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Unread post by max82 » Sat Jan 09, 2016 12:41 am

I think its extremely important to share your wife with other men to have true value of hers in your wife so that she never be taken for granted by you. Secondly the sex life between you do would be at a different level altogether and you will never get bored with your wife. You guys will not age fast as sex would always be most pleasurful thing in your life always. So it is the responsibility of us to bring the kink out of our wives and share her completely and positively live this life.
I would love to see two child's from my wife. One mine and one from a different man and would at least love equal the other guys child. That's the perfect marriage .

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Unread post by cuckinwaiting10 » Wed Jan 13, 2016 6:58 pm

Hello, all. Been lurking and looking for a while, finallt got through this thread. Always meant to go through it but it seemed too old and too long. Glad i finally forced myself to get through it! Lots of useful and smart information here.

I've been teasing and hinting to my wife about her messing around for about 4 years. She finally came out and asked me straight up if i was serious! I sucked it up and said yes i am. silence...seemed like forever. Her first reaction was that i wanted to mess around. I assured her i had zero interest in that, only her enjoyment...more silence. All she said was that i was a pervert and she's not interested.

Sounds like a start to me! I will be patient and let her probe, see what happens. Pribably nothing but i felt like i owed some contribution to the site i read and enjoy so much. Thanks everyone.

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Unread post by DangerGames » Thu Jan 14, 2016 7:33 am

Amazing thread. Over the last few days, I have read every single post. My wife and I have just in the last two months made the leap into actually making our fantasies a reality. After three years of talking and roleplay, I never thought it would actually happen. To not derail, I will leave out the details for another thread, but it's been an amazing up and down journey for both of us.

I have had these feelings and desires as long as I've been involved with the opposite sex. Never really sure what put the thoughts in my head in the first place. But years of reflection have led me to a few reasons.

1. Voyeurism - Having an older brother growing up, I had early access to pornography and grew to appreciate watching others have sex. My wife is ridiculously hot and adds a more psychological element to my excitement while watching her on video.

2. Taboo - I have always enjoyed pushing the limits of societal norms. Conquering your ingrained moral compass is thrilling.

3. Her pleasure and excitement - My wife was a mother at 19 and had only been in longer term relationships. She never had the chance to "be wild" or experiment with her sexuality. Given that we are full-time working parents, she doesn't really get to go party with friends, so this has kind of become our form of partying. It makes her feel sexy and desired, and has really opened her mind to different ideas and sexual experiences.

4. My pleasure and excitement - I have always been a confident and dominant male. I was always the aggressor and very successful in my sex life. I am well endowed and have always pleased my partners. Relinquishing my aggressive sexual nature is thrilling in ways I still do not understand. Watching my wife on video with another man makes me feel as if I'm not in control, while still remaining safe and secure in my marriage.

Since this has started, she has had two partners, one was a friend of mine for 15 years, and it got a little messy, I think due to shock on all sides, but we're still all on good terms. Last week we met a new guy on tinder who she REALLY likes, a very well built cop who treats her very well. She spent several hours with him last Saturday and the sex was great. I watched on Skype (and recorded).

Thus far her partners have been good, but I am still larger and make her cum much harder. It's been a great balance of great sex for her, while still knowing I provide more pleasure. That may not always be the case, but we're still new to this and it's allowing us to become comfortable with the feelings we have.

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Unread post by Xspree » Wed Feb 10, 2016 12:05 pm

Agatha wrote:I merged the two threads since they were talking about the same thing. Less double posting.

Sorry if it causes any confusion.

Agatha, the avatar is that your face? If so, your very sexy.. Where do you live?

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Unread post by Horny perv hubby » Thu Feb 18, 2016 4:11 am

I believe it's a lifestyle choice & if both partners are willing then why not. She doesn't have to go behind my back and fuck someone. Strangely enough I am more turned on watching her having sex with another dude. Even why I have sex with my wife I fantasize that some other guy is going balls deep & filling her tank with his cream. I jackoff everyday thinking about her & other guys getting it on. I prefer hiding in a closet and watching in secret. She's an artist so she has a thing for these young artsy type boys with long unkept hair, stubbles, etc and I also like these 18-25 year olds banging a 35 year old milf. This is our choice and it keeps our relationship fun. Love is not our issue, this has got nothing to do with love. Some like threesomes, some like lesbians, we like this ;)

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Unread post by 54321 » Wed Feb 24, 2016 3:46 pm

All she said was that i was a pervert and she's not interested. Sounds like a start to me!
Now that is a positive attitude :lol: Good onya!

