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Re: My story

Unread post by SSQ » Tue Jan 01, 2019 2:39 pm

What a wonderful new year's this has been. It's certainly off to a great start.

Henry and I threw a small house party, just a casual thing with music and apps and drinks, and we watched the ball drop on TV. Several friends came over, and so did Charles. It was really fantastic having both my men there celebrating with me. I told them that I felt so lucky. When we were in the kitchen prepping the appetizer platters, I kissed Henry and said I love YOU and then I kissed Charles and said and I love YOU. Both of them came back for seconds. It felt so good.

At midnight, I got two hugs and kisses. Then Henry stayed downstairs and helped with the cleanup and Charles and I went upstairs to ring in the new year privately. We were up for nearly four hours having so much sex and cuddles and enjoying each other before we fell asleep together. And we did it again when we woke up in the morning :)

We spent the day just hanging out together, the three of us. It was fun and relaxing. Henry made breakfast for all of us. Charles just went home a little while ago, and now it's time to ring in the new year with Henry.

It's going to be a very good year :D
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Unread post by SSQ » Wed Jan 02, 2019 3:45 pm

O.M.G....

And this is why ongoing relationships are amazing. Henry knows me so well, knows exactly how I like to be touched, and when he wants to go out of his way to be mindblowing (which we don't always have the energy for, of course) it is just incredible. Casual hookups might be fun mentally, and sometimes they're good, but I don't think they ever hit that level of great that you can get with a partner you know well.

I think I generally have above average sex, but last night with him was the best we've had in a long time. He spent so much time working me up slowly until my cunt was dripping wet and then made me cum until I couldn't speak anymore. And then after that, he fucked me for nearly an hour and stayed hard all that time to make sure I was completely satisfied.

I love love love my husband!
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Re: My story

Unread post by Des 31 » Wed Jan 02, 2019 4:41 pm

Just got around to reading your thread. Fascinating story! Thank you.
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Des 31 wrote:Just got around to reading your thread. Fascinating story! Thank you.
Hopefully gave you some perspective on me, Des :)

It's funny. I've been doing some processing with my ex girlfriend Jennifer, I think I wrote about her here? We're still very close friends, we just aren't sexual with each other anymore. She's an amazing person and I feel so glad to have her in my life.

We were having a conversation and wondering if monogamy can also be a state of mind and not just a relationship choice. She is married, has been for twenty years, and has just one additional partner right now that she's been dating for four years. He's also married. Now, Jennifer is a NRE junkie, and also a compersion junkie; she loves the excitement of new relationships but also feels happiness when her partners are happy even if that's with someone else. And yet she feels "monogamous" to her two men. Technically the term is polyfidelitous, but she doesn't really feel all that poly right now since she's not all that open to new connections.

Whereas I have a similar feeling with different results. I'm in two wonderful relationships right now- my marriage of course to Henry, and my relatively new 6 month relationship with Charles. Both are romantic, passionate, and full of happiness and great sex. And yet, I find myself feeling "monogamous" to the two of them and in me, that creates the itch to go do something a little more casual and spontaneous and new. It's like I tolerate my version of "settling down" only for so long before I want some variety in my life. I've been doing some thinking over why that is, and even talked to Henry about it.

It's obvious that a casual hookup is not going to give me a better fuck than I get with either of my men. It's different with both of them, obviously, but both are top five in my very, very long string of sexual partners. Henry in particular knows my body very well, knows exactly what I like, and has the desire to make my sexual experiences absolutely mindblowing. Charles may not know all my little quirks yet, but he is definitely motivated to make me feel really good plus we have the heady NRE and new love increasing the passionate intensity between us. A new cock or pussy isn't going to be able to give me that. Henry joked that I want to go slumming so that I appreciate what I've got, but I don't think that's it. I already appreciate the great sex I get!

Maybe I need a little fast food to go with my gourmet meals? I don't know. I like variety. But either way, I don't think I'm going to be able to do even this quasi monogamous thing I've got going on. I don't have any room in my life for another relationship, but a friend with benefits would be nice. Or even the occasional encounter with a stranger. I do miss Craigslist!

Fortunately, Henry appreciates having a slutty wife and is happy to see me happy. I have warned Charles that the day is coming- that while I'm head over heels for him and hadn't wanted to distract myself from the NRE up until now, that at some point I'm going to want to go sample some strange :) Sooner rather than later, I think. Just have to figure out how I'm going to go about it since my usual method doesn't exist anymore, and I don't want to go fishing on Tinder or the like :P
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Re: My story

Unread post by solstice » Thu Jan 03, 2019 3:19 pm

Pointillism painting

There is nothing sexier than an educated lady!

