An unlikely hotwife.

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Mon Jul 17, 2023 6:56 am

Trvlman7 wrote:
Sun Jul 16, 2023 11:54 pm
Just read your whole thread and while every couple approaches play a little differently and has different needs, I have to say, this guy sounds like "bad news" for you two. NRE is fine and understandable, and the wife feeling some attachment/feelings with a guy she is into is great, this does not at least appear as simply NRE. It sounds like developing into true boyfriend relationship which can add hugh strains and totally different dynamics from hotwifing. That starts to approach poly type relationships if not careful.
Add that your reactions have more of a very cuckold position then a hotwife hubby (we define the later as hubby enjoys sharing the wife and loves used pussy, but also likes to watch and be included, not necessarily in actual 3way, but included, and never asked to leave the room).
The truly cuckold husband often seems willing to step aside for alpha male to have his wife as the alpha and the wife choose and the hubby accepts with little choice.
Others may share a totally different view. After being the extra male (hate the term bull) for 20 years and then meeting my lady and throughly enjoying sharing her and having a hotwife for 25 years (yep we are much older now).
I will say hotwifing is the greatest marriage in the world, but without LOTS of communication and total honesty (no secrets).
I for years deployed/gone on 4 day trips and wife played at home while gone. Quite often I would get a phone call and she would tell me hi and to mute my phone and then place hers by the bed while she fucked a guy or two for her pleasure and my listening enjoyment.
After they left we enjoyed talking about her play. She also dated close playmate friends on occasion, but the reclaiming after the date is unbelievable. I could never wait days unless out of town.
You guys can make this happen, but one thing has to always be central, wife keeps hubby #1, and insures he is happy (not with constant checking and contact, but little things like sharing eye contact as she fucks, little texts like before and after pussy shots when on a date. Things that are easy to do and not interfere with or interrupt the sex with her playmates and yet keep hubby involved.
Good luck in your play. Just remember hotwifing has to be FUN and exciting for BOTH of you. Angst is good, feeling neglected is not.
Great to hear from you and thanks for reading my story. I’m sure it’s a mess and tough to follow. Sounds like you have an interesting life yourself and plenty of experience in this lifestyle. I definitely like being in the room looking into her eyes or holding her hand or holding her thigh while another man pounds away on her. In our first threesome, which was with the second guy we had ever met up with, I was on my back at the end of the bed with my legs over the edge and SM was on top of me, her head a little below my chest. The other guy was fucking her from the back and I could feel his thrusts going through her body and into mine. I will never forget it.

Maybe you or your wife can help me here. Do you think she doesn’t know how to use the experiences or doesn’t want to use them to teases and excite me. She has mentioned multiple times that she doesn’t know how but the other day she made a comment after I asked what she was feeling or thinking about Chris and she said something like she didn’t know if I could handle it. Whatever it was. As you can read in my writing I can get emotional and she has seen this and doesn’t want to hurt me. I don’t think it’s that she is in love with him or anything just that she really enjoys him and likes having sex with him and talking with him. I would want her to tell me what she is truly thinking and not to embellish anything you know but she won’t just come right out and tell me that she is super excited to see and and can’t wait for him to fuck her. I know she is excited but I want her to tell me. The more she holds back the more struggles I have with this particular guy. What do you think she is not wanting to tell me?

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Mon Jul 17, 2023 7:31 am

I asked SM if she was happy with how things went and she replied.

Short answer yes, but I’m a little confused about how some things went and still kinda processing what I think???

So then I asked so like what happened yesterday or last night?

She replied back and this morning.

Not too sure what that all means but she hasn’t gone into any detail. Her plane is boarding now so I will pick her up in about 4 hrs.

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by 54321 » Mon Jul 17, 2023 8:15 am

Interesting. We have two people so afraid of hurting each other that they end up... hurting each other.

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Pecannut » Mon Jul 17, 2023 9:42 am

Hope she is doing great and will tell you all the details. Thank you for sharing your experience!

