Our Hotwives

Not sure if I should drop this in The library or not, but I am definitely a wannabe and on this journey. Mid 30's here, been talking to my wife about all of this now for a while, she is growing in interest. We had a fun roleplaying experience two days ago that I talked to her about ahead of time for a few days, and she seemed interested, all she knew was that it involved a blindfold and one of my fantasies. I dropped our daughter off at school in the morning, and didn't have to work. When I got home my wife was wearing a robe showing lots of cleavage, and when we went upstairs she took it off revealing sexy lingerie. I was excited because she was clearly excited about what was going to happen. As discussed, she got on the bed and put a blindfold on. I got out two of her toys, her big shane diesel vibrating dildo, which we do call Shane haha, and another one of her black dildos that is probably about 10 inches, Shane is 12inches I think. I will spare all of the scene setting details, but it was a slow buildup where I was fingering her and rubbing her breasts/nipples as I set the scene, of which we were on a cruiseship and she met Shane who was hitting on her, and eventually after several days she was horny and wanted to fuck him. I told her that I wanted to blindfold her because I wanted her to clear her mind, and actually visualize what I was telling her.

After the slow scene setting buildup, it eventually led to her about to fuck Shane while I sat and watched (and jerked off). I put the "smaller" black dildo to her mouth, and she started sucking off Shane to "get him fully hard". She was really in to it. I was asking her things along the way and throughout the whole experience. With the dildo in her mouth for example I said, "Shane wants to know what you think of his cock", to which she replied "you are really big". I loved her reply was not, "he is really big". She replied with "you are really big", as if she was talking to Shane. After a while I put the bigger Shane Diesel dildo in her mouth, to simulate that she got him fully erect. "Tell him when you want him to fuck you" I said, to her eventually saying "I want you to fuck me". I moved the dildo and rubbed it over her pussy and clit to to tease her. She was soaking wet. Tell him to fuck you with his BBC. "Fuck me with your BBC" she said. He wants you to beg for it I told her. "Please fuck me with your BBC. I want it inside me" she said. So I started working it inside her. Eventually I had it all inside her and was fucking her hard and fast. I told her to tell him how it feels."It feels so good" she said. What feels good about it I asked her. "You are so big" she replied. How does it feel compared to your husband Shane asked, to which she replied "so much better". It barely took any time at all before she started to kind of close her legs because she was about to cum, which literally I have never made her cum on her back before. She generally prefers to cum on top, which is why she kind of closed her legs. I also didn't want her to cum but was also ready for her to cum.

I let her get on top of Shane as I held it, and he slipped right in. She was fucking him hard. Can I have a turn I asked her. "No", she replied. Tell me why I don't get a turn I said to her, and she said "Shane feels too good". I asked her if she was ready to cum, which she said yes. I told her Shane was also getting close, he said if you don't stop then he is going to cum. "I don't care I'm not stopping" she said. So you are ok with him cumming inside you, I said. "Yes" she moaned. I said to her, tell him to cum inside you. "Cum inside me she moaned". I then turned on the shane diesel vibrating dildo, which sent her over the edge. Tell Shane to cum inside you while you cum I said. To almost instantly she started cumming saying, "cum inside me Shane, cum inside me". She kept repeating that until he came. And that was that. I did fuck her after and she felt so good and stretched out, I came in like 10 seconds lol.

Anyways, just roleplaying but really feel like she is getting in to it. Later that day she told me she is totally down for the fantasy but she doesn't think she could really do that. Honestly hearing or even say that gives me hope. She doesn't think she could, which isn't a no, and may ultimately mean that she would be willing to try. She also didn't look too convincing when she said that. I just let it go. I am finding slower is better. The fantasy was set up that we were on a cruise, and in addition to her wanting to fuck shane, I set the scene that it was something we would try because we were on vacation, and if I didn't like it or she didn't like it, that we would just leave it behind on the ship, as we would never see Shane again, so who knows maybe I am setting the scene for real life when we are on vacation

I got to this point once and over did it. My advice is to slow it down. I set myself back so far I may never recover so don’t be me! Ask for a date night to go out and have her just look at other men. Point out the guys you catch looking at her. And see how she reacts. Even if she’s interested she won’t want to move at the rate you will want to. Good luck.

patw3268 wrote: ↑

Fri Apr 12, 2024 4:20 am

I got to this point once and over did it. My advice is to slow it down. I set myself back so far I may never recover so don’t be me! Ask for a date night to go out and have her just look at other men. Point out the guys you catch looking at her. And see how she reacts. Even if she’s interested she won’t want to move at the rate you will want to. Good luck.

