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Unread post by mr-nobody » Thu Dec 04, 2014 5:10 pm

Desire2share2 wrote:For me it is all about her pleasure. When we have sex , as soon as she is starts to orgasm I orgasm immediately. I like the thought of what 2 men can do for her. I like to get a different vantage point. I have many fantasies that dabble in all aspects of this but in general it's a mutual thing , not her doing whatever she wants whenever. I know I am not always great in bed so I don't mind help. I am secure and in love. I want to fulfill any fantasies she has because she deserves it and that turns me on. And it's not because I want to sleep with other woman at all. Her pleasure is my pleasure.
THIS is exactly how I feel about it.

For me it is a way to help her embrace her sexuality, to become comfortable with it. She's been raised to feel fearful and guilty about... well everything. There should be no guilt involved with mutually agreed upon sex. I don't want her to fear men or their sexual desires. I want her to embrace her sexuality and enjoy it. But I want to be there with her to enjoy it too! She says she is perfectly satisfied with me and doesn't need any more than me. I tell her I understand but would she like more than me? She says that she could... in the right situation.

Being able to watch her in sexual ecstasy, being able to bring her more pleasure than I can alone, this is why I want to share her. And this is why we will play together.

At least at this point in time.
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Unread post by scubadivingrocks » Sat Dec 06, 2014 9:16 am

Had a great talk after a fun community event last night. Since this topic broke, we've had our most sexual week since the time we met - she's wanting to come several times daily, and sex has become a priority. It was a rush talking about it in the public setting of a hotel lounge - I know the couple sitting behind us eating could hear our convo about her having sex with other men, because we could hear theirs.

This has now been coming up free and easily, with frequency, and she is the instigator.

I still think it's going to be her away, mostly, as she's normally VERY publicly discreet. Finding NSA local playmates could present issues, but she's not unopposed, and has some not so secret longing for an MFM 3 way.

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Unread post by Luv It » Sun Dec 14, 2014 2:09 pm

consider the fact that the shape of a man's cock, the head with the ridge behind it, like a blunt arrow, is an evolutionary development, the purpose of which is to scrape as much of the other man's seed from the woman's vagina,...............
An "argument" can be made that the shape of the human penis "head" is evolved to ensure that semen is retained in the vagina by whoever deposits it there and even pushing another man's semen closer to a female's cervix.

Anything that enhances the survival of a species it usually retained by and enhanced by evolution.
There is no evolutionary advantage in one man removing another man's semen favor of his own and evolution is blind to human socially favored human male/female paring such as marriage.
Quite the opposite is true........the more semen in the vagina, the better chance for pregnancy and a species' survival.

Saying it evolved to scrape out another man's semen is sort of like saying that human fingers were evolved to play a piano.
It's putting the evolutionaty cart before the horse so to speak .

Perhaps some of the HW thrill of fucking one's wife after another man cums in her is the (subconscious) knowledge that he is pushing the other man's semen even deeper into her vagina. :)
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Unread post by BrooklynBaby » Mon Dec 15, 2014 1:13 pm

I'm new to this whole thing as well and reading everyone's perspectives in here has been a great help!

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Unread post by OnceaBull » Tue Dec 16, 2014 7:28 am

A reason husbands want their wives to fuck other men is because the wife will take the time to look sexier when a she is looking for another man. When she is told she looks sexy she will dress sexier.
My wife cheated on me years ago, but she never looked better while she was seeing him. She went to the tanning salons, she trimmed and shaved her pussy. It was great seeing her take the time to look her best, something she stopped doing.

One thing I've noticed throughout these threads are husbands describe their wives as being conservative and I believe the husbands want a slut in bed once in awhile. Having your wife fuck other men might be over board but then how many couples actually go through with it? Talking about it and role playing helps out a stale sex life and the wife becomes a little sluttier in bed.

In my case I have a beautiful wife, she is conservative, she doesn't get slutty during sex unless I do. She doesn't dress sexy, she takes care of herself but she could be so fucking hot if she was trying to sleep with another man. I am a bit of a voyeur, I want to watch, but I also want to see my wife fucked until satisfaction. A little competition might get me going as well.

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Unread post by Luv It » Tue Dec 16, 2014 10:24 am

LOL ...my wife is far from "conservative" :)
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Unread post by Feelfree77 » Thu Jan 01, 2015 8:40 am

I'm not a cuckold but still love to see my wife with another man.
Would not like her to do it without me present and that never happened.
It's just a major turn on. Can't explain it.