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Iahotwifeshusband » Mon Jul 17, 2023 10:56 am

You are getting some great advice from others already, but I wanted to throw my 2 cents in as well.

First, I am in a very similar situation, but with about 5 years of experience to share. My wife plays, I do not. She isn’t comfortable with me playing with other females, but I have played with her and other men on a couple of occasions. (MFM) It took a lot of conversation before we agreed on rules and expectations. Even with the extensive conversation upfront, we have continued to evolve in rules and engagement. Even now, it is a lot of give and take. My wife would prefer to play with one guy at a time so she can focus on him and her pleasure. She won’t say it, but she prefers to play alone vs having me in the room even watching. She has played with different men on over 50 occasions and there have been three times where I have been in the same room while she plays. In all three instances, they were her primary focus and I was something of a third wheel. That being said, she did her best to include me in the play. The majority of her play is when she is traveling and my pleasure is limited to what she chooses to share and I generally have to waits days or weeks to reclaim her. Her last two outings have been with a local friend and she came right home to me after he fucked her. (Just a very high level overview)

We have learned some hard lessons over the past five years. The first one we learned is that she becomes comfortable with new friends very quickly in the heat of the moment. The third person she met with was our first threesome. We met this guy at a local casino and had a room for play. After introductions, we decided to let my wife get to know him first. I went and gambled for about 30 minutes while they played. She let me know when they were ready for me and I came back to her riding him. After undressing, she started blowing me while he fucked her. We switched positions a few times, but I was a bit overwhelmed by everything and struggled to stay hard. He started fucking her with a condom but ended up getting peeling off the condom for a bJ and she let him cum in her mouth. She had decided that bjs with rubbers is very awkward and adjusted on the fly. We talked later and agreed that she can adjust on the fly, but she needs to be careful to avoid STDs.

After this encounter, she went six months before including me again. During this time, she met 9 new friends with most of them being during work trips to a large city in the Midwest. Of those 9 guys, she blew all of them bare and two fucked her bare. I wasn’t a huge fan of this, but both guys who fucked her bare net her several times. The one local guy who fucked her bare during this time arranged a foursome with my wife, me, him, and a friend of his for my birthday. This happened back in 2019 and was the last time I was actively involved while she played with another guy. It was awesome, but my wife essentially decided that she’d rather play with one guy at a time. She is all for a train, but no interest in more than one guy at a time. (Yet DP and DVP is on her bucket list)

A few months after our foursome, she met a young local stud and played with him. The first time they met, she left early and went to his place. Per her story, he was both long and thick and struggled to stay hard with a condom. And didn’t have the right size. She made another gametime decision and let him fuck her bare and finish inside. She told me what happened while I was driving home from work to reclaim her. At first, I was super turned on but then reality set in and letting an early 20s player fuck her bare because he doesn’t know how to use condoms wigged me out. By the time I got home, we decided I should play safe until she got tested. I fingered her silky wet pussy and was in awe at how slick she was. I would have loved to experience silky seconds, but not with the risk. She did get tested a few days later and it came back clean. A couple months later, she met with him again and let him fuck her bare again. She asked me, in advance, if it was okay. She came home with two loads of his cum and happily fucked me until I added a third load. That was my first experience with silky seconds. It was pretty awesome.

My wife then had a few local overnight sexfests where she got a room about an hour away and met up with 2-3 guys one at a time. This is what she would do all the time, if it was her choice. In these cases, I stayed home with our younger kids while she played. She did her best to take care of me when she came home the next day.

Then COVID hit and we took most of the next two years off. She did have one regular friend who also got to fuck her bare at the beginning of Covid. Unfortunately, he was about an hour away so I never got to experience silky seconds again. She normally went there and spent the night. After Covid, she started up in April 2022 while we were on an adult weekend getaway. She met a guy who met us in the hotel lobby. After some light conversation, she asked to take him upstairs while I had a few drinks at the bar. He fucked her for a solid hour and when he left she invited me up to pick up where he left off. He used a condom but was very well endowed. We both enjoyed each other after he left. She is so turned on after a good hard fucking. This was the last time I was in the same vicinity as my wife while she played.

