New here and new to the lifestyle

[Her_cucky]

Hello everyone!
I just wanted to introduce myself and my beautiful wife Renne. I am 28 and she is 25. I have been thinking about realizing my fantasy of being cuckolded for a while now but have not gone through with it.

I'd like to take things slow, and i am happy we came across this nice forum to share oir thoughts and learn from everyone here.

I will be posting our story soon to het feedback from you all. Looking forward to it..

[isinlarsa]

Tell us how you finally told her, and what her initial reaction. was.

[whosbeensleeping]

Looking forward to hearing more

[aztd]

Welcome

[ucaneffher]

Hello everyone!
I just wanted to introduce myself and my beautiful wife Renne. I am 28 and she is 25. I have been thinking about realizing my fantasy of being cuckolded for a while now but have not gone through with it.

I'd like to take things slow, and i am happy we came across this nice forum to share oir thoughts and learn from everyone here.

I will be posting our story soon to het feedback from you all. Looking forward to it..

So how have things been going with you and your lady? Have you two taken any steps to get into the lifestyle?

[snoogaloo82]

Hello everyone!
I just wanted to introduce myself and my beautiful wife Renne. I am 28 and she is 25. I have been thinking about realizing my fantasy of being cuckolded for a while now but have not gone through with it.

I'd like to take things slow, and i am happy we came across this nice forum to share oir thoughts and learn from everyone here.

I will be posting our story soon to het feedback from you all. Looking forward to it..

Welcome to the site. I hope you find what you're looking for here...and maybe even a few surprises, too.

[Her_cucky]

Hello everyone! A long overdue update.

First off, Renne and I are doing well, both are happy and nurturing our relationship in many ways we did not think possible.

Also, English is not my first language, so bear with me if something sounds a bit weird in English.

A while ago, our sexual relationship was slowing down and I felt that in general, we were not communicating properly. We had independently come to this conclusion and decided to dedicate more 'us' time. As things started to get better between us, we were communicating in a better way and realized that there are whole other dimensions to our relationship that we had to explore, in a good way though. We started changing stuff in our lives for example, going to different restaurants and bars, started expanding our friend network and exploring new activities around us. A major development was the old fantasy of mine.

One night in a moment of shared clarity, as we were talking, I told Renne that I find it exceptionally hot when I see admiration in the eyes of men that talk to her. Whether it was physical admiration or admiration of the wonderful woman she is, it just gives me a nice, mixed feeling of excitement and anxiety in the stomach. At first she was a bit puzzled and I started expanding further. I told her that I loved her and that she is the most beautiful soul I have ever known, as well as the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. So in a sense, I would not blame men if they saw what I see in her. That made sense to her (as it makes total sense to me). The conversation went on for about an hour, with a lot of questions from her and from me to her. Long story short, I ended up revealing to her that I find it even hot and somewhat arousing when men look at her and desire her, and I took it a step further and told her that it is just as hot and arousing for her to reciprocate those actions. She smiled when I said that and simply said "well that might be fun!".

That conversation just organically ended there that night. Little by little and as days went by, I started teasing Renne about how she should do a wardrobe update to make sure she has more clothes that are hot as this will be our new thing. She jokingly would push back and say that she is already a head turner and does not need to change anything (which is true). However, it was very obvious that she started to play along with me in this new game tht we are playing. Just I expected, whenever she would go shopping, her leggings were getting tighter and her dresses/skirts were getting a bit shorter.

Renne has always been a sweetheart and her kind soul never failed to captivate any audience she had, but after our Convo, she started being extra nice, borderline flirty with men who are not regularly in our lives (like friends/family). Her warm gaze and captivating smile became more captivating to bartenders and strangers in bars/clubs or even the bus and she became more chatty with them, nothing too much though, but more than she would normally do.

We both started appreciating the extra attention she was getting with her somewhat updated wardrobe and warmer attitude towards men. And with time, it started becoming a fun part of every outing, her having fun with random men (socially only) just by being chatty and looking hot as always, and me just accompanying and smiling, engaging with conversations from time to time but allowing her to explore.

Overall, I think Renne is enjoying the new playful dynamic that we have where she gets to be more playful (innocently) with other guys and with both of us appreciating the attention she is getting. I am very excited about it and I would say it has increased our sexual drive and intensity a bit.

I feel that both of us are happier with this new dynamic. We are not sure what will come of it. I have not told her that I want her to sleep with other men, but hinted very mildly that it might be spicy if a man rubbed her while dancing in the club or something of that sort, but nothing has happened.

More updates hopefully soon. Looking forward to hearing from everyone.

