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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Jersey Mike » Thu Feb 19, 2015 9:59 am

Very informative thread

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by bull studman 10 » Sat Feb 21, 2015 3:16 pm

Short"reply if you' re not satisfying her ,good reason to try cuckold wife sharing ,that you could arrange and watch
because if she happy you better dam be too !

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Re: Why would a man want his woman to fuck another?

Unread post by bull studman 10 » Sat Feb 21, 2015 3:19 pm

sonny wrote:odyexplorer,

We follow "THE TEN RULES OF AN OPEN MARRAIGE" and that has been a very good decision. Each knows his ir her position and the extra guy realizes he only enjoys my wife at my pleasure and to which she readlily agrees.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by NancyLewis » Sun Feb 22, 2015 7:38 pm

For all those who ask the question, TriangleTangle has done a maginificent thing. He posted the most definitive list of reasons why I've ever seen on this site in: "Non-Fiction: Compersion and The Cool Fire of Hotwife".

Reasons why men want their wife to have sex with others:
o Because it is fun
o Because I am I am voyeuristic in nature
o It makes my wife feel beautiful and sexy
o Because I want my wife to have the most fun and the most powerful orgasms she can have
o Because that is exactly what she wants to do
o I am not sure why
o I have given up on trying to really understand exactly why
o She comes back a new woman; I must fuck her again to call her mine and reclaim her
o Because she enjoys it
o Because it helps cure me of thinking possessively
o Because I enjoy viewing her as the free independent spirit that she truly is
o Because I like watching my wife have sex
o Because I want to see a larger cock in her
o Because I get a sexual high when she plays
o To get more sexual stimulation than the norm
o Because I get off on sloppy seconds
o Because I want her to experience as much variety and pleasure as possible
o Because she is too good to keep her for myself and I want to see others enjoying her
o I want her to enjoy sexual freedom
o It turns me on
o Because it’s all about her
o To see other men enjoy her womanly charms
o Because I am proud of her and want others to validate that
o Because it is exciting to tempt fate for excitement and adventure
o Because I want to push the envelope of the relationship and risk the ultimate sacrifice
o Because I want to bring out the sexy and confident woman in hiding
o Because her fucking other men turns me on like nothing else
o Because it flies in the face of conventional societal mores
o Because I like to see the crazy animal in her come out from her usually conservative self
o Because she makes the best live porn
o Because it makes the sex better between the two of us
o Because I like how she turns other men on and them knowing she is mine
o So I can lose her then win her back again and again
o I could never put my finger on it
o Because we men are whores
o Because men wish they had been born a women to get all the sex we want
o Because I want to see the cum of a stranger in her pussy
o Because I want to clean another man’s cum out of her pussy
o To get the psychological kick I am looking for even more than the physical pleasure
o Because we both love it
o Because I have some voyeuristic tendencies and she is an exhibitionist
o Because we trust each other
o Because I love seeing her enjoy herself and seeing others appreciate her
o Because she loves the way I feel so possessive, not jealous, afterwards
o Because I love seeing her enjoy herself and participating in her pleasure
o After all these years, I really still do not have any clue
o Because I wanted to share her beauty and deliciousness
o Because I enjoy fucking my wife’s cum-filled pussy
o Because it is forbidden and taboo
o Because it is a total turn on and it does a lot for her too
o Because I like to watch her fuck from another perspective and from a distance
o Because I want her to lose her inhibitions
o Because I get to see what I can’t see when I’m having sex with her
o Because it recaptures the spark and rekindles the fire between us
o Because we both enjoy seeing each other pleasuring and being pleasured as a shared experience
o Because it drives us mad
o Because I learn things about what she likes and doesn't like
o Because it makes us closer as a couple
o Because my dick is too small and I enjoy seeing her cum
o Because she has a much higher sex drive than I do and it fills her sexual needs
o Because I get rewarded with a hot wet pussy
o Because it makes me feel sexier and more of a man
o Because I enjoy the vicarious thrill out of her ability to enjoy her sexuality so fully
o Because I love the taste of a cream pie
o Because I love helping her prepare for the long hours of heavy fucking and sucking that will take place as soon as he enters our very private home
o Because I love the complete serenity that follows after all of us have share the most intimate pleasures, kinks and taboos that so many do not get to experience
o Because I get off watching her kiss another man
o Because he fucks me more frequently as a result
o Because I love sexually aggressive women
o Because it re energizes our love life, our sex life, our friendship, and adds passion
o Because I want her to enjoy the best sex possible (different styles, shapes, sizes)
o Because I want other men to envy me
o Because It adds another level or dimension of intimacy in our relationship
o Because it allows her to venture out
o Because I get off knowing she is getting off
o Because I love sluts
o Because I can’t keep up with her libido
o I know exactly why I do it. Addiction.
o Because it generates that rush of emotions and bodily chemicals that can only be induced by her giving another man attention
o Because I’ve become bored with vanilla sex
o Because there is nothing more erotic, taboo, and challenging as watching your wife act slutty for a moment
o Because it motivates me to bust my ass to keep her!
o Because when sex is wild we want more
o Knowing she loves being a slut....because in real life she isn’t, she is the honorable, loyal, committed loving wife
o Because she becomes everything you’ve ever fantasized about
o Because it boosts the ego for both of us
o Because we both get excited and turned on by it
o Because it brings me closer to my wife than I ever thought possible; it is like a Vulcan mind merge.
o Because it helps to settle male/male competition issues and creates a more cooperative erotic life
o Because I like not having to be in charge all the time, to give up control, to be in a sense dominated and still be loved and accepted by the one that we love the most. All without the guilt or judgment that would normally come with it.
o Because it allows to give one's love the freedom to be what they're not supposed to be, or so says society yet secretly want to be
o Because it enables one to be sexually alive and fully aware of ourselves with the safety and security of love's ultimate acceptance and understanding of one's needs and desires to be fulfilled and the craving satisfied.
o Because it allows a typical woman or wife to be or act like a slut without the negative ramifications that has always come with it.
o Because I enjoy the 100% visual aspect of it
o For her it is because she is a very sexual lady and enjoys sex
o Because it is so taboo and so sexy!
o Because I love eating pussy cream pies when another guy fills her up
o Because I brings me pleasure seeing my wife enjoying herself sexually, not giving a dam about society rules
o Because it brings the husband and wife closer together physically, emotionally and sexually
o Because she enjoys a big black cock once in a while and since that's what she wants and it doesn't have any bearing on our relationship
o Because I view my wife in a state of euphoria in a sexual climate. This not only enhances her pleasures but ours alike.
o Because you have no idea how sexy your wife is until another man is fucking her
o Because it makes our sex better/sexier somehow
o Because there is no sexual thrill like it for me.
o Because the best thrill of all is knowing my wife was coming home full of cum after screwing another man
o Because it keeps it completely hot and smok'in and growing as a couple
o Because I enjoy seeing excitement and enjoyment in her face and eyes. It’s like Christmas every time.
o Because I love my wife and feel the need to allow her to enjoy ultimate sexual fulfillment.
o Because I have an even deeper desire to have her after he is finished with her.
o Because there is nothing more satisfying to me than to see my wife orgasm while being made love to by her lovers and then being invited to add my sperm to theirs inside her.
o Because I don’t have to try to “please her” after she has just been fucked by another man. I can concentrate just on feeling good myself because she is trying to give me the best she can because she’s already had her orgasms. I can feel her love coming through in the way she moves her body.
o Because besides being healthy and great exercise, sex is what we live for as a species
o Because men enjoy the idea of their wives being attractive to other men. It validates their choice of that woman
o For me it is all about her pleasure
o My primary motivation is living all the "firsts" vicariously again through another guy
o Because I have a hard time giving my wife an orgasm
o Because I love having sex with her after another man has cum in her; there is nothing better than "sloppy seconds".
o Because I enjoy knowing that other men find my wife attractive
o Because I am intensely pleased that she is being pleased by another man
o Because afterwards the talk always seems to intensify our sex
o Because she will eventually tire of you and cheat. So why not give her Prince Charming and head it off at the pass and save each other the nasty break-up and divorce?
o Because I just love seeing my wife in sexual euphoria
o Because of how much more attractive she has become to other women and by default me as well - although I attribute that mostly to having to "fluff my plumage and feathers and beat my chest" more often to keep up with her.
o Because I enjoy the way she works out, glows, tans, trims, primps and stays date hot all the time.
o Because I just want to watch the expression on my wife’s face when she has a huge cock stretching her pussy
o Because watching the love of my life being passionately fucked by another man is the most beautiful and erotic thing I've ever seen in my life. The way her whole being responded to his touch and thrusts, the way she clung to him and tried to get every bit of him inside her and the look of complete surrender in her eyes was the most gorgeous thing I had ever witnessed.
o Because every time she goes out or her boyfriend comes over that craving begins and I can't wait to get my hands on her
o Because it is very stimulating to have that rush of emotions of desire, jealousy, fear, anger, humiliation, and other passions… This excitement conquers the boredom and routine that can enter into any long-term relationship.
o Because it increases a couple’s own pleasure and excitement.
o Because romantic love occurs during the chase of a potential partner, but passion declines when the sex object is obtained and secure. The hotwife or cuckold scenario starts the chase all over again.
o Because men become more aroused when the female partner also is aroused and when other men want her or have had her -- the "sperm wars" competition. This arousal can be further increased by adding other emotions to the mix.
o I enjoy the fact that she is driving another guy crazy, plus visualizing it or watching is the best porn you can get-starring your wife of course.
o Because she enjoys the chase, being desired by other men, and especially the seduction of younger men.
o Giving her the freedom to do something that's pleasurable for her but not usually socially accepted.
o Because of the groin-tingling thrill of it.
o Because if you're lucky enough to witness it. It is porn and your wife is the porn star! What ordinary porn could ever compare with that?
o Because of the excitement of the honesty and openness - she can tell you she prefers the way another guy fucks her, adores his cock, that her favorite lover is the best sex of her life. Wow! I personally think that's unbelievably hot.
o Because I enjoy her coming home and telling me all the juicy details