She has met a couple of local guys over the past year, but mainly played while traveling for work. Last fall was our grades lesson. She met a guy while traveling and ended up in a relationship with him. He fucked her bare the first time they met, and two other times that first week. She was traveling to his local regularly and they ended up playing 11 different times that I am aware of. It is more because after their first week, she told me that she wanted a relationship with him and that she wasn’t sure she wanted to be with me anymore. The next four months we’re a series of ups and downs. I gave her t8me to figure out what she wanted. After a few months of waiting without any answers, I asked that we move forward with getting divorced. She initially agreed but within a few days decided to shut things off with him and focus on us. We have been working to repair our relationship and things are going well again.

Over the past month, she has started playing again but just close to home. Each time, she has come home to me so we can reconnect

Throughout the past few years, we continue to talk about what we each need and are getting out of this. I truly enjoy sharing her and love how horny she is when she comes home to me. It’s a fact that she is much kinkier the longer she fucks. The kinkier she is, the better for me. However, I also find that she always gets hers and needs regular reminders to follow through with meeting my needs. Pictures and videos have been a touchy subject. I love them, but rarely get them. I understand it takes away from the moment, but a couple of guys have enjoyed taking pics and videos. It’s been quite a while since she has taken any new pictures.

Okay, enough rambling. You can probably see a lot of similarities. My advice is to keep lines of communication open and make sure you are both talking about what you each like and where there is angst each time she plays. At the end of the day, both of your actions should demonstrate that your relationship is the primary. The fact that Chris’ comfort level is most important would be a huge red flag for me. That’s not to say she can’t ever see him. Instead, it means that you need to talk about other ways your desires can be met. You should not be the lowest priority! I would propose some give and take after you both openly share what you each want and need from this arrangement. Once you find common ground with your wife, then decide if Chris is a good fit or not.

I hope this helps and apologize for the novel! Best of luck!

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Mon Jul 17, 2023 11:41 am

When SM landed and was waiting on her connection she messaged me that she had made a friend on the plane 😜

I said oh yeah?

She said she sat next to a gentleman that she could tell was looking at her when they were waiting in line to board. She is flying Southwest Airlines so there isn’t any assigned seats only assigned groups. She purposefully chose to sit next to this guy to talk to him. I asked if he was good looking and she said that he would definitely make the cut. At this point I’m sporting a pretty good stiffy. She said he flirted with her pretty hard the whole flight. I asked if she got his number she replied no that he was married. I told her so was she and that sounded perfect but she’s not going to go after a married guy without the wife’s consent. She said she deliberately sat next to him to get him to flirt so she could have another story for me. That’s the first time she has done anything like this in person. All her other interactions start on line. Pretty stoked to hear the whole encounter

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Mon Jul 17, 2023 11:42 am

I am at the airport now. She is supposed to land in 10 minutes

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Mon Jul 17, 2023 11:43 am

54321 wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 8:15 am
Interesting. We have two people so afraid of hurting each other that they end up... hurting each other.

54321
That’s an interesting statement can you expand on that some for me?

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Mon Jul 17, 2023 11:46 am

Pecannut wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 9:42 am
Hope she is doing great and will tell you all the details. Thank you for sharing your experience!
Thanks for writing. I’m never sure if anyone is even reading this or if they can follow the story at all. I’m a little worried about what the problem was yesterday and today with Chris. I hope that is not all she is thinking about when we start to get into what all happened.