Excuse me for mining in your old postings, it's taking me some time to go through your story.

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Re: My story

Unread post by solstice » Thu Jan 03, 2019 3:30 pm

I hope my post about your ex husband wasn't too inappropriate, had no idea you had remarried.

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Unread post by SSQ » Thu Jan 03, 2019 4:30 pm

solstice wrote:I hope my post about your ex husband wasn't too inappropriate, had no idea you had remarried.
Not at all. I was kind of waiting for that. I didn't know if you had picked up on the different names.

It's okay. It's part of my life and who I am. I did love him once. I'm confident in saying that our divorce wasn't related to hotwifing but a variety of other reasons. And I'm much happier now with Henry.

And nice to see a fellow sapiosexual! Words make such lovely foreplay at times.
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Unread post by solstice » Fri Jan 04, 2019 7:13 am

Imagine my preference in women actually has a name! Just shows there is nothing new under the sun, It will now be part of my profile. :o

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Unread post by solstice » Fri Jan 04, 2019 7:30 am

Some of your practices scare six shades of shit out of me, but you relate your preferences with wit and charm, It gives it a ring of acceptability. That I have one foot in the grave, you would have thought I would have heard it all by now.

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Unread post by SSQ » Fri Jan 04, 2019 12:22 pm

solstice wrote:Some of your practices scare six shades of shit out of me, but you relate your preferences with wit and charm, It gives it a ring of acceptability. That I have one foot in the grave, you would have thought I would have heard it all by now.
There may be nothing new under the sun, but at times I think that human beings both have infinite variability and yet are still the same. You and I could see the same thing and take two entirely different thoughts away from it. Have you read my blog post about the fish and the bowl? It's relatively recent.

And of course, some things become more and more acceptable over time. I am so glad I didn't grow up in the era where BDSM practitioners had to find each other through the seedy back pages of cheap porn magazines. I'm lucky enough to be able to easily find my community, and my place in it. Not to mention being in the now where I can be who I want to be sexually, with less flack than at any other point in the past. We might have a long way to go as a society in terms of acceptance, but it definitely is better than it has been.

As for scaring you... I might enjoy that ;) But keep in mind that Fifty Shades is definitely not the best place to get good info about BDSM, if your reference was more than merely a clever pun!
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Unread post by SSQ » Sun Jan 06, 2019 1:54 pm

Life is really, really good. Charles came over to spend the night on the weekend, and we decided to spend our time getting a little more intense with BDSM. He begged me for impact play and when his ass was nice and red, I had him lick my cunt to orgasm after orgasm.

It's funny how we fulfill some of the stereotypes too. Henry and I showered together before Charles came over and he joked that he was washing me for my date. We both get a kick out of it, even though this isn't a cuckold behavior for him; it's just something intimate that we both enjoy regardless. He also cooked dinner for everyone in between rounds of sex.

One day, I hope, I'll get to fuck them both at once!
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Unread post by SSQ » Wed Jan 09, 2019 10:44 am

So as I mentioned in another thread, I decided to track my total sexual encounters for 2019. I read online that the average person has between 60-83 sexual encounters per year, depending on age, marital status, and if you have kids (and it's not what you think, surprisingly!).

I decided to see where my numbers are for a year. Although, like particles in physics, this is most definitely something that I think will be changed by measuring, it's fun and I'm okay with that. I'm hoping for about 200 encounters in a year, which is about four times a week. That sounds pretty good to me :) I am way over that so far, but no complaints!

Charles loves seeing me sexually satisfied, so we can have a lot of fun together! Last night we did so many different things. Lots of dirty talk about a possible MFM with the three of us (he's never done that so is a little reserved but loves to talk it up with me), followed by him fingering me to a lovely orgasm before we decided to have a 69 and I stopped just shy of him coming because I wasn't done with him yet! It's fun to get your partner really worked up ;) I played with his ass for a while, had him fuck himself back on my hand like a dirty little slut while he stroked his own cock, but didn't let him cum then either.

I decided to pull out the fucking machine, and we got it all set up so that it would fuck me just the way I like while Charles played with my clit and my nipples and kissed me. Finally I told him to grab my favourite vibrator and built up to just an incredible orgasm- so big I was seeing stars. He pulled the fucking machine away and slid his big fat cock into my dripping wet and open pussy and told me how much he liked how soft I was inside. It wasn't long before he filled me up with his cum and a really big orgasm for both of us.