o Because it makes her horny and wet. Hell, even talking dirty on msn with one of her lovers gets her really wet. So, more sex and more exciting sex (due to new material for pillow talk) when she communicates or has sex with her lovers.
o Because the smell of his dried cum/sweat on her skin excites me sexually
o Because it excites me when she when she daydreams about sex with one of her lovers, and says she looks forward to getting thoroughly screwed by him as soon as possible
o Why the hell not?
o Because I feel it is a deeper need to make her feel happier because she worth it!
o Because it spices up your sexual life especially if you feel sexually inadequate to cover her needs
o Because it SUPERCHARGES a man’s own relationship with his wife. Fucking rocket fuel, I tell you
o Because knowing that she is lusty in this way makes my woman even more exciting to me. And knowing that she possesses the strength of will and free-spiritedness to act on such wants is irresistible.
o Because me giving her up to other men are all a part of learning to let go while keeping love and devotion intact; it fosters deeper appreciation and arousal for each of us.
o Because I tend to think of her fucking someone else as foreplay. If she is going alone, I have all these thoughts, fantasies, feelings and emotions running thru my head. I'll think to myself, is she there yet? Is she sucking him now? Is he fucking her now? Damn I wish she'd hurry home... Some call it angst; I think of it a sense of wonder. If we are together, I still get those feelings, but I am more visually in tune, I enjoy watching her, and I enjoy listening to her get pleasured. My senses are heightened.
o Because men love to adore women and women love to be adored. What could be more adorable than a woman who is adored by others and enjoys them adoring her?
o Because we only live once - why not have fun while we can?
o She loves telling me the play by play afterwards and loves how it turns me on and can't wait to come home after so she can be ‘punished’
o The Obvious: I get off on my pretty wife getting ravaged by another guy's big dick and seeing how much excitement and satisfaction it brings her.
o Because it pushes some psychological buttons that give me thrill unlike any other. It's like stroking an exposed nerve, which in this case is some kind of deep insecurity and related submissiveness.
o Because it is adventurous, perks us up and we both know she wants it once in a while.
o She gets a kick out of it and turns her on.
o Because it is a huge ego booster and motivates her self-care and exercise. It helps to settle male/male competition issues and creates a more cooperative erotic life. The whole mindset is something like a multidimensional vibrator.
o Because nothing is hotter than seeing her in ecstasy or savoring memories of the events while she describes them to me. I get to see her as a sexual being, a loving wife, and of course my lover as well.
o Because the thought of her... with him, dressed like a slut, begging for it, pleading with me to let her see him even as I twist in mishmash of jealousy, rage, and horniness.
o Because it’s a naughty dream that make me want her so much more each day
o Because I enjoy the bonding opportunities to both shop for the wife's clothing and accessories as well as physically helping prepare her for dates (dressing, makeup, shaving, advice on what's hot, etc.)
o Because it is hot entertainment when witnessing the wife being picked up on (pride in her attractiveness)
o Because it gives me goose bumps watching her smile and unwavering attention on someone other than yourself that she's attracted to.
o Because it releases her conservative, vanilla personality and watching it slowly bloom into a hot smoldering temptress.
o Because it rekindles the feeling of that "new" relationship, not only by rediscovering ourselves but also discovering her new fuck buddy.
o Because it allows her to re-entering the world of dating without the added pressure of finding the perfect mate. We are able to ignore the qualities normally looked for in a new relationship and focus on the more seductive, basic physical desires that often take a back seat in relationships.
o Because I enjoy watching her become more of a person for me to win back - someone in-demand by other men but who chooses to come back to me
o Because it provides an opportunity to renew her self-confidence by being told by multiple men that she is desirable (hubby's opinion means little as it's "expected" he will say those things).
o Because of the evidence it provides when other men are truly aroused and satisfied, receiving their cum - boosts her self-confidence.
o Because she suddenly taking an aggressive interest in improving her body and appearance as she dresses for other men, feeling sexy and desired
o Because it allows her to openly admit which men she finds attractive and the willingness to start initiating meetings herself
o Because I like the enjoyment from the role-play involved in acting like she is single again, being picked up on by guys at bars and the anticipation of new activities with new men
o Because it makes her feel young and alive again, like the world is new when being pursued with sexually satisfying results
o Because it grows her desire to explore the world, to get out of her box and escape some deep-seeded and emotional insecurities placed upon by others (and herself) over the years.
o Because I love lying in bed getting the details of a night out with a fuck buddy while she is sucking me. I love watching her make out with him, culminating with an orgasm while wrapped around his cock. It strengthens our bond while creating a lot of hot sex.
o Because seeing her enjoy sex without any attachment or attraction to her partner gave me a new vision of her when she becomes purely a sexual being.
o Because sharing her with other men to me, is like one more way to make love to her - to give her even more pleasure than I am capable of giving her by myself.
o Because I have pride in my wife's beauty, desirability and her sexual ability to give and receive so much pleasure. Like someone said, it is kind of like having the hottest, fastest, coolest car around; who the hell would want to hide that and not show off its performance to ah-struck, envious other guys. But that is just one of many factors.
o Because there is nothing hotter than to see the woman I love in the throes of passion and orgasm with one or more other men. Well, there is one more better thing - the sensuous and loving reconnection and the incredible sight, smell, feel and taste of my wife's freshly fucked, cum filled pussy. Even sound too, as the sloshing sounds, sighs, moans, screams and shared verbal pleasures and sounds as she fires off an incredible string of orgasms. The wild stimulation of all five senses, plus the love, wow!!
o Because the more my wife has sex with other men, the more sex she has with me.
o Because I get my thrills from seeing her suck and fuck him (your own porn up close), plus I get to experience the semi-submissive feelings of giving her to another man and yes (hopefully) I will get to experience the thrill of silky seconds.....but I also want very much for her to experience the release and freedom of opening up sexually with another guy where she feels safe...with him and me.
o Because it renews the entire relationship. I feel like I'm dating my wife all over again.
o Because jealousy, lust and excitement are all tied and her sleeping with other men really saved our marriage.
o I need to see the ‘action’, whereas hubby can get just as turned on imagining my goings on when I go off to a club.
o Because every man loves to see his wife as a slut.
o Because I enjoy the vicarious erotic thrill knowing that my wife and her lover are enjoying each other. The more pleasures and enjoyment they give each other serves to increase my vicarious pleasures.
o Because I want to keep her well-dicked and happy, to see that glow, and then to go crazy with her when it's your turn to `reclaim' her.
o Because my wife never looks sexier than when she's naked, staring right at me, moaning and cumming while another man has his dick buried deep in her pussy
o Because it brings out her naughty side
o Because some boys like to share their toys
o Because I enjoy how hot it makes her thinking and talking about it, seeing and feeling how hot her orgasms are after 20 years of marriage, seeing her dress sluttier, showing pride in her sexual liberation, watching her flirt with other men, glowing as she dances with them, seeing her orgasm on another man's cock, taking pride in her oral skills as she sucks another man's cock, fucks my brains out, whether when we are with another, or by ourselves, little things like flashing a trucker, playing with a toy while we go down the road, seeing her excitement as she begins the search for another lover and how she gets hotter as the day arrives, oftentimes becoming a cock craving slut when the moment arrives...and oh so much more.
o Because I believe it prevents the two partners from cheating on each other and I think shows the husband's love for his wife. He is not locking her up and keeping him all for his own desires, but allowing her to meet her needs as well. Love and sex is not the same thing and most people don't understand that. And loving someone is not the same as being in love with them.
o Because it’s a special gift from me. I love her and trust her love for me unconditionally. There is no greater proof of that than to allow her to be with other men
o Because it is extremely exciting. It is probably akin to a pilot training for emergencies in a flight simulator. In the back of your mind you know there will be no real harm but that does not stop the front of your mind from setting off all the appropriate alarm bells and letting the adrenalin flow
o Because it is adventuresome. I doubt that many old people sit around later in life regretting wild things they did when they were younger. Far better to look back and smile to yourself remembering the good times.
o Because it enhances our sex life. After four years sex between us is still almost as hot as ever largely due to our 'extra-curricular activities'.
o Because it makes me love her more. After she is with someone else I practically burst at the seams with love for her. It’s almost like being in love for the first time again complete with butterflies in the stomach. The state of pseudo 'competition' for her affections causes me to 'woo her' all over again, just like when we were first dating.
o Because it makes her feel sexy and beautiful. It’s easy for me to tell her that she is beautiful but of course I'm biased. For her to attract and bed another man makes her feel that she really is attractive and desirable. And the more she believes it the sexier and beautiful she gets. It’s a win-win situation.
o Because it's HOT. The images in my mind (and every once in awhile live and up close!) of her in the arms of another man and her letting him use her is extremely arousing to me. I don't know why that is but it isn't too uncommon (and there are certainly a thousand other things that people get off on that are way kinkier than that!).
o Because it’s natural. It’s an undisputed fact that men and women are pre-disposed to be promiscuous. Acceptance of this is so much easier than denial.
o Because it’s smart. The number one cause of a relationship failing is infidelity. If you can find a way around that you're much more likely to live happily ever after. Is the grass really greener over the fence? Go roll around in it and find out, just be home by morning.
o Because I think we're perfect for each other. We are so much alike yet just different enough to keep things interesting. I don't worry (much) about her finding someone so much better than me that she'd consider trading me in.
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o Because underneath the goody goody, church going, homeschooling mom she is there was there is a Slut aching to get out. I figured it was a matter of time b4 she found some stranger on her own.
o The thrill of `reclaiming' her after she has been with a lover/boyfriend, the physical thrill of the release into her, knowing you are making her your wife again.
o Because it is truly amazing to watch her face, hear her moans, and see her with cum sprayed on her. It makes for a thrilling marriage. I guess I am a voyeur. I participate after he is done, usually when we get home.
o The way she works out, glows, tans, trims, primps and stays date hot all the time.
o Because I just love seeing my wife in sexual euphoria.
o Because it is so fucking hot and incredible. Just like her.