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Long Lurker 34 » Mon Jul 17, 2023 12:05 pm

Shhh_itsasecret wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 11:46 am
Pecannut wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 9:42 am
Hope she is doing great and will tell you all the details. Thank you for sharing your experience!
Thanks for writing. I’m never sure if anyone is even reading this or if they can follow the story at all. I’m a little worried about what the problem was yesterday and today with Chris. I hope that is not all she is thinking about when we start to get into what all happened.
ShhhIS - I follow and have commented in the past. At the time of this comment you have had 4836 views and 83 comments, so people are reading what you post.
On another note, have you talked with your wife about OHW? If not I would recommend doing so and suggesting she get verified as there is a forum that only Women have access. A good place for her to ask questions about HWing from other Women who have experience and insight.

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Gulfcpl » Mon Jul 17, 2023 12:19 pm

Long Lurker 34 wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 12:05 pm
Shhh_itsasecret wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 11:46 am
Pecannut wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 9:42 am
Hope she is doing great and will tell you all the details. Thank you for sharing your experience!
Thanks for writing. I’m never sure if anyone is even reading this or if they can follow the story at all. I’m a little worried about what the problem was yesterday and today with Chris. I hope that is not all she is thinking about when we start to get into what all happened.
ShhhIS - I follow and have commented in the past. At the time of this comment you have had 4836 views and 83 comments, so people are reading what you post.
On another note, have you talked with your wife about OHW? If not I would recommend doing so and suggesting she get verified as there is a forum that only Women have access. A good place for her to ask questions about HWing from other Women who have experience and insight.
I totally agree. Getting advice and info directly from other hotwives is a perspective that would be very beneficial.

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by 54321 » Mon Jul 17, 2023 3:45 pm

54321 wrote: ↑Mon Jul 17, 2023 5:15 pm
Interesting. We have two people so afraid of hurting each other that they end up... hurting each other.

54321
That’s an interesting statement can you expand on that some for me?
You want blow by blow accounts so that you don't feel left out. She is afraid to give you blow by blow accounts because you might feel left out.

She is worried about getting it wrong and upsetting you and your marriage. You are afraid to tell her exactly what you want because
it might make her feel wrong.

You hear "Communication, communication, communication" on this site all the time but it's not as easy as it sounds. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, the same words mean different things to different people.

You both need to share your vulnerabilities with each other, your worries, your fears, your desires and, most important of all, your love.
You might need to pause the hotwifing for a short while and regroup. I believe most successful LS couples do that frequently.

BTW, have you recently told her what you love about her and what you love about her being a hotwife? Just sayin'.

Good luck with all that. :)

Every good wish,

54321

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by funfortwo » Mon Jul 17, 2023 4:04 pm

54321 wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 3:45 pm
54321 wrote: ↑Mon Jul 17, 2023 5:15 pm
Interesting. We have two people so afraid of hurting each other that they end up... hurting each other.

54321
That’s an interesting statement can you expand on that some for me?
You want blow by blow accounts so that you don't feel left out. She is afraid to give you blow by blow accounts because you might feel left out.

She is worried about getting it wrong and upsetting you and your marriage. You are afraid to tell her exactly what you want because
it might make her feel wrong.

You hear "Communication, communication, communication" on this site all the time but it's not as easy as it sounds. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, the same words mean different things to different people.

You both need to share your vulnerabilities with each other, your worries, your fears, your desires and, most important of all, your love.
You might need to pause the hotwifing for a short while and regroup. I believe most successful LS couples do that frequently.

BTW, have you recently told her what you love about her and what you love about her being a hotwife? Just sayin'.

Good luck with all that. :)

Every good wish,

54321
My wife and I have been doing this for the past 6 months. Sometimes, it's hard to express how we're really feeling, but after we talk, openly, we feel better about our insecurities or whatever we need. We've both agreed that this dynamic is for BOTH of us, and if one of us feels something isn't right, then address it and work through it...together. Some things that have helped initiate conversation? Well, I've told her about this site and she immediately wants to discuss whatever I posted or how I felt. We've recently started listening to some podcasts, "Venus Cuckoldress", "Consenting Adults" and "Sex with Emily." There is a ton of them on the podcast app on any iphone. These podcasts almost always foster some sort of discussions about what we want and how we feel. It really comes down to communication...like so many others here have taught me/us..Good Luck
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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by funfortwo » Mon Jul 17, 2023 4:05 pm

54321 wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 3:45 pm
54321 wrote: ↑Mon Jul 17, 2023 5:15 pm
Interesting. We have two people so afraid of hurting each other that they end up... hurting each other.