All good wishes,

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Unread post by DSK1967 » Fri Feb 26, 2016 4:45 am

cuckinwaiting10 wrote:Hello, all. Been lurking and looking for a while, finallt got through this thread. Always meant to go through it but it seemed too old and too long. Glad i finally forced myself to get through it! Lots of useful and smart information here.

I've been teasing and hinting to my wife about her messing around for about 4 years. She finally came out and asked me straight up if i was serious! I sucked it up and said yes i am. silence...seemed like forever. Her first reaction was that i wanted to mess around. I assured her i had zero interest in that, only her enjoyment...more silence. All she said was that i was a pervert and she's not interested.

Sounds like a start to me! I will be patient and let her probe, see what happens. Pribably nothing but i felt like i owed some contribution to the site i read and enjoy so much. Thanks everyone.

Our experience sort of started like that. My wife asked of my fantasies, while we were dating. Her response was "I dont know if I could do that". After more explination of how it's not cheeting when we all are in the know and that I had NO desire to do the same (and some more time for her to think about it) and more discussion about it, she decided to try.
Well, 3 years later we've had a few VERY HOT experiences, 1 guy she still gets with on ocasion. We are very selective and mainly work off craigs list so you really need to be patient but when it works it's extremely hot!! Keep "non challantly" talking about it, dont push it, she just might try it like my wife did.
Avitar is my wife. Just to be clear.

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by TriangleTangle » Fri Feb 26, 2016 10:46 am

Kona wrote:3. Compersion. It may be an overused and often misused term, but it’s still valid in a lot of cases. I really love my wife, and I really want her to be as happy as she can be, even if I’m not the one who can do it all for her.

There are actually two very distinct forms of Compersion; one is a purely emotional/intellectual form - such as the one you cite, where you simply get emotional/intellectual pleasure that you are doing something nice fr your wife. That's the traditional and common undersanding.

But there is another, very different form of Compersion - more common for males. The other form results in extremely heightened sexual stimulation - your empathy for your wife allows gives you to obtain a vicarious physical transference - you virtually feel your wife's own physical pleasure to the degree you are sexually stimulated to levels many never experience - as if you were in her body experiencing both her mental and physical pleasure. This is not to be confused with some secret desire to be female - you can be very male, very heterosexual, and even quite Alpha, yet you still allow yourself to get into her experience - it is a very uniting thing between the husbands and wives that understand this form of Compersion. It is also a form that many do not comprehend, especially women, and a feeding few men in this lifestyle are able to articulate and put into words.

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Unread post by obkabc22 » Sun Feb 28, 2016 3:15 pm

Hi! this is my first post after joining the site

I wanted a ffm she wanted a mfm threesome, so after three ffm I thought some how she had forgotten about her fantasy lol. So she said no more women until i get a new man. The rule was I get to pick the guy and she agreed. I dragged my feet on that for months cause I didn't want another guy in my wife, but i thought lets just get it done and over with and we can go back to ffm. The guy came over, we did what we did, and I found that watching and feeling all the emotions involved with it were a giant rush. We still do ffm and mfm but watching her with someone else is #1 on my list.

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Unread post by Kona » Tue Mar 01, 2016 6:35 pm

TriangleTangle wrote:There are actually two very distinct forms of Compersion; one is a purely emotional/intellectual form - such as the one you cite, where you simply get emotional/intellectual pleasure that you are doing something nice fr your wife. That's the traditional and common undersanding.

But there is another, very different form of Compersion - more common for males. The other form results in extremely heightened sexual stimulation - your empathy for your wife allows gives you to obtain a vicarious physical transference - you virtually feel your wife's own physical pleasure to the degree you are sexually stimulated to levels many never experience - as if you were in her body experiencing both her mental and physical pleasure. This is not to be confused with some secret desire to be female - you can be very male, very heterosexual, and even quite Alpha, yet you still allow yourself to get into her experience - it is a very uniting thing between the husbands and wives that understand this form of Compersion. It is also a form that many do not comprehend, especially women, and a feeding few men in this lifestyle are able to articulate and put into words.

