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Unread postPosted: Sun Jan 08, 2017 11:07 pm 
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Me and my wife a great sex life. We both are very satisfied. She would never cheat on me and she would do anything for me.

The prob is I have a hotwife fantasy. I hate it so much but it turns me on. It's both the greatest and the worst thing I can think of. I love the idea of her free to do as she sexual pleases. I love when other guys check her out or compliment her. I love the idea of her being fully sexually satisfied. But the thought pains me also. I love my wife more than anything.

In all honesty I think the fetish came from me being insecure. I have a 5.5x7 penis, can last forever and never had a prob with women. I loved my penis but watching porn messed with me. Especially interracial porn. Basically there is part of me that feels black are superior at pleasing white women. I think the exciting part of howtwifing is my wife being satisfied in was I can't.

I have a strong desire to watch my wife with BBC. But I hate the idea also. I'm afraid she would become addicted or that I would become less desirable overtime. After all once you go black you never go back.

I would love to her from anyone with any thoughts on the matter. Especially those who have BBC experience. Thanks.


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Unread postPosted: Sun Jan 08, 2017 11:43 pm 
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Welcome to the forum.

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Unread postPosted: Mon Jan 09, 2017 2:03 am 
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I really think you are overthinking the black part of it. Yes, it can be fun to play with people of other races. But it is not as black and white (pun intended) as you sketch it to be. Not all black lovers are hung like a horse or good between the sheets. Or a combination of the two, a large dark salami does not automatically equal great sex. Unfortunately, my wife has learned that lesson by now. Three random remarks here:

First, if this whole racial thing is worrying you, why not separate the two desires (HW and black) first? Just let her (and you!) experience the thrill of setting her free and exploring nonmonogamous sex or even relations. And when it still is what you expected it to be, add some colour to the mix.

Second, there is a reason why you state she would do anything for you. I sincerely hope you don't think that is your ticket to HW'ing. You can suggest, help, guide. But if she does not want to do this for herself too, but only to please you, bad things can happen.

And if you are worrying about being less desirable: again, don't think too binary about it. It is not being less desirable, it is being desirable in another way. If she likes being a HW and the freedom it gives her to explore, she will love and admire you for that. For the 100% trust in her. But things will change. For example time and attention. As there will always be only 24 hours in a day, adding a lover (or lovers) will mean less time for you two. But don't see that as a loss, but as a change that will lead to much better, closer, deeper moments of love and sharing.

Just my 2 € cents.

Wim


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Unread postPosted: Mon Jan 09, 2017 9:59 pm 
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Thanks Wim. And of course I would never want her to do anything she didn't want. Her pleasure is the whole purpose.


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Unread postPosted: Tue Jan 10, 2017 5:42 am 
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My wife indulges in my fantasies in the bedroom. It took a bit, but she's come to accept the idea that my biggest turn on is to watch her get pleasured. We haven't crossed the line, still monogamous. I share the same sentiments as you though. I think you should buy her a big black dildo and use it on her.
My wife was pretty hesitant for a while, but after I was able to make her cum with it, she started turning around about it. She's super shy, so I bought her a blindfold, let her lay back, and I zipped that thing through my pants and went to town. From someone as vanilla as she can be, I was shocked to feel her get wetter as I told her I wanted to do her with her toy again (while she vocally sounded subdued.)

So if I were you, I'd buy her a big toy (I think the reaction you'll get from her when she's got a big dick inside her will turn you on quite well!), loosen up with a couple drinks, and try to get her to cum with it. After that, it's up to you if you really want to pursue hotwifing, or have it be a bedroom fantasy / have her tease you in public by being flirtatious, etc.

Hope that helps =)


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Unread postPosted: Tue Jan 10, 2017 10:33 pm 
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Thanks crza. Yeah we've talked about getting a bigger dildo. Def a turn on for me.


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jan 12, 2017 1:26 am 
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I wish I could get a woman's point of veiw


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jan 12, 2017 3:30 am 
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kennloni wrote:
I wish I could get a woman's point of veiw


On what exactly?

The responses above reflect what their women think / feel.

BBC is not magically better. People are turned on by different things.
If you are 7" long by 5.5" girth you are well above average and in the big category really - of course there are bigger cocks, but so what, a big dildo will be a good start and may be all that's needed. Even if your wife loves the feeling of a big cock/dildo, she'll still love yours - that seems to be the overwhelming response from women - direct and indirect. Most importantly even for a big dick they want it attached to a nice person.

You should not feel insecure - although most of us probably do - that probably is from porn. Women can feel the same way from watching porn. Very little is realistic in porn - even camera angles and perspectives.