54321
That’s an interesting statement can you expand on that some for me?
You want blow by blow accounts so that you don't feel left out. She is afraid to give you blow by blow accounts because you might feel left out.

She is worried about getting it wrong and upsetting you and your marriage. You are afraid to tell her exactly what you want because
it might make her feel wrong.

You hear "Communication, communication, communication" on this site all the time but it's not as easy as it sounds. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, the same words mean different things to different people.

You both need to share your vulnerabilities with each other, your worries, your fears, your desires and, most important of all, your love.
You might need to pause the hotwifing for a short while and regroup. I believe most successful LS couples do that frequently.

BTW, have you recently told her what you love about her and what you love about her being a hotwife? Just sayin'.

Good luck with all that. :)

Every good wish,

54321
My wife and I have been doing this for the past 6 months. Sometimes, it's hard to express how we're really feeling, but after we talk, openly, we feel better about our insecurities or whatever we need. We've both agreed that this dynamic is for BOTH of us, and if one of us feels something isn't right, then address it and work through it...together. Some things that have helped initiate conversation? Well, I've told her about this site and she immediately wants to discuss whatever I posted or how I felt. We've recently started listening to some podcasts, "Venus Cuckoldress", "Consenting Adults" and "Sex with Emily." There is a ton of them on the podcast app on any iphone. These podcasts almost always foster some sort of discussions about what we want and how we feel. It really comes down to communication...like so many others here have taught me/us..Good Luck
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Hotwife: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=69217

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Trvlman7 » Mon Jul 17, 2023 8:07 pm

Shhh_itsasecret wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 6:56 am
Trvlman7 wrote:
Sun Jul 16, 2023 11:54 pm
Just read your whole thread and while every couple approaches play a little differently and has different needs, I have to say, this guy sounds like "bad news" for you two. NRE is fine and understandable, and the wife feeling some attachment/feelings with a guy she is into is great, this does not at least appear as simply NRE. It sounds like developing into true boyfriend relationship which can add hugh strains and totally different dynamics from hotwifing. That starts to approach poly type relationships if not careful.
Add that your reactions have more of a very cuckold position then a hotwife hubby (we define the later as hubby enjoys sharing the wife and loves used pussy, but also likes to watch and be included, not necessarily in actual 3way, but included, and never asked to leave the room).
The truly cuckold husband often seems willing to step aside for alpha male to have his wife as the alpha and the wife choose and the hubby accepts with little choice.
Others may share a totally different view. After being the extra male (hate the term bull) for 20 years and then meeting my lady and throughly enjoying sharing her and having a hotwife for 25 years (yep we are much older now).
I will say hotwifing is the greatest marriage in the world, but without LOTS of communication and total honesty (no secrets).
I for years deployed/gone on 4 day trips and wife played at home while gone. Quite often I would get a phone call and she would tell me hi and to mute my phone and then place hers by the bed while she fucked a guy or two for her pleasure and my listening enjoyment.
After they left we enjoyed talking about her play. She also dated close playmate friends on occasion, but the reclaiming after the date is unbelievable. I could never wait days unless out of town.
You guys can make this happen, but one thing has to always be central, wife keeps hubby #1, and insures he is happy (not with constant checking and contact, but little things like sharing eye contact as she fucks, little texts like before and after pussy shots when on a date. Things that are easy to do and not interfere with or interrupt the sex with her playmates and yet keep hubby involved.
Good luck in your play. Just remember hotwifing has to be FUN and exciting for BOTH of you. Angst is good, feeling neglected is not.
Great to hear from you and thanks for reading my story. I’m sure it’s a mess and tough to follow. Sounds like you have an interesting life yourself and plenty of experience in this lifestyle. I definitely like being in the room looking into her eyes or holding her hand or holding her thigh while another man pounds away on her. In our first threesome, which was with the second guy we had ever met up with, I was on my back at the end of the bed with my legs over the edge and SM was on top of me, her head a little below my chest. The other guy was fucking her from the back and I could feel his thrusts going through her body and into mine. I will never forget it.

