Wife’s past

[zorro]

My wife and I have always been open with each other’s past. She was with 27 guy's before me. From guys who she had as a first love, multiple bosses, a few 1 night stands, first husband, a few porn actors and dancers. She felt comfortable telling me all the details when I asked. I was never intimidated or doubted how I was the primary. After about 10 years of marriage she wanted to swinging then to hotwifing to escorting. She always wanted the thrill of being a call girl. She now has been with 1,989 different guys and has enjoyed her life to the max. I know we are not normal but I never felt any apprehension or been jealous. Just happy that she could do what she enjoyed.

Glad you are not normal. Better this way.

[bubbajack]

" ...at the same time makes me wonder what kind of person she might have been ... "

If a wife were to tell her husband what she really did before she was with him, it would likely transform whatever views he may have had before about "what kind of person" she is.

I wish for every husband that such disclosures of facts and accompanying transformations of ideas actually occur.

Once she knows you know, she will be much more open to being your own little slut girl

[richkathy96003]

I love her telling me who she really was as who she was not telling me about was more of what I wanted as a partner. She s a slut to some people but a goddess to me. She is my dream girl and what any real man would want in their lives if they were true to themselves and not living their lives for society. I just wish we were more open with our real us in the first 10 years of our marriage. We had a very very sick child for 10 years that made live focus on survival and not much else. All is ok with him and then the dream journey started.

[SRKnight]

My wife married at 37, so a lot to tell. The hottest is knowing she was “the other woman” in at least 8 relationships.

Inevitable she would be a HW within 2 years of marriage

[Dobrm]

Her sexual past is main reason for my cuckold fetish. She had more sexual experience than me, which provoked me a little. She had more experience, but what is more important, her experience were ofen really kinky. Once, before marriage, after sex, she mentioned her ex and that they had sex in front his friend - he was sitting on an armchair in the same room watching them and jerking off. All the time during sex, she looked the other man straight in the eyes. Whatever position her bf turned her, she would look at his friends eyes. My nice (then) girl, educated, very family, and so perverted. As she said this, I felt an instant erection. It was weird. I immediately started fucking her. She was confused, but she immediately understood why I was excited. She was taking my dick and teasing me at the same time, how sorry she was that this friend didn't fuck her too. I came right away. That night I fucked her until dawn. Thats how ever thing started.

[bltn1966]

J has told me most of what she did in the past, but she never tells EVERYTHING the first time......it takes multiple discussions to get ALL the details out of her. Given her upbringing, and how conservative her family is, she has an AMAZING past sexually. She has opened up a LOT since we got together and is doing things she only fantasized about prior, but I still love to talk about her sexlife before me, especially WHO it involved. And what she would have done had they been more aggressive.

CW

Marie had a very religious upbringing too. At first she admitted to having sex with two of her past. Then one night after a few drinks she admitted to a one night stand. She thought it was strange that I wanted to hear about her past. Then one night she told me the hottest shit I ever heard in my life. I asked her whatever happen to a girl that use to be her best friend. Marie literally broke down and bawled her eyes out. She said her BFF was having sex with her boyfriend in one room, Marie started having sex, with a guy she just met that night, in another room. Marie’s friend and BF walked into the room and saw her and the guy having sex. Marie said her legs was on his shoulders at the time. When the guy saw he was being watched he started going wild. I guess that meant he started fucking the shit out of her. She said to her horror her best friend just stood there and watched them with a big smile on her face. I asked why didn’t she stop him. She said “I don’t know…he felt to good to stop at the time”. That mean she was cumming her ass off.

Marie said she was mad at her friend and she don’t know why she just didn’t put an end to it. She said the next thing she know all four of them were having sex on a tiny twin bed. She said the guys made it into a fucking competition. They tried to outdo each other as they flipped the girls from on position to another. Marie was ashamed of herself for being involved in something like that. She called herself a slut and piece of shit. Marie was crying her eyes out. She told me that night was the last time she talked to her best friend. What really made her angry was the fact that she enjoyed it. She thought she had earned a one way ticket to hell. All I know is that was the hottest fucking confession I ever heard.

