How much does penis size matter for threesome selection?

[wny3somecple]

So how do/would you feel if you invested time and energy to meet this guy, and maybe a few times to be sure you like him, and then he pulls out a 2 incher for sex. Since you are doing this with a need for sex, would you not have wasted your time? You don't need to see dick pics if that turns you off, but wouldn't be wise to discuss before meetings, etc what he brings in the way of satisfying you? Why the heck not? Can't mature people discuss this in an honest sensitive way?

Try not to be so shallow . I don't and never have checked out a guy's dick with pics, questions, or otherwise before having sex. In 28 years of being a Hotwife, it's never been an issue.
And, on the odd chance that it was to happen that the guy had a small dick, it would still be great sex. I only select guys that can turn on my mind, and if he can turn on my mind, he can give me an orgasm. A better one than a guy with a bigger dick that can't turn on my mind. So, no, it wouldn't be a waste of time. A waste of time is the ones with a bigger dick that think their dick is special and capable of special things .
I don't know if I've been sensitive enough for you, but I've been honest.

Great answer.

[mwcsf]

In my mind why would you go smaller, ever? I have seen surveys reported that overall women are fine with their spouse/primary partner having average endowment, but prefer to have a larger one for a one-night stand or lifestyle type play. While we are not yet there (in the talking phase STILL) my wife has definitely expressed that if it were to go down she would like one larger. It's like if someone wants to lend you a car for a day or two, and your choices are one that is slower, less appealing than the one you have already, or one that is flashier and faster - - - which one would you opt to take for a spin? Even if you are fine with the car your drive day to day, you are taking the faster/flashier one, right?

You know, that was kinda my perspective. However, the fella we really hit it off with was probably just a smidge under average (I'm exactly average at just under 6", but sorta thick'ish). What a great partner with whom we had a LOT of fantastic sex.

The very first one was rather well hung and I totally got off on watching her with him. So, for me it was HOT. For her....I'm not sure she noticed.

Toward the end of our play together, we found a guy while we were traveling that had an absolutely porn size dick and also was an expert swordsman. I have to admit, that was a peak experience.

[Des 31]

Zero. The average penis is 5-6 inches in length. Any seven or more are rare. Eight or nine inches are one in thousands, so if that's the standard she won't be fucking other men often. Few women seek that.

Many women who have sex with outsized dicks report it's uncomfortable and less enjoyable. This is an easily researched topic on a variety of medical sites.

[Tryagain]

I keep saying this to folks but if you right an good and explicit ad in double list, there are many guys with 7-8 thick inches who respond with a pic.

[wpgcouple40]

I keep saying this to folks but if you right an good and explicit ad in double list, there are many guys with 7-8 thick inches who respond with a pic.

That has been our experience as well. I didn't take out a tape measure but comparing to me, we had two guys who claimed to be 9, and they were at least 8. None of the guys we were with ever showed up and were smaller than advertised. Maybe we were just lucky.

As for discomfort, my wife has always been able to take a pounding, she's a real trooper. Some women might find it uncomfortable, she had trouble with the length in certain positions, too deep, but really enjoyed the girth.

[kort677]

as an experiment on how dick size in a group situation works.
I will be a fantasy fest next week and we are taking a boat ride that is clothing optional and group sex is going to happen, I have a tiny dick, I'll report back if I got laid.
in addition there are many pool parties and bar parties where full nudity is the norm.

[LongTermHubby]

My wife enjoys men with stamina. She is multi-orgasmic so having a man who can bring her to orgasm several times before he climaxes is important to her.

[Oilem]

My wife ran across a guy that was so big that she asked him if his cock came with a second set of balls. He was at a gentlemen’s club (the male section).we did have him visit our room and she did not like the experience. I never
saw a cock that big- thought he might have stoled it from a farm animal. Guys might like to see the activity but I think most women would not experience a lot of pleasure.

[BBCfan]

My wife ran across a guy that was so big that she asked him if his cock came with a second set of balls. He was at a gentlemen’s club (the male section).we did have him visit our room and she did not like the experience. I never
saw a cock that big- thought he might have stoled it from a farm animal. Guys might like to see the activity but I think most women would not experience a lot of pleasure.

yet there is a huge rare pussy for every huge rare cock so hopefully they meet up at some point

[CTim]

Another angle to consider. Are men with larger cocks more confident and therefore more likely to enter into this lifestyle as a bull?
......So if only 10% of guys are bigger than me, do more well endowed guys take the chance to put themselves out there either thinking thats what couples want, or they just feel more confident?