Maybe you or your wife can help me here. Do you think she doesn’t know how to use the experiences or doesn’t want to use them to teases and excite me. She has mentioned multiple times that she doesn’t know how but the other day she made a comment after I asked what she was feeling or thinking about Chris and she said something like she didn’t know if I could handle it. Whatever it was. As you can read in my writing I can get emotional and she has seen this and doesn’t want to hurt me. I don’t think it’s that she is in love with him or anything just that she really enjoys him and likes having sex with him and talking with him. I would want her to tell me what she is truly thinking and not to embellish anything you know but she won’t just come right out and tell me that she is super excited to see and and can’t wait for him to fuck her. I know she is excited but I want her to tell me. The more she holds back the more struggles I have with this particular guy. What do you think she is not wanting to tell me?
I would offer this limited insight since neither the wife or I "really know" your situation between the two of you. It appears both of you are hesitant to discuss and talk about what you both want and need to get satisfaction from hotwifing. It has to be fun and exciting for both of you or it can destroy a relationship.
Also waiting to talk about feelings for days and not discussing it as near to the hurt as reasonably possible tends to make the issues bigger then they really are. Such as you saying you felt left out as she played on Vagas trip and waited days to explain that to her. The longer the discomfort/feelings of "neglect" fester the bigger the feelings of hurt and disappointment develop. If she is more worried about Chris's feelings and enjoyment then yours that is a hugh red flag and probably time for "time out" from hotwifing. That is not placing hubby first in relationship.
I totally get and love waiting till everyone is done with my wife (we both really enjoy her gang banging groups of guys), but i do reclaim after she is done every time. Reclaiming is absolutely essential to refocusing the action back to the couple. Whether after a party, a one on one with a guy while I watch or wait while they are in bedroom, or she comes home from a date. I ALWAYS reclaim and she is looking for that too. Reclaiming reaffirms the couple and who is primary.
I much prefer to be last (usually everyone has use a condom in gang bang play, unless small with very select guys not party even) but still loose used pussy is great. Though TOTALLY agree used, loose, sloppy wife pussy is the best pussy on earth.
Long response but you might try to explain to her, if you watch she does not have to retell, if you don't then details are essential. If no details then it can start to feel like sneaking around and if being not told the truth then definitely time to put on the breaks to both of you can get on the same page.
Few things are more beautiful then a sexy loving wife spread wide open for all!!!!!!!!!!!

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Tue Jul 18, 2023 11:20 am

54321 wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 3:45 pm
54321 wrote: ↑Mon Jul 17, 2023 5:15 pm
Interesting. We have two people so afraid of hurting each other that they end up... hurting each other.

54321
That’s an interesting statement can you expand on that some for me?
You want blow by blow accounts so that you don't feel left out. She is afraid to give you blow by blow accounts because you might feel left out.

She is worried about getting it wrong and upsetting you and your marriage. You are afraid to tell her exactly what you want because
it might make her feel wrong.

You hear "Communication, communication, communication" on this site all the time but it's not as easy as it sounds. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, the same words mean different things to different people.

You both need to share your vulnerabilities with each other, your worries, your fears, your desires and, most important of all, your love.
You might need to pause the hotwifing for a short while and regroup. I believe most successful LS couples do that frequently.

BTW, have you recently told her what you love about her and what you love about her being a hotwife? Just sayin'.

