Where?!?!?

[WoodinTwo]

New to the forum, and I searched for the topic, but could not quite find it:

SO and I are heading down the path of Stag/Vixen (I guess). Not sure what to call it, because we are really only interested in MFM,or maybe someday, a MFF or even a MMF. Either way, I am playing too.

We are on Feeld and have made a few connections, but have not met up with anyone in person yet.

We know what our physical boundaries are (not into humiliation Dom/Sub, etc). But as we get closer to maybe making this a reality, we were wondering where we should propose an interlude? Our house is fine for hosting and would never do it with kids around, but do any you guys prohibit get togethers at your own home for security reasons if is a relatively unknown person? Or do you even prefer to do it there for safety and comfort reasons? Any advice is appreciated.

[SilverStag]

While we could choose to play at home, we choose not to for a variety of reasons, chief among them is that this is our space and our sanctuary. Also on the list is that if a playmate knows where you live and things do not work out optimately for everyone, there exists a security issue that is difficult to short-stop.

Going to their house also poses certain security issues (hidden cameras, nosy neighbors, etc).

We always opt for a hotel room. They are plentiful and a bonus is you don't have to clean up afterwards (but please leave a big tip for the housekeeper that does). We split the cost with the playmate, and usually "customize" the room (listen to the Priory Society podcast about turning a hotel room into a "sexual sanctuary") so it is sensual and inviting rather than clinical and cheap.

[Her number1]

We have no problem with play at our home. I don't see a difference as far as seceurity, etc. goes between her having a lover over vs a business contact stopping by.

[irishmusicman]

We haven't gotten to that point yet but we already agreed not to bring someone into our space, especially in case something goes wrong. We're planning to do this only every few months so we agreed to use hotel rooms. My wife almost never went to a man's house for hookups for fear of cameras, etc.

[SilverStag]

The difference being a business contact probably won't get upset when she wants to end it, nor will a business contact seek "revenge" by posting your address on some site. Not to say that there aren't people that can be trusted, but they need to earn and prove that trustworthiness.

Sad as it is to have to say, but there are a lot of petty, self-appointed egotists and Narcissists out there.

I have told in other forums about a guy who, when the time came for him to move on, copied a couple's profile including their pictures and addresses and posted them in various sections of Craigslist. Another made up fliers detailing the couple's "hobby" and papered every car in their neighborhood with the fliers.

Keep it clean and semi-anonymous so you have less to worry about until you know the people much better.

[2inUPMichigan]

I only play in hotels and use first names.
These men are not part of my regular life they are part of my hotwife adventures.
I have no interest in having them know where I live, my last name or how to contact me. They get my Google voice number that routes to my cell and that's it.
I would never invite them to my home and I wouldn't go to their homes due to security/safety concerns. Anything can happen when you are on their turf, and if at yours it may become difficult to get them to leave!

Safety 1st, pleasure 2nd

[Her number1]

The difference being a business contact probably won't get upset when she wants to end it, nor will a business contact seek "revenge" by posting your address on some site. Not to say that there aren't people that can be trusted, but they need to earn and prove that trustworthiness.

Sad as it is to have to say, but there are a lot of petty, self-appointed egotists and Narcissists out there.

I have told in other forums about a guy who, when the time came for him to move on, copied a couple's profile including their pictures and addresses and posted them in various sections of Craigslist. Another made up fliers detailing the couple's "hobby" and papered every car in their neighborhood with the fliers.

Keep it clean and semi-anonymous so you have less to worry about until you know the people much better.

The things you bring up would and will concern some as that's a fairly common reaction. But, you could say that I'm not common, those type of things worry me not. Everything can be delt with if necessary.
I don't run my life by what others "might" do. Probabilites not possibilities.

Now, I fully realized my way isn't for most .

[SilverStag]

Best of luck to you in the future

[Her number1]

Best of luck to you in the future

No luck required Silver, but thanks.
I can appreciate your caring warnings, but they just don't apply to us.

[johnstevens555]

Best of luck to you in the future

No luck required Silver, but thanks.
I can appreciate your caring warnings, but they just don't apply to us.

I imagine the perpetrator would never know what hit them.

[annsman]

We’ve done our house, his house and hotels.

Ann’s preference is a hotel, they sign in as Mr and Mrs and she’s turned on being his wife for the time they’re there. She also likes the fact that he’s happy to pay for their stay in order to have her.

My preference is our house, it seems more erotic that they are in our bed.

