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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by wild70 » Tue Jul 29, 2014 9:06 am

I love the way ChasterHusband62 summed this up. Our wives are precious gifts to be treasured and not to be owned. My beautiful wife has been the greatest joy of my life and I treasure every minute of the 50 years we've been together.

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Unread post by ChasteHusband62 » Tue Jul 29, 2014 9:35 am

Thanks wild70! In fact, it wasn't until my wife and I began this cuckold lifestyle, that I really, and truly paid the sort of attention to her that I have the last 3+ years! Before, I took her for granted way too much! Now, I think about her so much more; and, for me, it's been these other dicks that come a go between her and I, that did that! With other roosters lurking around the hen house, a guys got to put a whole lot more effort--and there's nothing wrong in that!

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by 54321 » Wed Jul 30, 2014 2:47 pm

Dear Chaste Husband,

You put it beautifully. I just finished reading 'What Women Want'. The research published there agrees with your sentiment exactly.

Best wishes,

54321

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Unread post by ChasteHusband62 » Wed Jul 30, 2014 6:02 pm

Glad to hear that I've hit it rather close! Fantastic!

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by pasadena95 » Thu Jul 31, 2014 10:10 am

It's not about having a porn star. It is exactly what Chaste said: a spouse is not property, cannot be owned. To truly appreciate a partner, you must let them be free to explore the world, and if you are worthy, they will return happier and more grateful to you than ever.
What a great concept for a secure, loving relationship!

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Unread post by newmilf » Sat Aug 02, 2014 9:27 am

You ask a great question. Why would any man in his right mind what to let another man experience his wife and she experience another man in the most intimate of pleasures? It must be sheer unadulterated euphoric pleasures derived from seeing your wife in the arms of another man and watching her experience sexual satisfaction from another with the possibility of her experiencing a deeper and more gratifying experience then you can deliver. It is also exciting to see her from angles that you were unable to observe when it is just you and her alone and then you couple the sights and sounds that you might not ordinarily see or hear when it is just the two of you. It is the most exhilarating of thoughts

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Unread post by Silverback » Wed Aug 06, 2014 9:12 pm

As a young kid, I was painfully shy and wasn't able to approach the girls I found appealing. I found myself admiring them from a distance. Eventually I would see many of the hot girls that were the objects of my fantasies pairing up with boys. Seeing a girl I dreamed about holding hands or kissing a boy would make me feel at first curious, then jealous. I had the experience that a girl I liked noticed me watching her with her boyfriend. She looked right at me, smiled wickedly, then turned and kissed him on the lips. She turned back to me again and laughed. It was my first taste of cuckold angst at what must have been the age of twelve or so. This was happening at roughly the same time that I was discovering masturbation. So at night in bed, I would picture the hot girls in school, and try to imagine myself with them, and how I would make love to them. My sex life went on like this until I was well into my seventeenth year. Then I started dating girls and getting laid. At about twenty-one I got into my first long term relationship. I had the opportunity to go abroad for a few months, and didn't communicate with her

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by wifey whipped » Sun Aug 24, 2014 12:44 am

wild wifey wrote:I used to wonder the same question about my husband. But the more he talked about his fantasies of me sleeping with other men, the more I started liking the idea. I mean, sure, it is a pretty HOT topic! I love sex. And other men? Yum! AND, after all, I would get to be the one to have the fun, while he sits at home doing dishes. :) haha. I have finally learned the best way to get him to help me around the house! When I am out with another guy, I don't even have to ask hubby to do anything. His mind is busy wondering what I am doing, that he just starts cleaning. I love it! (and he doesn't even cross my mind! :D hahah ) SO, in the end, I don't question WHY my husband would want me to sleep with other men any longer. I just do it, and get the best of both worlds (including fun experiences with new men, a clean house and lots of sex from husband afterwards)

