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Unread post by Drillher » Wed Mar 26, 2014 6:12 am

Simply because I wanted to! In actuality however is it was much more than that. That "much more" evolved around a long standing fantasy of mine which had it roots in a personal experience I had while attending a summer camp on a military base in another area of the country. I've written elsewhere on this site about that experience so long story short, that's where I, as well as three of my cadet friends, witnessed a much older cadet, who happened to be black, in the showers masturbating. It was also the first time I had seen a black guy who, naturally, was also nude! Because of our age perhaps, this guys manhood seemed massive! In fact, every time we spoke about it after that it seemed to get magnified such that, one of my friends at least, had it measuring almost two feet! Regardless, from that experience grew my fantasy of wanting to see a black guy screw a white girl or, more bluntly, a massive big black cock fuck a white pussy! Little did I ever imagine that the white girl that I would see getting fucked by a black guy would be my wife. Also I never even contemplated that the guy seducing her would be an old university friend and roommate of mine, Edwin! Edwin was considered the Black George Clooney at university and was extremely popular with the girls. From our time at university I knew Edwin was well hung but never to the extent that I would witness when he and Pam were working each other over! What a fantastic experience that was! Wow!
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Unread post by newyorker » Tue Apr 01, 2014 2:26 pm

As a birthday gift my wife took me to a brothel a number of years ago. I was alone in the room with the girl. That same weekend she was also alone in a room with a girl and I watched as two girls pleasured her. Ever since then I have craved to know a man had her. This has nothing to do with my size or performance, both of which are good. For some reason I cannot explain the thought of this is the ultimate turn-on. She knows my desires. For a time she was searching online for a guy. But it never amounted to anything. At this point it is just something she knows I would like but something she is just not interested in.

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Unread post by MistressNoire » Fri Apr 11, 2014 10:06 am

probably same reason why guys watch porn.
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Unread post by lovely_toy » Sat Apr 12, 2014 2:51 am

redhott wrote:"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man".

For us personally it just adds another dimension to our relationship. I've read forums where people are saying it is because the husband is inadequate in his sexual skills or cock size and cannot please his wife - this couldn't be further from the truth - my husband has a larger than average cock and certainly knows how to satisfy me in the bedroom or wherever else we chose to play.

Whether he watches me pleasuring another man, or is staying at home and wondering what I am up to with a FB till I get home and tell him all about it, he gets a wealth of wonderful emotions.

For a cuckold relationship to work though you need a totally solid relationship. Total trust must be present as jealosy could play a very distructive factor. We couldn't be 100% sure there would be any jealosy issues when we first started, and we decided that if there were we would cease and desist. Luckily for us we have had amazing experiences over the years and plan to have lots more.


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Unread post by MyAznHW » Sat Apr 12, 2014 5:58 am

Well it gives me an erection that doesn't want to go away. I feel like the tv commercial and I should call a doctor or even 911 ! For my wife, especially since she found the right guy, she has both another friend and lover. We both give my wife great orgasms but he does it different ways then me. And he brings a lot more energy. We've been together coming up on 15 years and I've fucked my wife thousands of times. My wife's boyfriend gets her one evening a week so he is so amped up when he gets her. He spends his "off" days masturbating a lot, and usually over my wife. He'll generally send a pic a day of himself doing it. He's got yellow fever so screwing such a hot asian babe makes him explode. It's really a win-win-win situation. I'm mature enough to know that I don't necessarily need to keep all that sweet tight wet pussy just to myself.

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Unread post by Khadija88 » Sun Apr 13, 2014 1:23 pm

I think the seed for cuckolding is implanted in many men because they often discover porn in their youth and quite often get turned on watching their favorite female porn star getting fucked by one ( or more ) guys. Some develop into full cuckolds. Some are but don't know what they are. Others simply ignore their needs and go with the norm. Such is life.
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Unread post by Steelhummingbird » Sun Apr 13, 2014 4:52 pm

lovely_toy wrote:
redhott wrote:"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man".

For us personally it just adds another dimension to our relationship. I've read forums where people are saying it is because the husband is inadequate in his sexual skills or cock size and cannot please his wife - this couldn't be further from the truth - my husband has a larger than average cock and certainly knows how to satisfy me in the bedroom or wherever else we chose to play.

Whether he watches me pleasuring another man, or is staying at home and wondering what I am up to with a FB till I get home and tell him all about it, he gets a wealth of wonderful emotions.

For a cuckold relationship to work though you need a totally solid relationship. Total trust must be present as jealousy could play a very destructive factor. We couldn't be 100% sure there would be any jealousy issues when we first started, and we decided that if there were we would cease and desist. Luckily for us we have had amazing experiences over the years and plan to have lots more.