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Unread post by Jerzeycuckhub » Sat Jan 03, 2015 10:48 am

OnceaBull wrote:A reason husbands want their wives to fuck other men is because the wife will take the time to look sexier when a she is looking for another man. When she is told she looks sexy she will dress sexier.
My wife cheated on me years ago, but she never looked better while she was seeing him. She went to the tanning salons, she trimmed and shaved her pussy. It was great seeing her take the time to look her best, something she stopped doing.

One thing I've noticed throughout these threads are husbands describe their wives as being conservative and I believe the husbands want a slut in bed once in awhile. Having your wife fuck other men might be over board but then how many couples actually go through with it? Talking about it and role playing helps out a stale sex life and the wife becomes a little sluttier in bed.

In my case I have a beautiful wife, she is conservative, she doesn't get slutty during sex unless I do. She doesn't dress sexy, she takes care of herself but she could be so fucking hot if she was trying to sleep with another man. I am a bit of a voyeur, I want to watch, but I also want to see my wife fucked until satisfaction. A little competition might get me going as well.

Your comments touch upon a few excellent points. It's very erotic seeing your wife get dolled up for another man in the same way she did for you when the two of you dated. And yes, the fact that another man is fucking my wife inspires me to be a better hubby, even if I do come up short in bed.

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Unread post by OnceaBull » Tue Jan 13, 2015 10:35 am

Jerzeycuckhub wrote:
OnceaBull wrote:A reason husbands want their wives to fuck other men is because the wife will take the time to look sexier when a she is looking for another man. When she is told she looks sexy she will dress sexier.
My wife cheated on me years ago, but she never looked better while she was seeing him. She went to the tanning salons, she trimmed and shaved her pussy. It was great seeing her take the time to look her best, something she stopped doing.

One thing I've noticed throughout these threads are husbands describe their wives as being conservative and I believe the husbands want a slut in bed once in awhile. Having your wife fuck other men might be over board but then how many couples actually go through with it? Talking about it and role playing helps out a stale sex life and the wife becomes a little sluttier in bed.

In my case I have a beautiful wife, she is conservative, she doesn't get slutty during sex unless I do. She doesn't dress sexy, she takes care of herself but she could be so fucking hot if she was trying to sleep with another man. I am a bit of a voyeur, I want to watch, but I also want to see my wife fucked until satisfaction. A little competition might get me going as well.

Your comments touch upon a few excellent points. It's very erotic seeing your wife get dolled up for another man in the same way she did for you when the two of you dated. And yes, the fact that another man is fucking my wife inspires me to be a better hubby, even if I do come up short in bed.
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Unread post by Hanshot1st » Thu Jan 15, 2015 11:34 am

This has already been said but "want" might be the wrong word. In the beginning I wondered if agreeing for her to sleep with someone else was at all sane. After all did those rings on our fingers mean anything? But this is just about sex. Not about our commitment to each other. In fact it enhances the relationship and brings the level of communication required for it to work successfully to a much higher standard. In fact our communication has never been better. And let's admit it, seeing your wife act out sexually is an incredible turn on.
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Unread post by jaggu008 » Sat Jan 17, 2015 3:52 am

Salsonero wrote:I don’t have a woman of my own to share, but the women I am with are also with other men and I find that very sexy. For some reason, the husband fucking her is nice, but since they came to me as a couple it just seems like the normal thing and does not incite me as much as her being with other lovers. Go figure!

So even if I can’t be a hot husband, it is very sexy for me when a woman I fuck gives herself to other lovers. Why do I so love my women to sleep with other men? The reasons vary depending on how close I am with the woman and other factors, but here’s a few that come to mind.
    • 1) If I get to watch , it’s like a porn movie only live and staring one of my fav actresses.
      2) It makes me jealous which makes me want her more; and anything that make me want her more is good, right?
      3) It makes me feel intensely that she is not mine, that she is a free agent and that I have to court her continually, that I can’t take her for granted.
      4) It relieves me of responsibility for her happiness.
      5) It gives us something sexy to talk about.
      6) It gives her a lot of control over me which makes me want to take control back, at least for a few minutes, by fucking her.
      7) She either knows or at least senses my increased ardor, my lack of control, and that in turn excites her.
The reasons you have listed out do apply to me also.It is so exciting to see his mascular body fucking her and hear those grunts and growls and her screams.