Sometimes, I think he is jealous, but he lives for it somehow. It is a thrill that he cannot control me. And he loves it. I don't try to understand men! But I love them! And I love driving them crazy. Especially hubby. He is stronger than me physically, but I have finally figured out his weaknesses and how I can gain leverage over him. I love it. I LOVE IT! And I have been so much happier since becoming a hotwife.
Pretty much says it all.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Lacey » Sun Aug 24, 2014 12:36 pm

It's very sexy

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Unread post by whitecuckmn » Sun Sep 14, 2014 10:36 pm

Salsonero wrote:
DrDemento_68 wrote:I want my wife to fuck other men for several reasons:
Wow, an A+ for this hot expository essay!
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I agree with you. He did a great job of explaining how he felt and how it made him so hot…. It is great writing.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Captaintiny » Fri Sep 19, 2014 9:45 pm

Why?

Because I've got a very sexy woman I'm married to, and I know she has more pleasure with other men than with me, I know she loves me very much....just not fucking me *at all*. So why would I deny her pleasure she enjoys just because we're married? I enjoy seeing her having such pleasure, I'm not hurt by it...and like they say, no harm...no foul.

It's about making her happy, afterall....happy wife, happy life, right?

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by wawlauri » Sat Sep 20, 2014 9:31 am

consider the fact that the shape of a man's cock, the head with the ridge behind it, like a blunt arrow, is an evolutionary development, the purpose of which is to scrape as much of the other man's seed from the woman's vagina, that the new cock entering her has a better chance to fertilize her. Then of course there is the next guy who will scape out my seed. SO when you think about this, it is mind blowing. That we were designed for women to have multiple sex partners (I read this in Insatiable Wife's and The Men that love them" forgot the author. Some simulation lab testing has even been done which validates this, like around 80% of the prior sperm deposit gets 'scarped' out by the next cock.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Rayreef » Sun Oct 26, 2014 11:27 pm

I simply want to watch her enjoy herself sexually with an appreciative and discreet man. In a comfortable setting with a trusted friend it should and can be an exquisite experience for all.

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Unread post by tunafish » Mon Nov 03, 2014 12:47 pm

Obviously there are as many reasons for wanting to have your wife have sex with others as there are men in this community - for me its an incredible turn on - its probably the single best stimulus to get me hard and
turned on - the idea for whatever reason that my wife is fucking some other guy and then coming home to me, yes, all stretched out and messy is beyond description - Admittedly in our situation its only fantasy but
thankfully my wife of 35 years has embraced the whole crazy idea (though it was a long somewhat difficult journey to get to this place) and now she uses it to turn me on and get my fire started. Who cares why its
what ever turns you on that counts - I feel blessed that I have a mate that goes along with the whole thing.

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Unread post by WatchHer4Me » Tue Nov 04, 2014 8:44 am

I was turned on by the thought of her pleasure in ways I could not give her with 5in & also wanted be share a female also so it opened up a whole new fun world & honestly I enjoy going in her pussy after it has been stretched,no cum just streched its like a totally new pussy!

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Unread post by katorce » Wed Nov 05, 2014 6:46 pm

noreenandnaz wrote:good question, i have no idea why a man would want others to fuck his wife. When i discovered this was my hubby's fetish i told him nice and straight: he better not be thinking it's ok to fuck other women! i honestly thought he was trying his luck to get permission to fuck other women.

the way i see it, i don't fuck other men just for my enjoyment. i do it for *our* enjoyment. we both enjoy me being taken by more capable lovers who understand my needs and can ravage my body. he loves seeing me go into filthy-slut-mode and i need a strong, dominant lover to do that for me. preferably with a large cock and lusty zeal in his eyes, lol.

my biggest surprise was discovering that hubby actually enjoys fucking my loose, sloppy pussy after my well-hung lover has stretched me out and filled me with cum. why would someone enjoy fucking a used pussy, full of another man's cum? who knows??! i've spent my whole life thinking men wanted tight fitting virgins!