TT

Thank you, TT, very well articulated! Perhaps we can add this as yet another reason “Why a guy would want his wife to sleep with another man”: Vicariousness, if that’s actually a word. The woman’s arousal is contagious; it causes excitement in her lover and her husband or boyfriend as well. I wasn’t really into the whole hotwifing thing to begin with, I was encouraging it to relieve sexual frustration in our relationship, but it’s been growing on me. N.F. senses my enjoyment of the subject and asks why, and I tell her that I can tell it excites her, and that excites me in turn.
obkabc22 wrote:Hi! this is my first post after joining the site

I wanted a ffm she wanted a mfm threesome, so after three ffm I thought some how she had forgotten about her fantasy lol. So she said no more women until i get a new man. The rule was I get to pick the guy and she agreed. I dragged my feet on that for months cause I didn't want another guy in my wife, but i thought lets just get it done and over with and we can go back to ffm. The guy came over, we did what we did, and I found that watching and feeling all the emotions involved with it were a giant rush. We still do ffm and mfm but watching her with someone else is #1 on my list.
Welcome obkabc22, and congratulations on graduating to hotwifing! However we come to this lifestyle, the “giant rush” is what keeps us in it.
calmcurioushubby wrote: This is very close to how I feel. Thank you, TT, for this explanation. While a part of me enjoys the thought of watching my wife have sex with another man, I get nothing, or at least very little, from it if she does not have a satisfying experience. The better sex is for her, whether it is with me, with another man, or with a dildo, the more intense my own experience is. Conversely, when, for whatever reason, she only has a mediocre experience, or does not have an orgasm at all, I really don't enjoy sex. Even if I get off, it is a physical release, but it is very anticlimactic, and I get no real pleasure from it. It really is "gee, glad that is over, now.We.can go do something productive" kind of thing when that happens.

It is an emotional/physical bond that is very hard to describe. The previous best (and equally confusing) term I had ever heard used to describe it is the "power exchange" term used by true Sado-Masochists in the course of BDSM play. It is an intimacy you cannot obtain without totally opening the most vulnerable part of yourself up to someone else, to do with as they please. And in return, they give that part of themselves back to you. So now, a part of each of you lives, at least for a few moments, inside or partially inside the psyche of the other. Very intense, but also a little scary. And very, very addictive.

So, why do I want my wife to sleep with another man? There are a score or more of reasons, but the most compelling is going to be for me to be able to sit back, savor and fully experience, hopefully, one of the most powerfully erotic experiences of both our lives! After all, when you are involved, you reach a point where your own body begins to interfere with that bond. I look forward to being able to witness it from beginning to end, with no distractions.......I guess, in a way, by sharing her, you could say I am being selfish!
You put it well, Calm. It’s intense, a little scary but very addictive. Selfish? Perhaps, in the sense that we obtain pleasure from the situation, but that can’t be wrong when our wife or girlfriend is writhing in the ecstasy that we not only permit but encourage.

Back when I did occasionally indulge in porn, I vastly preferred the imperfect bodies and faces, but authentic love and passion, of amateur compared with the toned and siliconed mannequins and desensitized acrobatics of professional movies. For that matter, my best experiences with girls in my Navy days were the ones who truly enjoyed their “work”, even to the point of getting off themselves. Call it “vicariousness” or “power exchange”, it’s the contagious eroticism of a woman in the throes of passion, however she’s being aroused, or by whom.

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Unread post by Kranks71 » Mon Mar 14, 2016 9:05 am

Wow ! The post for this thread are amazing, but for me it's kind of the same with a twist. My sexual experiences have me at a good level on the man depth chart and I have experienced my two girl fantasy. My hot wife is a gift from up above, according to me. Never before have I experienced great sex like I do with my wife or is she something special which lead me here. A women who is so in tune with her body and sexual motions that she can have multiple orgasms over and over. She has a love for sex, with a very low count of experience under her belt, but there is a nerve that needs to be attended to that I think she deserves. This thought drives me crazy know that she is such a submissive that loves to be conquered and set free is such a turn on. I have talked to her about it while out and during sex. The idea seems to be a task that she is growing to do ! got to love it !!!