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Unread post by Freetime69 » Sat Jan 17, 2015 10:35 pm

Why Not!!!

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Unread post by christineshub » Mon Jan 19, 2015 9:27 am

I've never been entirely sure why but the idea of watching my wife fuck other men has always been my most powerful fantasy. The more cuckold themes you add to the mix the more powerful the fantasy becomes: dominant hung bull, cleaning up, fluffing, etc. But at the core of it is the knowledge that there are men out there who can give my wife pleasure I could never dream of giving her and who am I to deny her that?

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Unread post by ammora » Sat Jan 24, 2015 11:23 pm

As someone who is exploring/thinking/pondering, but not sure if I want to go beyond fantasy, this thread has been eyeopening. Thanks to everyone for being so honest.

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Unread post by D+D » Sun Feb 01, 2015 1:23 pm

My wife has been with a guy that she had mind blowing sex with. Her fucking other men is somewhat humiliating, but she always comes home and "makes love" to me and that makes me feel like the biggest and luckiest man on the planet.

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Unread post by Seldom Seen Slim » Mon Feb 02, 2015 11:05 am

When I click on the link (on the very first page/post) I get sent to CL of Boston (no surprise). I expected I'd go to a post there that I could have my wife read -- but it doesn't work.

How about some of youse guys posting a few links that do work - so I can have my dear wife read 'em?

Thanks.

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Unread post by allengt » Mon Feb 02, 2015 11:26 am

Seldom Seen Slim wrote:When I click on the link (on the very first page/post) I get sent to CL of Boston (no surprise). I expected I'd go to a post there that I could have my wife read -- but it doesn't work.

How about some of youse guys posting a few links that do work - so I can have my dear wife read 'em?

Thanks.
Since that link was posted 7 years ago I doubt that it is still a good link.
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Unread post by Seldom Seen Slim » Mon Feb 02, 2015 11:33 am

I agree, Allen, but gee whizzikers -- I thought it did work when I tried it last week (upon first seeing it). Oh, well -- I'll still ask for guidance to some links that'll take me to similar stories/subjects. Thanks.

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Unread post by QoS Couple » Tue Feb 03, 2015 1:10 pm

It might be a part of nature in order to expand the gene pool by having the wife bred by more than one man. And, likewise with us guys to breed with more than one woman...

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Unread post by finendandy » Tue Feb 03, 2015 9:41 pm

Defenitely women more programmed to seek other mates. In most mammals. Remember learning that at university studying reproduction strategies.

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Unread post by jaggu008 » Sun Feb 15, 2015 9:48 pm

lucky wrote:I don't how anyone could say it better, thanks for putting my thoughts into words. You are so right and you express the feelings so well.
doomywife wrote:I wrote this story several years ago, about the "Joys of getting Sloppy 2nds" from my wife. Whether you call them "sloppy 2nds", or something else, the meaning behind the story is the same. It describes the "JOY" of watching "your wife fuck another man"! Check out what I wrote...

Since my wife, Brandie, and I, started swinging, we have had many fun, exciting, sexual experiences. Many of them were just new, fun ways of enjoying sexual activities that we had been doing for years with each other, but that were now “more fun” when enjoyed with others! Then there were the totally “new” experiences, the things that we had never done before and were only now able to try them out with our swinging friends. If I had to pick the “one thing” that I have enjoyed the most about swinging, it would be…. “Getting sloppy 2nd’s” from my wife, after another man has just filled her with a load of cum!

Getting sloppy 2nd’s is something that is indescribable! If you have never experienced it for yourself, you can’t fully imagine what it’s like. It can’t be “simulated”. If you want to know what it’s like to get a blow job from your wife while another man fucks her, (and you’re not swingers), you can “simulate it”, by doing her with a dildo while she sucks you off. You will get pretty much the same reaction and feelings as you would if she was really getting it from another guy and sucking you at the same time. But! You can’t simulate “sloppy 2nd’s”! There is just no way to do it! As I said a few sentences ago, “sloppy 2nd’s” is something that is hard, if not impossible, to describe, but I’m going to try to do my best to tell you what it’s like and why I love it so much!

