Our Hotwives

rootcause wrote:I have been crazy about promiscuous women, cheating wives and boy crazy girls for as long as I can remember. Being married to, for all purposes, a single woman is like being in the NRE stage forever. Her sex life is her own to enjoy anywhere, anytime, with anyone she chooses and I have to compete for her (almost) just like all those other guys. I love it when she comes home after being out all night with that sheepish, blush on her face. It's extremely exciting to find out on my own that she is having, or has had an affair and not told me about it, and most of all I enjoy being out somewhere and running into one of her "good friends" she told me about, especially when he doesn't realize I am her husband.

For me just knowing she has been hit on and had a great time I can see the difference in the way she carries herself. Sexy

Ever since she has taken on a dominant role in our marriage, and has teased and denied my orgasms, I have wanted her to make me her submissive cuckold. I've given her a few hints, but nothing yet.

I have found a very interesting description that I think covers most of the aspects.

Reason No1
Voyeurism - many folks suggest that we live in a “pornified culture,” where most men of college-age and older have seen pornography, and use it as a part of their sexual repertoire. If they are used to such a voyeuristic process in their sexuality, there is some legitimacy to suggesting they may incorporate it into their marital sexuality. Watching your wife have sex with another man may be a next step, or progression, from watching yourselves have sex by having a mirror on the ceiling during sex, then using a video camera during sex, and then finally watching one’s spouse with someone else. Many men told me “My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world to me, I’d rather watch her having sex than some porn actress I don’t know.”

Reason 2
Sperm competition - as Christopher Ryan, author Terry Gould, and researchers Baker and Bellis have suggested, there is a biological response playing out here, that affects a male sexual drive. After watching their wife with another man, the husband is prompted biologically to have longer, more vigorous sex, has a shorter refractory period between erections, ejaculates harder, and his ejaculate contains more sperm. Nearly every couple I interviewed told me that after an episode of the wife having sex with another man, the couple felt like they were “in heat.”

Reason 3
The Thrill of the Taboo - there are few things in our society as stigmatized as a husband whose wife is “unfaithful”. Some of the men I interviewed described explicitly that the taboo was the thrill for them, from the excitement of the forbidden and the naughty.

Reason 4
Female empowerment - I was surprised by how many of these couples embraced very powerful feminist principles, and how many of these husbands described the joy they felt at their wife’s increased independence, confidence and assertiveness, that came from the wife’s freedom to have sex with other men. Many of the men expressed that through their wife’s open sexuality, the couple was actively and consciously rejecting social pressures to suppress female sexuality, assert monogamy and patriarchal power.

Reason 5
Female sexual fulfillment - women’s sexual capacity is far greater than that of males’. The world record for male orgasms is about 26 in a 24-hour period. Per Sherfey’s research, women have documented as many as 60-65 orgasms in a single hour. I saw many men who reported that their wives were highly sexual beings, with a greater sexual capacity, and it simply turned the husbands on and pleased them to be able to see their wives sexually satisfied, at a degree that a single husband couldn’t match. I also speculate that there is a degree of vicarious experience here - by being a part of the experience, the husband gets to vicariously experience what it’s like to have that greater sexual capacity, and identifies in a strong manner with his wife and the essence of female sexuality in a way that most men never experience

Reason 6
The royalty perk - In the 1960’s Motown song, the line goes “save the last dance for me,” as the husband watches his wife dance with other men. Many of the men I interviewed got a thrill, a sense of being “king” that they had a wife who was so sexy, that other men wanted to be with, but who ultimately came home with him, the husband. It made the men feel powerful and successful, that they had such a sexy wife that can make any man cum for her.

Very well stated ,I can agree with all 6

I would add one more reason which I think is frequently overlooked.
A husband can get an intense erotic "vicarious thrill" form the woman they love, having a sexual encounter or sexual relationship.... .even a romantic bonding on some level.... with another man .

The erotic vicarious pleasure can be sometimes be as intense or even greater than fucking her himself.

Luv It wrote:I would add one more reason which I think is frequently overlooked.
A husband can get an intense erotic "vicarious thrill" form the woman they love, having a sexual encounter or sexual relationship.... .even a romantic bonding on some level.... with another man .

The erotic vicarious pleasure can be sometimes be as intense or even greater than fucking her himself.

