"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[max preev]

My guess is that the true answer to this question most likely won't even be answered when the end of time finally comes.

[Daveyboy123]

Quite simply watching my wife having fun with another man is a total turn and she would agree it does a lot for her as well, so both of us are very happy

[RBALL]

When we first met my wife would give me a lot of bjs. She told me about a boyfriend before me that made her give him bjs in public places and then want nothing to do with her afterwards. The thought of her sucking someone else did turn me on at the time even though that guy was clearly a user.
The first time I wanted something to happen was when she started working full time and would wear skirts with knee-length boots. I heard on the grapevine that some of the sales staff were deliberately going in to the accounts office just to check her out in the boots. This made me really horny and I visualised her being taken from both ends on her desk by two of the staff with her wearing her knee-length boots. To this day that still turns me on.
I think the reason I would like her to fuck another is to watch her from another perspective when she fucks. Also, she can be so dirty when the mood takes her but stops short with me and for her to go that extra mile for another man ie. lose her inhibitions, would be such a massive turn on.
Deep down I don't know why because social conditioning says I shouldn't but at the minute it is all I can think of.

[mikedebbs]

Yea i agree! To me its seeing my wife from a distance instead of being inside her.
Of course i luv making love to my wife but its such a turn on seeing her with another guy, i get to see what i cant when im having sex with her!Lets face it, sex looses its spark year after with one partner, so whether its my wife or its me with another lover...its a huge turnon....but its Sex and it doesnt replace our love and commitment to each other.
Watching a sex vid is a turn on, but watching your wife in it is HOT!

[MikeandDeb]

For us it was simple. As swingers we both enjoy seeing each other pleasuring and being pleasured. It's a shared experience when we are both playing. Sort of a different way of making love or having sex with each other even though at the time we are with different partners just seeing the look in each other's eyes as we watch each other drives us both mad. As a husband I have a voyeuristic streak. I actually think most men do. I really enjoy watching Deb as she gets warmed up and as she get to that point of ultimate pleasure. I think someone said it in another post that it doesn't happen all the time but it is great when it does and it happens more often then not.
There is a different mind set when I get to watch her then when I'm with her myself. I really get to enjoy her in a new way by watching her when I'm not thinking I need to hold off or that I want to change positions or any of the things that run through your head when you're a participant instead of a voyeur.
I learn things about what she likes and doesn't like. And it is a real turn on to see and experience her orgasms from an entirely different perspective.
It may sound strange but swinging and hotwifing have made us a closer couple. We trust each other more than most of our non lifestyle friends. This lifestyle has made us more attuned to each other. I can't think of a better or more fun way to get closer as a couple.

[jim57]

I have to agree that my wife becoming a hotwife has made us closer as a couple. I read all the reasons and agree with some. There probably is no good reason behind it. My wife has said it best when she told me to stop analyzing what we are doing and just have fun. So I leave it that she is right that this is just plain fun. Nothing more, nothing less.

[Irwinhill]

Well, Jim, if HWing has brought you and your wife closer together, surely that is a benefit apart from having fun. Although fun is a good thing, in a marriage closeness might be even more valuable.

For example, when one of us is in the hospital and the other is there everyday providing support and encouragement, that's closeness. If HWing promotes closeness--and it certainly has in our marriage-then I would say HWing is more than just fun.

This Forum provides much evidence that HWing--which is such a surprising phenomena to many of us--is a complex lifestyle that has the potential to enrich a relationship in a variety ways. That may explain why many of us practice it even in the face of obvious risks.

IH

[jeepgirl]

I have to agree that my wife becoming a hotwife has made us closer as a couple. I read all the reasons and agree with some. There probably is no good reason behind it. My wife has said it best when she told me to stop analyzing what we are doing and just have fun. So I leave it that she is right that this is just plain fun. Nothing more, nothing less.

She sounds like good people to me.

[jimmer4440]

Watching my wife of 34 years cumming on another mans dick is the most erotic thing that i can ever imagine. My 4 inchs have never done it for her and when I set things up for our next door neighbor to fuck she was hooked on the big dick. Her orgasms are as intence as it gets when she cums on his dick. He has been fucking her for 23 of the 34 years we have been married. I am not there to watch each and every time but i do know she is being well taken care of when I am not. Jim

[1luckyone]

Watching my wife of 34 years cumming on another mans dick is the most erotic thing that i can ever imagine. My 4 inchs have never done it for her and when I set things up for our next door neighbor to fuck she was hooked on the big dick. Her orgasms are as intence as it gets when she cums on his dick. He has been fucking her for 23 of the 34 years we have been married. I am not there to watch each and every time but i do know she is being well taken care of when I am not. Jim

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Well said Jim...as I read the post in this forum It appears many of the men are into the HW lifestyle to pleasure themselves...this was NEVER...why the wife and I agreeded to share this lifestyle...I simply knew from the srart of our relationship she had a much higher sex drive than I did...So loving her it was simple..honey why don't you take a lover to fulfill your sexual needs...and oh what a ride it has been since 1974...
Its just wonderful to come home or see her come home down through the years and see that glow on her face...she does not have to say a thing...I know.!!..she has just been fucked by her lover...and I am about to get rewarded with a hotwet pussy....now tell me...what could make any man any happier....