Imagine this… Your wife is on the bed on her back and another man is between her legs, with his cock up her cunt and he’s giving her a good fucking! You are naked and sitting in a chair watching. Maybe you join in and let your wife suck you while she is getting fucked. Or, maybe you just get on the bed next to her, and she just fondles your cock and balls while he fucks her, and you kiss her, or suck on her tits. In any case, no matter whether you are watching, or participating, when he has dumped his load of cum up her hot snatch, you are “ready”! I mean your cock is as hard as it will ever get!

So, he’s done. He gets up and moves out of the way. You approach the bed, and as you do, you take in the image of this incredibly sexy sight before your eyes! On the bed lies “your wife”! She has just got done having sex with another man! You look at her face. She has sweat on her face and neck. Some of her hair is wet and sticking to her. She is licking her lips with her tongue, trying to get moisture on them. As you know, her mouth always gets dry while she’s having sex. She has that sexually satisfied look on her face that says she has enjoyed what she has just done, but she could still do more! Your gaze moves down to her chest. You can see that she is breathing hard from the physical exertion of the sex she’s just had. Her tits are heaving up and down with her every breath. Her nipples are standing up hard and erect, as they always do when she is sexually excited! You look further down her body to her legs. They are spread wide. Maybe she has the soles of her feet flat on the bed and her knees are up with her legs spread apart. You think to yourself that just a few moments ago, another man was there! Between her legs! You look at the inside of her thighs and you can see that they are all slick with a mixture of his cum and her juices! There is a puddle and big wet spot on the bed under her ass! Her pussy hair, (if she has any), is all wet and matted down. If she’s clean-shaven, you can see that her lower belly, pussy and whole crotch area, is slick with “their wetness”! Your gaze becomes riveted on her pussy. The lips are swollen, and they are that dark reddish color that they become when she’s sexually aroused. In their swollen state, and because they have just had a hard cock between them, they are slightly parted. You can just see the inside of her pussy. It’s completely wet and colored pink to reddish colors that tell you she’s HOT! At the very center of her swollen and slightly parted pussy lips, you can see her fuck hole! Right now it’s just a small oval shape and you can see a puddle of the other man’s cum in it! Some of it has run down her crack and dripped on to the bed! You think to yourself, that there isn’t anything in this world that is sexier than looking at a freshly fucked, full of cum, cunt! Especially, when it’s your wife’s, and the cum belongs to someone else!

You take in this whole scene! The sight of “your wife”, lying there on the bed, freshly fucked, and wanting more, is almost more than you can stand! It’s a wonder you don’t just cum right then and there, without ever getting anything! She is incredibly sexy! She is sexier right now, at this very moment, than you have ever seen her! She takes you by the hand and pulls you on to the bed. With her hands on your waist, she guides you between her legs and pulls you to her. She has just been fucked, but she wants more! She wants you!
As she pulls your pelvis towards hers, she whispers, “Come on, fuck me! Give me some more cock!”

The head of your cock easily slips between her wet pussy lips. In one quick, easy motion, you bury your cock into her cunt as far as it will go! As you slide into her, you can feel how HOT her cunt is! How wet it is! You can feel the other man’s cum being forced out around your cock. It wets your balls and runs down your wife’s crack. You lie there for a moment, motionless. You want to take in this feeling! The feeling of being deep inside your wife’s HOT, freshly fucked, cunt! The feeling of not only her juices making her wet and slippery, but it’s knowing that she is this HOT, and this wet, because her cunt is full of some other guy’s cum, and he just put it there a few moments ago! (This is a part of the experience that cannot be simulated!) The physical and emotional feelings almost overcome you and nearly make you cum! You have just gotten “in”, and already you are on the “edge”! (This is another reason why you lie there “motionless” for a few minutes! You are trying to stay in control! You don’t want this to all be over, too soon!) Finally, you begin to slowly fuck your wife. You move in and out of her well “used” fuck hole with ease!
You passionately kiss her, and as your lips part, she slides her mouth around to your ear and she says, “Come on Baby, let it feel good! Fuck me the way you want to! Give me some more cum up my cunt!”

Then you realize, this is probably one of the best parts of getting sloppy 2nd’s! She’s already been fucked and had her orgasms! This is all about you, now! You don’t have to worry about trying to fuck long enough to satisfy her. You can just concentrate entirely on how good this feels to you! As you begin to get a rhythm going, your wife starts to “fuck you” the best that she can. She moves her ass in “that way” that she knows you like. She starts “milking” your cock with the “squeezes” of her cunt! Your wife has always been the “best piece of ass” you have ever had! But, at times like this, when she isn’t concerned with getting herself off, she can give you a fucking that will never be forgotten! You know that she gave the other guy a great fuck. But! He was just that to her, “a fuck”. Right now, she is not just “fucking you”. She is putting her very sole into making this the best she can for you. She’s not only putting all her physical being into this, but you can also feel her love for you coming through as if your bodies were one, with only one heart!