[WoodinTwo]

Thanks for all of the replies! I guess the responses are about as split as I expected. And the reasons are all logical.

[Tank Turner]

New to the forum, and I searched for the topic, but could not quite find it:

SO and I are heading down the path of Stag/Vixen (I guess). Not sure what to call it, because we are really only interested in MFM,or maybe someday, a MFF or even a MMF. Either way, I am playing too.

We are on Feeld and have made a few connections, but have not met up with anyone in person yet.

We know what our physical boundaries are (not into humiliation Dom/Sub, etc). But as we get closer to maybe making this a reality, we were wondering where we should propose an interlude? Our house is fine for hosting and would never do it with kids around, but do any you guys prohibit get togethers at your own home for security reasons if is a relatively unknown person? Or do you even prefer to do it there for safety and comfort reasons? Any advice is appreciated.

Hi WoodinTwo,

You guys sound exactly like my wife and me.

Because of our kids, we can't play as often as we'd like. But that doesn't keep my wife from fantasizing. After she's finished her third margarita, she's said to me, "I wish we could invite that guy over there to come home with us," and, "I want to fuck that guy." However, she couldn't always get what she wanted.

My wife had a MFM sex fantasy long before we met. It's a completely common and normal female sexual fantasy.

Years into our marriage she told me she was going to make it happen while we were getting ready to go to a nightclub we used to frequent. She did. I wish I had the forethought to capture her first time on video.

I roll 100% heterosexual. I love women; specifically, I'm in love with my wife. She has an instant hard-on sexy body that she loves to reveal. I make no judgments about other people's sexuality. What other people do is none of our business.

She picked men she wanted to fuck, mostly young studs. She loves their stamina, and they make her feel young again. She'll zero in on young military studs if they do it for her. She hit on guys she wanted to fuck. If they were receptive, she invited them to sit with us. She vetted the holy shit out of them. If she felt a guy wasn't right, it was over before he left our table. If she was comfortable with a guy and with his answers to her vetting process, she invited him to our home. For many reasons, my wife is most comfortable in our bedroom. Of course, our kids spent the night at her sister's home. They don't know that their angelic mother is a bedroom porn star. We strive to keep it that way.

We will not tolerate degrading sex acts; e.g., Dirty Sanchez, ass-to-mouth, urine, feces, etc. We will not tolerate painful pain. We believe that men who get off degrading women and inflicting painful pain on them are mentally ill. Thankfully, we've never had a negative experience. Even younger guys have treated her with respect. My being next to her assuredly influenced their conduct. Never, ever allow a man to degrade your wife. It's your responsibility to ensure she's treated respectfully. And she'll resent you if you fail to protect her and her dignity.

We have no rules. She has carte blanche to fulfill her sexual fantasies. I've always participated except for one unusual time. I have never interrupted a sex act she performed on another guy. I always (as best as I can remember) started by burying my face in her bush and playing orgasmic music on her clit with my mouth and tongue until she was exhausted from orgasm.

During our first few MFM experiences, my wife tried to give other guys blowjobs while I worked her clit with my mouth and tongue. She can't give head while concentrating on orgasms. She switched to stroking guys' cocks while she orgasmed. When she was done she either told me she wanted me to fuck her or she'd rollover onto her hands and knees. As long as I didn't thrust too forcefully into her pussy, she could swallow money shots while I fucked her.

My wife knows I don't want another man's money shot near me. She made sure it never happened. If men came on her, she rinsed it off. If she swallows, she'll use margaritas to cleanse her mouth. If her pussy takes another man;s money shot, I won't fuck her. I don't care if men cum in her ass. I'm not into anal sex.

My wife does not want a boyfriend. She will never allow another guy to develop feelings for her. Her family is extremely important to her. Our kids are her world. She's invited only a few to return at later dates. After everyone is done, she wants guys gone. Only one man is a regular.

We have one longtime friend who has been a part of our sex lives for years. He's a mature, distinguished gentleman. We're all very close friends. He knows her rules. When she wants him gone, he leaves. If he were to call her for sex behind my back, she'd end it. However, they have arranged sex with knowledge that I was involved. Often my wife will call me to inform me that she invited Bob over. My wife and Bob are completely sexually compatible. He's 100% heterosexual. He porn stars my wife like a princess. They seem like they're married but they're not. They never will be.

