I'm personally not a fan of random in person meetups, because I don't pick people based on looks and would rather take the time to get to know someone before I dive in. I much prefer talking with someone for days before I decide if I even want to meet them. Flakes go with the territory, but sometimes you get lucky. The first person I met off OKC this time around has become my new boyfriend
I would just caution you to be careful if she wants to fuck guys bareback. Remember that STI tests, even ones that are recent, only are accurate to about three months ago. It's something to be concerned about. Personally, fantasy or no, I cannot imagine being in this lifestyle and having high risk sex, but we all make our own risk assessments.
I think she would only be comfortable meeting someone at a bar or something would be if she had some drinks in her first, even then she gets nervous. She would like to ideally find someone online that fits what she likes. Like you said chat for a bit, then one night she's really horny call him over to our place or have me drop her off at his place.
We do understand and have taken into consideration SDIs with her desire for unprotected sex. We hardly have time to set something up so she won't be having sex with too many guys. I would also like to know the guy has been in her raw for my own liking as well. If she finds a guy she's really into but he wants to use protection that won't be a deal breaker for her either.
We have talked about what if, say she has sex with a few guys and then she finds this one guy thats exactly what she likes and he fucks her so good she wants to keep having sex with him. This would lower the risk on STIs but I'm a little to jelous of her having a regular guy on the side. Turns me on but I still don't know if I can handle that. I'm not worried about her leaving me it's just she will probably develop feelings towards him and that would be the part that I don't know if I can handle.