Bravo to all that. I do not seek out other woman. I have had sex with other women since we got into the lifestyle, strangely though they were two ladies who picked my wife up at a bar. I also have no homosexual tendencies though nudity of other men or guy parts touching has never bothered me and i can recognize a nice looking cock as well as my wife, i just don't want to use it as she does. I have had one guy suck me a little and it seeme to bother my wife more than me so i stopped him

Yes i very much enjoy the more capable lover for her, she do prefers the dominant take charge man who knows what a pussy, ass and mouth are for. and yes i very much like the filthy slut mode as my wife gives herself over to her lover or goes looking for a new one.

I do not enjoy cum filled pussy and my wife requires condoms even with me as she can not tolerate birth control and has actually gotten an infection from cum back when we were having babies , but I do like fucking her stretched pussy after he has used it, mostly because by then she has usually came seven or a dozen times and so she just comes repeatedly as I fuck her. she is always a wild fuck but never so much as after she has just had another cock or two in her.

Mostly though because she enjoys it. We did not get into sharing until we were in our late forties and for the first couple years she up for lost time, we have slowed down now some and she has gotten more selective. She also prfers no more than 3 or 4 times with the same guy. Only one beside me has had her more than 5 times and few more than once

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by ChasteHusband62 » Wed Nov 12, 2014 7:37 am

I was sure I posted my take to this question several months ago, but I don't see it. So, I post this one.

Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man? The word "want" seems to me to be the most salient one. As for myself, why I "want" my own wife to have the freedom to fuck any other guy she might wish has a convoluted root. Part of it definitely has something to do with me having tended to feel sexually inadequate to satisfy my wife's sexual needs. It also has to do with me having an undersized dick (5+"). Still another, and perhaps even more salient factor is that I'm bisexual!

The first two above items were no secret to my wife, but the third thing was! When she first found out that I saw myself as bi (which had to do with her finding a small stash of gay porn), we went through many months of personal crisis. It really looked like we were heading for a divorce. I couldn't imagine her not wanting that. But, in the end, we didn't divorce. Of course, now that she knew I was bi, our sexual relationship under went a change. We were in our late 50's by then, and we didn't really want to throw our previous life together away. We had been through a lot together. We had kids. We had this history that seemed worth hanging onto. What didn't continue on between us was sex!

Eventually, she confided to me one day that she knew this younger guy at work who had been "pursuing" her for some time. She was flattered by his ardor, but she hadn't taken it anywhere. Not yet at least. I asked her if she wanted him (wanted to fuck him, that is), and she eventually admitted that she did! It took months before anything like that actually occurred, but it finally did.

At this point in my life I really "wanted" her to fuck this younger guy. I think, in part, I did out of some sense of deserving it (me, that is)! I think I was sort punishing myself for being bisexual, and for having hidden it from her!

When my wife finally did "fuck" this younger guy, I felt the ache in the pit of my stomach at the thought of it, and yet, there was also this curiously erotic aspect to it! They saw each other for about 5 months, or so, and yet she and I stayed together. I never once argued with her over it. There were no fights. No angry outbursts of jealousy. I accepted it. As I did, I found myself increasingly turned-on by my wife's dalliances! In time, she and I started talking about all this more and more openly. I confessed to her that I found her extra-marital relationship with this young guy sexually exciting. I think she was naturally incredulous about this, but over time, she came to realize that I was not bullshitting her, or myself, about it.

Yes, I did, indeed, "want" my wife to fuck another guy, then, as well as now. Perhaps I was seeking some sort of 'propitiation.' If so, I think I succeeded in obtaining it. In doing so, my sexual relationship with my wife underwent a significant alteration (it basically ceased), but, we kept the marriage! I love my wife. I think I love her more now, than ever before! I know that she sees other men (from time to time). We talk about them. She tells me everything. We no longer have secrets. She's even come to accept my bisexuality, and wouldn't wish for me to try and change that for anything! We have established a new marital equilibrium over the last three years; and though sex is no longer a part of it (as in intercourse), there does exist a definite eroticism between us, though one step removed from what it once was!