So, you don’t have to try to “please her”. You can concentrate just on feeling good, yourself. She is trying to give you the best she can because she’s already had her orgasms. You can feel her love coming through in the way she moves her body. There is the eroticism of knowing that you are fucking “your wife” just moments after another man has, and in all likelihood, he is probably still there watching the two of you, or maybe he even joins in now like you were when he was fucking her. All of this combines to give you physical and emotional feelings that could NEVER be simulated! The feelings overcome you and it doesn’t take long before you add your own load of hot cum up your wife’s HOT cunt, to mix with what’s left of his, still inside her!

Once again, you bury your cock in her, and lie motionless on top of her, soaking in the feelings as your heart rate begins to return to normal! You have a few more passionate kisses with your wife, then, you pull your cock out and stand up next to the bed. You take one last look at the sexy image on the bed, which is “your wife”. She looks even more satisfied and sexier than she did before you started! A look at her pussy and you can see that she is now literally soaked all over in her juices, the other man’s cum, and yours! The puddle and wet spot on the bed has doubled in size. She looks so well fucked! So, nasty! So, sluttish! She IS a slut! Your slut! And you love her!

So! There it is! My best attempt at trying to describe what it’s really like to get “sloppy 2nd’s” and why I love it so much! If you have never had the pleasure of the experience yourself, I hope you have enjoyed the explanation. For those of you who have had “sloppy 2nd’s”, how did I do? Did I get it pretty close? Did I miss anything? Maybe you could add what you like most about “sloppy 2nd’s”?

A special note here to the women, who might be reading this…. Ladies, how about those of you who have done this with your husband, giving us your viewpoint on what you like or don’t like about “sloppy 2nd’s”? And…. To those women who have never been willing to do this for their husbands, I hope that my description of what it’s like for a man, (at least for me anyway), might encourage you to try it for your husband! I promise you, it’ll be something that he’ll always love you for!
MY GOD! so beautifully written. Even though I am not getting the sloppy seconds and only get to eat the creampie. The scene you have described so vividly that i envy you because you have expressed what i could not, even though it is exactly how i feel when i get to watch her immidiately after their fucking and his withdrawal. It has me get so aroused, that i had to jack off
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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by jaggu008 » Sun Feb 15, 2015 10:26 pm

allow me reproduce an Answer a counseller gave to the wife, who complains about her husband asking to have sex with other men. This my provide some clues

My Husband Won't Stop Asking Me to Cuckold Him!
I love my husband of 20 years, but our sexual differences are putting a strain on our marriage. Ten years ago, he asked me to talk dirty to him about having sex with other men. It has progressed to him wanting to be a cuckold. I only want to be with him, but he presses the issue by verbalizing cuckold situations during sex. This makes me close my eyes and shut down. By the time he is done, I have no desire to orgasm because I no longer feel attractive. Worse, I feel like I am not enough for him. The only way he can get off is to talk about, think about, or hear me talk about having sex with other men. It makes me feel worthless as a sex partner—which is crazy, because I am attractive and open to a great deal of things (toys, games, dressing up, striptease, etc.). I long for him to touch me, kiss me, and look at me the way he used to. He is a good father and a good provider, and I love him. But this matter is crushing my self-esteem. I won’t stay much longer if this continues. —Extremely Frustrated Female