[LetsGetItStarted]

The other night wife and I are playing truth or dare. One of the truths was where is the craziest place you had sex… she did not go into great detail but it was On a football field in college… I asked “on the grass and all” and she said yes. Very interesting because my wife is the type that everything always has to be perfect and comfortable but knowing this means it wasn’t always the case!

Trying to get numbers details has been tough… she has no problem talking about her friends at 30+ in their early 20’s.

After we met one of these same friends tried to sabotage us by telling me my then GF had gotten with a guy she worked with who I did not like. This was early in our relationship and she swears that nothing serious happened and she is embarrassed about that entire event.

Any tips and tricks to help get the discussion flowing. When we do get into the past it’s really exciting but she shuts it down quick.

[FiveInchLullaby]

My beautiful wife and I talked early on about her sexual past. She was very proud of the fact that she was so uninhibited and gave herself to a lot of men. That first conversation was in 2003, about two weeks into our relationship. She told me that she had been with "upwards of 60 men" at the time, and that she had been in several threesomes, foursomes, and more somes... We parted a few times, and in those periods, she racked up dozens more, having had her clit pierced, and wanting to show it off...she had an AFF account (2008, 2009) and regularly randomly met men in bars and took them home and fucked them, sometimes more than one, as I know at least once she partied with her black friend and a couple of his friends.

As of us getting married, she had finally hit the magic century mark. I love, love, LOVE the fact that so many men have been in her and that she is a proud, uninhibited slut. She knows that her body was built for fucking a lot of men and I love that she's comfortable with that fact. Now, it's just understood that I love her being slutty and free, and she has a permanent hall pass. We don't have a lover for her right now but she has plans to visit a couple of her favorite lovers from the past this Spring and Summer. Also, my best friend is coming and I know she really wants to fuck him, and I am more than happy to let that happen. Can't wait, in fact.

[canadianwittol]

Ironically, my wife had a very conservative approach to sex prior to meeting me and had a fairly limited number of partners.

She was open to cuckolding me, but insistent that she wouldn't until after we were married. She wasn't willing to burn our relationship if I wasn't comfortable with the outcome. Her position was if you want this, I'll do it, but you have to be prepared to live with the consequences.

In the first five years of our marriage, she only had one lover. After that fell apart she took a year off. So she continued to be quite conservative.

Only in the period that followed did she suddenly begin to feel much more comfortable dating a variety of different men. She joined Ashley Madison in 2016 and had a number of successful dates arranged through that site. In the next couple of years that followed she had about a dozen lovers and all of a sudden I found myself actually married to the slutty wife I had always wanted! Or so I thought.

2018 was the year she discovered Tinder. That year she had 30 separate one night stands with 30 different men, all found on Tinder.

She's since reigned it back in again, owing mostly to COVID, but over all, her taking on of lovers looks like the Bitcoin chart: low for a long time, then all of a sudden a big surge where you can't imagine how she could possibly take on any more, then an even bigger surge that dwarfs the last surge. And so on.

In our first six years of marriage she slept with only one other man. In the next couple of years the total rose to a dozen. We're now in our 13th year of marriage and have lost count of the total but I would say it's somewhere around 100, with the majority in just the last 3-4 years.

[BBCfan]

Hearing about my wife's past was what started my interest in hotwife type scenarios. I was always a pretty confidant alpha type guy but had my illusions of sexual mastery shattered when her past was slowly revealed.

Her dating almost exclusively very tall black guys for years was the first bombshell, but then hearing details about how monstrously hung a few were, and how they had the stamina and skill to match was initially a huge blow to my confidence.

The fact hearing it turned me on like crazy, then started my fantasies to witness and share in such delights. Nothing is more arousing now than finding out another detail or hung lover she "forgot" to mention before. Especially when she confides details that can be brutally honest, unfiltered and shocking to hear. She seems completely unaware how challenging it can be to my ego, which is what makes it so hot I suppose.
A few weeks ago she admitted one guy's cock was "magical" and another she would definitely "date" again if we ever broke up.

Thankfully when she's buzzed, she loves to tease and reminisce about her past hung stud lovers.

[Sexycouple44]

My wifes past is one thing that I think may have for sure started this whole hotwife life. We talked about her past during sex and it got me rock hard. She will answer any question and open up so big and become dripping wet. In the beginning I would have to keep talking to get her going but she start twlling me details if how she fucked, sucked, and got fucked. This turned into the hotwife life and her having some amazing sex and a lot of new stories and pictures for my collection.