What I like to call Erotic Compersion - though it seems to be a physical sexual stimulant limited mostly to males - which might explain why some female writers on the subject with whom I've had heated debates frequently miss this aspect and motivation of the lifestyle for males and why many wives have a difficult time understanding why their hubby wants her to engage with others while he doesn't. I've always wondered if there are many females that experience the same kind of physical sexual arousal based on this kind of physical transferrence (because for males, it does materially result in a physical reaction) - we don't see many reverse cuckold/hot hubbies out there now, do we? Maybe those females thrive more in the couple swinging sector of the lifestyle - but again, I am not entirely sure if for the same motivations - Ya know, Venus and Mars.

TT

Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man? Because the lovemaking with her afterwards is profound. More so for me, than her, but she knows her sexy silky seconds are creating an exquisite orgasm for me, and she loves it. Early in marriage when she'd just finished with her lover and was pulling me inside her, she whispered "don't worry about pleasing me, cum any time you like." Those words were so loaded with meaning......

All the reasons that MsHotwife69 mentions make sense to me also.
My wife simply wanted a more intense sexual encounter and a more complete sexual life. She has become a new woman ,or maybe more like her old self, since she met Bill and is with him regularly. She is so different and he likes her s lot also. But she truly needed a bigger cock as well as the kind of man who has a big cock...lol. That is not to be overlooked ,at least in our marriage. I could not provide that.. obviously.

I have to enter this discussion and answer the original question.
Why do I want my wife to sleep with another man?
The answer,
"Because she wants to!"

In our relationship, she is the Dominant. She is also the Dominant when we are with a partner of her choosing.

Wanting my wife to sleep with another man is partly for her pleasure and partly for mine. I love the look on my wife’s face when she is in the throws of an orgasm, the way her body moves and how she pulls me deeper inside her is very erotic. I would love to watch another guy give her the same pleasure! I mentioned this to her a couple nights ago and she got interested and even turned on at the idea of 2 men pleasuring her. So who knows, maybe with time this will happen

Totally my idea/fantasy - at first. God only knows where it came from, but I do know it is real and very very powerful. My wife, making love with another man. Just mind blowing. Never had a higher high in my life.

TriangleTangle wrote:I think any man who asks his GF or wife incessantly about her prior sexual experiences and asks her to describe them in detail and isn't yet into Hotwifing is probably a closet hotwife husband and probably unaware of it. :-)

I have to agree. I often asked my girlfriend about her previous sexual experiences. Then we did the sharing her thing and I was so hooked. And out, LOL

rootcause wrote:I have been crazy about promiscuous women, cheating wives and boy crazy girls for as long as I can remember..

I'm 100% into promiscuous women from childhood similar to you. Funny to some of you but if I find that a girl has very less sexual experience I discontinue seeing her. Sluts are my thing.
Fortunately for me I attract sluts into my life easily as I don't consider it as a bad thing. Just as a male slut that I am I see her as having the courage to go against societal stigma.

mjb0007bond wrote:

TriangleTangle wrote:I think any man who asks his GF or wife incessantly about her prior sexual experiences and asks her to describe them in detail and isn't yet into Hotwifing is probably a closet hotwife husband and probably unaware of it. :-)

I have to agree. I often asked my girlfriend about her previous sexual experiences. Then we did the sharing her thing and I was so hooked. And out, LOL

Me as well... I have tried a lot to get her to tell me more... and she well tells me little if nothing at all then all of a sudden some more of the great story comes out (no pun intended). Highly erotic!

Hotwife69 ! You nailed it down to the T !!!!!!

MrsHotwife69 got a great list but I think she missed a couple variations - BDSM or Dominance and Submission and an excuse to be gay.
- Some guys are just plain submissive to their wife or want to be submissive and this is a way of showing their submission.
- I hate to say this but I have come across posts where they guy was clearly using his wife as a lure so he could find a way to suck/get fucked by and otherwise submit to another man. I don't mind the gay submissive but it irks me when I think the guy is topping from the bottom and using his wife just as a lure. i.e. if he is submissive he should accept not getting to touch the Dom/Bull as much as being forced to serve sexually.

(BTW, I am a Red Cross blood donor and they would disqualify me if I let another man suck me so that is off the table for me.)