Great advice! I always get so excited by a breakthrough that I keep pushing... makes her think both that I am not grateful for her pushing boundaries and that I am not turned on by HER, but by the fantasy.

Zekemitchell wrote: ↑

Thu Apr 11, 2024 4:57 pm

Not sure if I should drop this in The library or not, but I am definitely a wannabe and on this journey. Mid 30's here, been talking to my wife about all of this now for a while, she is growing in interest. We had a fun roleplaying experience two days ago that I talked to her about ahead of time for a few days, and she seemed interested, all she knew was that it involved a blindfold and one of my fantasies. I dropped our daughter off at school in the morning, and didn't have to work. When I got home my wife was wearing a robe showing lots of cleavage, and when we went upstairs she took it off revealing sexy lingerie. I was excited because she was clearly excited about what was going to happen. As discussed, she got on the bed and put a blindfold on. I got out two of her toys, her big shane diesel vibrating dildo, which we do call Shane haha, and another one of her black dildos that is probably about 10 inches, Shane is 12inches I think. I will spare all of the scene setting details, but it was a slow buildup where I was fingering her and rubbing her breasts/nipples as I set the scene, of which we were on a cruiseship and she met Shane who was hitting on her, and eventually after several days she was horny and wanted to fuck him. I told her that I wanted to blindfold her because I wanted her to clear her mind, and actually visualize what I was telling her.

After the slow scene setting buildup, it eventually led to her about to fuck Shane while I sat and watched (and jerked off). I put the "smaller" black dildo to her mouth, and she started sucking off Shane to "get him fully hard". She was really in to it. I was asking her things along the way and throughout the whole experience. With the dildo in her mouth for example I said, "Shane wants to know what you think of his cock", to which she replied "you are really big". I loved her reply was not, "he is really big". She replied with "you are really big", as if she was talking to Shane. After a while I put the bigger Shane Diesel dildo in her mouth, to simulate that she got him fully erect. "Tell him when you want him to fuck you" I said, to her eventually saying "I want you to fuck me". I moved the dildo and rubbed it over her pussy and clit to to tease her. She was soaking wet. Tell him to fuck you with his BBC. "Fuck me with your BBC" she said. He wants you to beg for it I told her. "Please fuck me with your BBC. I want it inside me" she said. So I started working it inside her. Eventually I had it all inside her and was fucking her hard and fast. I told her to tell him how it feels."It feels so good" she said. What feels good about it I asked her. "You are so big" she replied. How does it feel compared to your husband Shane asked, to which she replied "so much better". It barely took any time at all before she started to kind of close her legs because she was about to cum, which literally I have never made her cum on her back before. She generally prefers to cum on top, which is why she kind of closed her legs. I also didn't want her to cum but was also ready for her to cum.

I let her get on top of Shane as I held it, and he slipped right in. She was fucking him hard. Can I have a turn I asked her. "No", she replied. Tell me why I don't get a turn I said to her, and she said "Shane feels too good". I asked her if she was ready to cum, which she said yes. I told her Shane was also getting close, he said if you don't stop then he is going to cum. "I don't care I'm not stopping" she said. So you are ok with him cumming inside you, I said. "Yes" she moaned. I said to her, tell him to cum inside you. "Cum inside me she moaned". I then turned on the shane diesel vibrating dildo, which sent her over the edge. Tell Shane to cum inside you while you cum I said. To almost instantly she started cumming saying, "cum inside me Shane, cum inside me". She kept repeating that until he came. And that was that. I did fuck her after and she felt so good and stretched out, I came in like 10 seconds lol.

