Farmgirl wrote: ↑Fri Aug 20, 2021 6:08 pm
Michaels30309 wrote: ↑Fri Aug 20, 2021 1:20 pm
Farmgirl wrote: ↑Thu Aug 19, 2021 2:19 pm
Michaels30309 wrote: ↑Thu Aug 19, 2021 11:51 am
Dear VHW… thx in advance for your insights…
Who enjoys making the final invite to play the most? You or your husband?
If the setting is a vanilla but nice bar, meet a good prospect and it evolves beyond innuendo / flirtation, who decides? How do you align with hubby? Who makes the invite? Or do you wait for the suitor to suggest?
Have any signals?
I make the decision when, where, and with whom to play. I am a Hotwife with a loving supportive husband, so there is no need to "align".
I don't do bar rats and one-off pickups. If I were at a pub with my Number1 and saw a guy that looked interesting, I would initiate eye contact and see if he's interested. I can then give him my number and see how it goes once we get to know each other over time. I meet men organically while out and about where ever I go, but they have to get to know me for me to be interested. Turn my mind on, or it doesn't work.
Concur completely on the “turn my mind on”… dimwits across the genders are just that… no lights on between ears makes for no fun. The chemistry : click of sparring wits is my favorite.
Does the eye contact work “every time”. I always try to find the balance of respectful and not trying to infer / overstep when meeting a ring-bearing wife or cpl. Testing waters / pushing those boundaries is also that sparring enjoyment.
How has the reaction been most often when you give your number? Do you await him to ask for it or?
Eye contact does not work every time, men are often too clueless, too nervous, and or too scared to respond. If a woman makes eye contact, smiles, and then holds eye contact, she has an interest. It's then up to the man to see how much interest, he has to show interest.
So, you have some boundaries you need tested or pushed?
I don't mind at all for a man to ask for my number, I'm also not beyond giving a man my number and telling him to call me. Now, this is not with random strangers, it is with a man I've already flirted with enough to know I'm interested.
Often a case, I think, of “what does the dog do when he catches the fire truck”… can tell from you previous writings that the hard-to-get challenge (mgr of the store that didn’t execute) is one you appreciate… pushing that boundary.
Yes, finding the right balance of allure and pushing the edges… getting the conversation partner to take or give hints, debate a topic for deeper insight… seems that ability to challenge can also indicate that positive struggle in other settings…
What style of convo do you most enjoy via text? Current events, books, etc?
How often does your suitor actually call you after you give him your number? I find the texting v phone is an interesting balance. Always easier to text the secrets I would think… I know I’m definitely more thoughtful about a text bc I can review it, etc. I like the need to be on game of conversation.
You?