Your husband was probably reading cuckolding blogs for years before he worked up the nerve to raise the subject, EFFED, and here’s what he’s gleaned: Husband brings it up, wife shoots it down, husband whines, wife agrees to explore it as fantasy only, and then one day—after months or years of dirty talk—wife announces she wants to give it a try. She winds up loving it, she says she regrets waiting so long, and husband lives happily ever after in cuckolded bliss. Reading so many cuckolding success stories—many likely fictitious—has left your husband convinced that if he just keeps at it, one day his wife will want to try it. (Some wives do try it and like it. I got a letter from a woman who’s angry that her husband—after years of dirty talk and a half-dozen cuckolding experiences—has decided that it isn’t for him after all. He doesn’t want her sleeping with other men; she doesn’t want to go back to sleeping with just him. Dr. Cuckenstein created a monster.)
Tell your husband in no uncertain terms that you don’t want to hear about cuckolding anymore. Period. He is free to think about whatever he wants to during sex—we all are—but he has to keep his cuckolding fantasies to himself. Wrap up the convo by informing him that from now on, your sex sessions end the moment the subject of you sleeping with other men is raised. No more closing your eyes and waiting for him to finish. (And what kind of asshole can finish under those circumstances?) If he brings up other men, EFFED, get off the bed, get out of the bedroom, and go to the kitchen and have some ice cream. Your husband needs to find a new erotic script that works for you both. The incentive for him: Since you are open to many things—toys, games, dressing up, striptease—a fantasy scenario that turns you on is likely to become a reality scenario pretty quickly.
Finally, EFFED, cuckolds don’t see their wives as unattractive. Cuckolds see their wives as so desirable—and so insatiable—that they’re incapable of giving their wives all of the sexual attention they deserve. But I can see why you’re upset. You want sex to be about the two of you, about the intimacy you share (or used to share), and your inconsiderate husband is always running his mouth about people who aren’t in the room. It’s understandable that you would feel like you’re not enough for him after 10 years of this bullshit. But your husband’s cuckolding fantasies don’t mean he finds you unattractive—they mean the exact opposite.
Regarding cuckolding, it is a fantasy for lots of married men but not one many take to reality. For my wife of 26 years, we started a cuckolded marriage about 9 years ago and are happy as hell but thats because it works for both of us and not just one of us. Honestly I think if I wasnt happy with it and tried to stop it, my wife would tell me no way. Thats how much she is into it. I have become submissive to her and do all the housework and basically serve her every wish and desire AND she gets to have any hot hunky man she wants. AND we are more in love than ever so please dont write off cuckolding as only a fantasy. LOTS of regular couples are discovering the joys of this type of relationship. As my wife says "I get to have my cake and eat it too."

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by desviado hotwife » Tue Feb 17, 2015 8:35 am

Because he needs to see that she is wanted and appreciated by other men; and that she can be a Slut!

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Re: Why would a man want his woman to fuck another?

Unread post by Lenny » Tue Feb 17, 2015 11:39 am

InigoMontoya wrote:Why would a sane, rational man want his wife to fuck another man?

The above question is a commonly asked question to those who've just heard of this lifestyle. The uninitiated think the answers are simple. The husband is a latent homosexual. The husband doesn't love his wife and is hoping to "bait" her into a divorce by dumping her off on another man. Or maybe the husband wants to fuck other woman and this is the lever he will use to get his wife to allow that. These are the big three themes but in any event the primary assumption is that the husband is being anything but honest and merely using his wife's promiscuity as a deception-based tool for him to achieve some unstated goal that the wife would normally not be agreeable too.

The truth is that the above stated assumption is rarely the case. Is it sometimes? I've no doubt. If the internet tells us one thing it's that there are very few limits to the human experience. But again, those are the exceptions. The truth? Well, it's a bit more complicated than that....but is much less Machiavellian.

So what is the truth?

Well, the truth is that usually the husband really does want to see his wife fuck others. The truth is that the husband rarely has any significant interest in other women. As for that latent homosexuality thing? Eh, sometimes, but that's generally not a real motivator but rather a fringe benefit for those so inclined.

So what are the motivations? They are as varied as the people who enter into the lifestyle but there are common themes. Will I address these themes? Not directly. Rather than profess to speak for all what I endeavor to do here is express MY motivations (and they are both numerous and dependent upon my mood). Beyond that, I would invite other individuals in the lifestyle to present their observations and motivations with the thought that a more complete and meaningful consensus may be formed.

Why I encourage my wife to fuck other men... Sheesh! Typing that gives me flashbacks to 7th Grade English and assignments like "What I did on my summer vacation!" In any event, I'm going to give you, the reader, several thoughts of mine on this topic. My appologies if they are sometimes contradictory and/or not always organized. We're dealing with the human mind and emotions; contradictions and chaos go with the territory.

