating guy. She was undecided what she would tell him about our relationship. Maybe tell him about the openness we have embraced in our marriage. Maybe just let Bart think he had met a wife open to someone new.
I told her I trusted her to do and say whatever felt right under the circumstances. The only thing I asked was that whenever Bart went home for the evening that she give me a call right away. That was our agreement when we spoke shortly before 6 this evening.
It’s now 12:34 am and I haven’t heard a word. Doesn’t take a whole lot of imagination to guess what is going on. In fact, it’s looking more and more like he was not only invited up to her room after dinner, he may be spending the entire night. I know Jen well enough that if she lets Bart spend the night it means she is really feeling something for him. Definitely not her style to have him stay over if this was just sex.
That’s why my stomach is doing flip flops right now. It’s been years since I have been in this position, probably never anything quite like this. With Dan we both knew him so well and for so long before their affair started that we all knew where we stood. I never really felt threatened by it. But this is so different. I have never met this guy, all I know is what she has told me and what I have been able to learn Googling him (of course we did that). What I can sense is that Jen is seriously interested in him, and not just a pure animal attraction but as a man she might want a genuine relationship with.
What is she feeling right now as she lies beside him in her charming hotel room? Is she sleeping in his arms? Are they making love for the third time? Is she thinking of me and thanking me for supporting this unexpected opportunity? Or is she totally focused on him, maybe even falling for him? We all know from experience how powerful new relationship energy can be.
For now all I can do is wait til my beloved Jen calls. Maybe it will still be later tonight. Maybe it will be tomorrow morning. Maybe she will be with him all day and night tomorrow too (her flight back is not until Monday). Maybe they are already making plans for their next rendezvous. I just won’t know until she calls.
I thought after all our prior experiences I would be fine with this. It is a turn on to have her be with someone else. I like being supportive of her having outside relationships, as she has been supportive of mine. I just need reassurance right now that she will always love me and never leave me. Because I love her with all my heart and can’t imagine life without her.
It’s 1:15 now. Going to be a long night.
LG3