[Des 31]

I'm sure it's rare that an adult woman hasn't had at least some sexual experience(s) prior to marriage. Some men expect to be a woman's first encounter and can't handle knowing otherwise. To me and my wife, that's an unreasonable standard and it's a potential set-up for disappointment if the guy of that sort ultimately learns the truth.

We know a man who, after a decade or so of marriage, learned his wife had a brief affair when single and he has been depressed for another decade since. She told him his attitude was an attempt to rob her of her youthful adult memories. Fortunately, it didn't lead to a breakup, but the guy still mopes around the house every time the memory of her confession comes about.

If we were asked by a wife whether she should tell her husband, our advice would be a firm "no" unless she's certain he (like me) would enjoy knowing that.

~ Des

[Baldyellow]

My wife and I both grew up in a resort town on the beach. Before I dated her, some of the people I know had already dated her and told me she was a sure thing on the first date. Sure enough on our first date she gave me a BJ and then fucked me. I liked her being slutty and it did not bother me that others had fucked her. We dated for about a year before we got engaged. I am positive that she was fucking others when we could not go out. She even referred to them sometimes as dates. After getting engaged I think she was kind of true at first, but finally she got to missing the adventures and fucking. We finally talked about it and I gave her a pass to fuck others as she wanted. We got married and she again tried to stay true to me. At that time I was in the Army and stationed out of the country. She did a lot while I was gone.

We are still married and both are happy. We were in the lifestyle for a good while, but due to health reasons she no longer does except me.

[FiveInchLullaby]

Does anyone have an issue with their wife’s sexual past and with who they might have been with? The thought of my wife having multiple partners turns me on at the same time makes me wonder what kind of person she might have been. Is this common? I have no issues at all with her being uninhabited now with me and our sex life. But often wonder about her past. Thanks!

Personally, my wife’s very sexy past was a jumping off point for my Stag fantasy. She realized how much it turned me on that she had spread her perfect legs for so MANY men (sometimes even two at a time) that it actually opened up the discussion of her having a permanent hall pass.

She hasn’t cashed it in yet because she still wants to lose some weight and feel better about her physical appearance. She already has a stable of men that she’s still friends with on FB who she can meet when the time is right and, now that she’s 49, there’s very little chance of her getting knocked up, so will likely meet them and fuck them raw.

(My wife had a mix of safe and unprotected sex over the time we were apart; if it was someone she knew well and trusted, she would mostly fuck without condoms because that’s her preference. If it was her safe time of the month, she would also welcome her lovers to cum in her pussy; also her preference.)

So, yes. Her past is definitely an issue but it’s a source of pride on her part. She loves to remind me that she has fucked a lot of men (about 100 five or take) and knows that it’s a complete turn on for me now that we are married.

[SRKnight]

My wife has been a HW for Almost 10 years and as I stated earlier she was the other woman with at least 8 married men before we married.

She is going home to see family in England in a few weeks. She had reconnected on Facebook chat with the guy she lost her virginity too about 30 years ago. Earlier today she was showing me the chat. They are already planning how to get alone. She has told him that she intends to show him how much hotter she is in bed now.

An interesting summer trip coming up!!

[ohhotwifeandhubby]

My wife's past is what got us to where we are. She had some pretty wild times that included a couple MMF threesomes and a hookup when we first started dating while I was overseas for work.

Hearing about the threesome, and knowing she enjoyed it, I couldn't deny her that enjoyment again.

She also had a video of her and a guy that she made a year before we got together. Being able to see her with someone else gave me the perspective of how hot it would be to watch/join her with another man.

[Lugnut]

Does anyone have an issue with their wife’s sexual past and with who they might have been with?

No, it's never bothered me a bit. We didn't get married until we were 40, and both had long first marriages. I began prodding her a little about her sexual past, and after she figured out I didn't care and it turned me on, she told me everything. Everything from getting felt up in junior high, to jacking off a few boys in high school, to eventually getting fucked, to a couple of college boyfriends, to her first husband. She was as faithful to him as a puppy dog . . . until he started banging a work colleague about a dozen years into their marriage. She, in turn, had an exit affair and divorced him. After that she sort of turned into a full-on late-30s slut, fucking men with pretty much reckless abandon, one right after the other, some simultaneously as they came and went from her dating schedule.