Good luck with all that. :)

Every good wish,

54321
What I’m not going to do is start with what she did wrong or could have done better. I’ve learned that lesson. I gave her positive feedback on the things I liked. Sad to say but the most turned on I got the whole time she was gone was when she told me about the guy on the plane. I will update how our day went when I have a minute. Thanks for the comment.

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Tue Jul 18, 2023 11:25 am

funfortwo wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 4:05 pm
54321 wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 3:45 pm
54321 wrote: ↑Mon Jul 17, 2023 5:15 pm
Interesting. We have two people so afraid of hurting each other that they end up... hurting each other.

54321
That’s an interesting statement can you expand on that some for me?
You want blow by blow accounts so that you don't feel left out. She is afraid to give you blow by blow accounts because you might feel left out.

She is worried about getting it wrong and upsetting you and your marriage. You are afraid to tell her exactly what you want because
it might make her feel wrong.

You hear "Communication, communication, communication" on this site all the time but it's not as easy as it sounds. Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, the same words mean different things to different people.

You both need to share your vulnerabilities with each other, your worries, your fears, your desires and, most important of all, your love.
You might need to pause the hotwifing for a short while and regroup. I believe most successful LS couples do that frequently.

BTW, have you recently told her what you love about her and what you love about her being a hotwife? Just sayin'.

Good luck with all that. :)

Every good wish,

54321
My wife and I have been doing this for the past 6 months. Sometimes, it's hard to express how we're really feeling, but after we talk, openly, we feel better about our insecurities or whatever we need. We've both agreed that this dynamic is for BOTH of us, and if one of us feels something isn't right, then address it and work through it...together. Some things that have helped initiate conversation? Well, I've told her about this site and she immediately wants to discuss whatever I posted or how I felt. We've recently started listening to some podcasts, "Venus Cuckoldress", "Consenting Adults" and "Sex with Emily." There is a ton of them on the podcast app on any iphone. These podcasts almost always foster some sort of discussions about what we want and how we feel. It really comes down to communication...like so many others here have taught me/us..Good Luck
I have listened to quite a few podcasts and have played some in the truck while we are riding together. Her plate is really full right now. She is training to compete in a bodybuilding show, our daughter just graduated and we are going to be dropping her off at college in a few weeks and she is starting a nutrition coaching business and she has to deal with me and Chris. I will have a full update on how yesterday went hopefully before the end of today

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Tue Jul 18, 2023 9:07 pm

Shhh_itsasecret wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 11:41 am
When SM landed and was waiting on her connection she messaged me that she had made a friend on the plane 😜

I said oh yeah?