Anyways, just roleplaying but really feel like she is getting in to it. Later that day she told me she is totally down for the fantasy but she doesn't think she could really do that. Honestly hearing or even say that gives me hope. She doesn't think she could, which isn't a no, and may ultimately mean that she would be willing to try. She also didn't look too convincing when she said that. I just let it go. I am finding slower is better. The fantasy was set up that we were on a cruise, and in addition to her wanting to fuck shane, I set the scene that it was something we would try because we were on vacation, and if I didn't like it or she didn't like it, that we would just leave it behind on the ship, as we would never see Shane again, so who knows maybe I am setting the scene for real life when we are on vacation

Role playing can be so much fun, and with little risk or baggage. I agree with the other poster who suggested showing her a lot of love and gratitude for HER, and not pushing. When you are ready to move forward, a fun next step is to see if she will initiate a role play. Perhaps she ties YOU up and blindfolds you while Shane takes her on the bed :-)

thanks everyone, that is good advice. I do find I have to reel myself back in, as I want to go go go. I would absolutely hate if I push too hard and she ends up closing that door

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Just an update to my current situation. I have been still taking it slow. We went on a cruise recently, which was fun, and obviously was exciting because of my cruise fantasy . Now, it was a cruise that involved our child, and was a disney cruise lol, so the stakes were clearly very low, and nothing was going to happen, but she was bringing it up on her own about bringing a guy back to the room, just kind of passing flirty conversations. The times we fooled around she was on her own mentioning something like "I wish I was fucking a big cock, a big black cock"... and how much better it would feel and how she would want him to cum inside her, and then me fuck her after and cum inside her stretched out pussy...those were almost her exact words that she said while riding me, and I didn't even have to steer the conversation. Vacations always make her horny, and she was definitely mildly leading the fantasy throughout. I say mildly because our days were mostly filled with kid stuff, but in between moments and comments, as well as sneaky fuck sessions, where she would say, for example, discretely grope me, and I would say kind of jokingly, "do you want this?", and she would reply, "yes or anyone else I can find". Super hot to hear her say that, even as a joke. Also, the last night we were swimming in the pools until they closed, and my wife wanted to get in the hot tub, which there was an adult only section and their hot tub was open later. So I took our daughter back to the room and she went to the adult only hot tub for a bit, and before she left on her own accord she kind of seductively said that she was going to the hot tub, and hopefully there would be someone there that she could bring back to the room, and also said if alone she couldn't guarantee she wouldn't fuck him. It was super hot. For what it is worth there was an an 18 year old kid there with his parents in the adult hot tub, but also I know it was just talk, but still felt like progress!

Very hot situations!

I think many of us border on overdoing it at times. It’s exciting to feel like new territory is gained and then disappointing to have it “shut down”, at least temporarily.

I think my wife really likes the IDEA of being a HW and all the play and fantasy that comes with it, but there are so many societal and personal hurdles to overcome it may never go beyond talk and role play.

Sounds like your lady is having fun though, and you as well. Just enjoy the journey wherever it leads you, and make sure to take time to just focus on you guys’ relationship minus the fantasy at times as well.

Sounds like she's headed in tge right direction!!

Just posting some fun stuff that happened this morning. I realize not everyone really cares like I do but it’s fun for me to relive. Not much has happened lately. We have been super busy and then our whole family was sick for like a month. I haven’t actually came in weeks, or brought up any of this stuff lol. Anyways, this morning we woke up and were horny. As a reminder my wife’s favorite toy these days is giant black vibrating dildo called Shane. So I was fingering her and kind of teasing her telling her that “this is my pussy”, However she said no it isn’t. I said oh yeah? And she said “this is Shane’s pussy”. I immediately got excited of course at how despite it had been a while with the cuck kind of stuff, she on her own Jumped right to it. So I’m fingering her and say why is it Shane’s pussy, and she starts telling me because he is so much bigger and makes her cum so good. How much better he feels than my little cock while he stretches her out. She said things like his big cock is so much better than my little cock, and she wants me to watch him fuck her while I jerk off my little cock. I said “will I get a turn?”, and she said “no, this is Shane’s pussy so you can only jerk off”. I thought I have been mostly into the “Hotwife” kind of idea but she started getting more into a true cuck thing and honestly it was a big turn on. She kept going, saying things that would happen with Shane, either things I can’t do or things she won’t so. “Shane is going to make me cum on my back, make me cum multiple times, will never go limp, I would suck Shane’s cock after he fucks me and let him cum in my mouth”. Fuck it was hot as hell. She even went a little further than I would go and said “Shane can cum in his pussy and would probably get me pregnant”. Now I’m not into going that far, but I was all about it this morning when she said it lol. Eventually she told me I can slip inside her, kind of on our sides with me behind her. She told me to just cum while she thought about Shane, because she was going to fuck Shane while I was at work. So I slide into her, gotta be quick because our daughter would be up soon. I’m fucking her and she is saying things like “I wish I was fucking Shane’s big black cock instead of you…or I want Shane inside me so bad”. I came in like two seconds.