[Texas Jack]

Also, English is not my first language, so bear with me if something sounds a bit weird in English.

Not weird. At all. You are a phenomenally good writer for someone who is not a native speaker of this rather bizarre language.

You've done a great job of describing your background, where you are as a couple, and how you got there. I'm certain I'm not the only one who will be following this thread with great interest.

[elina]

Sounds like you are on a good track,
I am guessing you are also finding a good balance by NOT pushing Renne to do something She is not herself ready for yet, but allowing Her to enjoy doing things that come naturally to Her.

If Her smile is anyway near as captivating as Her body in the pictures you have shared, She will of course have the full attention of any male She flirts with.

Now it is just for you to continue to tell Her how much you enjoy seing Her in these situations and if/when the situation arise where She may want to take this a step forward to tell Her how much you love and how you will support Her whatever She wants to do as long as you feel confident the two of you will always be together.

Good luck
elina

[snoogaloo82]

Hello everyone! A long overdue update.

First off, Renne and I are doing well, both are happy and nurturing our relationship in many ways we did not think possible.

Also, English is not my first language, so bear with me if something sounds a bit weird in English.

A while ago, our sexual relationship was slowing down and I felt that in general, we were not communicating properly. We had independently come to this conclusion and decided to dedicate more 'us' time. As things started to get better between us, we were communicating in a better way and realized that there are whole other dimensions to our relationship that we had to explore, in a good way though. We started changing stuff in our lives for example, going to different restaurants and bars, started expanding our friend network and exploring new activities around us. A major development was the old fantasy of mine.

One night in a moment of shared clarity, as we were talking, I told Renne that I find it exceptionally hot when I see admiration in the eyes of men that talk to her. Whether it was physical admiration or admiration of the wonderful woman she is, it just gives me a nice, mixed feeling of excitement and anxiety in the stomach. At first she was a bit puzzled and I started expanding further. I told her that I loved her and that she is the most beautiful soul I have ever known, as well as the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. So in a sense, I would not blame men if they saw what I see in her. That made sense to her (as it makes total sense to me). The conversation went on for about an hour, with a lot of questions from her and from me to her. Long story short, I ended up revealing to her that I find it even hot and somewhat arousing when men look at her and desire her, and I took it a step further and told her that it is just as hot and arousing for her to reciprocate those actions. She smiled when I said that and simply said "well that might be fun!".

That conversation just organically ended there that night. Little by little and as days went by, I started teasing Renne about how she should do a wardrobe update to make sure she has more clothes that are hot as this will be our new thing. She jokingly would push back and say that she is already a head turner and does not need to change anything (which is true). However, it was very obvious that she started to play along with me in this new game tht we are playing. Just I expected, whenever she would go shopping, her leggings were getting tighter and her dresses/skirts were getting a bit shorter.

Renne has always been a sweetheart and her kind soul never failed to captivate any audience she had, but after our Convo, she started being extra nice, borderline flirty with men who are not regularly in our lives (like friends/family). Her warm gaze and captivating smile became more captivating to bartenders and strangers in bars/clubs or even the bus and she became more chatty with them, nothing too much though, but more than she would normally do.

We both started appreciating the extra attention she was getting with her somewhat updated wardrobe and warmer attitude towards men. And with time, it started becoming a fun part of every outing, her having fun with random men (socially only) just by being chatty and looking hot as always, and me just accompanying and smiling, engaging with conversations from time to time but allowing her to explore.

Overall, I think Renne is enjoying the new playful dynamic that we have where she gets to be more playful (innocently) with other guys and with both of us appreciating the attention she is getting. I am very excited about it and I would say it has increased our sexual drive and intensity a bit.

I feel that both of us are happier with this new dynamic. We are not sure what will come of it. I have not told her that I want her to sleep with other men, but hinted very mildly that it might be spicy if a man rubbed her while dancing in the club or something of that sort, but nothing has happened.

More updates hopefully soon. Looking forward to hearing from everyone.

Wow! You two have really opened up a lot of doors! In the name of open communication which most hotwife relationships are based on, I would open up to her and let her know that you're interested in her sleeping with other guys. Don't just go out and say it, but lead into it with how much you loved how her and another guy were together, and wouldn't it be amazing if the two of you fucked each other. Let us know what you do.

[Shauncuckold]

Sounds like you are on a good track,
I am guessing you are also finding a good balance by NOT pushing Renne to do something She is not herself ready for yet, but allowing Her to enjoy doing things that come naturally to Her.

If Her smile is anyway near as captivating as Her body in the pictures you have shared, She will of course have the full attention of any male She flirts with.