She had been single for about two years when I met her, and I fucked her the first evening we met. I happened to be around cock number 15 since she'd been divorced. We got serious very quickly and married about a year later. And then the stories started. We'd even drive around so she could show me. One day while driving through her home town she said, "see that upstairs window? Yeah, that's where I got fucked the first time. He fucked me several times in that room."

She'd told me about a good guy named Bill she fucked for a couple of months while single. We drove past the apartment complex where he'd lived at the time and she said, "see that ground floor apartment right there? That's where Bill lived. Our first date was to the movies and then we got some Chinese on the way home. Ended up eating the egg rolls, then he took me back to his bedroom and fucked me. He must've fucked me 20 time in there." I found those stories to be an enormous turn-on and would always lead to some furious fucking for the next few days. I wish she'd have fucked another dozen men before I met her so she'd had more hot stories to tell me.

We started hotwifing about five years into our marriage. She told me later that had it not been for all her slutting around between marriages she never would've been mentally or emotionally able to start, and then enjoy, hotwifing. All in all, from teen-ager to traditional wife to hotwife (she's now in her early 60s), I expect about 40 different men have fucked her.

[MarknSusan]

Lugnut my wife did a similar thing. She got on Google maps and showed me where she got fucked on a golf course during the day and in the presidential suite of a well known resort. That was a fun little surprise for me!

[curiousccouple]

Past is past. She's grown up now. She chose you. Don't be so insecure about it.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum curiouscouple.

[I_watch_Mermaids]

My wife and I met in a bar, had a one night stand so good, well, let's say I still remember her original phone number, 30+ years later. After a few HOT sex meetups, we had some discussion about our past. I felt like she was trying to *very gently* reveal her slutty ways to me in a manner that wouldn't send me screaming off to never return.

Had the opposite effect.

The story that blew me away: She was blindfolded, naked, kneeling in the middle of a room with 5 boys, and she blew all of them.

This was the moment where I began thinking "FINALLY! I've met the one!" LOL But seriously, it turned me on so hard, I told her I wish I'd been there to be #6.
She took me once to a restaruant/bar in downtown Chicago where a dude banged her in the doorway where everyone comes in and out, against an open phone booth, in front of the glass door where patrons could watch! OMG! Then on the train trip back after this visit to her past, gave me a blowjob on the train. OH MY GOD. How much better can this woman get?!?

After we got pregnant, moved in together with a baby, and got pregnant again, she asked ME to marry HER. Yeah, I think it took a few microseconds to agree!!! Awesome sex all our time together. The last four or five years we've been fantasizing about adding others into our bed. We finally jumped into the hotwifing early last year? Our sex life is only better. She gets to relive and revisit her old slutty ways, and it's all for ME! Well, and her. And the lucky guys she fucks. So yeah, her past does nothing but TURN ME THE FUCK ON.

[Iwatchherplay]

It gives me confidence that out of all the experiences she has had with other men I can sexually satisfy her. It has also been easy to talk her into having sex with other men while i watch.

[Countrycouple]

Though barely five feet tall weighing 98 pounds wifey developed a bit earlier than other girls with a full rack of 34C cups with long strawberry blonde hair. She had natural full lips and was very sexually oriented and had a exhibitionist orientation and loved wearing daring outfits that showed off her curves and skin. She admitted to being very submissive to boys and men and wanted to please them any way she could. As boys started hitting on her in junior high,,she quickly discovered that one of the easiest ways to please them was by sucking their dicks. With practice she became quite good at it and soon her reputation spread and her nickname was "Blowjob Suzy". By the time she got to high school she had sucked almost all the guys in her small school and high school offered a new variety to enjoy. Before the pill she discovered a contraceptive foam that she could apply prior to intercouorse so car dates started with a blow job and ended with a good fucking. In her senior year she was dating college guys on a regular basis and entered junior college for 2 years This led to multiple partners and she enjoyed being with 3 to 5 guys at once, sucking them and fucking them if they wanted her. Heer appetite for cock was voracious and she loved to swallow cum. When we first met, she sucked and fucked me on our first date of course and soon we were getting serious. She said she would stop seeing other guys and moved in with me. But I encouraged her to play around with some of my friends because she really needed to have her fill. After we married we enjoyed the swinging lfe style for years.