I can't agree with you more!
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Unread post by HotWifeDdsHubby » Wed Apr 16, 2014 7:27 pm

Khadija88 wrote:I think the seed for cuckolding is implanted in many men because they often discover porn in their youth and quite often get turned on watching their favorite female porn star getting fucked by one ( or more ) guys. Some develop into full cuckolds. Some are but don't know what they are. Others simply ignore their needs and go with the norm. Such is life.
Well said. Dd is my favorite 'porn star' and it is a turn on to see the love of my life get down and dirty with other men. I also very much like to take pictures and video of it as well and just sit back and watch the action progress without joining in.
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Unread post by Brigida » Fri Apr 18, 2014 9:49 am

The world is kinkier than people realize. It's nothing new.
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Unread post by rickslc » Tue Apr 22, 2014 9:56 am

my wife became a hotwife only because thanks to radiation treatment for prostate cancer I can no longer make love to her in the way that she deserves. Everything we do is ok but nothing that will set off the rockets. I finally convinced her to try it. The rest is history. She loves it and I love watching her get fucked. She gets what she needs and afterwards I get to 'reclaim' her in the way I can - not bell ringing but still soft and warm. Plus I get to hold her in my arms until she falls asleep.

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Unread post by Khadija88 » Tue Apr 22, 2014 10:20 am

Some guys get off on it.
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Unread post by lovely_toy » Fri Apr 25, 2014 10:16 am

Personaly, my wifey is super hot with a strong sexual drive and we both know she deserves more in sex because I'm an average hung guy and she enjoys ruff fuck. Also we both love the 'teasing me' part.
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Unread post by rachel66 » Tue Apr 29, 2014 6:44 pm

My husband married me when I was 18 and pregnant. I was a promiscuous teen and had gotten pregnant after getting fucked by 6 boys. My husband was single and a lot older and he loved hearing about the gang bangs. We were monogamous for 20 years and we decided to try an open marriage about 8 years ago and after our first threesome there was no going back.

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Unread post by toughth » Sat May 03, 2014 5:28 am

YoungBostonM wrote:Reading through these threads on Craigslist Boston's Missed Connections, I miss the stickied thread on the old forum.

[url]http: //boston.craigslist.org/search/mis?query=advice&minAsk=min&maxAsk=max[/url]

The gist of the threads is that a woman posted asking for advice about her husband's fantasy to see her with another man. The responses range from "he's not normal" to "he's gay."

Does anybody have anything even resembling that old thread? It would be like a beacon of light in this ocean of ignorance.
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Unread post by Steelhummingbird » Sat May 03, 2014 8:38 am

boisehotwifehubby wrote:I would love to see that thread too. Scanning the net off and on for years about this lifestyle I too have encountered every opinion from mentally disturbed to evolutionary normal.

I look at it as swinging with a twist. Most swingers are educated, balanced, family people with stronger than normal marriages. Sounded like home to me. Only the politics changed with another couple, where it felt better for both of us with her playing, I found it more satisfying, and she did not feel her marriage to me was threatened.

SO I addressed all the arguments against this life style.

I am latently homosexual:
No our erotic thoughts are of women, and watching a woman and man go at it is not gay, guys watch live porn all the time. The focus is the woman and her sexuality. Yes we discuss the guys equipment and body, but that is in the context of how he will look with her, no different than picking out a favorite porn movie. Do you think people watched Mandingo for the wallpaper color? Beside the porn show stars the most favorite woman in the world, the wife.

I am not "manly"
Seems many porn sites refer to this life as the husband is a shmuck. Well I do understand the mate poaching fantasy, and it is ok for the boyfriend/bull to experience it, but within the comfort of the couple. Well look at all the Hollywood studs who are rich and good looking, their marriage disintegrate in short order. Their wives are out sneaking in no time because the marriage is not what they hoped for. We HWHubs/Cucks do not need to put on airs, we can watch him do her, and know who she loves and is coming home to. We allow wifey to live free, and thus pursue her happiness, not be tied to my macho wanna be ideas. So we live in the real world more than the John Wayne hopefuls.

The wife must not be satisfied with her husband:
What nobody ever ate some dessert after being full of a good dinner? Do we eat only at one restaurant? Variety is the spice of life. Sex between spouses of most HW couples is excellent on it's own, now put hot sex in turbo. How many typical guys complain their wives are frigid and boring. Most HW's are ready, willing, and able to take her husband to the next level. Why? Because her marriage is a happy home full of love, communication and respect. Those are the elements of a satisfying marriage, which leads to sex the vanillas only dream of.

