"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[clitlickrr]

Because we were each other first. Now that i am a bit older 50 ish.
I have learn to control my ego and know that I can not possibly be the best lover, I love her and I want her to experience different possibilities. Ball is in her court.

[RonDom]

I’ve often wondered why guys are so opposed to letting their wife explore their fantasies. I know some very possessive types that would jump at the chance to bed a woman if they couldn’t get caught, yet are too insecure to let her play around with his knowledge and approval.

The same thing can be said for women. There are lots of women who cheat but would not dream of letting their man "explore their fantasies" with another woman.

[Her number1]

The same thing can be said for women. There are lots of women who cheat but would not dream of letting their man "explore their fantasies" with another woman.

Not really, for the utmost part, men and women are different when it comes to sharing a spouse. Fundamentally different.
Some cross over, but those are outliers.

[lisamyhotwife]

Lisa has always been ok with me playing but at some point I lost interest. Much more exciting to watch her play or double team her. Very once in a while I think about fucking someone else again.

[RonDom]

The same thing can be said for women. There are lots of women who cheat but would not dream of letting their man "explore their fantasies" with another woman.

Not really, for the utmost part, men and women are different when it comes to sharing a spouse. Fundamentally different.
Some cross over, but those are outliers.

What part are you disagreeing with? That lots of women cheat? (No one can argue that) Or that lots of women who cheat would not dream of letting their man explore their fantasies with other women? Are you saying that women who cheat are ok if their man explores with other women?

Perhaps we can agree that some women who cheat are ok with their man being with other women and some are not, and the same is true for men.

[lisamyhotwife]

There are a number of studies that show woman have caught up to men in the cheating department! Men and women seem to cheat for different reasons though.

[Her number1]

What part are you disagreeing with? That lots of women cheat? (No one can argue that) Or that lots of women who cheat would not dream of letting their man explore their fantasies with other women? Are you saying that women who cheat are ok if their man explores with other women?

Perhaps we can agree that some women who cheat are ok with their man being with other women and some are not, and the same is true for men.

Women cheating doesn't figure into it and has no bearing. Women, for the utmost part simply don't have the level or depth of compersion for their husbands to have sex with another woman. Whereas men do have that sexual compersion concerning their wives, whether in actuality or in fantasy.
Ckeating plays no part in it, it is a fundamental difference between men and women, although there are outliers.

[leggysman]

Everyone seems to be verging on violent agreement on this point

[BT2]

I have two observations, if I may.

It is often claimed that more men cheat than do women cheat. Think about it for a moment. Since men who cheat cheat with women, the number of cheating men and cheating women has to be equal Or fewer women cheat but those who do cheat more often.

Earlier on in life, I was an fb and my wife was and is a hotwife. We have been on a number of couples dates where the wife was allowed to have "fun", but the husband was permitted to do little more than fondle my wife, e.g. no oral nor intercourse.

[RonDom]

It is often claimed that more men cheat than do women cheat. Think about it for a moment. Since men who cheat cheat with women, the number of cheating men and cheating women has to be equal Or fewer women cheat but those who do cheat more often.

I do not have any data to support it although I do vaguely recall surveys that support my general experience that men tend to cheat more than women.

It is not true that the number of cheating men and cheating women has to be equal. As you said, there can be fewer women who cheat but do so more often. Also, there are many women who are single and not in a relationship and it's possible that there are more single women having sex with married men than there are single men having sex with married women. If a single woman has sex with a married man (a common occurence) then the man is cheating but the woman is not.

[RonDom]

Women, for the utmost part simply don't have the level or depth of compersion for their husbands to have sex with another woman. Whereas men do have that sexual compersion concerning their wives, whether in actuality or in fantasy.

What is the source of your conclusions? I don't agree with your generalizations.

And even if it's true that "women simply don't have the level or depth of compersion for their husbands to have sex with another woman," that would support my point that "There are lots of women who cheat but would not dream of letting their man "explore their fantasies" with another woman" which is no different than "I’ve often wondered why guys are so opposed to letting their wife explore their fantasies. I know some very possessive types that would jump at the chance to bed a woman if they couldn’t get caught, yet are too insecure to let her play around with his knowledge and approval."

The point is there are men and women who would jump at the chance to bed someone else while at the same time would not let their spouse play around with their approval.

[Her number1]

Women, for the utmost part simply don't have the level or depth of compersion for their husbands to have sex with another woman. Whereas men do have that sexual compersion concerning their wives, whether in actuality or in fantasy.

