What was the impetus?

[adamgunnauthor]

For those of you who have actually entered the lifestyle, either Vixens or Stags, what was the underlying reason the two of you decided to open up your relationship?

[rogerg]

My wife was the driving force. She had a very active sex life before we met and was open about talking about her past. I was turned on by her stories but initially thought she was fantasizing more than relating real experiences and was content to role play and to share fantasies. She however was hoping for more and eventually suggested that we try swinging, which we did. When that went well and I enjoyed watching her, she suggested we attend a private house sex party hosted by a couple she knew from her past. I was hesitant but we went and I watched her pull a train. At that point we were all in and never looked back.

[Very Hot Wife]

My wife Becky was very sexually active when we met 25 years ago. She had just come out of a LTR and was playing the field, often with her girlfriend. They'd go to a club that was well known as a pick up bar and they'd always go home with a couple of guys in tow.

This went on for a few years and when we met she was having sex with 4 or 5 guys a week. Most were fairly regular lovers, with the usual one night stand at the weekends. I was quite intrigued by this and quickly adapted to her busy lifestyle, visiting her on the nights between her regular guys. I soon became used to her having a permanently wet pussy when I arrived at her house.

Early in our relationship, we decided that she shouldn't stop her adventures. We both enjoyed it..! Obviously neither of us knew that we would eventually get married, so it made no sense for her to stop seeing them.

She had her own house with a responsible and well paid job so life was good.

One fantasy of ours was to have all her lovers in the room at the same time and she would have to choose the order in which they would fuck her. When we decided to live out this scenario for real, she didn't want to complicate things by involving them so we went about it via a different route and went to a club.

And we're still swinging 25 years later...

[LongTermHubby]

After our youngest child left home to go off to college, my wife told me she was sexually unsatisfied and wanted to see other men. I agreed she should have that right and the rest is history.

[Johnann2227]

We began swinging in our early 20s (before we were married). We loved the excitement and played most weekends. Ann would tell me about nights out with friends where guys would try and pick them up. I casually asked if any of the guys were tempting. She would say no but one day she said that she would have fucked one guy in the carpark if she had been single. I said well why didn't you? This led into a long conversation about playing individually. We agreed that if either of us were out and met someone we found hot we could have a one night stand. And a hotwife was born.

[isinlarsa]

As she later told me, before we met my future wife was going thought a period where she was dating a series of men, and (as she put it) if she went on a date with a man, he would almost always fuck her on the first date. Sometimes she was having more than one date in a day.

When we met, she continued to date (and get fucked) by another man she had previously dated. That excited me, knowing she was sharing her charms with another man. However, she soon dropped him and became exclusive with me. I was actually disappointed with her turn toward monogamy, but fell deeply in love with her and was willing to enter into a monogamous marriage.

Our exclusive relationship continued through 16 years of marriage, until she hit her mid-40s. By that time, we had one young daughter and my wife was deeply involved in her professional career. Without much previous discussion, she came to me and said that she wanted to start dating other men, with the expectation that the dating would end up with her getting fucked by other men. I think she felt the clock ticking toward middle age, when her desirably in the eyes of other men would decrease. She had always felt the need to be desired, and she wanted the validation of her continued desirability by the physical act of being fucked. She said she didn't want to go through the rest of her life without having sex with other men.

I agreed that she could date, so she set up an internet ad as "a married women looking to date, and perhaps more." That was the beginning of her hotwife career.

[lisamyhotwife]

For Lisa and I it was me. When we met I had only 1 sexual relationship and she had none. We dated for a long time and then married, our sex life was off the charts...and still is. Over most of the first 20 years of our marriage I kept having a recurring dream of Lisa in bed with another man. They were so vivid and erotic. I would always wake up horny as hell after having one but never said anything. I would make love to her while in my mind the dream would replay. Well one morning I was particularly horny after one of those dreams and we had some wild sex, we both came, she went to shower and when she came back to the bedroom I was still hard as a rock and stroking that hard cock. She smiled and climbed back on and as she slid down she looked at me and said what got into you. I was so horny and after all those years I told her about the dreams and before I could even finish telling her I blew another load into her.
She told me she thought I was nuts but didn't say much more. After that I would bring it up and tell her how hot it would be for her to be pleasured by another guy or two and we should maybe check out some house parties or hotel takeovers. She agreed to that so we started going to a few. We always had a lot of fun, the people were friendly and the environment was always hot but nothing ever happened...until it did.
That was 3 years after I told her about my dreams. I'll never forget that night. It also became her first ff experience,
I have told how we started a few times and over the years how we play has changed a bit but Lisa is still fucking other men and loving it and I love that she does.
It can be a wonderful way of life.