So there is the update. While we were fooling around too, it was kind of said between us that from here on out this is Shane”s pussy. After I got home from work I kind of brought it up, somewhat in jest, and she didn’t hesitate and very seriously told me her pussy belongs to Shane, not me. I was even in the shower tonight thinking about this morning and I got hard, and she walked in and saw. I told her I was thinking about this morning, and she looked at my cock and said “oh really, I can’t tell.” Man she is really committing to it today so it has been a great day. So, there is the update!

That’s a great update!! Perhaps when she’s bringing it up on her own, you should suggest doing something light in real life. Along the lines of saying it would be hot to find a place where someone like Shane might dance with her while you watch, and see what she says. I think you should wait for a time where she brings it up because she will be more likely to be receptive to the idea. Another scenario you could broach would be setting up a profile on a site where she could message with someone like Shane, keeping her personal info anonymous obviously.

Keep us posted!

Tryn wrote: ↑

Tue Jul 23, 2024 7:36 am

That’s a great update!! Perhaps when she’s bringing it up on her own, you should suggest doing something light in real life. Along the lines of saying it would be hot to find a place where someone like Shane might dance with her while you watch, and see what she says. I think you should wait for a time where she brings it up because she will be more likely to be receptive to the idea. Another scenario you could broach would be setting up a profile on a site where she could message with someone like Shane, keeping her personal info anonymous obviously.

Keep us posted!

thanks those are great ideas! I think she would still struggle with the online profile idea, but bringing up something in real life I think would definitely get her thinking, and move things along a bit. Thanks!

More update: Just updating my situation a bit if anyone is curious, as I have said before it is fun to just kind of express to others where things are at.

Things are slowly progressing, and while the progression may feel slow to some, it feels like things have changed, and I am quite fine taking my time. One thing since my last update is that I probably stupidly started to kind of worry about 2 things.. one would be that I kind of felt like I had a hard time staying as hard unless we were roleplaying or just the cuck dirty talk was happening, and also the second thing was that I didn't want every time that we had sex, for it to be with this kink, as I didn't want her to get tired or annoyed with it, but this then brought up my concern #1 again. Well, as time has gone on it has been not a concern at all, because now every time we have sex, she is bringing it up first. I think she is really getting into the idea. Her large girthy 12 inch dildo, Shane, has now establish himself as a household name, where we just talk about Shane as if he is a real person.

Since the last update, she has clearly vocalized to me that her pussy belong to Shane, and that if I want to fuck her or touch her I have to ask him first, lucky for me Shane is a pretty nice guy lol, although there have been 2 times where she fucked Shane, and told me that only her and Shane got to cum, so I didn't. Fuck that was hard. This comes up while we are fooling around, and just in day to day conversation. One thing I have noticed since my last update is that this is something we talk more and more about this while not actually fooling around, and of course every time we do fool around as well. Audrey has gotten into a habit now of telling me how small my cock is, and for the record II am definitely sure I am about average, maybe even above average, but to her point I am super tiny compared to Shane, especially his girth. I personally have never cared about the size my dick, big small whatever, but man nothing turns me on now more than her telling me how much more pleasure Shane gives her, and she really likes to tell me. She randomly started sucking my dick the other night, and stopped and without me probing at all, looked at my cock and said, "I can't believe this used to make me cum". I think this is starting to happen now because Shane is giving her really good orgasms, better than I ever have. She also will comment when we start fooling around how I can't make her cum anymore, and how much more she prefers Shane to fuck her than me. Early on I would try and push our sex in a way that I just wanted her to want the big dick more than me, and for her to express that, but she used to always say things like "I just want to feel you", and we would sometimes go on stretches where she would only fuck me and never a toy. I think some part was that is what she wanted, but also because she felt bad feeling any other way. It has been over 2 months since last update, and I can't remember one time where she has actually wanted me over Shane. Every orgasm has been from Shane, and then I fuck her and cum inside her after, or sometimes I can't hold it in and cum on myself while she us cumminig on Shane. For example, when I used to lick her pussy, she would most of the time stop me and want to get on top and ride me until she came, but just last week I was licking her pussy and she stopped me, but said "get Shane". I teased, "you don't want to fuck me?", and she without a second thought said, "No, I want Shane". Also, for the first time, the other day she was in doggy style and I was using Shane on her, and she actually came doggy style. That is literally the first time she has ever cum in that position, and it was intense. I am pretty positive at this point that all of her orgasms from me, while on top of me, were more about her clit stimulation while she rode me, and now Shane is giving her orgasms from penetration, which she is clearly really liking. She has also started moaning Shane's name while she cums as well, and tells Shane to cum inside her while she cums, it is all really hot.

