Our Hotwives

I have to agreee with the "being proud of a hot car" analogy, which is very much a MALE characteristic. The ladies decorate themselves with the latest plumage and the menfolk parade them around. The audience is dazzled - women admire her while the men want to be intimate with her - everybody wins. This social pattern has been on the books for eons in western cultures. Pictures of the well-plumed matriarch grace the castle. We're "proud" of her.

But the above doesn't explain WHY sharing her good looks extends to sharing her sexually, a very unconventional practice.

I think the answer might be that some men (not all) tend to gravitate toward tempting fate in their personal search for excitement and adventure, toying with "risk" and challenging the "ultimate sacrifice" as we ascend to a desirable level of self-identity. Some men climb mountains, some sail solo around the globe - stretching their physical and emotional endurance. Not all of us can afford such adventurous luxuries, but pushing the envelope in a loving relationship can produce similar mind-bending experiences for free. Perhaps that's why the sex is so good afterwards - the staggering elation of poking your collective fingers in the eye of cultural authority. We approach it together as man and woman, feel the nervous anxiety and angst of passing her to another man to experience the most powerful stimulant known to the species, then fuck with reckless abandon afterwards.

All the natural human tendencies are there: he wants the "conquest" of her body, she wants to be conquered and rut like an animal, and hubby is "top dog" in the arrangement - he's admired and "lucky to have her." It's strange that something as value-foreign as HWing fits all these tendencies so well, but it seems to do just that. It's certainly not for the Oliver Milktoasts among us though

Anyway, that's as close as I've come to figuring out the WHY part.

Matt2.

That was the most AWESOME post I've ever read. I think you nailed it on the head.

WOW.

yes Mat has hit a big part of it. Like some ride roller coasters or jump out of planes.

Yeah - What Matt2 said!

I've been pondering a reply for days now, but could not have said it better myself.

I agree that seeing L get stares when we go out these days is a wondrous thing. Sometimes I have a hard time believing how beautiful she is, watching from across the room at a party or social event. Hell, I'm staring too.

But for me, it's another element that gets me going. When we met, L was so innocent, so shy in social situations. It took me forever to get into her panties. Although she did some exploring after that, she has always been a very conservative dresser, and reluctant to talk about sex in the daylight. These days, when she does take a lover, it's proof that she's come out of that shell, that she's now not afraid of that sexy woman who was hiding inside for so long. Her attitude's completely different. She's more confident, and blatantly sexier, even when she isn't trying. She'll talk about a guy she sees and likes when we're together in public, whispers stuff in my ear that makes me crazy. She used to blow me grudgingly, not outwardly, but I could tell she felt obligated now and then. These days, well, just last weekend I had just stepped out of the shower and was standing at the sink shaving. L entered, went to her knees without a word, and gave me one of the most memorable BJs I've ever had. Then she got up, smiled at me, kissed me on the cheek, and left, smugly swaying that little bottom on the way out. THAT isn't the shy girl I married. While all the guys I know are complaining that their wives aren't interested in sex after years of marriage, L has become my dream-wife - more aware of her beauty, sexuality, and intellectual freedom every day. Most of my guy friends would think I'm crazy for sharing her, but if they only knew the payoff - nah, don't think I'll tell 'em yet. They aren't ready to follow by example - probably'd all just want a crack at her. Then, instead of one perfect wife, I'd be dealing with ten really pissed-off ones.

I am impressed

EU

I posted this in reply to another topic and I thought it might fit well here.

I think it was my fascination with porn that got me started. I remember looking at some X-rated stuff when I was 11 or twelve years old that a friend of mine found hidden in his parents bedroom. I always wanted to see more. Other friends would find their older brother's stash of Playboys. I just seemed to naturally want to please the girls. I wanted to make them smile and be happy. They seemed to be having fun having sex. Since I wanted them to be happy ....