What is the source of your conclusions? I don't agree with your generalizations.

And even if it's true that "women simply don't have the level or depth of compersion for their husbands to have sex with another woman," that would support my point that "There are lots of women who cheat but would not dream of letting their man "explore their fantasies" with another woman" which is no different than "I’ve often wondered why guys are so opposed to letting their wife explore their fantasies. I know some very possessive types that would jump at the chance to bed a woman if they couldn’t get caught, yet are too insecure to let her play around with his knowledge and approval."

The point is there are men and women who would jump at the chance to bed someone else while at the same time would not let their spouse play around with their approval. I can agree with this "generalization", but the bigger aspect is that more women will have that problem with it than men. Men (husbands) are normally the driving element in hotwifing occurring.

Try reading on here for a while and you'll see that what I said is supported by many many posts of actual hotwives and their husbands.
Your point was built around cheating wives, and cheating plays no part in whether a wife was to share her husband.
The simple fact is that women, by and large, do not have the same compersive ability as men for their spouses to engage in sex outside of the marriage.
What I said is no more of a generalization than having said most people like ice cream. A true statement is still true.

[RonDom]

Try reading on here for a while and you'll see that what I said is supported by many many posts of actual hotwives and their husbands.

This is a discussion forum dedicated to hotwifing and cuckolding, it's hardly an unbaised or representative population sample. The fact of the matter is only a tiny fraction of the population engages in cuckolding, so just because something is commonly believed by members of the cuckold community does not mean it is true in the population as a whole. There are many other lifestyles and many other points of view out there in the vast majority of the population that does not practice cuckolding, including polygyny where the man is free to have relationships with other women while the woman remains faithful to the man.

What I said is no more of a generalization than having said most people like ice cream.

We are going to have to agree to disagree about that.

[Her number1]

Try reading on here for a while and you'll see that what I said is supported by many many posts of actual hotwives and their husbands.

This is a discussion forum dedicated to hotwifing and cuckolding, it's hardly an unbaised or representative population sample. The fact of the matter is only a tiny fraction of the population engages in cuckolding, so just because something is commonly believed by members of the cuckold community does not mean it is true in the population as a whole. There are many other lifestyles and many other points of view out there in the vast majority of the population that does not practice cuckolding, including polygyny where the man is free to have relationships with other women while the woman remains faithful to the man.

What I said is no more of a generalization than having said most people like ice cream.

We are going to have to agree to disagree about that.

It goes without being said that this is a hotwife forum, that is why we discuss hotwifing and it's various spectrums.
The whole thread you're posting in is a discussion beyond the "population as a whole", it is about men in the " fraction of the population" as you put it.

[Parsifal]

Try reading on here for a while and you'll see that what I said is supported by many many posts of actual hotwives and their husbands.

This is a discussion forum dedicated to hotwifing and cuckolding, it's hardly an unbaised or representative population sample. The fact of the matter is only a tiny fraction of the population engages in cuckolding, so just because something is commonly believed by members of the cuckold community does not mean it is true in the population as a whole. There are many other lifestyles and many other points of view out there in the vast majority of the population that does not practice cuckolding, including polygyny where the man is free to have relationships with other women while the woman remains faithful to the man.

What I said is no more of a generalization than having said most people like ice cream.

We are going to have to agree to disagree about that.

It goes without being said that this is a hotwife forum, that is why we discuss hotwifing and it's various spectrums.
The whole thread you're posting in is a discussion beyond the "population as a whole", it is about men in the " fraction of the population" as you put it.

Almost any comment about sexual preferences will implicate only some fraction of the population. Only a truism such as all people have or don't have a sexual preference of some kind can be universally true.

The Question posed by this thread - "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man to sleep with his wife?" - doesn't ask about the motives of the "tiny fraction" of the population who actually practices hotwifery but the presumably larger fraction of those with that kind of sexual preference. I'm not by any means an expert and haven't crunched the numbers, but we know that data on porn searches on the internet are probably capable of telling what people in their secret worlds find of interest to them; and we know from compilations of that data that cuckhold porn is one of the most searched topics on the web. So without being exact about the size of the fraction, we can, I believe, make a fair hypothesis that the fraction of men who have this interest - putting aside whether they ever enact it - is sizeable.

