What's the move?

[maguy]

We are beginners. Met a couple prospective men and are plannign to meet up at a hotel soon. We will meet him for a couple drinks first then head to the room. Here's the question, once we get in, whats the move to get things started? She and I have talked some and I think a 4 handed massage will get her going. Start out dressed on her belly, work the back, shoulders, neck, remove the top. Work down the back, undue her bra, massage to her waist, then move to the feet and work our way up. Get her excited by caressing inner thighs, closer and closer. Remover her skirt. Have her roll over, start at the top again, remove her bra. Her nipples are sensitive and sucking and kissing will get the pussy nice and wet. Then repeat the journey up the legs. By this time she will be yearning for one of ust eat her pussy. Remove the thong. She will cum quickly and always wants fuck right after.

So again, whats the ice breaker once we get in the door?

[fireman]

Really depends on what you two are planning on. Are you going to fully participate, take turns, or just watch? Early on if we were comfortable with the guy, she would want 5-10 mins alone with him to get things going before I came in the room. We would also go to the room together (her and I) and give her a few minutes to freshen up and then he’d come in. During those times she would either lay on the bed and let him get on the bed with her, or sometimes she would hop up on the dresser, wrap her legs around him and start kissing him. Things typically progressed organically from there. Nowadays, since she has a long term boyfriend, she will usually lay on the couch with her head on his lap and her legs on me until she or one of us initiates something.

[Wantsomefunto]

I agree that maybe giving them 15 min alone in the room is a good idea

[Wife4Guys]

Once the door was closed get him in a chair and she kneeling at once between his knees and kissing his zipper never failed for us;)

[Wife4Guys]

Once the door was closed get him in a chair and she kneeling at once between his knees and kissing his zipper never failed for us

[Wife4Guys]

Once the door was closed get him in a chair and she kneeling at once between his knees and kissing his zipper never failed for us
We're all adults here for one reason lets get to the action

[shorebird]

Look at him then your wife and say that dick isn't going to suck itself!

[respectabullinma]

Most importantly, don't overthink it. First times are hard and honestly, if you get into the hotel room you're doing great on a first date. If your chosen third has experience, it's really on him to guide you through this - putting you at ease at dinner/drinks, suggesting that, if you're ready, it's time to go upstairs. And once there, knowing what you both want out of an experience (because you would have both been asked explicitly what you want and because you would tell your prospective third, in detail, what you want to try), he should be comfortable starting things slow and easy.

Now please, don't take the advice that just says to whip out your dicks or call his buddies over or whatever other porn based nonsense you here. The goal of any first time is to go in with reasonable expectations and to hopefully achieve them with minimal angst and emotion. Doing something new means you're not going to be an expert your first time, and that's ok. Start with simple contact - holding hands in the elevator, or her kissing you both on the way up to the room. See a little, experience a little, then give yourself time to acclimate and breathe and take it all in. Doing good so far? Then take it a little further. Kissing, touching, the guys undressing her... the third should keep you both talking, both verbally communicating that things are going ok. It's ok to stop, take a break, reconnect with your partner... the goal is to have the night, however far it gets, to be a success. You do not want to go too far, too fast, not be confident or empowered enough to say "stop"...

Remember that you both know how to have physical fun, and that your new partner is there to help you experience something special. Go at the speed you're comfortable with, as far as you are both comfortable with. It's really easy to schedule a second date if things go well but it's really hard to bounce back if your first time is a disaster. Good luck!

[2inUPMichigan]

Don't worry so much about directing things as that can interfere with the spontaneity of the moment.
When you walk into that hotel room leave your worries outside and just be in the moment. Let things happen naturally and allow your wife to give you cues as to how far she is interested in taking things.

Real life is so much better than porn and this real life script will play out even better than the one running through your mind. Above all else, have fun together

[pixwellguy]

Respectabullnma has pretty much nailed it. I'd second his statement that the first time is harder than you expect...Like most men, you are over-thinking and over planning this. Don't be surprised if things don't happen that first time...you may not even get up to the hotel room. There's nothing wrong with the first time being some flirty, sexy conversation in the bar, followed by a little kissing and handsy play out in the dark parking lot, before you and your wife go on your way. It lets you both get comfortable with the guy, with the reality of another man having his hands on your wife.

By the way, do not be afraid to tell the guy "thanks but no thanks" if you meet in the bar and the chemistry just isn't there. That's why my wife and I have a rule that we always have a first, social date with a prospective guy. All three of you should have a chance to say "no" before you get to the hotel room. And much as I hate to say this, don't be shocked if the guy doesn't show. You will be ghosted more times than you can imagine, considering what you're offering the guy.

The first move is really up to her. If she'd like some time alone with the guy, by all means let her have it. It will put him at ease too, so that he doesn't feel like he has to "perform" for you as well as her. If she's not comfortable being alone with him, or if she doesn't want that, that's fine too. Whatever you do, don't try to "push" things along. If your wife and the guy want to end up in the bed, they will end up in the bed. Or maybe just on the couch. My point here is: Relax and let it happen. Whatever "IT" turns out to be.

I wish you the best of luck. And if it doesn't work this first time, try again. It's kind of like learning to ride a bicycle. You'll take some falls at first, but eventually......

[maguy]

Thanks everyone. We have already met the gentleman for drinks so this is the next step. She and have agreed either of us had the right to call it off or limit the activity. I have a hood idea how far she’s definitely ready for and he understands she may get cold feet at any point, although all indications are she’s ready. Will let you know how it goes. We welcome more input, it’s definitely all good.

[Mgcouplemn]

whether the guy is new to us or has been with us before, I always present my Bride to the one that is going to fuck her. We get to to we he will be fucking her, open a bottle of wine to celebrate the occasion, while we are having our wine I slowly fondle and undress my wife. I then kiss and hug her naked body, then I bring her to the guy and willingly give her to him. I at least take my pants of, sit down and enjoy the show while masturbating.

[Mundaka2]

The first time my wife met her boyfriend (ex), he picked her up at the airport, they drove to their hotel, he shut the door, pushed her down on the bed, lifted her dress, pulled her panties to the side and fucked her. That was the beginning!

[CuriousOne36]

Looking forward to hearing how your situation unfolds