It was a good, good night.
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Re: My story

Unread post by solstice » Wed Jan 09, 2019 11:50 am

Hello SSQ,
I read your latest blog on Charles and enjoyed it very much, you seem to be able to judge your partner's limits so well, I am such a feartie, so I could never be one of your candidates, and living in the Highlands of Scotland makes it a bit inconvenient.
I noticed that one of your weapons is the tawse, I don't know if you've Googled it but it's been made in the Scottish town of Lochgelly for over 100 years, it was the approved instrument of punishment used by Scottish teachers (now banned), I have been one of the victim's times without number, the way it was used was you held your hands, one upon the other at shoulder height and you generally got what was called, three of the best: the more sadistc teacher made it travel up over your wrist which left an ugly welt. If you answered a question wrongly gave the teacher opportunity of giving you one stroke over the hand. If you were dyslectic it could be a daily occurance. If you Google it you will see if it differs from yours, you may have to try Google uk as it can differ from your version
Does Henry ever show unease when you take a lover to bed? anyroaddown, you've hit the jackpot him.

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Re: My story

Unread post by ssq-toy » Fri Jan 11, 2019 9:58 am

solstice wrote:
Does Henry ever show unease when you take a lover to bed? anyroaddown, you've hit the jackpot him.
I generally haven't had much of an issue with anyone that SSQ has taken to bed or taken as a partner though I did have some short lived unease with having people I didn't know in the house, but that had much more to do with some of my social anxieties than anything to do with the people themselves or any of the activities they get up to. Fortunately those have been long gone for months now.
I think the nicest thing is that I really get along with Charles and we have very similar personalities and he can hold intelligent conversations. Even if he wasn't dating my wife I am beyond certain that we would have become friends. We have even joked that if things don't work out between them that he will come out to our weekly maker space open house nights to hang out instead lol. Additionally we are able to joke and make fun of little situations like when he accidentally left some body wash in our shower and we turned it into a running joke that he was "planting his flag" at the house.
Having that level of rapport has been great and makes this so much better than just being "that guy my wife is dating."

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Re: My story

Unread post by Des 31 » Fri Jan 11, 2019 12:18 pm

My wife's feelings her first time were so much like yours. Thank you for posting that.
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Unread post by SSQ » Fri Jan 11, 2019 2:54 pm

solstice wrote:Hello SSQ,
I read your latest blog on Charles and enjoyed it very much, you seem to be able to judge your partner's limits so well.
Well, that's a relatively straightforward thing to explain. When I'm planning to be in an ongoing relationship, my partner fills out a questionnaire for me. It's very long and detailed, and asks questions about kink and sex and D/s and limits and wants and needs, among other things. It's not so much the specifics that matter, but that we're opening a dialogue so that it's easy and comfortable to talk about topics like these. In addition, I do get the information about what my partner likes and dislikes and what they haven't tried but are interested in etc. That helps me tailor the situation as the Dominant.

In addition, I don't do much beyond light BDSM until I have spent time observing my partner and how they respond to sensations; both pleasant and unpleasant. It's extremely important for me to be comfortable reading their responses so that I can make that determination of how far to go. We also have discussions in advance of what we're aiming for that particular time; women, for example, have different pain tolerance depending on where they are in their cycle, etc. And sometimes people want something more sensory and sometimes more painful. Taking my own wants and needs into account, we can generally find something that will work for all of us. Sometimes, I want them to take it just for me, whether they want it or not. But if I did that all the time without taking their wants and needs into consideration, I'd be a bad Dominant.

I also am well aware that I'm not perfect and that I'm human and I make mistakes. I check in during scenes to see how my partner is doing. I can tell them to "give me a number". My partners know that means to tell me how they are doing on sensation, on a scale of 1 (barely anything) to 10 (completely overwhelmed and need to stop). It doesn't take them out of headspace to hear me growl that in their ear, either. Consent and checkins don't have to break headspace or be unsexy!

Maybe that broke the magic for you a little, solstice, about me being able to judge so accurately, but I think that for BDSM there needs to be less mystique and not more. Believe me, if you have a great scene with someone whom you have an amazing connection, the endorphins are intense enough that no additional mystery is needed!

(My tawse, by the way, is merely a wide split strap. Very stingy, lots of fun. But I've been trained never to strike the hand or any fine bony areas!)
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solstice wrote:
Does Henry ever show unease when you take a lover to bed? anyroaddown, you've hit the jackpot him.
I generally haven't had much of an issue with anyone that SSQ has taken to bed or taken as a partner though I did have some short lived unease with having people I didn't know in the house, but that had much more to do with some of my social anxieties than anything to do with the people themselves or any of the activities they get up to. Fortunately those have been long gone for months now.
I think the nicest thing is that I really get along with Charles and we have very similar personalities and he can hold intelligent conversations. Even if he wasn't dating my wife I am beyond certain that we would have become friends. We have even joked that if things don't work out between them that he will come out to our weekly maker space open house nights to hang out instead lol. Additionally we are able to joke and make fun of little situations like when he accidentally left some body wash in our shower and we turned it into a running joke that he was "planting his flag" at the house.
Having that level of rapport has been great and makes this so much better than just being "that guy my wife is dating."