Awesome read. Did her promiscuous past play a part in you sharing her with other men. I ask because my wife also had a very promiscuous past and it played a huge part in her becoming a shared wife, altho she didn't start in junior high like your wife and she didn't start with blow jobs. Long story short she wanted to be popular, so she gave it up on her first date, and got fucked twice bareback. He told all his buddy's the next day, and that night she was in a different backseat in a different car with one of those buddy's balls deep in her. and she never looked back. A mutual friend introduced us in a bar and I fucked her about an hour later. by that time she was a 29 year old single mother that had never been married. She talked freely about her past and even admitted that the mutual friend had fucked her about an hour before he introduce us. She almost bragged that all the guys knew she was a first date (and every date) fuck all thru school. The final straw was when she said she loved to get fucked by new guys and could never be faithful, so i did the logical thing and married her 7 months later. But i began watching other men fuck her way before we said "I Do". 35 years now and i never get enough of seeing some new guys cock pumping in her bareback.

Her past definitely played a major role in this lifestyle

[Countrycouple]

My wife and I have always been open with each other’s past. She was with 27 guy's before me. From guys who she had as a first love, multiple bosses, a few 1 night stands, first husband, a few porn actors and dancers. She felt comfortable telling me all the details when I asked. I was never intimidated or doubted how I was the primary. After about 10 years of marriage she wanted to swinging then to hotwifing to escorting. She always wanted the thrill of being a call girl. She now has been with 1,989 different guys and has enjoyed her life to the max. I know we are not normal but I never felt any apprehension or been jealous. Just happy that she could do what she enjoyed.

Same with my wife. She has never been shy about her past and admits that she has always been an easy fuck. She practicaly brag's about how many guys have fucked her. One of the first stories she ever told me was how she got fucked on the first date she ever went on..... and loved it. He was the school bad boy with the reputation and she says she knew he would try to fuck her, and that she was going to let him.

I love that your wife has been with almost 2,000 different men and has even been an escort. We fantasized about her trying the escort thing just for the thrill but it never came to be. Mine has been with somewhere around 500 to 600 (at a guess) and i wish it were 10 times that many. I'm a numbers guy.

[zorro]

Fun thread. I feel a need to comment on some of the sex negativity that leaks through in some of the posts, though.
The reader (at least this reader) can sense the emotional tension between our HW fetishistic arousal around our woman having sex with other men but then being uncomfortable to learn she had had multiple others in the past.

As a guy who has found virigins totally uninteresting (and in real life not fun on the first fuck), I appreciate a woman who enoys her sexuality. And who treasures how different partners made her the marvelous person she is today. I personally regard extensive experience with other men as a tribute and asset for a woman's growth and development as a female sexual being. So, I have had only curiosity and zero negative feelings when I hear about Ruth's past experiences. I just appreciate her more for what she has done.

We live in a culture infused with predominantly but not exclusively religious antisexual bias. Contrary to cultural beliefs, I find nothing at all negative about a woman enjoying the sexual body she was born with.

I urge all men on here to strive to develop sex positivity and sluff off negative attitudes we have learned about women's sexual behavior. Even the term "promiscuous" reveals an invidious attitude toward women who enjoy many partners. Actually, a study published in the 1970s surveyed women's actual sexual experiences, comparing two groups: Those who had been sexually abused and those without a known history. There was no significant difference in number of partners, sexual acts, group sexual experience, etc. -- the only difference was that those who had been sexually abused labeled themselves "promiscuous." But the reality was that the actual sexual behaviors were the same. The term "promiscuous" is essentially a self-demeaning label that was attached to their sexuality, whatever it was.

So, I call on those on the forum to do some soul searching to uncover latent bias about women's sexuality. As HW hubbies, we know we can enjoy the wife's sexual enjoyment with variety and diversity. Why not accept that they had a right to enjoy themselves in the same way before they ever met us?