My wife was always a "Good girl" almost a prude with me sexually. Never had a lot of bjs never her butt never anything really except 69 a few 20 times maybe and other than that mostly pretty vanilla stuff and she would never let me hold her head if she did bj me.
So 3 years ago she tells me this guy was incredible in bed and hung and she gave him deep throat bjs which she never did for me and she had a threesome fmf for him. It blew my mind. I loved it but also realized she may have just been using me as a safe provider type guy.
I must say even though I was more turned on than ever in my life I also felt a little sad as it made me realize she might of had to spend her life with someone she didn't love and wasn't as attracted sexually to me as she was to him. I felt bad for her and I felt like such a failure. But like I said I was so awaken and sexually charged up.
Do you people think I'm right in my assessment of this situation or do you see a scenario where she would do all that for him and not her hubby if she wasn't more in love with him?
She is probably teasing you cause it was arousing you.
Maybe he was dominant type of person and she showed her submissive side to him that she couldn't or didn't show to you, maybe because you are the husband and father(if you have any kids that is). So that plays out. I don't know I wouldn't say she does not love you, only you and she would not know that.
I know it turns a lot of guys on and if she is doing it to turn you on and put your game up and have better sex or spicing the bed, then that is one aspect. But if it is not that, it would bother me. There are instances spouses do things they would not do with their husband/wife that they do with they Affair partners or fuckbuddies, lying about it and stuff and even calling those things disgusting. Fucked up stuff.
But I would implore you not to feel like a failure. If you want to talk to her about it, you might, but you also might come off as needy. you don't need that if you don't have good communication with your wife. It is better if she figures it out. Maybe subtly try being more dominant.
If these things improve your and her sex life then congrats.