Reasons in Her Words:

o It really gets him going when I tell him the number of men I'm aiming at fucking whilst out. Also great pleasure in seeing the names of the guys I've just played with being texted through.
o Because it makes me feel like a princess, a very turned on, sexy, hot, wet, slutty, dirty, naughty, fucked little Princess. I love it.
o Because I love the thought of men pawing over me
o Because I'm turned on knowing he is so turned on
o Because I am extremely excited seeing him excited.
o I need to see the ‘action’, whereas hubby can get just as turned on imagining my goings on when I go off to a club.
o Because the wife is a desired sex object wanted and enjoyed by other men. The husband may be lagging behind his competitors. The wife is excited to be pursued and desired, and to have the power of choosing among her suitors. She can retain the security of the marriage while enjoying the variety and vanity of dating knowing all the while that her husband loves her more for playing this game.
o Because there is there's more to the motivation when seen from a woman's viewpoint like, higher self-esteem and narcissism when desired by many men, and the "Dating Years" being the high point in many women's lives.
o Because I think of this as a challenge for him. He sees that there are multiple men out there vying for my attention, him included. I would think that if he sees this he would be the one trying the hardest to keep me. In this situation what would keep him from losing me if some "knight in shining armor" decides to come and sweep me off my feet? Obviously he does not want to lose me, he loves me. I am his best friend. So in turn he has to try harder to keep me happy in all aspects of our life.
o Because I can make the decision to be with whomever I want, if they are lucky enough. I can cut him off if "I have a headache tonight". I can tell him that I want him to do certain things to me right now after I have been with one of my "fuck buddies". He will always be the one I come home to. He will always be my comfortable place. I do not ever want our sex life to be mundane and boring. I always want there to be this deeper level of excitement and passion. I want to learn new things and bring them home to him because at the end of the day he is mine and I his. So regardless of who I am with that day we will always have each other.
o Because seeing a woman writhing as my husband gives her cunnilingus sends such horny feelings through me. Feeling his arse as he pounds her - such a rush and makes for lots of dirty talk about it for weeks after (a rare HotHusband!)

Common Hotwifing Myths:
o He is a latent homosexual
o He is looking for an excuse to fuck other women
o He is not manly
o He is a closet submissive
o He doesn’t satisfy her
o His dick is too small
o He’s trying to get rid of her
o He’s crazy
o He had damaging childhood or emotional drama in his past
o Because there are issues with the marriage or the relationship

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by shorebird » Mon Feb 23, 2015 6:27 am

Yes but besides that ;-)

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Unread post by pinkandneo » Mon Feb 23, 2015 2:53 pm

Great post nancylewis.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Pinks Hubby » Sat Feb 28, 2015 4:19 am

This is a facinating subject to me lately, and I am just starting to explore the fantasy with Pink Angel. She has been wonderful in role playing with me in the bedroom, and she has been very accomodating of exploring what turns me on. I understand that this is a lot of effort for her, solely for my pleasure, and I am so glad that she is willing to do that for me. However, neither one of us is comfortable progressing beyond role playing at this point.

Pink Angel has lots of questions about this fantasy of mine, and I don't do a very good job of explaining why it turns me on to fantasize seeing her with another man. I read TriangleTangle's post on compersion: http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=8&t=20879, and this helped me to put what I am feeling into words.

I am beginning to understand the feelings behind what turns me on when we role play, and TriangleTangle's post covers almost all of them. However, I understand that it is selfish to think that this is my fantasy only. When Pink Angel and I role play, what turns her on is just as important.

She has said that she would be turned on by an dominant male who is tall, muscular, younger, educated, and treats her like a lady while being passionate in bed. Not being a tall man myself, I can relate to husbands who watch their wives with men who are more endowed than they are. Just like them, I cannot change how tall I am.

Watching her receive pleasure, whether it is from me or not, is what turns me on the most. There are certain drivers of pleasure that I cannot provide, such as her having sex with a tall, muscular man or being penetrated for long periods of time or several times a night like a younger man can. These are obviously things that would stir feelings of jealousy in me, but they would also turn me on at the same time. She often surprises me during role play by unexpectedly saying something that causes me to become jealous. Not expecting her to say it makes the jealous feelings real for me.