So, yes. Absolutely. I do "want" my wife to fuck other men.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Desire2share2 » Sat Nov 15, 2014 5:55 am

For me it is all about her pleasure. When we have sex , as soon as she is starts to orgasm I orgasm immediately. I like the thought of what 2 men can do for her. I like to get a different vantage point. I have many fantasies that dabble in all aspects of this but in general it's a mutual thing , not her doing whatever she wants whenever. I know I am not always great in bed so I don't mind help. I am secure and in love. I want to fulfill any fantasies she has because she deserves it and that turns me on. And it's not because I want to sleep with other woman at all. Her pleasure is my pleasure.

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Unread post by Salsonero » Sat Nov 15, 2014 9:20 am

Desire2share2 wrote:For me it is all about her pleasure.
Very moving. You are a wonderful husband and the two of you must be a gorgeous couple. Thanks for sharing with such candor and feeling.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Worshypper » Sat Nov 15, 2014 4:48 pm

TO she gets satisfaction. After a long time, seem she thinks in to get a stable relationship that give her sexual freedom. Then she give him so rare sex, but he give her the sexual freedom she needs.
I enjoy she have Sexual Freedom but it's Her Pleasure, not for me. That's what turns us on. She gets excited cuckolding me :p
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Footfreak » Wed Nov 19, 2014 8:01 am

Because she loves having sex with many others, men & women. Because I find it a huge turn on to watch her suck a fat cock & her delight in swallowing it's "gift". I've seen tears of joy in her eyes after a especially juicy cock.
I love bringing her filled with cum pussy to climax with my tongue. I love being a cuck!

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Unread post by Salsonero » Wed Nov 19, 2014 12:51 pm

I don’t have a woman of my own to share, but the women I am with are also with other men and I find that very sexy. For some reason, the husband fucking her is nice, but since they came to me as a couple it just seems like the normal thing and does not incite me as much as her being with other lovers. Go figure!

So even if I can’t be a hot husband, it is very sexy for me when a woman I fuck gives herself to other lovers. Why do I so love my women to sleep with other men? The reasons vary depending on how close I am with the woman and other factors, but here’s a few that come to mind.
    • 1) If I get to watch , it’s like a porn movie only live and staring one of my fav actresses.
      2) It makes me jealous which makes me want her more; and anything that make me want her more is good, right?
      3) It makes me feel intensely that she is not mine, that she is a free agent and that I have to court her continually, that I can’t take her for granted.
      4) It relieves me of responsibility for her happiness.
      5) It gives us something sexy to talk about.
      6) It gives her a lot of control over me which makes me want to take control back, at least for a few minutes, by fucking her.
      7) She either knows or at least senses my increased ardor, my lack of control, and that in turn excites her.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Magic_Wanda » Tue Nov 25, 2014 10:59 am

I'm new here and I have been asking myself this question a lot since my husband shared his fantasy with me.
He says he just wants to see me enjoy myself :)
This is a great thread, I have learned a lot!

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Unread post by Mia » Tue Nov 25, 2014 11:55 am

Magic_Wanda wrote:I'm new here and I have been asking myself this question a lot since my husband shared his fantasy with me.
He says he just wants to see me enjoy myself :)
This is a great thread, I have learned a lot!
Welcome to OHW, Magic_Wanda.

:)

Mia

P.S. We have a women's only forum on OHW. If you are interested: http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=23464

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Unread post by Lenny » Fri Nov 28, 2014 12:32 pm

Having cuckolded a few men, one for 20 years, I still do not understand why. I was a cuckold for about a year in my early days but it was with a girlfriend that I did not love so I did not care as long as she came home to me each night. Once I got married I tried it once with my wife and neither of us liked it so we ended up hooking up with a married friend of hers. When I asked about why her husband allowed her to spend weeks and even vacations with us, all she would say is that they had an arrangement. That was it. I never knew why and what they did when they got back together. My lover wanted to keep her marriage separate from our relationship and asked that I do not ask anymore, so I did not. To tell the truth, I rarely even though about her husband when she was with me. I felt like she was my steady girlfriend and belonged to me. I hate to say it but her husband was bisexual but not with me. The other four men were not but they were very submissive acting when I met them.

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