I like to see my wife fuck other men because I am voyeuristic in nature. The most common expression of my voyeuristic nature is watching porn. I like porn. Most guys do! But what's better than watching porn? Watching real life sex, of course. Why settle for crappy video with a terrible sound track if you can get real live people to have sex in front of you? Now what's even better than a live sex show? A live sex show with the most beautiful woman in the world, of course! And yes, I consider my wife the most beautiful woman in the world. Sure, I'm biased but it doesn't change the allure of watching that magnificent woman get off. What's that, you say? Why don't I just watch her while I have sex with her? It just doesn't work well for me. For starters, there are "camera angles" that a participant can never see. Too, the sensations running through my own body make it difficult (have you ever tried to watch and appreciate somebody else while YOU were having an orgasm?). OK, enough discussion of that angle.

It makes my wife feel beautiful/sexy. Let's face it, men, making your wife feel beautiful/sexy isn't easy after years of marriage. You may tell her that she's beautiful but does she really believe you? If you're me, you're biased and she knows it so hearing "you're beautiful" from me doesn't exactly convince her. What absolutely, positively convinces her that she's beautiful/sexy is some quasi-random guy pursuing her and fucking her brains out. Then she knows that other guys find her beautiful and sexy and that does great things for both her self esteem and her libido. Short version? She ends up feeling better about herself and I get laid a lot more. No losers there!

There are some things one guy simply can not do! I'm a considerate lover and I want my wife to have the most fun and the most powerful orgasms she can have. Most men do, right? But what if it turns out that what really gets her motor running is a guy eating her out while another guy sucks her nipples? One guy simply can not do that; anatomy forbid it (baring siamese twins!). If your wife is such a woman (and mine is), then the only way to really rock her world is to accept help from an outside source. Not every man is confident/comfortable doing so, but I am. Thus another guy allows me to give her sexual experiences that she could otherwise never have.

But most of all, I encourage my wife having sex with others because it is fun.




And with that, I turn the podium over to others who may wish to add to my thoughts.
The latent bisexuality thing is very true in my experience of over 40 years as a bull/lover to culdoldresses. My own wife started out asking her girlfriends to have sex with me. She sometimes watched, joined in or just had sex with me afterwards. She came out of the closet after a few years, as bisexual. More than half of the husbands I cuckolded ended up coming out sooner or later. A few of the wives suspected that their husbands were gay or bi because of the time they spent talking and looking at cocks. I would not dismiss this as easily as you did. Do some research and read what psychologist have to say about this. Those who actually deal with cuckold couples state that more than half of the guys are bisexual or have bisexual interest but want to think of themselves as 100% straight. My wife was like that. The guy I was cuckolding for 25 years is bisexual with a leaning towards men. He just loves when his wife goes on vacation with me because that is free time to entertain men. There is nothing wrong with being bisexual. My wife is and not ashamed of it. She leans more towards women than men which is why she is OK with me having sex with other women. If it makes anyone feel better, try the term heteroFlexible on for size. :)

Most cuckolds never dig deep enough to find the psychological reasons for sharing their wives. After all it is counter productive to avoiding wasting your time and energy to pass along someone else's genes if your wife gets pregnant by another man. We are all here because our ancestors made sure that the babies they raised carried their genes. To go counter to this fundamental driving force is not "normal" because it is not a good behavior to pass on your genes.

I have seen three major reasons in the cuckolds I know. The first is that they like to be humiliated and dominated. The second is that they feel that if other guys desire their wives, it makes their wives even more desirable and makes them feel good that this women who other men want, comes home to them at night. Sort of like having someone test drive you hot new car. The last reason is that the guy is bisexual and using his wife to satisfy that part of him. They usually want to be forced to do things to men, like to eat semen as if where they drink it from makes it an act of a straight man. I have seen all of this. I am sure there are more reasons but lets not just say it is hot and leave it at that. There are underlying reasons for cuckolding.

Holding your wife to a higher plane than you is wife worship and a separate fetish in itself. Your wife is not inherently more deserving of pleasure than you are and if you think she is, you are a submissive. In my marriage we both are deserving of as much sexual pleasure as we can get. I do not ask my wife to act like a porn star to satisfy my sexual fetish and pretend it is all for her benefit. If it is for her, just step aside and let her have with others without letting you watch or telling you what she did. That is love. What you have is a fetish. Nothing wrong with fetishes or a wife participating in them. I do that all the time as does my wife. Just get amused when guys redefine things to make them look like it is all about love for their wife. Quite honestly, if you can sexually satisfy your wife, she will not want or need other men. My wife is free to have sex with anyone at anytime but she says I am enough man for her. I on the other hand have sexual tastes that my wife cannot satisfy so I am free to have other women satisfy them. Once again, there is nothing wrong with not being able to satisfy your spouse because my wife is in the same boat. Just call a spade a spade and do not try to justify it with pseudo science or make it seem as if the cuckold is a more loving husband than others whose wives do not want to be used by other men to satisfy their husbands fantasy.