I also assume (along with Number1) that this existential happening we call "compersion" is the main driver of this desire on the part of men who want their wives to screw around. How and why some men feel this and others don't is intriguing, as is the apparent gross disparity between the incidence of men and women with compersive tendencies. There is obviously a cultural dimension to this problem, as eastern European men seem much less prone as a culture to revel in these sorts of predilections as are western Europeans. I've not seen any reliable comparisons of hotwifery between Asians and Westerners or among the different racial groups, which I would expect to vary to a great degree based again on cultural factors. There seems to be a developed interest for cuckhold porn among East Indians but not so much among Muslims, but my viewpoint here is only my own impression and I stand open to correction But one thing we can glean from just the marketplace of pornographic expression is that cuckquean porn is vastly rare in comparison to cuckhold porn, and from this I draw the same conclusion as Number1 - that women just aren't into spouse sharing and those few that are are outliers

[RonDom]

I tend to agree that compersion is the main driver of men who want to share their females, and I tend to agree that men are more likely to feel compersion about sharing their females than females who feel compersion about sharing their males. In general I think females tend to be territorial about their men perhaps a bit more than men about their women. I am tending to agree based on my own experiences and without any data except that I do agree that cuckquean porn is much less prevalent than cuckold porn and that is some data.

But I don't think you can draw that conclusion from posts on this site, since the site is by definition populated by people in the cuckold / hotwife lifestyle, and by definition would not include contributions from most people outside of that lifestyle with different views. I also don't think you can draw the conclusion that the fraction of men who have a cuckold interest is sizeable based on the prevalance of porn searches about cuckolding since women also search for porn, and men who do not have an interest in cuckolding also search for cuckolding porn.

[BT2]

I agree with the previous and similar posts.

I believe that people who frequent this and similar sites tend to believe that hotwifing and cuckolding is more common than it really is in the general population. Another example might be that people who get a turn on reading incest stories come to think that having sex with a sister or a mother is more common that it actually is in real life. The danger is that we may, therefor, believe that sex with a friendly married female, or a son may having sex with his mother, is fairly common and sex with them is actually attainable. In truth, the idea is probably repulsive to a member of the general population.

[lisamyhotwife]

As far a hotwifeing goes you are right it is a very small group. If you never peek out of your own little kink then that is what you know, or think you know. Ever with the mainstream interest it is still a very small group. And fortunately for us a fun group!

[stag80]

I asked myself this question many times. And I read a lot of articles, even talked to psychologists, and I think there are some causes, deep inside us. I don't have time to write all of them now, but in my case I'm pretty sure is the competition, the sperm competition.

Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures. They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom. Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”.
This fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better body, a larger cock, youth, more prowess in bed – their woman actually WANTS to come back to them at the end of the night. While most Hotwife-Husbands do get some level of turn-on from the jealousy and the possibility that their Hotwife may actually be enjoying their dates more than they enjoy being “at home”, the overwhelming desire is the competition and the “win” in terms of having a wife who chooses them again and again even after being allowed to go out and have other men.
For men, though, and especially those with Hotwife fantasies, jealousy is a big component and tool for us to keep our men hot and bothered. Sometimes just the mere mention of being flirted with by that cute guy at our favorite restaurant, or our interest in the sexy personal trainer at the gym is enough to send our men into a sexual frenzy. It doesn’t take a lot to feed the fantasy. It’s not ALL about dates and recounting how well we got worked over in the bedroom (and how much we loved it), though that is the ultimate turn on for our men, it’s also about the little things – the mention of our interest in someone else, the sexy messages that we send to potential lovers or Bulls, the “tease” of how much we loved what our last Bull did for us and how much we’re looking forward to doing it again. Remember, this ignites the “competition” element of things, which is natural for men.

I still want to fuck her and I'm still fucking her, but those times when I fucked her after she came home from another one, those were crazy hours for both of us.
And she doesn't even have to fuck all the time, once she wanted to go out with a guy for a coffee. Of course that guy wanted to fuck her, but she only wanted to play, I said ok, she was out for about 2 hours, and after she came home I only had to see the look on her face and I fucked her so rough.

In the end, another argument for competition, at least in my case, is that if it would happen to fuck another woman, the first 3 options would be married women.

[BT2]

Me again.