I am looking to get rid of or I don't love my wife:
This one ticks me off. If I wanted to leave her the door works just fine. Sickos who want to tape her just to show the judge are not life stylers, they are something else. What if the other guy fucks her so good she leaves me for him? Well I am glad to have this information about her sooner than later. Odds are she was looking to leave and this gave her the excuse she was looking for. (Hardcore Cucks might look for this, but again choice) Again these are not issues of the lifestyle, they are other issues before the other ever man arrived. Loving someone so much that you would risk another lover for her? Love with out freedom is slavery, and false, we love of free will. If I wanted a cheap slut to watch fuck, I could hire a call girl. No, we want the intimate meaning this life brings for us. We love her so much we trust her to go get fucked, scream with ecstasy, and try things she did not think to try with husband. And welcome her home hotter for her than the first time you had her. Yeah we do not love our wives, enough said.

Finally, I must be insane:
So many times you hear women/men act all offended and say "leave him now, only a sicko would want you to sleep around like some slut." I bet most of them are out screwing behind someones back, they just have a power trip to be on TV trying to look important. Of course many of these negative people also say that when a woman dresses provocative she deserved to be raped and other silly statements. Some are not into the life, and that is fine. We all have the right to choose our values, not shove them down other peoples throats. Some couples use sex toys, or erotic aids to set a mood. We just go for the aid of a living person. Besides there is good evidence that we are not really hardwired to be monogamous. Women are designed to show, men are designed to watch, women can receive multi partners easier than most men. What consenting adults do that harm no one is fine. What happened to personal freedom? Yeah a happy marriage how insane is that?
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I can't agree more with you, I speak on representation of myself and my loved, wonderful future cuckhubby. This is exactly how we feel about it. Thank you for expressing this so well.
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Unread post by Steelhummingbird » Sat May 03, 2014 8:51 am

lovely_toy wrote:Personaly, my wifey is super hot with a strong sexual drive and we both know she deserves more in sex because I'm an average hung guy and she enjoys ruff fuck. Also we both love the 'teasing me' part.
Yes indeed!

Hubby, you're not "average sized penis" guy but that is my opinion. :D

But... I love you more cause you let me enjoy and then come back happy to the safety of your arms. You know that even when I have been highly sexually pleased by someone else, I still have you there, loving, attentive, listening, caring, pleasant, happy and obedient. And that is the true glue to our love; finding out that no matter what we are there for each other and we cannot live without each other, knowing that everything else is an extra that makes our bond stronger. You know I'm yours.

I love you with my whole being hubby.
Humiliation is the nuclear bomb of my cuckold husband emotions.It's an order of magnitude more powerful than ANY other. I pull the trigger and detonate the bomb.

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Unread post by indenver » Wed May 21, 2014 10:16 am

I'm bi and my wife married me knowing it. She thought it was sexy that I loved sucking cock. About 10 years ago, I began to think of how much pleasure it would bring her if I licked her pussy while she had another man's cock in her. That way she would have sexual pleasure from both a cock and my oral service - something one man alone cannot give a woman. And something only a bi lover will give a woman. No straight man would do it and no gay man would be interested.

I've let her know I'd love to do this for her but she has resisted. But it is the reason why I want my wife to "sleep with another man,"

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Unread post by MistressNoire » Thu May 22, 2014 2:54 pm

Guys are pervs, so are women, we're just better at hiding it.
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Unread post by vladdy » Mon May 26, 2014 7:19 pm

I think in general it's because he wants to be submissive to his wife and let her have sex with other people. In general I think most guys want to have sex with multiple women all the time and it's a way to shift the power in the relationship by letting the girl be a dominant slut while he stays faithful.

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Find her sleeping with another man would kill me!

Unread post by shootermcgavin » Tue May 27, 2014 5:54 pm

I love my wife more than anything and I would be heartbroken to find her sleeping with another man. Intimacy is not the driving force for men as it is with women so we should be careful to minimize the risk of it appearing where it is definitely has no place. When a woman cuddles up and sleeps with someone it's not just about getting some Z's. Why bother even being married if you don't even care who she sleeps with? The only time another man should ever be in or near our bed is if he's there to fuck my wife! He can sleep somewhere else on his own time! I wouldn't have a problem if they passed out from too much partying, as long as they got the "fucking" out of the way first.

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Unread post by Yankeefan » Wed May 28, 2014 7:10 pm

This is very exciting to me. I'd never heard of this before and my bf shared with me his thoughts and desires and this site! I feel like I should have known about this years ago. I'm so turned on by my bf wanting to see me with another man. I approached my x husband before our divorce about having an open marriage. He thought I was nuts! This is so refreshing.
BTW yes I'm a crazy Yankees fan!! Lol.