She said she sat next to a gentleman that she could tell was looking at her when they were waiting in line to board. She is flying Southwest Airlines so there isn’t any assigned seats only assigned groups. She purposefully chose to sit next to this guy to talk to him. I asked if he was good looking and she said that he would definitely make the cut. At this point I’m sporting a pretty good stiffy. She said he flirted with her pretty hard the whole flight. I asked if she got his number she replied no that he was married. I told her so was she and that sounded perfect but she’s not going to go after a married guy without the wife’s consent. She said she deliberately sat next to him to get him to flirt so she could have another story for me. That’s the first time she has done anything like this in person. All her other interactions start on line. Pretty stoked to hear the whole encounter
SM texted that she had landed and was headed for her bag. I was waiting by the baggage claim for her. I was sitting in a chair facing away from the carousel. I texted her I couldn’t wait to see her and give her a hug. She said she couldn’t either so I told her well come do it. She finally recognized me and came right over and gave me the biggest hug. We embraced and kissed each other for a few minutes. I was so happy that she was there and she was happy to see me.
We grabbed her bag and headed to the truck. Sm wanted to pull into a shopping center just to walk around and get over being on a plane. We were in a home goods store walking around then she stopped and asked if I wanted her to start telling me about her weekend. She asked if this was an ok place or time to do it. I was thinking I would rather do it when we get back home so I could fuck her during or after her recollection. She saw a little hesitation so she said she would start with the friend she made on the plane.
She flew Southwest Airlines and they don’t have assigned seating. They load in groups and it’s first come first serve seating. This guy was one of the first to board and sat in the aisle seat in the first row. My wife was in the second group. When she made it to the plane and got in the aisle she noticed this guy checking her out a few times, so she decided to ask him if any one was sitting next to him. He quicky said no go ahead and do she took the seat. He was real quick to start up a conversation with her. He talked about the plane and the seats and some other small talk. He then asked if where the plane was going is her final destination or was she visiting there. She told him she was headed home after spending a weekend with a friend for there birthday and that she would need to catch a connecting flight to make it home. He asked where home was and she told him. He said she didn’t look like she was from where we live. She said that is because she is from the south. He then made a few statements that were obviously him telling her how pretty she is without coming right out and saying it.
He then went back to her statement that she was headed home after visiting a friend for there birthday. He asked if they had gone out which she replied that they had fun. He was like you had fun, what kind of fun. She replied a lot of fun. My wife wasn’t ‘em wearing her wedding ring and he had noticed. The conversation somehow switched to nutrition and SW mentioned that she had just competed in her first body building competition a month and a half ago. He told her she had to show him a pic of her competing. She opened her phone and deliberately showed him one with me in it. He then went back to the fact that she was by herself , not wearing a wedding ring, and went to have a lot of fun with her friend’s birthday. I think he then put it all together and asked if I knew what she was doing to which she assured him not only did I know I enjoyed her being with other guys. He thought that was the hottest thing he ever heard and that my wife was the most interesting person he had ever met. He then tried to say his wife was okay with him having some stuff on the side but didn’t want to know about it. My wife could see through his lie and decided not to give him her number. She said she would have gave it to him if he wasn’t married. She doesn’t like to be a home wrecker. It was such a hot story and she told it pretty good.
I just wanted to jump on her right there in the store. I followed her like a list puppy taking every opportunity to hold on to her and kiss her. We grabbed a quick bite to eat and got in the truck so we could drive the 2.5 hrs drive home.

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by 54321 » Wed Jul 19, 2023 4:26 am

She finally recognized me and came right over and gave me the biggest hug. We embraced and kissed each other for a few minutes. I was so happy that she was there and she was happy to see me.
Lovely!

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by johnstevens555 » Mon Aug 14, 2023 7:14 pm

Will you tell us more?

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by 54321 » Tue Aug 15, 2023 4:24 am

I hope the reclaiming was fun for you both.

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Sun Aug 27, 2023 5:10 pm

It’s been longer than I thought since I last posted something here. Not a lot has happened since she saw her bf last. We went on a trip to Nashville with some vanilla friends of ours and on our way back home we had a layover in his hometown so we are spending a night here. He picked us up from the airport and all three of us went to dinner. We just finished and went back to the hotel. She invited him to stay and asked me if I didn’t mind leaving them alone for a while. They are now alone in the room and I’m trying to find a place to relax.

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Sun Aug 27, 2023 5:16 pm

I am sitting outside the room in the hall way. I can hear them kissing and her moaning already. My heart is beating heavy in my chest. From the sounds they are making I’m pretty sure he is fucking her.

Oh yes for sure. I can hear his skin slapping into hers.

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Sun Aug 27, 2023 5:20 pm

It has gone silent for a few minutes now. Not sure what is going on.


She is moaning and and is telling him “oh yeah” over and over

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Re: An unlikely hotwife.

Unread post by Shhh_itsasecret » Sun Aug 27, 2023 5:27 pm

He is pounding away on her now. He’s going at it pretty fast. She sounds like she is enjoying it.

I had to get up for Second, a guy just came down the hallway headed to his room.

They are still at it. He is keeping up a really good rhythm.
She is moaning louder and a little more often now he may be having to pace himself so he doesn’t cum yet

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