I wanted to have sex with as many women as possible. It made me feel good to make them happy. When I was 14 or 15 I was at a party where the older brother of one of my friends had found his parents stash of alcohol. There was only one girl there from the neighborhood. She was around 16. We all got drunk and started teasing the girl. The more we teased her the hornier everyone was getting including her and what started out as feeling up her tits turned into a gangbang on the living room couch. I'll never forget the image of her laying there in total ecstasy.

I wanted to watch from a distance just like I was at that party or watching a movie or looking at images in a magazine. To be able to do that I needed help. The first time I talked a girlfriend of mine into having sex with me and another guy I'll never forget. The look on her face of total pleasure as fucked her, just like that party when I was younger, was incredible. I was hooked from then on.

Why would a man want his woman to fuck another man?
You know, when you think about it that is a very legitimate question that deserves an honest answer. Basically, just the thought of my wife passionately fucking (anyone including me) turns me on like nothing else. In the old forum I did share my personal take on the motivation behind this fascinating excitement.

Here it is again in a nutshell:

Because watching my lovely bride in the sizzling heat of passionate lovemaking is like observing the beautiful majesty of the changing hues of a mountain sunset. Each occasion is special, awe-inspiring and moving. As an artist can touch the soul with oils and canvas, my wife can produce an inferno of excitement with her captivating personality and gorgeous body.

Having performed in air shows before, I know the best seat is actually on the ground in the crowd, not in the air. Being in the aircraft does give you the thrill of being tossed around a bit but you really can’t experience everything else that is going on. You have to exclusively focus on your personal performance.

Being able to step back and just observe allows me to truly appreciate the wonder that is her and witness the poetry of her sexuality in motion. I love her and I love to watch her or even just imagine her in action as she tells me of her night out.

Mr Fun

Haha, the hot car analogy is funny. Yes, that concept applies. It'd be interesting to know who of you all would be more worried about a buddy taking your hot car for a spin, rather than him taking your hot wife for 'a ride'. Of course, the utter ANGST would arise when he takes both your hot car and her out, and both the backseat and her end up smeared with cum! This'd create the ultimate dilemma too... Clean HER up first, or the backseat??

Hehe! This brings back memories as my wife has taken my SUV as she wanted to be a bad girl in the back of the vehicle with her first FB. Well, she was a very naughty hotwife as she squirted all over the blankets and floor of the SUV as she got her first anal sex...I was listening on a cellphone and her screaming "I'm cuuuummmminnnnggg, I'm cuuuummmminnngggg...OMG, I can't stop cuuuummmminnnggg!" is still burned into my memory. I only wish I could have been there to see that blessed event.

So, my car and a clean up....too funny!

I to can relate to the hot car analogy....
When the wife and I first got into this lifestyle I owned a small nursery and landscape business and had hired a very rugged handsome man that managed the business for us. She had already had 2 lovers by this time and I could tell by the way she flirted with Clyde she had him in her sites. We owned a leisure van at the time and about 2 hours away was a wholesale plant supplier that we traded with...however Clyde had never been there. I purposely arranged to need a few special plants for a job to be done right away...I also arranged so that I could not leave my other business to go...leaving only my wife to go with Clyde so he did not get lost as the area was very rural...
I knew there would be lots of old farm roads just off the main road (private spots). She jumped at the chance to ride with Clyde in the van to gather the plants. They left around 8 am one morning...She was all bubbly...I knew Clyde was about to get lucky..though he didn't.
It was around 2 before I could get away for a late lunch...at home...knowing that the wife should be back from her trip with Clyde. When I arrived home she was laying across our bed with the most dreamy look on her face...I entered...asking how was the trip...she said simply awsome...I said how so...knowing the answer...she began to unbuckle her jeans saying why don't you find out....I scrambles out of my clothes....then helped her remove hers...finding a very wet freshly fucked pussy...which she proceeded to straddle my face with and lower down to my waiting lips and tounge....We spent the rest of the afternoon in bed with her reliving the details of how she got Clyde to stop and park so she and he could break in the lesiure van..properly....need I say Clyde became a regular between her thighs for about 2 years...Clyde was her first 9"....not much girth but as she lovingly said...he gets pussy nobody else touches....