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jan 12, 2017 5:34 am 
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Yeah Jeff, I don't know man. I've got to admit if I'm fantasizing about my wife getting it from someone else, it's a black dude with a huge cock. I think it goes without saying that someone on this board is already open minded, so I have no problem saying that there is something primal about seeing a black man and a white woman. Maybe it's the color contrast, the social taboo, the radical change in perceived persona, but race definitely plays a part in this scheme, for me anyways. So, for some people, BBC CAN be magically better.

I do think kennloni and I do share the part in common about that. Probably also the idea that we're not submissive to another man or have a desire to be dominated, rather we really like the idea of our wives doing something "taboo" and being overwhelmed with pleasure. That's why I suggested the big dildo method, just being able to watch her enjoy that might be enough for you (although you'll probably want to record it ;)


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jan 12, 2017 6:34 am 
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Crza96 - I hear what you're saying man!!!

Neither am I into being submissive or cuckolded but am very much into giving my girl the best experience possible - my concern is will I get jealous if/when we go to actually cross that bridge of a real MFM.

Likewise, after hearing my girls fantasy, I bought a number of large dildo's, including 2 that I thought would be so big that she wouldn't use them. The 2nd biggest one is black - I thought she might like that - after using it the first time, she made a comment about how good a BBC feels. I think that's part of the myth perpetuating the myth, the biggest one is a 'white' cock. All of them felt good to her, her preference isn't for the biggest one, but when she does want a real big one the BBC is it, but really because it's a little more manageable. Her favourite is me, then there is the next size up which is about 6"+ of girth that makes her go 'Oh my gosh' when it brings her to orgasm, but sometimes she really doesn't want the bigger one. And as I said, most of the time she just wants me, not only because it's real but because of the emotional connection.
So, I wonder about the dynamics of bringing in another M, especially if he was bigger - which is really the main purpose, bigger being better and a worthwhile experience. However, after reading through lots of posts, although bigger can be better, it's really only part of it being better. Connection, respect, love, a BBC can't replace that - I would be careful to make sure that my girl doesn't build too much of a bond to the other M - regardless of how big he is.

A guy I know is 9.75" long and quite thick, his wife left him and the guy she left him for had a small penis. A couple of other mates have large ones and their girlfriends have left them too. All I mean by that is that for most women, a BBC or BWC isn't the be all and end all, although, I'm sure most of them would enjoy the experience, hence your, my and the OP's posts here :)

Finally, my girl enjoys a big dildo, but some of her most intense O's have been with a finger or my cock. Her first O with the bigger dildo was also intense, but not every O with the bigger dildo is that intense. So every girl is different, some would take quite a while to adjust and may find it too much, my girl seems to be able to cope reasonably well with a very large one, but she still prefers mine overall. From what I gather from readings here and other observations, I think most wives prefer their partners regardless of their 'size', with some exceptions of course.

That being said, I very much enjoy being able to provide the ability for my girl to experience a really really big one. Oh, and in our case it was her fantasy which she told me with much encouragement from me to share what her fantasies were - of which a really big cock was only in a few of them - most of the fantasies were other dynamics.

Sorry it's so lengthy but hopefully it's of some use.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Jan 13, 2017 1:13 am 
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Thanks for the replies. I really appreciate it.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Jan 13, 2017 1:26 pm 
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Kenlonni...Some thoughts from a Hotwives point of view..since I became a HW 5ys ago I have had A lot of cocks in my body !I also date other women and can tell you this...1) A lot of guys with big cocks don't know how to use them properly .they think that being large is a free pass to endless orgasms for a woman.OK yes I have had great orgasms from well endowed guys(of any colour or ethnicity)but I have also cum hard (and sometimes more often )on what can be termed average sized(5-6 inch) ones ,. smaller guys generally
work harder with tongues and fingers to give satisfaction ..in any case for most women its the guy that the cocks attached to that's more important!,,,"2)almost all of the women that ive slept with(20 plus)agree with me (us girls compare notes as well you know) ;) Don't worry about it, make love to and fuck (there is a difference)your wife often and enjoy your love for each other!! Its the most precious thing you possess!!!GOOD LUCK.....BTW in the hotwife forum there is a thread about whether women prefer girth or length ..a few hotwives have posted (myself included) don't know what page its on now but it might be an interesting read for you..


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Unread postPosted: Tue Jan 17, 2017 11:01 am 
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Yes, I agree different people get turned on differently. That being said, my wife likes BBC. She didn't think she would, and really had not thought much about it. But, she tried a Black guy, and now that all she desires. She does go after the bigger guys, but she likes the combo of big and black. That what she likes the most. The way she taken charge of, the size, the sex itself. She went black, and she says she won't go back. I do get limited action, but that's mostly do to my condition. ;)


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jan 19, 2017 6:46 am 
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BBC is a taboo that is exciting to many hot wives. The size and the pounding along with the color contrast cannot be ignored !!

Brad


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