One last thing as well, previously when we would talk about her fucking someone else, whether after a good fuck session, or just in day to day conversation, despite her being into it in the bedroom, she would basically say something like it wouldn't actually happen, it would feel like cheating etc. Last week we talked about it, and I kind of joked that we can at least keep the door open, or cracked open to the idea, and she just kind of laughed and, albeit slightly sarcastically said, "yeah sure", which i do take as progress. She also said in that conversation she would be intimidated to do it with someone else, which is a step up, at least in my opinion, to go from it is cheating to now it's not about that, just that she would basically just be scared.

The only problem I am thinking about now, at least partially, is that I have gotten her hooked on fucking this 12 inch long, 3.5inch girthy black dildo, and if I convince her to fuck someone else, I am going to have a hard time finding someone walking around with a monster cock like that. Like, as of right now I don't think she would ever be willing to fuck someone else, unless he has a huge cock, as I think that is a big part of it for her. I did try and take some suggestions from you guys, but setting up some sort of online profile she wasn't feeling yet, and I found we just don't have the easy ability to go out and her look for places to meet a possible Shane, as we have a child and just life otherwise does kind of revolve around that. The more I see this kind of progress, and knowing my wife, I think the way this would ever happen would be for her to give me the ok, and then I set it up for her/us, but i think is still a far away possibility, if ever.

Thank you for sharing.

Great read. Following. Excited to hear more. She is smokin.

Id say stay with the fantasy for as long as you can… its safe, low risk of things glign on and if it still stokes the fires, enjoy it as long as possible. When the time is right, you both may move in the right direction.

A couple other things/suggestions:

- as far as role playing goes, a favorite of mine when we were in this phase was my wife using her large dildo with suction cup by placing it on a chair and the straddling it while i sat on the grousn my back against our bed while watching her ride “him”. She was able to get into it by being on top controlling the speed/depth/angle while i was free to be on the other aidenof the room watching her. It was amazing seeing her ride that cock from that distance and she definitely played into putting on a show.


- also, as things kove forward, id suggest ways she can possibly he “out in the wild” with chances to run into peioel that may pique her interest. Joinging a gym and going by herself (or wit he you seperately) has a benefit of doing something active and putting her in a place with hot sweaty bodies. Or doing some other type of activity (my wife took a sailing class and while it didn’t spark a romance, it did get her out with other people and grew her confidence. She was paired with a solo guy on a two person boat.). Any number of activities couldn’t her in a position to perhaps strike a conversation with someone of the opposite sex.

- lastly, don’t get hung up on size for a possible connection. She may be something of a size queen, but especially starting out, the sheer excitement of someone new should more than make up for the small % of guys that could fit 8+”. My wife enjoys using a large dildo or sleeve but only one of her FWB has been 8” and or was even smaller than me (and I’m on the wrong side of average). He was still a passionate lover and she thoroughly enjoyed her time with him over the course of a few years.

Continue having fun and look forward to reading your updates.

parklife wrote: ↑

Thu Oct 17, 2024 8:15 am

Id say stay with the fantasy for as long as you can… its safe, low risk of things glign on and if it still stokes the fires, enjoy it as long as possible. When the time is right, you both may move in the right direction.

