Wife admitted some small fantasies

[HusbandBear]

I am a lot on this forum, mostly reading. I did talk with the wife about this, but mostly it she was not impressed and even told me that she is practically disgusted with this topic.
She was not against but really not happy with it.
At one time I even made AI porn with her face and showed her as something I jerked off. She said to this ... ok if it makes you happy but do not show me.
And this is something that lasts for more than a year or even 2-3 years.

We do not roleplay, we do not talk about this, somethimes I did mention something but I am really very careful not to talk too much. One day in bed she told me that she dreamt about some guy, and i played along, and she told me ... you probably want a picture and I said of course.
then again silence.
And then ... in last 1 week.
First - she dreamt about guy fucking her while I watched. 7 days ago.
Today - she dreamt about a girl and a guy talking her into sex and she said - "even in a dream, i knew that you want it, and you would not mind, so i though about it for a second"

I like this slowly but hopefully to have this experience.

[BBCfan]

The fact she's having a LOT of "dreams" about it and telling you is a great sign she finds something about it enticing.

Your patience and letting her initiate conversation seems wise at this juncture.

Hopefully her dreams continue!

[wulfenus]

exactly, all good stuff !

The fact she's having a LOT of "dreams" about it and telling you is a great sign she finds something about it enticing.

Your patience and letting her initiate conversation seems wise at this juncture.

Hopefully her dreams continue!

[Pufferfish]

Yeah, I've stated quite a few times my opinion on the subject... Dreams are bullshit. 9 out of 10 times, "Dreams" about something is just a safe excuse to bring it up, because surely the other person can't be upset about a dream that you can't control.

Her being uncomfortable about it is par for the course. My wife doesn't want to know about, talk about, or see any of the video footage of her in action, she'd rather just pretend it doesn't exist lol. And at first her initial instinct was to deny that this was something she wanted and was a ridiculous thing to ever think would happen... which was also bullshit. It's a conditioned response to something they are sure will hurt the relationship and never actually happen. Until they start to actually believe you actually might be serious.

So I'd advise stop trying to "show" her stuff about it, porn, AI, whatever, and just let her imagination work. Women don't usually like the visual stuff anyway, they like reading about it or thinking about it. Let her make up any excuse she wants in order to talk about it, and just be fully supportive and tell her about how sexy it is to hear her tell you about and think about. She'll slowly warm to the idea.

[philxxo]

I'd say she is just testing you and she is thinking about doing it. That was your cue to let her know how great that would be if it were more than a dream, how it turns you on so much, etc.

[Midnight Joker]

According to the multiverse, dreams are reality in some other universe