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Re: "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man

Unread post by sallymature » Tue Mar 15, 2016 6:35 pm

Two words........sperm competition. :up:

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Unread post by Mia » Tue Mar 15, 2016 7:15 pm

sallymature wrote:Two words........sperm competition. :up:
Welcome to OHW, sallymature.

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Unread post by Truckstar » Wed Mar 16, 2016 12:43 am

sallymature wrote:Two words........sperm competition. :up:
Really? nothing is that simple.

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Unread post by Wife_UK » Sun Mar 20, 2016 3:34 pm

sallymature wrote:Two words........sperm competition. :up:
If that were the reason, why isn't everyone doing it?

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Unread post by oakhot » Sun Mar 20, 2016 9:40 pm

In addition to all the great reasons stated we have found a new one. Physical fitness. My wife has always been fit, but now with about 10hrs of sex a week she is tone from top to bottom. People and friends are noticing and she loves the way she looks.. I wouldn't mind her having a few more lbs, so I'm good either way.

So keep this in mid.. Prepping for the act and once she is active is a big fitness boost

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Unread post by truther » Mon Apr 11, 2016 4:27 pm

xxxy wrote:For years I have been driving myself crazy and probing every corner of my psyche to find an answer to this question. Today I read this entire thread and have come to understand there may be as many reasons as there are people in the lifestyle. But here are a few that resonate for me.

My wife and I had one experience several years ago, and for me it was the most fantastic sex of my life. We met a guy out of town and spent an afternoon in a motel room where I watched her perform and totally enjoy every aspect of sex with our new friend. There was no doubt of her physical pleasure as her back arched and her nipples stood at attention for her multiple orgasms. Charlie was magnificent. He was patient and sensitive and had a beautiful cock that stayed hard until after about 3 or 4 hours the cum exploded all over her. It only happened that one time and she is now reluctant to try again, despite the fact that her pleasure was undeniable, and our sex life for years afterwards was fantastic.

So I have spent many hours since then, even with some professional help, trying to understand why I enjoyed this experience so much. Here are some of my conclusions:
1) She always was a great wife and mother and certainly not a bad sex partner, but seeing her enjoy sex without any attachment or attraction to her partner gave me a new vision of her. She was never more beautiful than when this stranger's cock was positioned on her labia and paused momentarily before its advance into her. There was a certain purity in eroticism for its own sake. She might have had some reservations, although she never showed or expressed any, but when her body was climaxing from the stimulation of his cock probing deeply within her, there was no trace of any inhibition. She had become purely a sexual being;
2) I think I belong to the humiliation camp of this lifestyle. There is a kind of passive domination, that I enjoyed when I was sat on the sidelines and watched my wife pull a strange cock out of the other guy's pants, take it into her mouth, willingly spread her legs and then welcomed his cock into her pussy; AND
3) Although I do enjoy sex as a participant, I have come to believe I have some fear of intimacy and enjoy sex vicariously when she has given herself totally to the other guy.

For me, all of these may be related to each other, but I am not yet able to find the unifying theory or an underlying reason. I am still searching.
This is a wonderful and erotic post, remarkably expressed. I'm still in a place where this kind of act remains fantasy, but somehow I relate to your words. These are deep mysteries, for certain. Without really knowing tough, I somehow know instinctively there can be good -- beauty, wonder, discovery, and fulfillment -- in this for some couples. That it can fit and be a viable sexual expression within a great and loving marriage. You watched your wife having amazing sex, and were (indeed still are) incredibly aroused and moved by it. Your words make it sound quite nearly like a sacrament; I think everyone must realize (hopefully they do) that great sex CAN be that, and there can be little doubt that it offers the potential for a peak sexual experience for everyone involved.
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Unread post by Jillianwes » Sun Apr 24, 2016 11:31 am

YoungBostonM wrote:Reading through these threads on Craigslist Boston's Missed Connections, I miss the stickied thread on the old forum.

[url]http: //boston.craigslist.org/search/mis?query=advice&minAsk=min&maxAsk=max[/url]

The gist of the threads is that a woman posted asking for advice about her husband's fantasy to see her with another man. The responses range from "he's not normal" to "he's gay."