As many others have said here, Pink Angel says that I am more attentive to her needs now that we role play. So, I guess that the fantasy turns my focus fully on her. It reminds me to be the husband that Pink Angel wants me to be everyday. Combined with seeing the higher level of sexual pleasure with the help of another man, my thought process is that she would be a happier person. Not to say that she is unhappy now, but I fantasize that she would be happier. Just like she brings me enourmous sexual pleasure from role playing, I want her to her have the maximum amount of sexual pleasure also.

So basically, I want Pink Angel to sleep with another man, because it turns me on to see her experience more sexual pleasure than I can provide, and I want to be reminded to be the best husband to her that I can. She is the most precious thing to me in life, and it turns me on to see her at her best.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by MrsNuckingFuts » Sat Feb 28, 2015 1:07 pm

NancyLewis wrote:For all those who ask the question, TriangleTangle has done a maginificent thing. He posted the most definitive list of reasons why I've ever seen on this site in: "Non-Fiction: Compersion and The Cool Fire of Hotwife".

Reasons why men want their wife to have sex with others:
o Because it is fun
o Because I am I am voyeuristic in nature
o It makes my wife feel beautiful and sexy
o Because I want my wife to have the most fun and the most powerful orgasms she can have
o Because that is exactly what she wants to do
o I am not sure why
o I have given up on trying to really understand exactly why
o She comes back a new woman; I must fuck her again to call her mine and reclaim her
o Because she enjoys it
o Because it helps cure me of thinking possessively
o Because I enjoy viewing her as the free independent spirit that she truly is
o Because I like watching my wife have sex
o Because I want to see a larger cock in her
o Because I get a sexual high when she plays
o To get more sexual stimulation than the norm
o Because I get off on sloppy seconds
o Because I want her to experience as much variety and pleasure as possible
o Because she is too good to keep her for myself and I want to see others enjoying her
o I want her to enjoy sexual freedom
o It turns me on
o Because it’s all about her
o To see other men enjoy her womanly charms
o Because I am proud of her and want others to validate that
o Because it is exciting to tempt fate for excitement and adventure
o Because I want to push the envelope of the relationship and risk the ultimate sacrifice
o Because I want to bring out the sexy and confident woman in hiding
o Because her fucking other men turns me on like nothing else
o Because it flies in the face of conventional societal mores
o Because I like to see the crazy animal in her come out from her usually conservative self
o Because she makes the best live porn
o Because it makes the sex better between the two of us
o Because I like how she turns other men on and them knowing she is mine
o So I can lose her then win her back again and again
o I could never put my finger on it
o Because we men are whores
o Because men wish they had been born a women to get all the sex we want
o Because I want to see the cum of a stranger in her pussy
o Because I want to clean another man’s cum out of her pussy
o To get the psychological kick I am looking for even more than the physical pleasure
o Because we both love it
o Because I have some voyeuristic tendencies and she is an exhibitionist
o Because we trust each other
o Because I love seeing her enjoy herself and seeing others appreciate her
o Because she loves the way I feel so possessive, not jealous, afterwards
o Because I love seeing her enjoy herself and participating in her pleasure
o After all these years, I really still do not have any clue
o Because I wanted to share her beauty and deliciousness
o Because I enjoy fucking my wife’s cum-filled pussy
o Because it is forbidden and taboo
o Because it is a total turn on and it does a lot for her too
o Because I like to watch her fuck from another perspective and from a distance
o Because I want her to lose her inhibitions
o Because I get to see what I can’t see when I’m having sex with her
o Because it recaptures the spark and rekindles the fire between us
o Because we both enjoy seeing each other pleasuring and being pleasured as a shared experience
o Because it drives us mad
o Because I learn things about what she likes and doesn't like
o Because it makes us closer as a couple
o Because my dick is too small and I enjoy seeing her cum
o Because she has a much higher sex drive than I do and it fills her sexual needs
o Because I get rewarded with a hot wet pussy
o Because it makes me feel sexier and more of a man
o Because I enjoy the vicarious thrill out of her ability to enjoy her sexuality so fully
o Because I love the taste of a cream pie
o Because I love helping her prepare for the long hours of heavy fucking and sucking that will take place as soon as he enters our very private home
o Because I love the complete serenity that follows after all of us have share the most intimate pleasures, kinks and taboos that so many do not get to experience
o Because I get off watching her kiss another man
o Because he fucks me more frequently as a result
o Because I love sexually aggressive women
o Because it re energizes our love life, our sex life, our friendship, and adds passion
o Because I want her to enjoy the best sex possible (different styles, shapes, sizes)
o Because I want other men to envy me
o Because It adds another level or dimension of intimacy in our relationship
o Because it allows her to venture out
o Because I get off knowing she is getting off
o Because I love sluts
o Because I can’t keep up with her libido
o I know exactly why I do it. Addiction.
o Because it generates that rush of emotions and bodily chemicals that can only be induced by her giving another man attention
o Because I’ve become bored with vanilla sex
o Because there is nothing more erotic, taboo, and challenging as watching your wife act slutty for a moment
o Because it motivates me to bust my ass to keep her!
o Because when sex is wild we want more
o Knowing she loves being a slut....because in real life she isn’t, she is the honorable, loyal, committed loving wife
o Because she becomes everything you’ve ever fantasized about
o Because it boosts the ego for both of us
o Because we both get excited and turned on by it
o Because it brings me closer to my wife than I ever thought possible; it is like a Vulcan mind merge.
o Because it helps to settle male/male competition issues and creates a more cooperative erotic life
o Because I like not having to be in charge all the time, to give up control, to be in a sense dominated and still be loved and accepted by the one that we love the most. All without the guilt or judgment that would normally come with it.
o Because it allows to give one's love the freedom to be what they're not supposed to be, or so says society yet secretly want to be
o Because it enables one to be sexually alive and fully aware of ourselves with the safety and security of love's ultimate acceptance and understanding of one's needs and desires to be fulfilled and the craving satisfied.
o Because it allows a typical woman or wife to be or act like a slut without the negative ramifications that has always come with it.
o Because I enjoy the 100% visual aspect of it
o For her it is because she is a very sexual lady and enjoys sex
o Because it is so taboo and so sexy!
o Because I love eating pussy cream pies when another guy fills her up
o Because I brings me pleasure seeing my wife enjoying herself sexually, not giving a dam about society rules
o Because it brings the husband and wife closer together physically, emotionally and sexually
o Because she enjoys a big black cock once in a while and since that's what she wants and it doesn't have any bearing on our relationship
o Because I view my wife in a state of euphoria in a sexual climate. This not only enhances her pleasures but ours alike.
o Because you have no idea how sexy your wife is until another man is fucking her
o Because it makes our sex better/sexier somehow
o Because there is no sexual thrill like it for me.
o Because the best thrill of all is knowing my wife was coming home full of cum after screwing another man
o Because it keeps it completely hot and smok'in and growing as a couple
o Because I enjoy seeing excitement and enjoyment in her face and eyes. It’s like Christmas every time.
o Because I love my wife and feel the need to allow her to enjoy ultimate sexual fulfillment.
o Because I have an even deeper desire to have her after he is finished with her.
o Because there is nothing more satisfying to me than to see my wife orgasm while being made love to by her lovers and then being invited to add my sperm to theirs inside her.
o Because I don’t have to try to “please her” after she has just been fucked by another man. I can concentrate just on feeling good myself because she is trying to give me the best she can because she’s already had her orgasms. I can feel her love coming through in the way she moves her body.
o Because besides being healthy and great exercise, sex is what we live for as a species
o Because men enjoy the idea of their wives being attractive to other men. It validates their choice of that woman
o For me it is all about her pleasure
o My primary motivation is living all the "firsts" vicariously again through another guy
o Because I have a hard time giving my wife an orgasm
o Because I love having sex with her after another man has cum in her; there is nothing better than "sloppy seconds".
o Because I enjoy knowing that other men find my wife attractive
o Because I am intensely pleased that she is being pleased by another man
o Because afterwards the talk always seems to intensify our sex
o Because she will eventually tire of you and cheat. So why not give her Prince Charming and head it off at the pass and save each other the nasty break-up and divorce?
o Because I just love seeing my wife in sexual euphoria
o Because of how much more attractive she has become to other women and by default me as well - although I attribute that mostly to having to "fluff my plumage and feathers and beat my chest" more often to keep up with her.
o Because I enjoy the way she works out, glows, tans, trims, primps and stays date hot all the time.
o Because I just want to watch the expression on my wife’s face when she has a huge cock stretching her pussy
o Because watching the love of my life being passionately fucked by another man is the most beautiful and erotic thing I've ever seen in my life. The way her whole being responded to his touch and thrusts, the way she clung to him and tried to get every bit of him inside her and the look of complete surrender in her eyes was the most gorgeous thing I had ever witnessed.
o Because every time she goes out or her boyfriend comes over that craving begins and I can't wait to get my hands on her
o Because it is very stimulating to have that rush of emotions of desire, jealousy, fear, anger, humiliation, and other passions… This excitement conquers the boredom and routine that can enter into any long-term relationship.
o Because it increases a couple’s own pleasure and excitement.
o Because romantic love occurs during the chase of a potential partner, but passion declines when the sex object is obtained and secure. The hotwife or cuckold scenario starts the chase all over again.
o Because men become more aroused when the female partner also is aroused and when other men want her or have had her -- the "sperm wars" competition. This arousal can be further increased by adding other emotions to the mix.
o I enjoy the fact that she is driving another guy crazy, plus visualizing it or watching is the best porn you can get-starring your wife of course.
o Because she enjoys the chase, being desired by other men, and especially the seduction of younger men.
o Giving her the freedom to do something that's pleasurable for her but not usually socially accepted.
o Because of the groin-tingling thrill of it.
o Because if you're lucky enough to witness it. It is porn and your wife is the porn star! What ordinary porn could ever compare with that?
o Because of the excitement of the honesty and openness - she can tell you she prefers the way another guy fucks her, adores his cock, that her favorite lover is the best sex of her life. Wow! I personally think that's unbelievably hot.
o Because I enjoy her coming home and telling me all the juicy details