My wife is sexually submissive. Bob has always treated her with complete respect especially while he's porn starred her. Bob knows he has carte blanche to satisfy his sexual desires on my wife's scorching hot and sexy naked body. As far as I know, she has never denied any of his sexual requests. We've fucked for hours with breaks. During breaks, my wife sits between us. We're all completely naked. She has almost always stroked our cocks while we watched TV or BS'ed until one of us responded. Bob has usually massaged my wife's clit while we rested. I usually fall asleep after my second money shot. My wife and Bob have stayed up until early hours watching TV, BS'ing, and fucking each other senseless.

Since our stranger sex (Another normal and common female sexual fantasy my wife has.) slowed considerably, we've relied on Bob. My wife is completely comfortable with Bob. For me, the same shit is monotonous. We can't enliven our sex lives by doing risky public sex for fear our kids will find out or sex clubs. We have done dinner many times, my wife and me as husband and wife and Bob as our friend. They're never affectionate in public.

If my wife is wearing clothes when Bob comes over and our kids aren't home, he takes them off of her. He loves to get her naked, she has always submitted, she loves to be naked, and I love to see her naked. She'll stay naked until he leaves. She has always submitted to his sexual desires including anal sex.

My wife and I completely trust Bob. He knows her sexuality as well as I do. He knows her naked body as well as anyone. He knows how she loves sex and vice versa. I'm completely comfortable falling asleep while they do whatever they desire.

My advice is to have one reliable man (or couple) you guys completely trust on line, and take advantage of opportunities that are right for your wife as they arise. I want my wife to choose men she wants to fuck. Do it where your wife is most comfortable. For my wife, it's our home. Choose men wisely. You don't want them bragging that they porn starred your wife if you have kids and family that you do not want to know about your lifestyle. Have plausible deniability committed to memory before your first experience. My wife has plausible deniability wired should a man brag that he fucked her. It should be about your wife's sexual euphoria. Give her all the freedom she desires to explore her sexuality. Talk with your wife before and after without judgments. Never, ever judge your wife for her sexuality. If she can't trust you, who can she trust? After your wife was porn starred, ask her what she liked and didn't like. Use what she tells you for future reference. Focus on what she loves most. Prevent what she doesn't like. Your wife and you must talk before you engage in uninhibited and enlightened sex about the difference between sex for physical euphoria and sex as an expression of her love for you. If you even remotely think you can't handle another man banging your wife's pussy like a pile driver and fucking her mouth until she swallows a money shot, don't do it.

I knew my wife was sexually experienced the first time I fucked her which was on our first date. Before I fucked her she told me that her favorite position was doggie. After I fell in love with her, I would not have cared if she told me that she gang banged her college's football team. I knew she wasn't virginal. I knew my cock wasn't the first cock she sucked. Even before I fell in love with her, her previous sexual experiences didn't matter to me. Hence, I have never been jealous of her fucking guys. The contrary is true. I love to see her in throes of intensive sexual ecstasy. She knows to do a rinse off shower if her body takes another man's cum. She knows I'm not into anal sex because it takes to long to prep her ass, it's messy, and I love her sweet, beautiful, tight, pussy. Her pussy always has the euphoric scent of pussy. She won't let me near it if she needs a shower. She knows I prefer to fuck her pussy rather than have her give me blowjobs. She told me years ago that I'm the only man she's been with who preferred to fuck her rather than get blowjobs. But remember that most of her sexual experiences occurred when she was in her late teens through her mid-20s. Guys of that age love blowjobs. She knows that many men love anal sex although she hasn't allowed all men she's fucked to fuck her ass. She will let Bob have anal sex with her if he asks for it. I'm good because I'd rather have her pussy without another man's cum inside of it. I don't do sloppy seconds. A lot of men do. I'm good with that. So is my wife.

Think it through thoroughly. Consider all possibilities. Avoid men whom you believe are not right for your wife. Listen to your wife's intuition. Never make her feel obligated to do anything she doesn't want to do to make you happy. It must be all about her sexual euphoria. Always reassure her and comfort her while other guys are porn starring her. Compliment her on how beautiful and sexy she is. You can't give her enough supporting compliments. Ask her to tell you what she wants you to do while another man is working her. However, you should know your wife well enough to know her sexual desires.

If your wife is willing to broaden her sexuality and you know that regardless of what another man does to her jealousy will never be a factor, then all you're waiting for is the right man and the right opportunity. If you guys are ready to take the plunge, take advantage of both. It's highly probable that your wife will love it. Most married women fantasize about fucking other men. It's normal and natural.