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Re: Why would a man want his woman to fuck another?

Unread post by Max_Devli » Wed Feb 18, 2015 8:26 pm

Lenny wrote: The latent bisexuality thing is very true in my experience of over 40 years as a bull/lover to culdoldresses. My own wife started out asking her girlfriends to have sex with me. She sometimes watched, joined in or just had sex with me afterwards. She came out of the closet after a few years, as bisexual. More than half of the husbands I cuckolded ended up coming out sooner or later. A few of the wives suspected that their husbands were gay or bi because of the time they spent talking and looking at cocks. I would not dismiss this as easily as you did. Do some research and read what psychologist have to say about this. Those who actually deal with cuckold couples state that more than half of the guys are bisexual or have bisexual interest but want to think of themselves as 100% straight. My wife was like that. The guy I was cuckolding for 25 years is bisexual with a leaning towards men. He just loves when his wife goes on vacation with me because that is free time to entertain men. There is nothing wrong with being bisexual. My wife is and not ashamed of it. She leans more towards women than men which is why she is OK with me having sex with other women. If it makes anyone feel better, try the term heteroFlexible on for size. :)

Most cuckolds never dig deep enough to find the psychological reasons for sharing their wives. After all it is counter productive to avoiding wasting your time and energy to pass along someone else's genes if your wife gets pregnant by another man. We are all here because our ancestors made sure that the babies they raised carried their genes. To go counter to this fundamental driving force is not "normal" because it is not a good behavior to pass on your genes.

I have seen three major reasons in the cuckolds I know. The first is that they like to be humiliated and dominated. The second is that they feel that if other guys desire their wives, it makes their wives even more desirable and makes them feel good that this women who other men want, comes home to them at night. Sort of like having someone test drive you hot new car. The last reason is that the guy is bisexual and using his wife to satisfy that part of him. They usually want to be forced to do things to men, like to eat semen as if where they drink it from makes it an act of a straight man. I have seen all of this. I am sure there are more reasons but lets not just say it is hot and leave it at that. There are underlying reasons for cuckolding.

Holding your wife to a higher plane than you is wife worship and a separate fetish in itself. Your wife is not inherently more deserving of pleasure than you are and if you think she is, you are a submissive. In my marriage we both are deserving of as much sexual pleasure as we can get. I do not ask my wife to act like a porn star to satisfy my sexual fetish and pretend it is all for her benefit. If it is for her, just step aside and let her have with others without letting you watch or telling you what she did. That is love. What you have is a fetish. Nothing wrong with fetishes or a wife participating in them. I do that all the time as does my wife. Just get amused when guys redefine things to make them look like it is all about love for their wife. Quite honestly, if you can sexually satisfy your wife, she will not want or need other men. My wife is free to have sex with anyone at anytime but she says I am enough man for her. I on the other hand have sexual tastes that my wife cannot satisfy so I am free to have other women satisfy them. Once again, there is nothing wrong with not being able to satisfy your spouse because my wife is in the same boat. Just call a spade a spade and do not try to justify it with pseudo science or make it seem as if the cuckold is a more loving husband than others whose wives do not want to be used by other men to satisfy their husbands fantasy.

For you to try to pigeon-hole everyone into those few categories is over simplification. Also, which psychologist are you referencing regarding the percentage of men who are really bisexual in these lifestyles? I've never read that statistic anywhere, and I've read a great deal on these subject matters.

Further, I'm quite sure there are many men on this site who are quite capable of satisfying their partners, and do. For you to make a blanket statement that a man isn't 'good enough' at creating sexual satisfaction because the woman he's with enjoys the time of others is a spurious one. Do swingers earn the same distinction from you, as they both enjoy the company of other people?

I'm quite sure you're a self-assured 'manly man', and very proud of your wife not wanting anyone else. Unless of course it's simply for the fact that your wife doesn't have enough interest in sex to justify spending time with or fantasizing about other people. Which of course is a very common theme among people who aren't participating in this lifestyle.

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