[Mumfred]

It seems like, for most people responding, that those who have become hotwives simply like a lot of sex.

[lisamyhotwife]

In Lisa's case she like the veriety of different partners. Some wine and dine her, those are the older gentlemen that take their time and the younger bucks that just want to feel the dick slide into her pussy as they suck her nipples. She also enjoys more than one set of hands on her at one time, so it works out well lol.

[Mgcouplemn]

my wife and i started as swingers very shortly after we married, we swung for 23 years, swapping partners with other swingers, we even belong to a swinger group and attended many orgy's, swapping parties, and had sex with many other couples. all that time I loved the sight of her being fucked. then one day I just told her I loved just watching her with other guys, so we started including single guys into our sex life. I love watching her being fucked and love masturbating watching.

[ucaneffher]

I watched way too much porn as a child so by my teens, I wanted my girlfriend to be my personal porn Star. Gosh I'm fucked up lol

[zorro]

It seems like, for most people responding, that those who have become hotwives simply like a lot of sex.

It definitely helps.

[Lugnut]

For those of you who have actually entered the lifestyle, either Vixens or Stags, what was the underlying reason the two of you decided to open up your relationship?

Both of us had high sex drives and we fucked constantly. The idea of hotwifing eventually began to sound hot and fun, so we tried it. Turned out to be a lot of hot fun.

[warmnsalty]

I was a single M in the lifestyle when I met my wife. Had been playing with other couples for over 10 years and LOVED the dynamic. Told myself I wasn't getting married again unless I found a hot wife of my own. Met her at a BDSM party so knew she was open minded. After 6 mo of dating started sharing her. Love sharing her with others, set up a hot muscle guy for her on our honeymoon, LOVE my hot wife and life.

[WatchinginNJ]

In high school my long term girlfriend cheated on me the whole summer while I was gone to my other parents a few states away. I was destroyed that she was dishonest with me more than anything. I also realized that I didn't mind her fucking other dudes. Hell I remember as a young kid thinking, "why can't someone have more than one boyfriend or girlfriend?" My parents were divorced as long as I remember and I had good step parents, so it wasn't out of my wheel house that you could care for someone else and still care just as much for another person.

When I got back she felt awful, and talked me into getting back together. There was a lot of long conversations about "We're too young and serious, so let's just have fun". So we agreed to "date other people". It was my senior year. I was going off to college the next year, and we knew it wasn't going to continue into college.

My dad was single again, and I pretty much lived like I was away at college. One late night she invited me over after a date she had. Normally she was easy, but she was hesitant and holding back that night. It finally came out she just got fucked and was embarrassed. I played it cool and told her she was a free woman and knew we were seeing other people. It was pretty intense and we fucked pretty hard. The next week she called me and demurely asked, "I just got back from a date... want to come over?" The rest of my senior year was wild. We didn't work out. But I reconnected with her a few years later. 30 years later I still see her occasionally.

What I learned from it? I'm cool with women who fuck around. My dad was a swinger, and I thought that's what I was. It wasn't until I did it for the third time with my first adult relationship that I found out what a hotwife was.

[Fredposer2017]

Well it keeps the wife happy.... We both discovered that the MFM lifestyle supercharges our relationship. After an encounter our sex life remains supercharged for several weeks.

[dinoo]

We (my wife and I) were fucking in our marital bed.
Unexpectedly she asked me if I ever imagined fucking another woman while fucking her.
I said NO because I was very satisfied with her.
Of course I asked her the same question.
Without hesitation she answered YES.
When I asked her if she had somebody in mind, she answered again with YES.
But refused to tell me who and added to have this thought/fantasy with more guys.

Some time later she asked me what was my fantasy a man would do to her.
I told her to watch a man cumming in and around her mouth.
We decided to visit a club to fulfill my fantasy.
The first visit changed her into a HW.

[Tank Turner]

The first time I fucked the woman who's now my wife, I knew she was sexually experienced and had what I assumed was a high sex drive. After a few weeks, she told me about her endocrine abnormality which is not uncommon among women. When her endocrine system was out of balance, it released an abundance of testosterone in her body causing her to become hyperhorny.