Yes, yes, and yes.

While I know of no research to back it up, I'd say it's easy to assume that the very small fraction of guys way out on the large end of the spectrum are much more likely to be more confident overall and put themselves out there on the lifestyle sites. We are not in the lifestyle and my wife has never made any mention of size mattering at all, but even I felt more confident after seeing the actual data from the big meta-analysis on size. I always felt average or even small until I realized I was in the top 5%. Exposure to all of the freaks in porn has unnecessarily put a big hit on men's confidence in my opinion.

[allenethanm]

Not that your wives shouldn't enjoy bigger if that is what she wants or likes, but you do realize that 6" is in the 90th percentile meaning that only 10% can be bigger. 6" is not average, it is bigger than average .

Thanks Farmgirl. We all needed that.

[LDNT]

I haven’t yet had the fun of trying to organise one, but I feel I would like the guy to have a bigger one than me even if that is hard to find. If not longer at least thicker, just so she has the opportunity of a different feeling. But my opinion may well be naive.

[wpgcouple40]

I haven’t yet had the fun of trying to organise one, but I feel I would like the guy to have a bigger one than me even if that is hard to find. If not longer at least thicker, just so she has the opportunity of a different feeling. But my opinion may well be naive.

Exactly. Go for it. There is something hot about your wife with a bigger cock. Trust me.

[Rammerjammer69]

I keep saying this to folks but if you right an good and explicit ad in double list, there are many guys with 7-8 thick inches who respond with a pic.

That has been our experience as well. I didn't take out a tape measure but comparing to me, we had two guys who claimed to be 9, and they were at least 8. None of the guys we were with ever showed up and were smaller than advertised. Maybe we were just lucky.

As for discomfort, my wife has always been able to take a pounding, she's a real trooper. Some women might find it uncomfortable, she had trouble with the length in certain positions, too deep, but really enjoyed the girth.

We found the exact opposite…. Just about everyone said they had 8”+ cocks….. , but they always fell wayyyyy short of that…. Seems the internet seems to add at least 2 inches to real life

[Tryagain]

Thank god this never happened to us. How the hell would a guy say 8 in and then have the 'balls' to take off his pants?

A good insurance policy would be to ask for a pic of it hard before actually meeting him.

[ParosGy]

My wife prefer bigger, but not too big. (6-7,5 inch) Primarily the girth/thickness metters. If it thicker she can enjoy it much better, if the partner can handle it good. But the size was never the primary option, for the selection for us, only preference.

[Suchagoodgirl]

But the percentile below 6” probably aren’t promoting themselves as Bulls etc so your stat is flawed really. The fact is to have a 3rd then it’s exciting for them to be more endowned to offer a different experience. Apologies for having an opinion or preference.

No it's not. My wife rejects guys that are too big. It's not a preference for most women. It's a different human being, not just a different dick. My wife has stopped having sex with 3 different men in the lifestyle because they had 8+ inch dicks. I'm sure it drives your male brain just wild to think how much they stretched her out. But it took away from her enjoyment and now disqualifies potential lovers if they have an 8 inch dick or bigger. It's funny listening to you tell women what is appealing and then argue with them about how bigger is always more appealing. They have sex with another human, not with a new huge dick. LOL.

Hey if a girl likes a big dick more power to her.

[Cory87]

I feel the need/urge to submit and assume a secondary position to the other guy if he is bigger than i am. It just feels so right and natural to act submissive towards a bigger, younger and sexually superior male.

[Suchagoodgirl]

I haven’t yet had the fun of trying to organise one, but I feel I would like the guy to have a bigger one than me even if that is hard to find. If not longer at least thicker, just so she has the opportunity of a different feeling. But my opinion may well be naive.

Of course it's naive. That's your fantasy not hers. Ever heard a group of girls going out to meet guys say "OMG let's find some huge dicks tonight!" Of course not. How he makes her feel will be based much more on the human than his dick size. A dick doesn't have to be bigger to feel different. The whole experience of sex with a different person is a different feeling. Ever have sex with different women who had the same size vaginas? In the morning did you think "well that was stupid. Why have sex with her because her vagina size is exactly the same?" Of course you didn't. There are a 100 things my wife considers before playing with a guy and one of those 100 things is not "he must have a bigger dick so it feels different." She actually does not want a bigger dick.