I am
1luckyone

Eh, I don't want to twist this.

Here's my input. Marriage now, modernized as monogamous . But there's been many pologamous marriages. Well, moving on. In my opinion, Sex is an expression. Not only an emotional tool, but an sexual liberal expression as well. Well, if we restrict ourselves to what aspect of this expression, What are we really saying? Oh, you can do sex, but special restrictions apply. What is this a promotional contest? 3 consenting adults are willing(the husband, the wife, and lastly, the lover). So why not let them?

Well, back to sex being as a liberal expression. I think if both parties agree, then it's a great thing to share.

His woman? Well, I'm sorry to report. A woman is her own woman. You make it sound like legal chattel lol. If she was into the lifestyle and he wasn't, then She'll leave anyway.

In conclusion, DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS!

LOL.

Just wanted to add my two cents.

I like to see the crazy animal in her come out when she is on the prowl for someone or is with someone. She is ususally very conservative. There may be a bit of the "live porn" thing going on too. Love to watch. Also take pride in the fact that she is sexy at 40 and has "it'. When she walks in a room, she catches peoples attention. So there is a bit of the "hottest car on the block idea also.

Quick history. Best friends since high school. She was always the flirt. I was never jealous. She would share her dreams with me about other men. I didint mind. Girl night outs I would tell her to dance with whoever she wanted. She gets home and tells me the stories. Those led to fooling around with some of these guys on her night outs. Started to turn me on thinking about it. Business trips I started to tel her to try and find a guy. A couple of good friends we knew ended up being our first 3somes. This was the first 12 years of our marriage. We move slow. We enjoyed that so much and added great excitement to our marriage. We began to get on websites to find the perfect (or near perfect) person to share these no strings attached experiences with. Have had 10 events in 3 years and has been great!

Thanks for listening to me babble.

In our case we do it because it makes the sex better between the two of us. My wife was sexually abused starting at a very young age, she has been sexual a long time and had a lot of sex, she tends to get bored with it. We must constantly figure out ways to keep sex edgy. Her doing other guys, her playing the slut, always works for her. She has always loved roll playing, going to the swing club and finding ways to get guys to play with her always gets her hot for weeks after.

A secondary reason is more traditional: I am proud of how good she is at turning guys on, of how hot she is, Also I love that other guys know that she is all mine, that I get to play with her when ever I want but they only get to when I say so.

My wife and I have talked about hotwifing and hot cars...she gets a kick out of how I will let a guy fuck her but I wouldn't let the same guy drive my car!
I do think if you have a hot car and can find a friend you trust to drive it hard and really show you what it can do, while you watch, it would be very gratifying.
Until I find the right "friend" for that...the number one love of my life is keeping me very well gratified!

So we were visiting one of her studs a few weeks ago and we happened to drive the Vette that day. We usually go out to dinner after everyone has had enough dessert. I suggested to Mrs B, "why not let Al take you in the Vette and I'll bring his car." So here I am, offering to let a guy who just had her in bed --and gave it to her royally I might add-- and she says... " you would trust him with your Vette?" I think I calmly said, "well, I'll have to check him out pretty well first."

But seriously, when she is with a man for me it's like being in a dream. When I am present (not always) I watch her in detachment, giving herself to this man. Kissing like she means it, stroking him to erection, pleasing him and allowing herself to be pushed to the bed. Spreading her legs and enjoying his tongue. Lifting her head to watch with a dreamy smile on her face. Playing and caressing and sighing. Letting him crawl between her legs and slide in, then hearing, seeing and feeling her reaction. Seeing that smile on her face. Listening to the things she says with total abandon.