o Because it makes her horny and wet. Hell, even talking dirty on msn with one of her lovers gets her really wet. So, more sex and more exciting sex (due to new material for pillow talk) when she communicates or has sex with her lovers.
o Because the smell of his dried cum/sweat on her skin excites me sexually
o Because it excites me when she when she daydreams about sex with one of her lovers, and says she looks forward to getting thoroughly screwed by him as soon as possible
o Why the hell not?
o Because I feel it is a deeper need to make her feel happier because she worth it!
o Because it spices up your sexual life especially if you feel sexually inadequate to cover her needs
o Because it SUPERCHARGES a man’s own relationship with his wife. Fucking rocket fuel, I tell you
o Because knowing that she is lusty in this way makes my woman even more exciting to me. And knowing that she possesses the strength of will and free-spiritedness to act on such wants is irresistible.
o Because me giving her up to other men are all a part of learning to let go while keeping love and devotion intact; it fosters deeper appreciation and arousal for each of us.
o Because I tend to think of her fucking someone else as foreplay. If she is going alone, I have all these thoughts, fantasies, feelings and emotions running thru my head. I'll think to myself, is she there yet? Is she sucking him now? Is he fucking her now? Damn I wish she'd hurry home... Some call it angst; I think of it a sense of wonder. If we are together, I still get those feelings, but I am more visually in tune, I enjoy watching her, and I enjoy listening to her get pleasured. My senses are heightened.
o Because men love to adore women and women love to be adored. What could be more adorable than a woman who is adored by others and enjoys them adoring her?
o Because we only live once - why not have fun while we can?
o She loves telling me the play by play afterwards and loves how it turns me on and can't wait to come home after so she can be ‘punished’
o The Obvious: I get off on my pretty wife getting ravaged by another guy's big dick and seeing how much excitement and satisfaction it brings her.
o Because it pushes some psychological buttons that give me thrill unlike any other. It's like stroking an exposed nerve, which in this case is some kind of deep insecurity and related submissiveness.
o Because it is adventurous, perks us up and we both know she wants it once in a while.
o She gets a kick out of it and turns her on.
o Because it is a huge ego booster and motivates her self-care and exercise. It helps to settle male/male competition issues and creates a more cooperative erotic life. The whole mindset is something like a multidimensional vibrator.
o Because nothing is hotter than seeing her in ecstasy or savoring memories of the events while she describes them to me. I get to see her as a sexual being, a loving wife, and of course my lover as well.
o Because the thought of her... with him, dressed like a slut, begging for it, pleading with me to let her see him even as I twist in mishmash of jealousy, rage, and horniness.
o Because it’s a naughty dream that make me want her so much more each day
o Because I enjoy the bonding opportunities to both shop for the wife's clothing and accessories as well as physically helping prepare her for dates (dressing, makeup, shaving, advice on what's hot, etc.)
o Because it is hot entertainment when witnessing the wife being picked up on (pride in her attractiveness)
o Because it gives me goose bumps watching her smile and unwavering attention on someone other than yourself that she's attracted to.
o Because it releases her conservative, vanilla personality and watching it slowly bloom into a hot smoldering temptress.
o Because it rekindles the feeling of that "new" relationship, not only by rediscovering ourselves but also discovering her new fuck buddy.
o Because it allows her to re-entering the world of dating without the added pressure of finding the perfect mate. We are able to ignore the qualities normally looked for in a new relationship and focus on the more seductive, basic physical desires that often take a back seat in relationships.
o Because I enjoy watching her become more of a person for me to win back - someone in-demand by other men but who chooses to come back to me
o Because it provides an opportunity to renew her self-confidence by being told by multiple men that she is desirable (hubby's opinion means little as it's "expected" he will say those things).
o Because of the evidence it provides when other men are truly aroused and satisfied, receiving their cum - boosts her self-confidence.
o Because she suddenly taking an aggressive interest in improving her body and appearance as she dresses for other men, feeling sexy and desired
o Because it allows her to openly admit which men she finds attractive and the willingness to start initiating meetings herself
o Because I like the enjoyment from the role-play involved in acting like she is single again, being picked up on by guys at bars and the anticipation of new activities with new men
o Because it makes her feel young and alive again, like the world is new when being pursued with sexually satisfying results
o Because it grows her desire to explore the world, to get out of her box and escape some deep-seeded and emotional insecurities placed upon by others (and herself) over the years.
o Because I love lying in bed getting the details of a night out with a fuck buddy while she is sucking me. I love watching her make out with him, culminating with an orgasm while wrapped around his cock. It strengthens our bond while creating a lot of hot sex.
o Because seeing her enjoy sex without any attachment or attraction to her partner gave me a new vision of her when she becomes purely a sexual being.
o Because sharing her with other men to me, is like one more way to make love to her - to give her even more pleasure than I am capable of giving her by myself.
o Because I have pride in my wife's beauty, desirability and her sexual ability to give and receive so much pleasure. Like someone said, it is kind of like having the hottest, fastest, coolest car around; who the hell would want to hide that and not show off its performance to ah-struck, envious other guys. But that is just one of many factors.
o Because there is nothing hotter than to see the woman I love in the throes of passion and orgasm with one or more other men. Well, there is one more better thing - the sensuous and loving reconnection and the incredible sight, smell, feel and taste of my wife's freshly fucked, cum filled pussy. Even sound too, as the sloshing sounds, sighs, moans, screams and shared verbal pleasures and sounds as she fires off an incredible string of orgasms. The wild stimulation of all five senses, plus the love, wow!!
o Because the more my wife has sex with other men, the more sex she has with me.
o Because I get my thrills from seeing her suck and fuck him (your own porn up close), plus I get to experience the semi-submissive feelings of giving her to another man and yes (hopefully) I will get to experience the thrill of silky seconds.....but I also want very much for her to experience the release and freedom of opening up sexually with another guy where she feels safe...with him and me.
o Because it renews the entire relationship. I feel like I'm dating my wife all over again.
o Because jealousy, lust and excitement are all tied and her sleeping with other men really saved our marriage.
o I need to see the ‘action’, whereas hubby can get just as turned on imagining my goings on when I go off to a club.
o Because every man loves to see his wife as a slut.
o Because I enjoy the vicarious erotic thrill knowing that my wife and her lover are enjoying each other. The more pleasures and enjoyment they give each other serves to increase my vicarious pleasures.
o Because I want to keep her well-dicked and happy, to see that glow, and then to go crazy with her when it's your turn to `reclaim' her.
o Because my wife never looks sexier than when she's naked, staring right at me, moaning and cumming while another man has his dick buried deep in her pussy
o Because it brings out her naughty side
o Because some boys like to share their toys
o Because I enjoy how hot it makes her thinking and talking about it, seeing and feeling how hot her orgasms are after 20 years of marriage, seeing her dress sluttier, showing pride in her sexual liberation, watching her flirt with other men, glowing as she dances with them, seeing her orgasm on another man's cock, taking pride in her oral skills as she sucks another man's cock, fucks my brains out, whether when we are with another, or by ourselves, little things like flashing a trucker, playing with a toy while we go down the road, seeing her excitement as she begins the search for another lover and how she gets hotter as the day arrives, oftentimes becoming a cock craving slut when the moment arrives...and oh so much more.
o Because I believe it prevents the two partners from cheating on each other and I think shows the husband's love for his wife. He is not locking her up and keeping him all for his own desires, but allowing her to meet her needs as well. Love and sex is not the same thing and most people don't understand that. And loving someone is not the same as being in love with them.
o Because it’s a special gift from me. I love her and trust her love for me unconditionally. There is no greater proof of that than to allow her to be with other men
o Because it is extremely exciting. It is probably akin to a pilot training for emergencies in a flight simulator. In the back of your mind you know there will be no real harm but that does not stop the front of your mind from setting off all the appropriate alarm bells and letting the adrenalin flow
o Because it is adventuresome. I doubt that many old people sit around later in life regretting wild things they did when they were younger. Far better to look back and smile to yourself remembering the good times.
o Because it enhances our sex life. After four years sex between us is still almost as hot as ever largely due to our 'extra-curricular activities'.
o Because it makes me love her more. After she is with someone else I practically burst at the seams with love for her. It’s almost like being in love for the first time again complete with butterflies in the stomach. The state of pseudo 'competition' for her affections causes me to 'woo her' all over again, just like when we were first dating.
o Because it makes her feel sexy and beautiful. It’s easy for me to tell her that she is beautiful but of course I'm biased. For her to attract and bed another man makes her feel that she really is attractive and desirable. And the more she believes it the sexier and beautiful she gets. It’s a win-win situation.
o Because it's HOT. The images in my mind (and every once in awhile live and up close!) of her in the arms of another man and her letting him use her is extremely arousing to me. I don't know why that is but it isn't too uncommon (and there are certainly a thousand other things that people get off on that are way kinkier than that!).
o Because it’s natural. It’s an undisputed fact that men and women are pre-disposed to be promiscuous. Acceptance of this is so much easier than denial.
o Because it’s smart. The number one cause of a relationship failing is infidelity. If you can find a way around that you're much more likely to live happily ever after. Is the grass really greener over the fence? Go roll around in it and find out, just be home by morning.
o Because I think we're perfect for each other. We are so much alike yet just different enough to keep things interesting. I don't worry (much) about her finding someone so much better than me that she'd consider trading me in.
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o Because underneath the goody goody, church going, homeschooling mom she is there was there is a Slut aching to get out. I figured it was a matter of time b4 she found some stranger on her own.
o The thrill of `reclaiming' her after she has been with a lover/boyfriend, the physical thrill of the release into her, knowing you are making her your wife again.
o Because it is truly amazing to watch her face, hear her moans, and see her with cum sprayed on her. It makes for a thrilling marriage. I guess I am a voyeur. I participate after he is done, usually when we get home.
o The way she works out, glows, tans, trims, primps and stays date hot all the time.
o Because I just love seeing my wife in sexual euphoria.
o Because it is so fucking hot and incredible. Just like her.

