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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 2:14 pm 
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Hi there,

I have been talking with my wife about her going with other men. She actually wasnt shocked when I brought it up, and she has herself brought up the topic a few times. I was told that its a good idea to ask her about her previous experiences, can anyone give me advice if they think it is a good idea?


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 2:25 pm 
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Asking her to confess prior experiences may be seen as prying or putting her on the spot. It might be safer to ask her about scenarios that arouse her. If she's willing to share, you might build on what she says by offering your own take on how what she has fantasized really turns you on, too. In other words, try to establish joint fantasies where you could both play a role in making them happen.

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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 3:09 pm 
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I occassionally ask my wife about any previous lovers that she's had who were incredible in bed. She's more than happy to tell me about them and why they were so good.


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 3:12 pm 
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I was told it was a soft way to get her to start thinking again about other men...


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 3:51 pm 
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My wife and I shared our previous sexual experiences before we met. She wasn't too interested in the details of my experiences, but I had to be subtle about getting details out of her. They were so hot to hear, and I do think it set the stage for her to eventually be with other men during our marriage.


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 5:26 pm 
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OK, so I asked her. She is pretty open about things in general, so wasnt really an issue in her being willing to talk about it. Was actually pretty surprised what I discovered.


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 5:33 pm 
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What did you discover?


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 5:34 pm 
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well, she had a couple more partners than i thought she might have had. Also that one of her partners was pretty much on the larger side...


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 5:49 pm 
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How do you feel about it? Does it make you more or less excited about her going with other men?


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 5:52 pm 
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I liked hearing about it. And yes, i think overall it made me more excited about the idea...


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 6:04 pm 
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Ask her more about how cuckolding worked for her in previous relationships, the dynamics of it more than the sex sessions. That is if she has done it before.

The sex stories will mostly be sex stories anyway. But as others have said she may see those as "hers" even though she would be willing to share with you stories she experiences with men she sees while she is with you. I hope that makes sense. One woman I chatted with about a cuckold relationship basically said the same thing to me as we discussed it and it made sense to me.


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 6:05 pm 
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No. she hasnt done anything like cuckolding before. But she has told me that she had some experience of being dominated.


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 6:17 pm 
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I had discussed my wifes past with her. Some were good experiences nd others were not. I had to be understanding when we had the discussion and be mindful of her past. It did open up our conversation and understanding of each other. I now know what to stay away from and what to enhance. We started with roleplay stories and now include discussions involving real people. It was good a experience.


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Unread postPosted: Thu Jun 15, 2017 6:36 pm 
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I was lucky in the fact that all of hers were pretty good experiences. For sure it was an eyeopener a little bit..


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Unread postPosted: Fri Jun 16, 2017 10:16 am 
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My wife's past is extraordinary as we spent some years apart, living apart and freely dating, while still coparemting and maintaining an occasional sexual tryst with each other. During this time, she was with at least 10 other men, almost all of whom she told me about in some detail. Now that we are married and she knows I want her to still fuck other men, her past fuels my desire for her, even though she has no intention of stepping out.

But I also know that she, in her own words, "loves big cocks" and I'm "normal" sized... so I always think there's a chance, someday, that she will.

Not to mention the fact that she is so hot and was such a slut that I am more attracted to her than ever.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Jun 16, 2017 10:55 am 
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We didn't really delve into her sexual past for the first almost 15 years. Then one night we were sitting outside at a local microbrewery tipping a few. We were both buzzed. I don't remember how the topic came up, but I started asking questions and she started giving answers. I found out that she had been with a couple of partners of mine before I joined the firm. One I pretty much knew about and one was a total surprise. I convinced her that night that this topic was hot and not in any way distressing for me. Since then from time to time she has dropped a story. We were in foreplay once when she told me about jerking off a stranger in a bar, right in a booth. She was with female friends, he asked her to dance, he got a boner, and she was the right combination of drunk and horny. She led him to an empty booth, they started making out, she pulled his cock out, and said he didn't last much longer. She wiped up with bar napkins, bid him goodbye, and left with her friends. Another time we were in her home town and drove by an open field. She said "Hmm, I might have gotten laid in that field..." A couple of months ago we were visiting her best friend and her husband. The best friend was talking about how much she and my wife had in common and started to say something and abruptly stopped. I just had this feeling what she was going to say and I later asked my wife if you two had fucked the same guy. She said yeah, they had both fucked a bouncer in a bar they used to frequent. They discovered that fact one night while talking about guys they had fucked and she said her friend was kind of grossed out that they had shared a guy. My wife held her thumb and forefinger about two inches apart and said that he was a big, good-looking guy but his cock was only that big. She said she caught that also and said her friend isn't open with her husband about such things and she must have suddenly realized he was sitting right there. My wife has told her friend that I don't care and enjoy hearing stories like that.

We didn't get together until she was well past 30 and she was never married. I think that in her teens and 20s she loved sex for the thrill of it, then as she got toward and past 30 she was more relationship-driven and had far less sex. Because she always says she didn't date a lot when she was single, I thought her "number" was probably less than five, but as she has opened up I'm thinking it's more than 10 and maybe a fair amount more.