Does anybody have anything even resembling that old thread? It would be like a beacon of light in this ocean of ignorance.
I'm a 27 y/o wife I am going to ask the same question

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Unread post by Hotwifeok » Sun Apr 24, 2016 5:34 pm

Jillianwes wrote:
YoungBostonM wrote:Reading through these threads on Craigslist Boston's Missed Connections, I miss the stickied thread on the old forum.

[url]http: //boston.craigslist.org/search/mis?query=advice&minAsk=min&maxAsk=max[/url]

The gist of the threads is that a woman posted asking for advice about her husband's fantasy to see her with another man. The responses range from "he's not normal" to "he's gay."

Does anybody have anything even resembling that old thread? It would be like a beacon of light in this ocean of ignorance.
I'm a 27 y/o wife I am going to ask the same question
Jillian,

We cannot explain it any more than you can explain why guys turn you on. It just is what it is and there is nothing wrong with it if it is about the two,of you.

We just know that it excites us and makes us love our wives more when they do it for us. Just know that you should NOT do this if it is not something you want. It takes both of you to be in agreement with this. You do NOT take one for the team.

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Unread post by Jillianwes » Sun Apr 24, 2016 5:39 pm

Hotwifeok wrote:
Jillianwes wrote:
YoungBostonM wrote:Reading through these threads on Craigslist Boston's Missed Connections, I miss the stickied thread on the old forum.

[url]http: //boston.craigslist.org/search/mis?query=advice&minAsk=min&maxAsk=max[/url]

The gist of the threads is that a woman posted asking for advice about her husband's fantasy to see her with another man. The responses range from "he's not normal" to "he's gay."

Does anybody have anything even resembling that old thread? It would be like a beacon of light in this ocean of ignorance.
I'm a 27 y/o wife I am going to ask the same question
Jillian,

No I understand that completely
We cannot explain it any more than you can explain why guys turn you on. It just is what it is and there is nothing wrong with it if it is about the two,of you.

We just know that it excites us and makes us love our wives more when they do it for us. Just know that you should NOT do this if it is not something you want. It takes both of you to be in agreement with this. You do NOT take one for the team.

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Unread post by Mark K » Sun Apr 24, 2016 7:05 pm

Absolutely amazing posts in this thread. Thanks to all of you for sharing here.

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Unread post by Atl-hubby » Wed Apr 27, 2016 4:18 am

I asked this in another thread in the cuck forum but it seems more appropriate here. I have always wondered what it was that gave me such a deep sense of sexual gratification when my wife of 20 years (6 dating, 14 married, been together since we were 16) fucks another man either in front of me or on her own. I wanted to know if anybody else's wife had experienced a rape in their life. A real rape not role playing. I am just curious because it may be related to why we both enjoy the lifestyle.

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Unread post by Atl-hubby » Wed Apr 27, 2016 4:25 am

I would go into a bit more detail if people think it is relevant to this discussion.

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Unread post by xxxprincess » Sat Apr 30, 2016 6:45 am

cuckinwaiting10 wrote:Hello, all. Been lurking and looking for a while, finallt got through this thread. Always meant to go through it but it seemed too old and too long. Glad i finally forced myself to get through it! Lots of useful and smart information here.

I've been teasing and hinting to my wife about her messing around for about 4 years. She finally came out and asked me straight up if i was serious! I sucked it up and said yes i am. silence...seemed like forever. Her first reaction was that i wanted to mess around. I assured her i had zero interest in that, only her enjoyment...more silence. All she said was that i was a pervert and she's not interested.

Sounds like a start to me! I will be patient and let her probe, see what happens. Pribably nothing but i felt like i owed some contribution to the site i read and enjoy so much. Thanks everyone.
I felt the same way, and now love the lifestyle, so with patience, and encouragement, she may come around.

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Unread post by schamz » Sat Apr 30, 2016 10:05 pm

Atl-hubby wrote:I asked this in another thread in the cuck forum but it seems more appropriate here. I have always wondered what it was that gave me such a deep sense of sexual gratification when my wife of 20 years (6 dating, 14 married, been together since we were 16) fucks another man either in front of me or on her own. I wanted to know if anybody else's wife had experienced a rape in their life. A real rape not role playing. I am just curious because it may be related to why we both enjoy the lifestyle.
Tell us more. Why do you ask the question about the rape?

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