This experience blows me away, and over the last year I have learned to actually gain pleasure from her experience of it. It truly is a fascinating thing to know your wife can do this and then come back to you completely. There is no denial, no humiliation, no abuse of our trust. I can let my wife experience this wonderful thing called sex without jealousy. I am one lucky S.O.B

As a man who O.K. his wife to go out with another man for the first time on Friday I did it because my wife has discovered a new found sexuality in her late 40's. She has had a boob job, and worked out religiously with a personal trainer for 4 years now and she is looking smoking hot. Unfortunatly for me, due to medical reasons I do not share in the same drive that she now has. She is happy with her new found married buddy who is 20 years younger than she is and we are confident enough in our marriage to know it will not end it. It makes me happy to know she is happy.

Just catching up on reading this thread leads to the question:

Are the Ten Rules of an Open Marriage written down someplace?

I have struggled to answer this question a thousand times over. I'm 45 and first felt the feelings of seeing somebody I was dating with another men when I 23. I married for the first time when I was 43 and we both shared on the first night of making love that we have swung in our previous lives. That planted the seed for me to see her with somebody else. Something we have fulfilled a few times over.

But why do I feel this way? I could never put my finger on it and my wife really tries to understand why I want her to be with somebody else (trust me, I don't force her to do it ). Somebody mentioned the voyeur aspect of it and that probably comes the closest. I know from my days in college, the sounds of a couple fucking and the grunts and groans simply were very hot. I guess many of us have heard folks in the adjoining hotel room fucking. For me, it is incredibly hot and I usually get very aroused. Who is over there? Is is a hotwife and her lover? Somebody having an affair? That uncertainty, but mostly the sound of sex is highly erotic.

When I have thoughts of my wife with her lover, I constantly picture watching her fucking her missionary style with her legs open nice and wide for him or her riding him on top grunting to her 5th orgasm, but it always ends up with his load deep inside her. In person, I love watching them and sometimes sitting on the bed, sometimes joining in. The last time I asked, practically begged, her to go up to the room without me while I could listen to them. I have longed for him to stay the night in the guest room where she would join him and I could listen to them. Again, I think it has a lot to do with the voyeurism issue. Pushing the envelope for me is to send her off with him for a date. I would like to have it happen, but am very nervous and very concerned about the "sex" turning into "making love." Knowing they are alone together is exciting and I would ove to hear about it later, but it does pose a lot of anxiety.

The homosexuality thing is simply not the issue for me. Do I clean her up after her lover cums in her? Yes. Would I love to get him hard for her? Yes. Do I want to clean him up afterwards? Yes. Does she know my feelings? Absolutely? But, it is not the reason I have these desires.

The love and trust we have for each other makes what we do "justifiable." Are we closer afterward? Oh, my God, it is unbelievable. I just want to hold and cuddle with her all night. And I usually get chocolate chip cookies the next day!!! For us, it is mostly role playing. We don't don't do it enough to really feel it is a "lifestyle."

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Here are ten rules.

1. First and foremost, if one or both partners in the outside relationship become emotionally involved (start to fall in love) with the other, that outside relationship will end.

If this happens the outside relationship becomes a threat to the primary relationship—not to mention create emotional entanglements that will hurt one or more of the people involved.

2. The primary relationship will always remain primary.

This means that one spouse will check with the other before meetings with an outside partner. If conflicts occur, they will be discussed with the marriage partner. If a compromise can't be reached, the decision will favor the needs of marriage partner.

3. The marriage partner has the option of disapproving a particular outside relationship with a specific person; or to turn it around, that partner may want to approve or even meet the other person.

4. Meeting with any one outside person can't take place on a daily basis. Regularly seeing just one outside person can easily result in a personal and emotional dependence on that relationship by one or both people involved. To help avoid this it may be advantageous to have more than one outside sexual relationship.

5. Assuming the agreed upon rules are followed, the outside relationship can't be used against a spouse at any time, as in a later claim of adultery.

