Hello from uk

[Ukcouple69]

Hi all. We are an early 40s couple. Its been over 2 years since i bought up the conversation. Before that we have played with chastity, mild flr etc. The beginning of last year we were talking about it again and watching a lot of cuck porn. She really sounded like she was going to do it. She told me that she had set up a profile on a swinging site and was taliking to guys. Every now and again i was letting her know its what i wanted and reassuring her. Then about 6 months ago we was talking again and she just said the amount of idiots and crass men on there was enough to put her off. We havent really talked about it since. I just ask every now and again if anyone has taken her fancy. But she knows she is free to have her fun. I must admit our sex together is getting rarer and rarer. Sorry about the long intro and back story

[Ukcouple69]

Seems i cant pm yet as im new user. So if you want to chat i guess its here for a start

[JimsunnieUK]

I have sent you a pm.....

[athlete915]

Then about 6 months ago we was talking again and she just said the amount of idiots and crass men on there was enough to put her off.

Never lose sight of the fact that you two have the commodity, which others are after. You are negotiating from the position of power. You don't have you settle for that kind of behavior.

If your wife has a profile on a website, it should clearly state at the top that rude and crass men will immediately get blocked. Gentlemen only. Bold it, underline it, put it in all caps... but leave zero doubt that she has no tolerance for foolishness. That should set a proper tone up front and weed out a lot of those types. The rest will know that if they step out of line, they have no chance with her.

You can even offer to manage her account and run the initial screening. You can quickly block the types that can't conduct themselves and then forward the promising leads to her.

[couple_uk]

Hi all. We are an early 40s couple. Its been over 2 years since i bought up the conversation. Before that we have played with chastity, mild flr etc. The beginning of last year we were talking about it again and watching a lot of cuck porn. She really sounded like she was going to do it. She told me that she had set up a profile on a swinging site and was taliking to guys. Every now and again i was letting her know its what i wanted and reassuring her. Then about 6 months ago we was talking again and she just said the amount of idiots and crass men on there was enough to put her off. We havent really talked about it since. I just ask every now and again if anyone has taken her fancy. But she knows she is free to have her fun. I must admit our sex together is getting rarer and rarer. Sorry about the long intro and back story

We're quite a bit older than you (early 70's now) but still meeting with guys, as we have been for more or less all of our long marriage. It's been an important part of our lives together, given us a lot of pleasure and excitement and certainly kept any possibility of boredom at bay. Memory of past encounters or fantasy about future dates, play etc is an enjoyable part of our play with each other.

We've been lucky in meeting guys who have become long-term playmates over several years, ending only when we or he have moved away. Between our long-term guys, we have needed to shop around with varying degrees of success. Wife_uk says that one needs to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince, but each frog has also been a worthwhile experience, even if all we learned is how not to choose guys.

You don't say where in the UK you are but we have discovered that in London, where we've lived for about 20 years, it's actually surprisingly hard to find guys who suit us. Nowadays age surely has something to do with it but also just the "London" issues around travel etc and how much hassle it can be. So we would always try and chose someone who is fairly local to us (not our next door neighbour or best friend, though!) but close enough that it's not a couple of hours by tube/train etc. And we tend not to go for guys who tell us that they are married but they don't have sex with their wives - the reason for that often seems to be that they are not any good at it. Not always, but don't let a let-down like that put you off. Maybe consider one or two clubs/events, of which there are many all over the country, because you can go there watch and just soak the atmosphere, playing only with each other in the highly charged sexual atmosphere, or play if you meet someone you fancy.

Guys who resist using condoms if requested should never be allowed back, even if they relent, and guys who go for stuff you don't like such as anal, choking, kissing (often seen as too intimate). Some people do like it but we're not interested in any form of humiliation or anything like that and that our marriage is respected so we have always insisted that all communications are via me and not between him and her. It also means that her details are in anyone's contact list for a wife/girlfriend/divorce lawyer to discover and is also a means of ensuring that the guys do respect the fact that we are both in this together.

Hope it all works for you, in whichever way you want it to work. Good luck

[Ukcouple69]

Athlete915 thats some very good advice. But i can never see her letting me take over here profile.

[Ukcouple69]

Couple_uk good to hear from you. Thanks for giving me some food for thought. And sound advice. We are in a sleepy backwater town in the east. I would love to take her to a club but i have to give her the reasurance i still want things to happen as its been a while since things have come to a standstill.

[plinny]

Happy new year Ukcouple69, i am Essex based and very discreet, drop me a DM if you would like to explore options.

best

[Blackjack4724]

Hello and welcome to the forum. Lots of good people and advice here.