Reasons in Her Words:

o It really gets him going when I tell him the number of men I'm aiming at fucking whilst out. Also great pleasure in seeing the names of the guys I've just played with being texted through.
o Because it makes me feel like a princess, a very turned on, sexy, hot, wet, slutty, dirty, naughty, fucked little Princess. I love it.
o Because I love the thought of men pawing over me
o Because I'm turned on knowing he is so turned on
o Because I am extremely excited seeing him excited.
o I need to see the ‘action’, whereas hubby can get just as turned on imagining my goings on when I go off to a club.
o Because the wife is a desired sex object wanted and enjoyed by other men. The husband may be lagging behind his competitors. The wife is excited to be pursued and desired, and to have the power of choosing among her suitors. She can retain the security of the marriage while enjoying the variety and vanity of dating knowing all the while that her husband loves her more for playing this game.
o Because there is there's more to the motivation when seen from a woman's viewpoint like, higher self-esteem and narcissism when desired by many men, and the "Dating Years" being the high point in many women's lives.
o Because I think of this as a challenge for him. He sees that there are multiple men out there vying for my attention, him included. I would think that if he sees this he would be the one trying the hardest to keep me. In this situation what would keep him from losing me if some "knight in shining armor" decides to come and sweep me off my feet? Obviously he does not want to lose me, he loves me. I am his best friend. So in turn he has to try harder to keep me happy in all aspects of our life.
o Because I can make the decision to be with whomever I want, if they are lucky enough. I can cut him off if "I have a headache tonight". I can tell him that I want him to do certain things to me right now after I have been with one of my "fuck buddies". He will always be the one I come home to. He will always be my comfortable place. I do not ever want our sex life to be mundane and boring. I always want there to be this deeper level of excitement and passion. I want to learn new things and bring them home to him because at the end of the day he is mine and I his. So regardless of who I am with that day we will always have each other.
o Because seeing a woman writhing as my husband gives her cunnilingus sends such horny feelings through me. Feeling his arse as he pounds her - such a rush and makes for lots of dirty talk about it for weeks after (a rare HotHusband!)

Common Hotwifing Myths:
o He is a latent homosexual
o He is looking for an excuse to fuck other women
o He is not manly
o He is a closet submissive
o He doesn’t satisfy her
o His dick is too small
o He’s trying to get rid of her
o He’s crazy
o He had damaging childhood or emotional drama in his past
o Because there are issues with the marriage or the relationship

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I just joined this afternoon at my husband's insistence and with much hesitation and apprehension I did just to make him happy. This post is exactly what I need to look over to better understand his and it seems as if a lot of husband's mentality regarding this topic or fantasy !? Sucks that I'm at work at the moment but it'll definitely be on my " Things to Do " List for next week.

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Re: Why would a man want his woman to fuck another?

Unread post by dannyvee » Sat Feb 28, 2015 2:00 pm

Lenny wrote:
InigoMontoya wrote:Why would a sane, rational man want his wife to fuck another man?.I have seen three major reasons in the cuckolds I know. The first is that they like to be humiliated and dominated. The second is that they feel that if other guys desire their wives, it makes their wives even more desirable and makes them feel good that this women who other men want, comes home to them at night. Sort of like having someone test drive you hot new car. The last reason is that the guy is bisexual and using his wife to satisfy that part of him. They usually want to be forced to do things to men, like to eat semen as if where they drink it from makes it an act of a straight man. I have seen all of this. I am sure there are more reasons but lets not just say it is hot and leave it at that. There are underlying reasons for cuckolding.