I am
1luckyone !!!

[hotwifeluvr]

There's an excellent discussion of this in a book I recently found (in a regular bookstore, mind you), called Your Erotic Personality: Identifying and Understanding Your Sexual Self

It is perhaps the best overview that I've seen, and discusses the various motivations and sub-types of the "cuckold" personality type, which the author wisely points out is not an ideal term for this, since there are many within this personality type who do not fit the image that frequently comes to mind when one thinks of a cuckold.

Some of us are motivated by the way it actually makes us feel sexier and more of a man. We have a wife who is so damn sexy and hot, and we want to share her and get a vicarious thrill out of her ability to enjoy her sexuality so fully. If I am married to such a hot and sexy woman, I must be one helluva man. She discusses this sub-type very accurately.

Others enjoy humiliation or shame, and to each his own. If it makes us both happy, it's more honorable and moral than a whole lot of the deceitful behavior that people bring into their marriage. Which is worse? A breakdown of trust and honesty in a marriage, or the brushing up of bits of flesh against one another while people are getting pleasure?

But then again, if it was a fully accepted behavior, I wonder if that would take anything away from the thrill?

[matt]

I will post again, but I just love it. Still a coin toss as to me waiting at home or me watching and maybe participating.

The best is a taste of a creampie! nothing better.

[hotwifeluvr]

Here are ten rules.
7. Although this should come under the heading of common civility, comparing attributes, attitudes, or sexual capabilities of a person outside of the marriage to those of a spouse is "off limits."

Huh? That would sure take a lot of the fun out of it! Am I misinterpreting this rule? Comparing and contrasting is a huge part of the thrill, no? And has other benefits too. I was never much of a pussy eater until my ex-wife once described how hungry and voracious a former lover had been when eating her. Until then, I'd always been "willing", but never enthusiastic. That changed me, and I became like her former lover. Just thinking of him doing it like that inspired me to do the same and gave me a thrill as I imagined her being eaten in the way I was doing it.

Years later, I encountered an old girlfriend and we reconnected. She commented that someone had evidently taught me something about eating pussy and how good I had become at it.

Hearing the wife describe how another man pleasured her in a way I haven't yet tried is useful. Sometimes a woman won't tell you directly what it is that she wants. And I love hearing her tell about the differences in cocks she's experienced, whether they are bigger, smaller, thicker, limper, whatever.

I just don't get this "rule".

[E and A]

I know where you are coming from Jimmer. We have been married over 25years and one of her FB's for over 5 years really fucked her good every time we got together. We talk often about him but he moved away and now it is very seldom we can get together with him. He had to same likes and dislikes as we did, in and out of the bedroom. We just have not been lucky enough to find a local replacement. It seems there are not that many guys that want to play with a couple at or near their 60s! He had about 9 inches and knew how to use it all. The 3 of us did almost everything that 3 people can do!
Wish we could be lucky like you and your wife are!

Watching my wife of 34 years cumming on another mans dick is the most erotic thing that i can ever imagine. My 4 inchs have never done it for her and when I set things up for our next door neighbor to fuck she was hooked on the big dick. Her orgasms are as intence as it gets when she cums on his dick. He has been fucking her for 23 of the 34 years we have been married. I am not there to watch each and every time but i do know she is being well taken care of when I am not. Jim

[us4bull]

Actually my very hot wife does not "sleeps" with anyone. When her Alpha male visits the last thing on her mind is sleeping, as she has taken several hours in preparation to look her best for her bull. In the process I also get my thrills by helping her prepare for the long hours of heavy fucking and sucking that will take place as soon as he enters our very private home.
She will entertain and pamper her bull as I dedicate my self to host them both as if they were royalty. I delight in seeing her give maximum pleasure to her long time bull and I indulge my long time vouyeristic desire to partake in the debauchery taking place in every room of the house. They will give each other numerous orgasms and seeing her expresions, listening to her cries for more cock and smelling the mix of body fluids drives me to complete extasy. For her the reward is complete, she will bask in the after glow of many hours of sexual abandon and in the complete pampering she will receive after he departs. As for me, love the complete serenity that follows after all of us have share the most intimate pleasures, kinks and taboos that so many do not get to experience. By the way we have 38 years of happy and fulfilled marriage under the belt. We are in the San Antonio Tx area if anyone care to talk about this type of lifestyle.

[matt]

I think what hooked me on a creampie is a porno I saw back in the 70's. A guy got done fucking her, did the money shot in her (unusual for the 70's). As he was getting off of her, another guy came into the room (it was not set up as a gang bang or 3 way, he just walked in). The camera did a close up on her furry pussy with his cum leaking out. The other guy put his dick in her and started to fuck her.

