Great to hear from you and thanks for reading my story. I’m sure it’s a mess and tough to follow. Sounds like you have an interesting life yourself and plenty of experience in this lifestyle. I definitely like being in the room looking into her eyes or holding her hand or holding her thigh while another man pounds away on her. In our first threesome, which was with the second guy we had ever met up with, I was on my back at the end of the bed with my legs over the edge and SM was on top of me, her head a little below my chest. The other guy was fucking her from the back and I could feel his thrusts going through her body and into mine. I will never forget it.Trvlman7 wrote: ↑Sun Jul 16, 2023 11:54 pmJust read your whole thread and while every couple approaches play a little differently and has different needs, I have to say, this guy sounds like "bad news" for you two. NRE is fine and understandable, and the wife feeling some attachment/feelings with a guy she is into is great, this does not at least appear as simply NRE. It sounds like developing into true boyfriend relationship which can add hugh strains and totally different dynamics from hotwifing. That starts to approach poly type relationships if not careful.
Add that your reactions have more of a very cuckold position then a hotwife hubby (we define the later as hubby enjoys sharing the wife and loves used pussy, but also likes to watch and be included, not necessarily in actual 3way, but included, and never asked to leave the room).
The truly cuckold husband often seems willing to step aside for alpha male to have his wife as the alpha and the wife choose and the hubby accepts with little choice.
Others may share a totally different view. After being the extra male (hate the term bull) for 20 years and then meeting my lady and throughly enjoying sharing her and having a hotwife for 25 years (yep we are much older now).
I will say hotwifing is the greatest marriage in the world, but without LOTS of communication and total honesty (no secrets).
I for years deployed/gone on 4 day trips and wife played at home while gone. Quite often I would get a phone call and she would tell me hi and to mute my phone and then place hers by the bed while she fucked a guy or two for her pleasure and my listening enjoyment.
After they left we enjoyed talking about her play. She also dated close playmate friends on occasion, but the reclaiming after the date is unbelievable. I could never wait days unless out of town.
You guys can make this happen, but one thing has to always be central, wife keeps hubby #1, and insures he is happy (not with constant checking and contact, but little things like sharing eye contact as she fucks, little texts like before and after pussy shots when on a date. Things that are easy to do and not interfere with or interrupt the sex with her playmates and yet keep hubby involved.
Good luck in your play. Just remember hotwifing has to be FUN and exciting for BOTH of you. Angst is good, feeling neglected is not.
Maybe you or your wife can help me here. Do you think she doesn’t know how to use the experiences or doesn’t want to use them to teases and excite me. She has mentioned multiple times that she doesn’t know how but the other day she made a comment after I asked what she was feeling or thinking about Chris and she said something like she didn’t know if I could handle it. Whatever it was. As you can read in my writing I can get emotional and she has seen this and doesn’t want to hurt me. I don’t think it’s that she is in love with him or anything just that she really enjoys him and likes having sex with him and talking with him. I would want her to tell me what she is truly thinking and not to embellish anything you know but she won’t just come right out and tell me that she is super excited to see and and can’t wait for him to fuck her. I know she is excited but I want her to tell me. The more she holds back the more struggles I have with this particular guy. What do you think she is not wanting to tell me?