A couple other things/suggestions:

- as far as role playing goes, a favorite of mine when we were in this phase was my wife using her large dildo with suction cup by placing it on a chair and the straddling it while i sat on the grousn my back against our bed while watching her ride “him”. She was able to get into it by being on top controlling the speed/depth/angle while i was free to be on the other aidenof the room watching her. It was amazing seeing her ride that cock from that distance and she definitely played into putting on a show.




- also, as things kove forward, id suggest ways she can possibly he “out in the wild” with chances to run into peioel that may pique her interest. Joinging a gym and going by herself (or wit he you seperately) has a benefit of doing something active and putting her in a place with hot sweaty bodies. Or doing some other type of activity (my wife took a sailing class and while it didn’t spark a romance, it did get her out with other people and grew her confidence. She was paired with a solo guy on a two person boat.). Any number of activities couldn’t her in a position to perhaps strike a conversation with someone of the opposite sex.

- lastly, don’t get hung up on size for a possible connection. She may be something of a size queen, but especially starting out, the sheer excitement of someone new should more than make up for the small % of guys that could fit 8+”. My wife enjoys using a large dildo or sleeve but only one of her FWB has been 8” and or was even smaller than me (and I’m on the wrong side of average). He was still a passionate lover and she thoroughly enjoyed her time with him over the course of a few years.

Continue having fun and look forward to reading your updates.

Thanks for the reply. Honestly I am totally ok with it staying this way for quite some time. If I am being honest with myself I think there is a world where this satisfies my desires for a long time. I like the idea of using the dildo on a chair. Until recently she has been cumming in only one specific position, but she is now seemingly open to cumming in other positions, and maybe a chair can be one of those.

She has joined a gym a few months ago, unfortunately it is mostly women, but occasionally men. I did tell her how how it would be if she fucked a guy from the gym though haha.

And thanks for the swipe advice, I think it is a non worry really, as I’m sure we are quite a ways away from her fucking a real guy, but I will definitely remember that if the time comes

Zekemitchell wrote: ↑

Wed Oct 30, 2024 3:28 pm

parklife wrote: ↑

Thu Oct 17, 2024 8:15 am

Id say stay with the fantasy for as long as you can… its safe, low risk of things glign on and if it still stokes the fires, enjoy it as long as possible. When the time is right, you both may move in the right direction.

A couple other things/suggestions:

- as far as role playing goes, a favorite of mine when we were in this phase was my wife using her large dildo with suction cup by placing it on a chair and the straddling it while i sat on the grousn my back against our bed while watching her ride “him”. She was able to get into it by being on top controlling the speed/depth/angle while i was free to be on the other aidenof the room watching her. It was amazing seeing her ride that cock from that distance and she definitely played into putting on a show.




- also, as things kove forward, id suggest ways she can possibly he “out in the wild” with chances to run into peioel that may pique her interest. Joinging a gym and going by herself (or wit he you seperately) has a benefit of doing something active and putting her in a place with hot sweaty bodies. Or doing some other type of activity (my wife took a sailing class and while it didn’t spark a romance, it did get her out with other people and grew her confidence. She was paired with a solo guy on a two person boat.). Any number of activities couldn’t her in a position to perhaps strike a conversation with someone of the opposite sex.

- lastly, don’t get hung up on size for a possible connection. She may be something of a size queen, but especially starting out, the sheer excitement of someone new should more than make up for the small % of guys that could fit 8+”. My wife enjoys using a large dildo or sleeve but only one of her FWB has been 8” and or was even smaller than me (and I’m on the wrong side of average). He was still a passionate lover and she thoroughly enjoyed her time with him over the course of a few years.

Continue having fun and look forward to reading your updates.

Thanks for the reply. Honestly I am totally ok with it staying this way for quite some time. If I am being honest with myself I think there is a world where this satisfies my desires for a long time. I like the idea of using the dildo on a chair. Until recently she has been cumming in only one specific position, but she is now seemingly open to cumming in other positions, and maybe a chair can be one of those.

She has joined a gym a few months ago, unfortunately it is mostly women, but occasionally men. I did tell her how how it would be if she fucked a guy from the gym though haha.

And thanks for the swipe advice, I think it is a non worry really, as I’m sure we are quite a ways away from her fucking a real guy, but I will definitely remember that if the time comes

Have you ever tried wearing a chastity cage (for her)? Might be a perfect fit for your situation.