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Unread post by Mia » Wed May 28, 2014 7:52 pm

Yankeefan wrote:This is very exciting to me. I'd never heard of this before and my bf shared with me his thoughts and desires and this site! I feel like I should have known about this years ago. I'm so turned on by my bf wanting to see me with another man. I approached my x husband before our divorce about having an open marriage. He thought I was nuts! This is so refreshing.
BTW yes I'm a crazy Yankees fan!! Lol.
Welcome to OHW, Yankeefan!

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Unread post by ChasteHusband62 » Sat May 31, 2014 5:56 am

I have asked myself this very question MANY times in the last several weeks! So, why am I so interested in having my wife fuck another guy? I'm not sure I can answer this entirely, but one part of an answer would have to be that I came out to my wife (of now 30 Years) as bisexual about 12 years ago, and our relationship changed as a result of that. Then again, I could also say that part of why I've wanted my wife to fuck other guys is out of boredom! After 30 years, how could any marriage (a good one included) NOT get stale? I think that monogamy, itself, creates a climate of boredom after a while. Human beings seem to need variety. So, why not sexual variety, too?

Though I think my wife would agree that I was an "adequate" lover (and she and I made a child together!), I was never all that spectacular in bed. I have always had a "short fuse" when it came to orgasm! I don't have a "big swinging dick", but it's not a micro-dick either! Over 5 and a half, to nearly 6 inches when hard. Eh. Definitely not a Peter North cock! LOL

I do think that me coming out as bisexual altered the sexual chemistry between us (at least a little bit). 30 Years of monogamous marriage, I think, made the ultimate difference. Of course, those 30 years had brought with them a "history" that neither of us really wanted to throw away, and so, though our sex life faded away, there was all the other things that had made us a couple that provided a viable basis on which to continue on as a married couple! There's something to be said for companionship, after all, even without sex. Especially as two people grow older.

I think that, in some ways, I felt a little guilty for having never been all that inspired of a lover for my wife. That's faded over time, but I can't rule out the strong possibility that (somewhere deep down inside of me) I wanted my wife to fuck some other guy---and not so much as a "punishment" (per se) for me being bi, etc., but just because I had just known (somehow) that my wife had gotten short-changed when it came to getting a great fucking! She had always denied she felt that way until fairly recently; and then one evening she admitted to me that she had felt frustrated with my infrequent sexual attentions towards her! That, for me, was a watershed moment; and it was at that moment that I began openly talking to her about some sort of cuckold, or hot wife, scenario!

Now it's no longer a "scenario" inside my head, but a reality. Describing the way things were before is easy, but now I'm having trouble articulating what it's like in the Now. My emotions are such a mix. I go from worry that I might have provided my wife with the perfect excuse to divorce me at last, to a strange feeling of lustful exhileration!

I guess the short answer to the above question is, that I want my wife to have fun getting fucked the way I never was all that good at! When I see my wife in different contexts now days, I notice a difference in her. Others may not see it, but I definitely can! I like the change I see. Outwardly, she might seem the same woman as before. She dresses the same. She talks the same. But, I know she's fucked another guy---and THAT has changed her forever! We do not have the same sort of marriage we once had. That marriage is gone. Another now seems to be emerging.

Then, there's the change in ME that has occurred, too. I feel strangely calm (but with an underlying sense of excitement) knowing that I'm probably out of the picture when it comes to sex with my wife. I know (for a fact) that she's being VERY well fucked, just not by me! However, I feel a certain inevitability in that. I know my wife loves me (and vice versa!), but sex is no longer part of our evolving relationship. Somewhere I saw a quote that said: "We don't fuck anymore; but, we still hold hands!" Though probably meant to be a kind of joke, there's also a lot of truth in it, too. Especially for where my wife and I are at this moment in time!

I think that this is about as "good" of an answer to the question---Why would a guy (me) want his wife to sleep with another man?---as I can give. Does any one else have anything they could say to this? I'd love to hear from them if they do. Thanks!

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Unread post by Salsonero » Sat May 31, 2014 8:23 am

ChasteHusband62 wrote:I do think that me coming out as bisexual altered the sexual chemistry between us (at least a little bit).
Do you have sex with other men? Do you ever join in or watch while your wife is having sex? It sounds like you have made a considerate effort to provide for your wife's sexual needs, but it sounds like you are shortchanging yourself. If you have a child together and you have a good working relationship in the other parts of life, I can't imagine why you should not be having a sexual life of your own. For men who are interested in other men, it is almost as easy to find partners as it is for women to find men. If the spark is gone between you and your wife, there is no reason you couldn't have parallel sexual lives and still hold hands. But you personally should find someone or some situation that can help you find the hidden stud within you.

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Unread post by MistressNoire » Tue Jun 03, 2014 3:48 pm

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