My wife has always loved sex and everything about it. She believes sex is a normal and natural human function. She has always been most comfortable naked. Many women are. She knows the difference between sex for physical pleasure and sex as an expression of love.

Since the first time I fucked my wife, I knew I was incapable of satisfying her sexual desires, even when I was good for four or more money shots a day.

We've always engaged in dirty talk during sex. She'd fantasize during sex. Most of her fantasies involved two men fucking her, me being one of the two.

My sexual stamina waned to two a day. By then she was in her sexual prime. She wanted sex all the time.

We didn't have time to discuss her first time. We were getting ready to party at a nightclub we used to frequent. While we were getting ready she confidently told me she was going to seduce a man while we were at the club. I can't remember her precise words because I didn't expect them, but it was to the effect that she wanted to fuck a stranger. Stranger sex is one of her fantasies. It's a normal female sexual fantasy.

We talked about it on the way. In retrospect, it was obvious she had been thinking about fucking a stranger for a long time. I told her I would support and encourage any decision she made thinking she wouldn't go through with her plan. She did.

She invited him to our home. My wife feels most comfortable stray fucking in our home. I can vividly remember that our master bathroom light illuminated our bedroom. She stood in front of him and got naked. She helped him get naked. She stroked his cock while they kissed each other passionately. She pushed him on his back on our bed. That's when it became awkward for everyone. My wife suddenly stopped. She stared at his hard cock, looked at me, back at his cock, then back at me as though she was thinking that she really was going to fuck a stranger.

After what seemed like an eternity but was closer to two minutes, she straddled him reverse cowgirl, slid his cock inside of her sopping pussy and rode him. I knew that she was super horny when she decided to ride him reverse cowgirl. It's one of a few positions she can cum in while fucking. Her pussy took his money shot. It's been a thrilling uphill climb to incredible sexual euphoria since. She has yet to reach the peak of her sexual euphoria hill.

[DaveS]

My wife asked me to open our marriage so she could have a poly boyfriend (an old flame she wanted to rekindle) about 7 years ago. I really struggled to give my consent but finally did out of regard for her happiness. I gradually went from being almost horrified at the idea of her having sex with another man to acceptance - then to curiosity, and then I began to ask her for details and to my surprise found that I was getting turned on at listening to my wife tell me in graphic detail how her boyfriend had fucked her brains out. Eventually I made it a point to listen at the door when she invited him over to fuck him in our bed (he did not want to be watched). After they broke up (he and his wife went back mono when she became pregnant - although they still fuck every couple of months), we arranged a MFM 3some with an anonymous swinger dude to fulfill one of her fantasies (her poly bf was not interested). That went well - and I got to watch her get fucked by another man for the first time. He ended up becoming her new poly bf and he's been fucking her a couple of times a week (often more - as he is otherwise single) for the last three years. We have a threesome once a month or so, and I watch on occasion if I happen to be around when they are fucking.

[stevens4fun]

We were 29 (her) and 39 (me) and we'd both enjoyed either threesomes or extra-marital sex before we started dating. We'd both been married before and as we lay in bed one warm Saturday afternoon discussing fantasies over a couple glasses of wine, it became more than apparent that we both wanted her to enjoy other men. She had a guy in mind already, - a coworker she'd given oral sex to more than once on their lunchbreaks and she wanted to "go all the way with him." So that's how we started. She invited him to our home a few months after we married and took him in our bed. She'd taken the day off work and had him over that morning. I was late getting home - they'd already finished, but we spent the afternoon having great fun. He was a frequent guest in our home for several years and all of our horizons expanded.

[mrdnrm]

My wife got married right out of high school, she said her and her husband at the time didn't know shit about sex. So they watched a lot of porn together. Here she became fascinated with the guys with huge cocks. Any way 5 years later they were divorced. After her divorce over the next 4 years before meeting me she slept with over 30 different men. We got married within a year of dating, getting her pregnant the first month helped speed that up and lock her down with me.

We settled done to family life and after three kids and me working 80 hours a week we needed to change things up. After watching porn together for a few years we decided to try a threesome which included her doing it with a black gentleman. After picking a guy we chatted with online for a couple of weeks we finally met him. We invited him straight up to the hotel room we got for the night. After about 15 minutes of small take and her downing three drinks fast. We all got naked and once she seen him naked, I couldn't believe how fast she dropped to her knees and attacked that large cock of his. That was all I needed to see and understand who I married. She was a size queen and likes to fuck all night long. Since then, the last 23 years of our married has been very exciting. I love watching my wife with other men.