That image is still in my head. While I like for her to fuck any one, and use a condom, nothing is better for me to pull her panties off and see his semen in her.

I loved watching her do it a few times, but it is not necessary. I do caution that no matter how much you fantasize about it, you are not prepared to see her actually do it. It was the kissing that got to me, weird huh. I would suggest that the first few times, you wait at home. That way if you later get cold feet, you atleast do not have that mental image burned in. That is what I held to when I was getting ready for the first time I was going to get to watch her with someone.

Enjoy

[kari_bare]

Before we started this lifestyle, our sex life had become routine, dare I say "boring", and infrequent. We were fucking, three, maybe four. times in a good month. Since I started fucking other men, hubby now fucks me almost every night, and frequently again in the middle of the night when he wakes UP...and, sometimes in the day when he's around, and there's opportunity. So I guess it's all in the math...from maybe three times a month, to sometimes three times a day! That's the best answer I can give.

[janeanddavid]

We are new to the forum. I'm not sure to tell our whole story or not. I will make it short. We met in high school. While in college we broke up, and i got together with another boy. David didn't like him, but i did at the time. He was a pretty dominant guy, and i made love to him. When i told David later, he got kind of hot over time. Over the years he always asked about it. Sort of totally in disbelief that i had another bf. So that's where we are now. Conservative, but turned on by it. I am too.

[gwl9dta4]

Sex is such a natural part of life. Women are just so sexual, in every way. My wife and i love talking about it. I love the instant competitive instinct take over on me. In the past we would have sex every few weeks and i usually did not last long. Not because i'm weaker in sex, but because my for the lack of a better word,my cock was not excited. Im pretty well endowed but that is only half the picture. I need to be mentally stimulated or i just don't grow. First time she brought me home a little surprise it was I who ended up surprised. Like a teenager, my erection was some of the hardest it's ever been. My sexual stamina increased exponentially.

But aside form all that. Ill be honest. I always loved sexually aggressive women. I always loved loose women. I think they are the greatest ladies. They don't intimidate me and i like them and embrace them. I like confident women. It turns me on and makes me want to pursue them. But they have to be beautiful. Its my one vice. Very beautiful sexy, sexual women. I find my wife to be a solid strong 9 out of 10 and a perfect 10 for me sometimes. She has everything, the tri-athlete body, the breasts, ohh the face. My personal porn starlet.


Every time we make love, i can easily bring her to multiple orgasms and get the sheets soaked at the very mention of her being MY hotwife. It increases her self confidence and that makes me hot for her. I can't stand wishy washy personalities with jelly spines. You can have a jelly spine, but at least be bright eyed and curious about life.

It's like it re energised our love life, our sex life, our friendship. But mostly in brought passion to us. Passion, goes beyond love and understanding. You can feel love but no passion. But feel love with passion...ummmmmmm...Exctasy bliss.

[RGB49FL]

I tried to figure this out for years, before I just said "who gives a fuck" and resigned myself to the fact that it turns me on. There is probably some deep seated (fill in the blank) that causes the id to conflict with the super ego to... Damn, started doing it again.

It's hot. It's fun. And we get off on it. Enough said.

[243]

Found a fascinating although somewhat academic paper on Erotic Plasticity. Basically a 3 point analysis of why women are generally more erotically flexible than men. Worth a visit.

http://www.psy.fsu.edu/~baumeistertice/ ... er2000.pdf

[eddiew]

Although it has never happened yet and I do not know if it ever will, I want her to do it because:
- I want her to enjoy the best sex possible (different style of lovemaking, different size and shape of cock etcetera);
- she is so absolutely gorgeous that it is a waste if I am the only one that is enjoying her beauty;
- I want other guys to envy me as I am the one who can enjoy her whenever I want;
- she has the tightest, silky pussy;
- she has a heartshaped ass that makes you cum immediately when doing her doggystyle;
- she can suck and lick a cock as no one else can;
- letting her learn more about sex will definately improve our own lovemaking as well;
- I think that it could add another level of intimacy in our relationship (actually one of the most important aspects).

[Janson]

... The first time was the most erotic experience I ever had, it really was. ...

Absofuckinglutely

(and I very rarely swear )

[happycuck]

.....The first time was the most erotic experience I ever had, it really was. My girlfriend was sooo hot and eager. Only now did I realize how much she had been wanting to do it. Once I saw him on top of her small naked body with his large cock buried deep inside her, I wanted it to never stop... They did 'it' twice that night, right in front of my eyes... Wow... It was beautiful and so hot!! My girlfriend totally enjoyed it, perhaps a bit too much. She was quite shocked herself the day after when she realized how far she'd gone and how much she had enjoyed it.....the floodgates had been opened, and I shared her with him for over a year.

Yes, that's it exactly!!!

[dcuckw2b]

I think Doomywife's explanation of the joy of sloppy seconds says it all for me. For me it will remain a fantasy,but I fantasise all the time about the scenario he describes so vividly.