I recall a visit to a resort in Mexico a few years ago. A small portion of the resort was given over to a clothing optional beach and clothing optional swimming/lounging pool, although that was not the resort's main draw. We had made friends with another couple, had dinner with them each evening, and from the beginning of our stay we hung out in the pool with them. Somewhat more than half of the people in the pool were in bathing suits, including the couple we had made friends with. My wife, a hotwife for many years, and I were nude. We soon, very easily, convinced them to get naked as well. They were nice (we even thought of inviting them to our room). My wife and I thought nothing of it when we eventually motioned to change partners. He fondled my wife's pussy (under the water) and said nice things to her, he seemed to enjoy it, and neither my wife nor I thought it particularly unusual. I fondled the other woman's pussy and vagina. She did nothing to stop it and I thought it perfectly "normal". But it soon became obvious she wasn't into it, and also didn't appreciate what her husband was doing with my wife. I ended the physical contact and within a few minutes they left the pool. Right up until it was time to leave the resort they avoided us, in spite of our approaches. My wife and I, I guess, thought hotwife and related activities were perfectly acceptable, even normal. The other couple definitely did not.

[Johnann2227]

I want and like my wife to fuck other people (men and women) because it brings her pleasure. She enjoys the excitement of sex with a variety of people and the power and confidence it gives her. I love watching men fucking her and understanding how good they are feeling being with her.

[CSCH]

We both married young, and I was her first. I think part of it, was her curiousity over what she might have missed out on, and my facination with the idea. One she placed the idea in my head, it just grew, until I really wanted it to happen. Not sure why, or why I didn't feel jealous or threatened (though some jealousy came later).

Almost the same here.
But was me who asked for it from the first time.
Once she did it, she discovered a lot of herself. Our sex live improve. She kept having sex with this male friend for some years, and she ended it quietly. She just said It was fun, but it was over. She has never do it again as far as i know. I keep telling her to do it again, but she doesn't seem to be in the mood.
She enjoyed it a lot. Those days she came back home with her eyes bright. Her face glowing, and smiling.
-"How was it?, in a 10 points scale" I asked.
--"It was an 11", or "just perfect", or "I have never ever had feel those things before", or "Don't ask, I came so many times I am drowsy". She answered different times.
I never wanted to see them. It was her moments. Her experiencias. Her personal space.
Just once I recorded the audio in our home. And I have to say, it was extremely exciting. Hearing how she felt, was simply great.
I am 10 years older than her. Her male friend was the same age as her's.

[CSCH]

I think it is, somehow, normal in a certain point.
I was jealous when we knew each other. But after 10 years of marriage, and knowing her, her loyalty, her true love to me (from the very first beginning), this idea came to me as a double path.
First, I was her first. She was my 7th.
Second, what gives me more pleasure than anything, is to see her have an orgasm.
Each time she comes, everything is perfect in my mind and soul. It is enough for me. It gives me even much pleasure as my own orgasms does.
I think this is called compersion.
It happens to me on every level of our lives. In work, personal achievements, family,... everything.
So I starter to plant this idea, to have sex with someone else, for many years.
It was a drop by drop work to break down the rock.
She started slowly to have some "hot talks" with this male friend of her's.
Then one day she called me from her work:
- "My love, I think maybe I will be late. Juan and I must go to buy something for work, and who knows"
- "Are you telling me it could happen?"
- "Don't know. Maybe"
It was 3:30 p.m..
She arrived at 8:45 p.m.
She saw me. Hold me. Cried. Smiled. And thanked me. She was in full happiness.
And then it started during two wonderful years, once or twice at month.
Nothing bad happened between us.
Those were perfect years.
Then one day she said it was enough.
She wanted no more than me.
I am keep telling her to do it again, but she is reluctant.
-"I do not need it. I do have everything with you"
I suspect, she enjoyed it so much, she felt afraid to felt in love.
It was 8 years ago.
So, returning to the question, I want it, because I want my wife to have all possible satisfaction, no matter where/who it comes from.

[coupleoxford]

For us I'd say there are a few reasons.

1. It's a nice treat we can both share together. We are both so busy as parents and working jobs, it's nice to have something we can both share as our little secret if that makes sense. We will go to the cinema together or out for a meal but having a man join us is just something extra special and exciting, better than any meal or movie. If you think about other areas, such as providing a meal, most men have no problem taking their wife out to be satisfied by a good chef, well this isn't that different.

2. We weren't sure at first but we've found it has strengthened and deepened our relationship together. Most couples I think hide part of themselves from each other, they are too afraid to open up fully to each other. Well, when you can share yourselves in this way it makes it much easier to be open about anything else. We talk more, understand each other more. It's made our marriage and love deeper and more honest.

3. It removes pressure to perform. Hubby is a hard worker and career man, getting home and having to perform highly in the bedroom is just extra pressure and not playing to his strengths. Knowing that wifey's sexual needs are well and truly being met already removes that pressure.

[cucking88]

Because name one thing in the world that’s more pleasurable to seeing your girl getting fucked by a lot of men. Indescribable feeling.