Holding your wife to a higher plane than you is wife worship and a separate fetish in itself. Your wife is not inherently more deserving of pleasure than you are and if you think she is, you are a submissive. In my marriage we both are deserving of as much sexual pleasure as we can get. I do not ask my wife to act like a porn star to satisfy my sexual fetish and pretend it is all for her benefit. If it is for her, just step aside and let her have with others without letting you watch or telling you what she did. That is love. What you have is a fetish. Nothing wrong with fetishes or a wife participating in them. I do that all the time as does my wife. Just get amused when guys redefine things to make them look like it is all about love for their wife. Quite honestly, if you can sexually satisfy your wife, she will not want or need other men. My wife is free to have sex with anyone at anytime but she says I am enough man for her. I on the other hand have sexual tastes that my wife cannot satisfy so I am free to have other women satisfy them. Once again, there is nothing wrong with not being able to satisfy your spouse because my wife is in the same boat. Just call a spade a spade and do not try to justify it with pseudo science or make it seem as if the cuckold is a more loving husband than others whose wives do not want to be used by other men to satisfy their husbands fantasy.
Breath of fresh air! I'm not a bull by the way so my agreement with the point of view expressed above has nothing to do with this; I just think it makes sense and is probably correct. Of course confirmation by scientific studies would be awesome but is such a thing even possible? Anyway, bravo!

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by WimpToad » Sat Feb 28, 2015 2:23 pm

If TT explaination doesn't cover it not sure what else someone can say, :!:

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by pounamu » Sun Mar 01, 2015 8:53 am

This is such a fantastic and informative thread, no wonder it's been going on for seven years. Thank you everyone for sharing.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Mia » Sun Mar 01, 2015 11:04 am

pounamu wrote:This is such a fantastic and informative thread, no wonder it's been going on for seven years. Thank you everyone for sharing.
Welcome to OHW, pounamu.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by cuck2189 » Fri Mar 20, 2015 10:57 am

wow.....at first I was really concerned about why I was feeling the way I do, but after reading a bit about other's experiences, I realize that my feelings are totally normal. there is SO much more to read discuss, thanks to all the members of this community for helping to enlighten me on my own 'self - misunderstood' feelings

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Luv It » Tue Mar 24, 2015 9:14 pm

shorebird wrote:Yes but besides that ;-)
Would you believe a dose of sexual masochism and erotic humiliation at varying levels of each?
At least for some anyway. :)
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Re: Why would a man want his woman to fuck another?

Unread post by Mnmn1 » Sat Mar 28, 2015 5:33 am

doomywife wrote:I wrote this story several years ago, about the "Joys of getting Sloppy 2nds" from my wife. Whether you call them "sloppy 2nds", or something else, the meaning behind the story is the same. It describes the "JOY" of watching "your wife fuck another man"! Check out what I wrote...

Since my wife, Brandie, and I, started swinging, we have had many fun, exciting, sexual experiences. Many of them were just new, fun ways of enjoying sexual activities that we had been doing for years with each other, but that were now “more fun” when enjoyed with others! Then there were the totally “new” experiences, the things that we had never done before and were only now able to try them out with our swinging friends. If I had to pick the “one thing” that I have enjoyed the most about swinging, it would be…. “Getting sloppy 2nd’s” from my wife, after another man has just filled her with a load of cum!

Getting sloppy 2nd’s is something that is indescribable! If you have never experienced it for yourself, you can’t fully imagine what it’s like. It can’t be “simulated”. If you want to know what it’s like to get a blow job from your wife while another man fucks her, (and you’re not swingers), you can “simulate it”, by doing her with a dildo while she sucks you off. You will get pretty much the same reaction and feelings as you would if she was really getting it from another guy and sucking you at the same time. But! You can’t simulate “sloppy 2nd’s”! There is just no way to do it! As I said a few sentences ago, “sloppy 2nd’s” is something that is hard, if not impossible, to describe, but I’m going to try to do my best to tell you what it’s like and why I love it so much!

Imagine this… Your wife is on the bed on her back and another man is between her legs, with his cock up her cunt and he’s giving her a good fucking! You are naked and sitting in a chair watching. Maybe you join in and let your wife suck you while she is getting fucked. Or, maybe you just get on the bed next to her, and she just fondles your cock and balls while he fucks her, and you kiss her, or suck on her tits. In any case, no matter whether you are watching, or participating, when he has dumped his load of cum up her hot snatch, you are “ready”! I mean your cock is as hard as it will ever get!

So, he’s done. He gets up and moves out of the way. You approach the bed, and as you do, you take in the image of this incredibly sexy sight before your eyes! On the bed lies “your wife”! She has just got done having sex with another man! You look at her face. She has sweat on her face and neck. Some of her hair is wet and sticking to her. She is licking her lips with her tongue, trying to get moisture on them. As you know, her mouth always gets dry while she’s having sex. She has that sexually satisfied look on her face that says she has enjoyed what she has just done, but she could still do more! Your gaze moves down to her chest. You can see that she is breathing hard from the physical exertion of the sex she’s just had. Her tits are heaving up and down with her every breath. Her nipples are standing up hard and erect, as they always do when she is sexually excited! You look further down her body to her legs. They are spread wide. Maybe she has the soles of her feet flat on the bed and her knees are up with her legs spread apart. You think to yourself that just a few moments ago, another man was there! Between her legs! You look at the inside of her thighs and you can see that they are all slick with a mixture of his cum and her juices! There is a puddle and big wet spot on the bed under her ass! Her pussy hair, (if she has any), is all wet and matted down. If she’s clean-shaven, you can see that her lower belly, pussy and whole crotch area, is slick with “their wetness”! Your gaze becomes riveted on her pussy. The lips are swollen, and they are that dark reddish color that they become when she’s sexually aroused. In their swollen state, and because they have just had a hard cock between them, they are slightly parted. You can just see the inside of her pussy. It’s completely wet and colored pink to reddish colors that tell you she’s HOT! At the very center of her swollen and slightly parted pussy lips, you can see her fuck hole! Right now it’s just a small oval shape and you can see a puddle of the other man’s cum in it! Some of it has run down her crack and dripped on to the bed! You think to yourself, that there isn’t anything in this world that is sexier than looking at a freshly fucked, full of cum, cunt! Especially, when it’s your wife’s, and the cum belongs to someone else!

You take in this whole scene! The sight of “your wife”, lying there on the bed, freshly fucked, and wanting more, is almost more than you can stand! It’s a wonder you don’t just cum right then and there, without ever getting anything! She is incredibly sexy! She is sexier right now, at this very moment, than you have ever seen her! She takes you by the hand and pulls you on to the bed. With her hands on your waist, she guides you between her legs and pulls you to her. She has just been fucked, but she wants more! She wants you!
As she pulls your pelvis towards hers, she whispers, “Come on, fuck me! Give me some more cock!”

The head of your cock easily slips between her wet pussy lips. In one quick, easy motion, you bury your cock into her cunt as far as it will go! As you slide into her, you can feel how HOT her cunt is! How wet it is! You can feel the other man’s cum being forced out around your cock. It wets your balls and runs down your wife’s crack. You lie there for a moment, motionless. You want to take in this feeling! The feeling of being deep inside your wife’s HOT, freshly fucked, cunt! The feeling of not only her juices making her wet and slippery, but it’s knowing that she is this HOT, and this wet, because her cunt is full of some other guy’s cum, and he just put it there a few moments ago! (This is a part of the experience that cannot be simulated!) The physical and emotional feelings almost overcome you and nearly make you cum! You have just gotten “in”, and already you are on the “edge”! (This is another reason why you lie there “motionless” for a few minutes! You are trying to stay in control! You don’t want this to all be over, too soon!) Finally, you begin to slowly fuck your wife. You move in and out of her well “used” fuck hole with ease!
You passionately kiss her, and as your lips part, she slides her mouth around to your ear and she says, “Come on Baby, let it feel good! Fuck me the way you want to! Give me some more cum up my cunt!”

Then you realize, this is probably one of the best parts of getting sloppy 2nd’s! She’s already been fucked and had her orgasms! This is all about you, now! You don’t have to worry about trying to fuck long enough to satisfy her. You can just concentrate entirely on how good this feels to you! As you begin to get a rhythm going, your wife starts to “fuck you” the best that she can. She moves her ass in “that way” that she knows you like. She starts “milking” your cock with the “squeezes” of her cunt! Your wife has always been the “best piece of ass” you have ever had! But, at times like this, when she isn’t concerned with getting herself off, she can give you a fucking that will never be forgotten! You know that she gave the other guy a great fuck. But! He was just that to her, “a fuck”. Right now, she is not just “fucking you”. She is putting her very sole into making this the best she can for you. She’s not only putting all her physical being into this, but you can also feel her love for you coming through as if your bodies were one, with only one heart!