6. If one spouse is meeting another person, the other spouse must know where he or she is at all times. Any change of plans will be made known. Although this is primarily a safety issue for wives, should the need arise the marriage partners need to know how to get in contact with each other. This is especially important if a spouse plans an overnight stay.

7. Although this should come under the heading of common civility, comparing attributes, attitudes, or sexual capabilities of a person outside of the marriage to those of a spouse is "off limits."

8. Given the attitude of general society to open relationships and the professional and personal harm that might ensue if generally known, it is often necessary to be discrete in meetings with the outside person or persons—out of sight, of friends, business associates, or family members. In small towns this may mean out-of-town meetings.

Where these concerns are not a factor, some couples find that the number of prospective partners increases if it is generally known that the couple has an open marriage.

9. There will be "full disclosure" at all times and there will be no secret conversations or meetings with the outside person—things that can easily lead to mistrust and jealously.

10. And finally, no outside relationship will endanger another person's monogamous marriage or relationship.

I did not even read the other posts on purpose.

I wanted to say why we started down this road.

She always acted hesitant but she always liked to, after being convinced by me or him, spread her legs wide and letting another man fuck her tight and extremely hairy pussy. And spray his ejaculte deep within it, coating my wife's cervix in the process.

Like others here, I have asked myself that question many times. The excitment of it is the obvious answer. I think all of us here feel an almost uncontrolable arousal thinking of our wives with another man. To me the real question is why do we feel this arousal? I am probable wrong about this, but I think it has something to do with us men being whores. We love sex and I'll bet that there is not a man here that does not think that had he been born a woman he would have been out for all he could get. Therefore I suggest that wanting your wife to be the same way is a way of achiving a commonness with her that would be very hard to achive otherwise. It is not that we don't love them, or that we want them to be sluts, but that we want them to be like us. Maybe we can understand them better that way. Just a thought. Ted

I don't think its a matter of women being like us. Plenty of them have enjoyed fucking before they met us. Women in this country have been sexually repressed for years. In fact they are more sexual than we are.
How many men have mutiple orgasms? Different kinds of orgasams? Women have sexual fantises just like us. Sex dreams. They do the same sexual things we do. Only better.
When I was young I was lead to believe women did'nt like sex. They just did it for their husbands. Got marriaed at 19 and did'nt know women had orgasms. And how did all this bs affect the girls back then?

I have been thinking about this thread and will say that when I was a young man I once ejaculated 10 times into a GF in one day (my record:)

As time has gone by I seriously think, with exception o accidental impregnation and who is the daddy question, it makes sense for the woman (withi women capable of multiple orgasms, unlike a man's one shot) to want at least MFM if only for the reasone one partner cums and then watches the other male continue to pleasure her, becoming re-excited in the process and producing a hard erection for her next play.

I do know from my own experiences it can extend fun time for hours and hours.

wbam

Really interesting thread. Although we are not yet into hotwifing (but might be soon) and i cannot share my experiences, i just can't stop imagining how it would feel to see my gf being fucked. She is rather attracted to the sexual aspect, having fun and broadening her sexual experience. From my side i am still not 100% sure why i would want to see her getting fucked. I guess the porn thing/voyeur thing is certainly a big turn on. Seeing a live sex performance where your gf is involved must be very exciting. At least that's what i think. Maybe i get anxious once we're actually doing it the first time. Maybe jealousy kicks in. Maybe not. Most of you will say, just try, relax and enjoy :-) Anyway, we are discussing it often and try to find out what we both want and how far we wanna go. It is just something we'll have to try to find out how it feels. I am quite excited about it already. Seeing a man licking her pussy, fucking her while she wraps her legs around his body and finally shooting a big load in her pussy. That's maybe the most striking : i definitely want to see the cum of a stranger in her pussy. Just like many others here i would even want to clean her. The more i think about it, it's more a psychological kick i am looking for than the physical pleasure if there would be any for me at all ;-) How important is it for you guys to see her pussy being filled up with cum?