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Unread postPosted: Fri Jun 16, 2017 1:15 pm 
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This is particularly interesting topic for me. We met while still very young and discussed exes pretty soon after meeting. As I suspect is not uncommon initially she 'under reported' as to how many she'd been with etc. but what the ones she told me about we discussed them in excruciating detail including specific things she did with them, their size, number of experiences and so on. . Over the years she has admitted to other sex partners and experiences she omitted at the time. Sometimes these didn't come out until many years later. When I was younger this made me insanely jealous. I was naive and really saw her number as being large for her age but in reality maybe it wasn't all things considered. I really didn't handle it well at all though and as a result she became unwilling to discuss it at all. These experiences made my interest in hotwifing all that much more difficult to understand - really for both of us - although I am certain that discussing her past in detail with her lead to my interest in seeing her with other guys. I had all these images of her with her exes playing over and oner in my head on a never ending highlights reel. lol Over the years as we got involved with sharing her with others her willingness to discuss these experiences in the context of sex play/pillow talk changed - she became much more willing to share information all though for the most part she says she doesn't remember much and until recently wouldn't really discuss details associated with a particular ex during sex play - in fairness it has been 40+ years. lol Anyway, her health situiation has made continuing in the HW lifestyle practically a non-starter from her perspective which has lead to amping up our role playing games as a susbstitute. In recent months this has extended to having her masturbate while talking about being with an ex or masturbating while watching porn that features a guy that supposedly reminds her of an ex. This transition is kind of weird for me too in that up until relatively recently involving her exes in our fantasy play was a big turn off for me...but for some reason that changed and now it's a huge turn on for me. Not sure what triggered the change but I'm glad it did because we've been having a lot of fun with it.

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Unread postPosted: Fri Jun 16, 2017 6:25 pm 
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HW after we had been married a couple of years she would tell me of the times she fucked a BF or just a friend. We would be having sex and I would ask me to tell me a story and she would describe one of her many times fucking a former BF or just someone she had just met. I was amazed the number of times she let them cum in her pussy w/o any protection nor was she on BC pills. One night while we were fucking I asked her if she any met anyone since we have been married if she would like to fuck. When she told who, I told her to go for it. She asked me how did I know this guy wanted to fuck her. My comment was, guys know. So, she when to work on this guy and after two months, she had him taking her panties off and fucking her in our bed. this guy fucked her all night and next day she said her pussy was the sores she had ever experienced. All totaled her FB fucked her for two years before moving on.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Jun 16, 2017 7:57 pm 
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Obviously, in our culture it is assumed men would sex shame a woman for having too much sex or too many partners. So women withhold information out of fear of incriminating themselves with the husband. We see it differently. Since we regard having sex with others as a good thing and come from a place of sex positivity, there is nothing to hide. So I have heard lots about past lovers. And since we frequently include other men in MFMs, past sexual adventures are moot, since we have lots of them in the present.

Openness and honesty about the present and the past have a lot to recommend them. They build trust in a marriage. Trying to protect a woman's sexual reputation through concealment of information builds mistrust, more pointedly and ironically because past sexual experience should not detract from a woman's reputation or respect.

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Unread postPosted: Fri Jun 16, 2017 9:38 pm 
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My wife and I have gone through a long transition on this. I used to bring up her experiences with other men, and was generally rebuffed.

The first time she shared any details with me was about five years before we had our first real hot wife encounter. Then there was a five-year "drought" over which I occasionally brought up the subject, but was gain rebuffed.

About a year into our hot wife experiences, she finally became comfortable talking to me about her encounters with other men, before we were married - she has been "metering out" those confessions a little at a time for the last decade or so. I still don't know about all of them, but I look forward to her recalling one for me, and always cum buckets when she decides to share the details.


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Unread postPosted: Sat Jun 17, 2017 7:14 am 
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Initially my wife was reluctant to talk about previous lovers. I remember the first time I asked. I had her on the top of the stairs and was giving it to her. I asked her if my cock felt good, do you like my big cock, etc. etc. and then I said "Have you ever had a cock bigger than mine?"

There was that "deer in the headlights look" and she stumbled to say anything. Eventually saying "Honey you are a great lover."

Right then I knew.

Of course I began to press on in the following days. Some time later during a night of drinking it all came out.

As time would pass she would say that she was initially reluctant to talk about it for fear of damaging my ego, hurting my feelings.


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Unread postPosted: Mon Jun 19, 2017 11:44 am 
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Bump. I thought this was an interesting topic.

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Unread postPosted: Mon Jun 19, 2017 3:08 pm 
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My wife told me that she had two past lovers who were "SO GOOD" in bed and that their relationship was pretty much all sex! I asked if they were a lot better than me, and she admitted yes. When I asked her what was so good about it she told me that both of them were really well endowed and could last as long as she needed to have multiple orgasms.


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Unread postPosted: Mon Jun 19, 2017 3:24 pm 
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Jamie wrote:
My wife told me that she had two past lovers who were "SO GOOD" in bed and that their relationship was pretty much all sex! I asked if they were a lot better than me, and she admitted yes. When I asked her what was so good about it she told me that both of them were really well endowed and could last as long as she needed to have multiple orgasms.

But she didn't marry them.

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Unread postPosted: Mon Jun 19, 2017 4:17 pm 
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Right! Definitely not marriage material, lol


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