TriangleTangle wrote:

Luv It wrote:... I've always wondered if there are many females that experience the same kind of physical sexual arousal based on this kind of physical transferrence (because for males, it does materially result in a physical reaction) - we don't see many reverse cuckold/hot hubbies out there now, do we? Maybe those females thrive more in the couple swinging sector of the lifestyle - but again, I am not entirely sure if for the same motivations - Ya know, Venus and Mars.
TT

Actully you hear of lots of threesomes so I think there are a lot of "reverse cuckold/hot hubbie" out there. I know my sub gets wet at the idea of me being with another woman and has participated in interviews of candidates. (still looking for that right long term #2).

Something about watching the woman you love, experience sexual pleasure from another cock, was so intense for me. The moment he pushed the head in and I heard her take a deep breath, hearing her moan, hearing the rhythmic slapping, and really just watching her get fucked, was irresistible to me. I loved her and she loved me, but seeing her take dick and hearing a man groan as he emptied his balls into her was intoxicating. It started for me as like the personal porn angle. Over 15 years it progressed though and she changed. I am not sure I would do that again with my next partner. But my hot wife was my hs sweetheart and watching her get fucked was the most erotic thing I have ever experienced.

Atl-hubby wrote:Something about watching the woman you love, experience sexual pleasure from another cock, was so intense for me. The moment he pushed the head in and I heard her take a deep breath, hearing her moan, hearing the rhythmic slapping, and really just watching her get fucked, was irresistible to me. I loved her and she loved me, but seeing her take dick and hearing a man groan as he emptied his balls into her was intoxicating. It started for me as like the personal porn angle. Over 15 years it progressed though and she changed. I am not sure I would do that again with my next partner. But my hot wife was my hs sweetheart and watching her get fucked was the most erotic thing I have ever experienced.

That is so beautiful, how you describe it

38kewp wrote:...the FDA’s decision to change the blood donation policy for men who have had sex with other men (MSM) from a lifetime deferral to 12-month deferral...

So I would still be barred for 12 months and it's an FDA recommendation - last I checked the Red Cross literature still made it a life ban. The Red Cross are "evaluating".

But also, there are very few men I have found attractive physically. The few looked very feminine or were very well done transgender so I suspect I am also simply wired as a heterosexual.

First time I saw my Carol swallow another's load I came in my shorts! Pure ecstasy!

Atl-hubby wrote:Something about watching the woman you love, experience sexual pleasure from another cock, was so intense for me. The moment he pushed the head in and I heard her take a deep breath, hearing her moan, hearing the rhythmic slapping, and really just watching her get fucked, was irresistible to me. I loved her and she loved me, but seeing her take dick and hearing a man groan as he emptied his balls into her was intoxicating. It started for me as like the personal porn angle. Over 15 years it progressed though and she changed. I am not sure I would do that again with my next partner. But my hot wife was my hs sweetheart and watching her get fucked was the most erotic thing I have ever experienced.

That must have been amazing and I would love to watch my Karin in that role, she often has multiple orgasms so to watch her climax once or twice as another man is fucking her and see her glow would be amazing.

I used to feel jealous. My wife told me I was not as big as past lovers and I realized there was nothing wrong with her desires. Overcoming that fear and wanting to see her enjoy sex and being part of that excites me. She is beautiful and sexy and I want her to experience a big cock again. She has fucked a buddy in front of me and I liked seeing her cum on his cock. Who cares that it was him who got her off, she got what she needed and loves me. I can't wait for our next experience but would like to clean her afterwards but that is a fantasy we both hold. Your worst fears drive the sexual fantasy and getting there requires trust. She is my favorite porn star lol

Atl-hubby wrote:Something about watching the woman you love, experience sexual pleasure from another cock, was so intense for me. The moment he pushed the head in and I heard her take a deep breath, hearing her moan, hearing the rhythmic slapping, and really just watching her get fucked, was irresistible to me. I loved her and she loved me, but seeing her take dick and hearing a man groan as he emptied his balls into her was intoxicating. It started for me as like the personal porn angle. Over 15 years it progressed though and she changed. I am not sure I would do that again with my next partner. But my hot wife was my hs sweetheart and watching her get fucked was the most erotic thing I have ever experienced.

For me it was the most intense experience. I agree with you totally. Many times I have held her hand as Sir takes her. It is electric!