Henry
In case anyone missed Henry's post since it got backdated. He posts so little they still require admin approval!
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Re: My story

Unread post by solstice » Fri Jan 11, 2019 7:42 pm

Thank you for your answer Henry, I like your relaxed attitude and hope it did not seem rude to discuss your relationship indirectly, I'm not sure of the etiquette of the boards.

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Unread post by SSQ » Wed Jan 16, 2019 11:30 am

Things continue to go well. I had my regular date night with Charles last night. We didn't get our usual second date in last week because I went to a BDSM party with a friend, which was a lot of fun. But it was so nice to hear Charles tell me how much he missed me :)

I've been having some difficulty orgasming lately, which is frustrating for someone like me who used to be able to cum in a good stiff breeze. I went to see the doctor and he ran some tests and then gave me some cream to try. Unfortunately, cream doesn't do me much good if I'm expecting someone to lick my pussy, so I haven't yet determined the efficacy.

But it meant my sex session with Charles yesterday started off incredibly frustrating. I teased him and got him all worked up before he buried his face in my cunt. He did all the things I like, and I could feel myself getting more and more aroused but not quite there. Until I needed it so badly. He told me afterwards that he was enjoying my frustration and I bet he was, the rascal! But he kept working at it and finally took me over the edge so hard that I was seeing stars and stopped making sounds. LOL I'm still not sure it was worth the frustration and I miss being able to have so many orgasms, but at least that broke the floodgate loose and then I could cum again more easily!

Then I just wanted his big fat cock in my pussy though so I told him to fuck me... and then told him when he was done, that he'd be eating his creampie out of me. His cock felt so good after all the buildup and I wanted him so badly. He was so turned on that he didn't last long before he filled me up with cum and then kissed his way down my body to clean up the mess. I was so sensitive in a good way that it was back to hair trigger orgasms for me!

It was a good night. I can't wait to see him again. The NRE this time around really has been different, but I also think that I'm more self aware at this point in my life and with my experience. Falling in love with someone who is mutually into me just as much has been pretty incredible, too.
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Unread post by jane » Fri Jan 18, 2019 1:31 pm

well that turned out well didn't it? :)

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Re: My story

Unread post by solstice » Sun Jan 20, 2019 12:44 pm

good stiff breeze.

Must be a real treat when you go sailing.

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Unread post by SSQ » Mon Jan 21, 2019 11:54 am

solstice wrote:good stiff breeze.

Must be a real treat when you go sailing.
*bats eyelashes* why, my goodness suh, are you flirting with me? ;)

Mmm... date night last night with Charles. He made me dinner and we had a bottle of wine and watched the lunar eclipse. And then got distracted from it... and then back to it again. It was a lovely evening!
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Re: My story

Unread post by solstice » Mon Jan 21, 2019 1:00 pm

Your more of a woman than I could ever handle, I think I would armour plate my arse if I went on a date with you! I am looking for a phrase to describe my sexual disposition, I think that vanilla is too strong a term to my kind of cowardice.
But that said, I am drawn like a fly to your web.

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Unread post by SSQ » Mon Jan 21, 2019 2:18 pm

solstice wrote:Your more of a woman than I could ever handle, I think I would armour plate my arse if I went on a date with you! I am looking for a phrase to describe my sexual disposition, I think that vanilla is too strong a term to my kind of cowardice.
But that said, I am drawn like a fly to your web.
Lol. Vanilla is a spice, too. There are many days where I enjoy at least some version of vanilla sex, even in the missionary position. I like having my partner's face up close for kisses :)

Although honestly, I still think that even when I'm fucking men, I am probably having what is more likely to be considered queer sex anyway. Sex that isn't all focused on PIV, and may not even involve it.

Well, feel free to stick around; no flypaper hanging here :) I am also pretty sure if you met me in person, you'd think butter wouldn't melt in my mouth! I look pretty much like the innocent woman next door, except that I'm not. I love first dates with good conversation and interesting things to do.

It's only if I feel that intellectual chemistry that I might start looking at my potential partner like he's a tasty snack...
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Re: My story

Unread post by solstice » Mon Jan 21, 2019 7:27 pm

The sexiest thing I know is a smart woman, who knows, if you impossible projects, I may be your man: The only thing is the predictable risk of you cutting me off from this unlikely friendship?? I am approaching my 85th birthday. What is the oldest man you have fucked.

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