[NOVO7779]

What I find amazing is the fact you can use a crystal ball to know what me and my my wife discuss. Excellent skills, well done.

[BBCfan]

I haven’t yet had the fun of trying to organise one, but I feel I would like the guy to have a bigger one than me even if that is hard to find. If not longer at least thicker, just so she has the opportunity of a different feeling. But my opinion may well be naive.

Of course it's naive. That's your fantasy not hers. Ever heard a group of girls going out to meet guys say "OMG let's find some huge dicks tonight!" Of course not. How he makes her feel will be based much more on the human than his dick size. A dick doesn't have to be bigger to feel different. The whole experience of sex with a different person is a different feeling. Ever have sex with different women who had the same size vaginas? In the morning did you think "well that was stupid. Why have sex with her because her vagina size is exactly the same?" Of course you didn't. There are a 100 things my wife considers before playing with a guy and one of those 100 things is not "he must have a bigger dick so it feels different." She actually does not want a bigger dick.

I know when my wife shares the odd guy pic her GF's post on a groupchat, it is ALWAYS a guy with a huge cock. I get it's just GF silliness but it is definitely something they enjoy.In fantasy it is obviously on their minds.

My wife will often notice a guy packing a huge bulge on the street...some women appreciate big dick but it's not ALL they're interested in either.

[HornyOne]

Too small is useless, that's for sure. I haven't actually asked, but one guy was about 5 inch and she said afterwards that it was "smallish". In other hand my wife doesn't like too long either. She can grip my finger with her muscles, but can take my fist after decent warm-up. So there's no such thing as too thick. Double vaginal is her favorite and that's why 7 to 8 inches is best for 3-somes with my 7 inch.

[HWDixie]

I like to tell my husband what's the point of having sex with another guy if he isn't bigger than him. Now that isn't entirely true but it does add to his excitement and it does hold some truth for me. I know that I want the other man to be atleast as big as my husband but I'm not sure how big would be too big for me either. My biggest has only been 7-7.5 inches but we do play with bigger dildos and I have found a couple to be too big.

[lookingiansa]

So how do/would you feel if you invested time and energy to meet this guy, and maybe a few times to be sure you like him, and then he pulls out a 2 incher for sex. Since you are doing this with a need for sex, would you not have wasted your time? You don't need to see dick pics if that turns you off, but wouldn't be wise to discuss before meetings, etc what he brings in the way of satisfying you? Why the heck not? Can't mature people discuss this in an honest sensitive way?

Try not to be so shallow . I don't and never have checked out a guy's dick with pics, questions, or otherwise before having sex. In 28 years of being a Hotwife, it's never been an issue.
And, on the odd chance that it was to happen that the guy had a small dick, it would still be great sex. I only select guys that can turn on my mind, and if he can turn on my mind, he can give me an orgasm. A better one than a guy with a bigger dick that can't turn on my mind. So, no, it wouldn't be a waste of time. A waste of time is the ones with a bigger dick that think their dick is special and capable of special things .
I don't know if I've been sensitive enough for you, but I've been honest.

Farmgirl

My thoughts exactly the guy if he had a 3 inch dick would be by far more pleasing to you on average than the big cocked big ego guy who is selfish and all about himself but sucks in bed because he only relys on a trick dick.

With me same way all in my mind first and mindfucking my partner as foreplay as well by the time we get to PIV she will hopefully be so turned on she will become addicted to me Lol

I don't care what, unless a quick high altitude fuck. Foreplay and mindfucking are the best way to get my partner off

It doesn't hurt that my cock is curved just right to rub the g-spot of most women when they ride me cowgirl. With my wife of 30 years lovecseeing her go into orgasms and see her eyes roll into the back of her head.

My $5.00 worth

Mr. Lookingiansa ooking

[lookingiansa]

Thank god this never happened to us. How the hell would a guy say 8 in and then have the 'balls' to take off his pants?

A good insurance policy would be to ask for a pic of it hard before actually meeting him.

IDK how much good it would do so many fake pics on internet.

Be very hard pun intended to prove its his.

IMHO.

Mr. Lookingiansa