So, you don’t have to try to “please her”. You can concentrate just on feeling good, yourself. She is trying to give you the best she can because she’s already had her orgasms. You can feel her love coming through in the way she moves her body. There is the eroticism of knowing that you are fucking “your wife” just moments after another man has, and in all likelihood, he is probably still there watching the two of you, or maybe he even joins in now like you were when he was fucking her. All of this combines to give you physical and emotional feelings that could NEVER be simulated! The feelings overcome you and it doesn’t take long before you add your own load of hot cum up your wife’s HOT cunt, to mix with what’s left of his, still inside her!

Once again, you bury your cock in her, and lie motionless on top of her, soaking in the feelings as your heart rate begins to return to normal! You have a few more passionate kisses with your wife, then, you pull your cock out and stand up next to the bed. You take one last look at the sexy image on the bed, which is “your wife”. She looks even more satisfied and sexier than she did before you started! A look at her pussy and you can see that she is now literally soaked all over in her juices, the other man’s cum, and yours! The puddle and wet spot on the bed has doubled in size. She looks so well fucked! So, nasty! So, sluttish! She IS a slut! Your slut! And you love her!

So! There it is! My best attempt at trying to describe what it’s really like to get “sloppy 2nd’s” and why I love it so much! If you have never had the pleasure of the experience yourself, I hope you have enjoyed the explanation. For those of you who have had “sloppy 2nd’s”, how did I do? Did I get it pretty close? Did I miss anything? Maybe you could add what you like most about “sloppy 2nd’s”?

A special note here to the women, who might be reading this…. Ladies, how about those of you who have done this with your husband, giving us your viewpoint on what you like or don’t like about “sloppy 2nd’s”? And…. To those women who have never been willing to do this for their husbands, I hope that my description of what it’s like for a man, (at least for me anyway), might encourage you to try it for your husband! I promise you, it’ll be something that he’ll always love you for!
Man, my cock got hard just reading that.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by PGHCpl » Wed Apr 29, 2015 5:00 pm

Salsonero wrote:
4) It relieves me of responsibility for her happiness.


I would say similarly, that the bulls make me look good. I know her and what she likes better than they do, so they fall short. They typically talk about things that she doesn't like or finds boring, and then can't get her off in bed. They don't "get" her the same way that I do and they are trying too hard most of the time, which makes them seem needy to her rather than strong. So it makes her take me less for granted and appreciate me more when she sees the other options out there, aren't better but just different. Mainly just guys wanting to get their dicks wet, anyplace they can even if they have to have another man like me watching while they do it. LOL.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by tunafish » Fri May 01, 2015 9:36 am

For me there are no words to describe the excitement I derive about thinking of my wife who I adore being fucked by another man.
From the time we first started dating almost 40 years ago when she had a boyfriend the thought of her fucking him turned me on. I
derive no pleasure from being thought of a cuckold and our relationship isn't based on that.

I've never bothered to figure it out and don't intend to at this point. After all these years our sex life is wonderful and very fulfilling to
both of us. There was a period in the middle when we had 3 kids around and a very busy life that sex was placed on the back burner
but now since the kids are all on their own and doing well along with the cat and dog dying our lives have become wonderful in all ways.

Seeing my wife getting dressed up for a "date" is one of the most amazing things, still. Despite the fact our "hot wife" life is
all fantasy it still is exciting and very stimulating to both of us. Today while I/m off riding my motorcycle with my buddies she'll be busy
getting ready to go out on her date and bring me home a soaked pussy for me to ravage. I love it and can't wait.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by cuckwannabe77 » Wed May 13, 2015 11:36 am

Hey I'm new to this forum and wanted to reply to the question using one of the first posts.
I'm a married (of course :roll: ) male in his late 30's, I truly love my wife who I have been with and married with for lotsa years.

*I am latently homosexual:
No I can surely say this is not the case

*I am not "manly"
This also isn't true in my case, I'm very manly, very high sex drive, hairy chest, legs, lotsa testosterone

*The wife must not be satisfied with her husband:
She definatley is, she's fully fullfilled with our sex life.
This is probably working against me since she does not wanna try another man so far :(

*I am looking to get rid of or I don't love my wife:
Lol, you kidding?
I ADORE her REALLY adore her, want to be around her 24/7 serve and so much more, it feels like the
ultimate gift of dedication towards her.

*Finally, I must be insane:
Nope, or at least I'm not aware of that :mrgreen:

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by daredan » Mon May 18, 2015 7:55 am

Because it's incredibly hot...? :)

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by SeaWife » Fri May 22, 2015 1:30 pm

My wife and I have been married for 26 years and she became a hotwife 12 years ago. We are still very much in love, enjoy each other company and still enjoy sex with each other.
I would say that if you have to ask "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man" then you will never understand it.
It is INCREDIBLY HOT to know that the woman who you are in love with is enjoying living out a fantasy but still in a secure loving relationship. In my wifes case she has a deep desire to let out what would be considered a very slutty side and I love seeing her do this.
She also loves to be dominated by another man which is a big turn on for me as well.
Its great for us but you would have to be sure it is a turn on for you.
My insatiable hotwife from Seattle

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by TriangleTangle » Sat May 23, 2015 12:28 pm

Thanks NancyLewis and MrsNuckingFuts! It's been a while since we've been online here and I didn't know if anyone remembered that long post over in The Library. You can find the full article I wrote, Non-Fiction: Compersion and The Cool Fire of Hotwifing http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=8&t=20879 The compendium of reasons was fun to compile from this thread- I am sure there have ben a bunch of great new ones since I wrote that rather lengthy post on Compersion.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by SailorGuy » Sun May 24, 2015 11:28 am

Yes, SeaWife, your stats sound amazingly like mine. Also in Seattle, married now 25 years, my wife became involved with another man - at my urging and with my support - about 12 years ago. AND her lover is an alpha male who dominates her, at least in bed. With me she and I are equals. Our sex life was ( we are celibate now, as she is a one-man-at-a-time kind of woman ) nice, good, kind and loving. She never knew the intense high of being fucked by a real man. Not until she connected with her lover. And this is all incredibly arousing for me, and I still don't know "why". My wife just glows with a three-dimensional beauty now; she has a loving, secure marriage with me, and an awesome sex life with her man.
I think one of the main reasons it works so well is the alpha-beta thing. I am definitely a beta kind of guy; I would never think of trying to compete with my wife's alpha lover. We are two distinct kinds of men. And my wife thrives on having that balance of men in her life. Is it possible for one guy to be his wife's alpha and beta? Maybe, though to me it seems highly unlikely. My wife would not want to be married to her lover - he's divorced and had a nasty split from his wife, and she'd rather just steer clear from all of that kind of stuff and keep her relationship with him simple.
People here have said that our situation is more of a polyamory relationship than hotwife, since my wife is lovers only with this one man, whom she admits to loving. And this man definitely loves her. And the fact that they love each other and don't have sex just for fun but rather make love together because they love each other, well that only adds to the intensity of things for me. It's an amazing thing, a real high.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Jrt » Mon May 25, 2015 8:58 am

I would love to watch my wife being fucked by 2 men whilst I recorded it, I love it when she flirts and wears no underwear outdoors

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by Mia » Mon May 25, 2015 9:32 am

Jrt wrote:I would love to watch my wife being fucked by 2 men whilst I recorded it, I love it when she flirts and wears no underwear outdoors
Welcome to OHW, Jrt.

:)

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by ArizonaGuy » Mon May 25, 2015 11:02 am

Why? Great question. Her FB provides her with new adventures that we do not normally do as a couple. He does this with her that she accepts without question. This provides her with an escape from being a wife for the time she is with him. But it makes for long days for me.

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