Now it is just for you to continue to tell Her how much you enjoy seing Her in these situations and if/when the situation arise where She may want to take this a step forward to tell Her how much you love and how you will support Her whatever She wants to do as long as you feel confident the two of you will always be together.

Good luck
elina

Well said!

[Her_cucky]

Also, English is not my first language, so bear with me if something sounds a bit weird in English.

Not weird. At all. You are a phenomenally good writer for someone who is not a native speaker of this rather bizarre language.

You've done a great job of describing your background, where you are as a couple, and how you got there. I'm certain I'm not the only one who will be following this thread with great interest.

Thank you for your kind words. I am sure we will have more to share as we are enjoying things so far!

[Her_cucky]

Sounds like you are on a good track,
I am guessing you are also finding a good balance by NOT pushing Renne to do something She is not herself ready for yet, but allowing Her to enjoy doing things that come naturally to Her.

If Her smile is anyway near as captivating as Her body in the pictures you have shared, She will of course have the full attention of any male She flirts with.

Now it is just for you to continue to tell Her how much you enjoy seing Her in these situations and if/when the situation arise where She may want to take this a step forward to tell Her how much you love and how you will support Her whatever She wants to do as long as you feel confident the two of you will always be together.

Good luck
elina

Thank you for your warm words.

I absolutely do not want to push her into anything. I want her to progress at her own pace so that we both enjoy the process together. My aim in all of this is to have her fulfilled in ways she could imagine, and to have good men enjoy the great lady she is. I am doing this for her, and for me.

Believe me pics do not do her justice, she is even more beautiful in person. And her soul just attracts positivity wherever she goes.

[Her_cucky]

Wow! You two have really opened up a lot of doors! In the name of open communication which most hotwife relationships are based on, I would open up to her and let her know that you're interested in her sleeping with other guys. Don't just go out and say it, but lead into it with how much you loved how her and another guy were together, and wouldn't it be amazing if the two of you fucked each other. Let us know what you do.

Thank you for your kind words. Absolutely, I want things to happen organically.. naturally. As much as I cannot wait to see her in the arms of a lover, I know we have to build up for that for both of us.

Any advice and comments are welcome from all, a lot of you are more experts on the matter than I am and I would appreciate your thoughts.

[athlete915]

Also, English is not my first language, so bear with me if something sounds a bit weird in English.

For being a second language, your English is quite good and very easy to understand.

It sounds like you two are in a great place. You've been able to open up about some aspects of your fantasy and she's been receptive. Lightly exploring your fantasy has turned out to be fun for the two of you and added excitement to your relationship.

My first post on here was what I look for in couples and one of those key traits is husbands/boyfriends who are not trying to rush their wives/girlfriends. It doesn't sound like you have that issue at all. While you obviously want things to go further, you are not going to rush her to get there. You will take things at her pace. That's very smart and mature of you. You would read about a lot more success stories if every husband/boyfriend shared your patience.

(Here's the post if you're interested viewtopic.php?f=6&t=71774&p=1455195#p1455195)

So, where do you go from here? One suggestion is to integrate this more into your sexual play. Good options include roleplay, toys, and watching porn. With roleplay, you can do things like pretend you're another man or maybe she describes to you a scenario where another guy was flirting with her. Similarly, you can buy her a dildo or vibrator and ask her to use it while you watch. A lifelike toy that's maybe a bit longer and/or thicker than you can add to the fun. Finally, while not all women are into watching porn, some are and you two can explore scenes that excite the two of you. Maybe find women that look like her or the type of men you would like her to be with.

There is no one-size-fits-all approach. Instead, take what you know about each other and then look to see what fits the two of you best. Start slow. Experiment. Reinforce success and discard does work.

The other major suggestion I have is to slowly start moving your discussion from the fantasy realm to the practical. Right now, she probably just sees your talk as a fantasy and not something you would actually act on, but if you begin to discuss practical aspects of trying it, that's when it may begin to click with her that you truly want to go through with this.

While I could fill up a page with practical discussion points here are just a few. Would you two want one-night stands or something ongoing? Would she be more comfortable playing with you there or alone? Would you be comfortable with her playing alone? Would she prefer that those experiences just be physical or does she need an emotional attachment to the guy? What type of guy is she interested in? What types of traits are you looking for her partner? Where would she play (home, hotels, his place)? What are the rules on condoms? What do you two consider your red lines (i.e., things that you don't want)?

In addition to cluing her in that you are serious, coming to a mutual agreement on those aspects is the bedrock of successful exploration. That's a ways down the road though and a conversation for another time

[Her_cucky]

A lot of food for thought!
I'll definitely be treating your post as a manual for what may come next hehe many thanks!!