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Oh, the collar is quite real, although most people can't wear a leather or steel or whatever the Dom chooses, for during their everyday life. People often then resort to stuff that would pass in vanilla society but has hidden meaning to the couple. I was thinking of buying him a black leather studded collar with red lambskin lining.
That would be quite a step for me though. I've never offered anyone a collar. Collars mean different things to different people in the lifestyle. On one end of the spectrum, you have people that take it as seriously as a wedding ring, or who have protocols in place for the earning of a collar. On the other, you have people who collar everyone they date for more than a week or so (some people call those Velcro collars since they tend not to stay on for long!). And of course, there are play collars that you just wear during a scene and don't have any emotional significance at all. Basically, a collar means what you want it to mean.
I'm somewhere in the middle of the spectrum, leaning more to the side where they have emotional significance. Someone can serve me as a submissive without wearing my collar, and that's what I've done previously. While to some people it represents monogamy, it does not to me. Henry is poly, and I wouldn't dream of negotiating a restriction like that in our contract. To me, a collar symbolizes a commitment; that this is a relationship that I see going somewhere, and that I want us to grow together. It gives me more rights and responsibilities, the scope of which we get to negotiate specifically. To put it in simple terms, I say he does, but given that we don't have a primary relationship and don't live together, there obviously has to be limits on what authority he gives away.
So, we'll see how it goes. There's lots of time. I've wanted a relationship where I could collar my partner for a long time, but it's never been right. And if it's not right now, that's okay too. It's still pretty damn awesome.
That would be quite a step for me though. I've never offered anyone a collar. Collars mean different things to different people in the lifestyle. On one end of the spectrum, you have people that take it as seriously as a wedding ring, or who have protocols in place for the earning of a collar. On the other, you have people who collar everyone they date for more than a week or so (some people call those Velcro collars since they tend not to stay on for long!). And of course, there are play collars that you just wear during a scene and don't have any emotional significance at all. Basically, a collar means what you want it to mean.
I'm somewhere in the middle of the spectrum, leaning more to the side where they have emotional significance. Someone can serve me as a submissive without wearing my collar, and that's what I've done previously. While to some people it represents monogamy, it does not to me. Henry is poly, and I wouldn't dream of negotiating a restriction like that in our contract. To me, a collar symbolizes a commitment; that this is a relationship that I see going somewhere, and that I want us to grow together. It gives me more rights and responsibilities, the scope of which we get to negotiate specifically. To put it in simple terms, I say he does, but given that we don't have a primary relationship and don't live together, there obviously has to be limits on what authority he gives away.
So, we'll see how it goes. There's lots of time. I've wanted a relationship where I could collar my partner for a long time, but it's never been right. And if it's not right now, that's okay too. It's still pretty damn awesome.
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:
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I had an interesting day today. Got together with Cecil for a nice relaxing massage and some orgasms. Good times
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Thanks. I really like the "Velcro collar" expression. Very funny.
Next time you see Cecil, tell him how jealous I am of his skills.
Next time you see Cecil, tell him how jealous I am of his skills.
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Just FYI- I'm drunk posting
Seriously, sometimes you can't make this shit up. So H and I have some pretty awesome neighbours- a nice Asian couple and their two kids, a boy and a girl. We're relatively close and get together frequently and the kids go for playdates. So H is away for work, his wife and son are visiting relatives in Japan and he's home with his daughter. We put the kids to bed and got hammered on wine and just hung out. He's been asking me if I want to go to Cuba with my son and him and his daughter next time both our spouses are away so we can get in some R&R. I kinda do LOL.
It's so funny because it would be so easy to write a porn scene about all this! But seriously, I know this is just the way he is and he's not looking to have an affair (nor would I have one with him even if he was interested! Too close to home). But sometimes it makes me laugh. If he only knew...
Seriously, sometimes you can't make this shit up. So H and I have some pretty awesome neighbours- a nice Asian couple and their two kids, a boy and a girl. We're relatively close and get together frequently and the kids go for playdates. So H is away for work, his wife and son are visiting relatives in Japan and he's home with his daughter. We put the kids to bed and got hammered on wine and just hung out. He's been asking me if I want to go to Cuba with my son and him and his daughter next time both our spouses are away so we can get in some R&R. I kinda do LOL.
It's so funny because it would be so easy to write a porn scene about all this! But seriously, I know this is just the way he is and he's not looking to have an affair (nor would I have one with him even if he was interested! Too close to home). But sometimes it makes me laugh. If he only knew...
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I am so in my happy place today.
So Jennifer and I had our date night this weekend. I hadn't seen her in two weeks so we were very happy to get together again- passionate kisses as soon as she walked through the door. We had dinner and visited for a while before we went upstairs for some playtime. We really enjoy each other's company a lot- we could have sat and chatted all night except that it was so much more fun to play!
She had asked me to give her a taste of impact play. She'd never really done much before, other than a spanking from one of her partners. We had a blast- she was dripping wet partway through. (Further details in my blog of course!)
We also went to a fire play workshop today and that was seriously awesome. I actually lit my hand on fire and spanked her with it... so much fun and it looked incredibly erotic. Fire isn't painful if done correctly- it feels very sensual.
At any rate... I'm feeling pretty good. And I am going to spend the next little while practicing lighting myself on fire, I'm sure!
So Jennifer and I had our date night this weekend. I hadn't seen her in two weeks so we were very happy to get together again- passionate kisses as soon as she walked through the door. We had dinner and visited for a while before we went upstairs for some playtime. We really enjoy each other's company a lot- we could have sat and chatted all night except that it was so much more fun to play!
She had asked me to give her a taste of impact play. She'd never really done much before, other than a spanking from one of her partners. We had a blast- she was dripping wet partway through. (Further details in my blog of course!)
We also went to a fire play workshop today and that was seriously awesome. I actually lit my hand on fire and spanked her with it... so much fun and it looked incredibly erotic. Fire isn't painful if done correctly- it feels very sensual.
At any rate... I'm feeling pretty good. And I am going to spend the next little while practicing lighting myself on fire, I'm sure!
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:
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You know you're not vanilla when you find a pair of panties in the laundry that you don't recognize, and think it's kind of funny. They're folded on H's nightstand for him to return to his ladyfriend when he comes back from his latest trip. I just wonder how they got in the hamper given that she doesn't spend the night! I don't think I've ever left panties not on purpose before, but these don't seem to be the kind that you'd leave for that purpose, nor is my husband into panties.
Oh well, doesn't really matter!
H will be home in the middle of the night tonight after nearly three weeks away... I miss him.
Oh well, doesn't really matter!
H will be home in the middle of the night tonight after nearly three weeks away... I miss him.
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Speaking of the middle of the night... poor H has been exhausted so he's been going to bed early. The last trip really wore him out. But last night I was so horny that I woke him up and rode his cock to a lot of satisfying orgasms. Holy crap, I needed that.
Tonight I am going to a BDSM party with both Henry and Jennifer. I've never taken two partners to a party before (although they've met at a munch) and I'm a little nervous about budgeting my time and making sure they're both happy. I think it'll work out, though.
I'm also both excited and anxious about having Henry meet H. I mean, he's met my partners before, including Jennifer, but I feel like things are different with Henry so I really want it to go well. I mean, it can't really go badly... but I'd like it if they liked each other. There may or may not be a MFM happening tonight since Henry is sleeping over, but it'll be good either way. The possibility excites me but if not, I'm just happy spending time with Henry again.
So I'm on pins and needles with excitement and anticipation and nervousness. It should be a good night.
Tonight I am going to a BDSM party with both Henry and Jennifer. I've never taken two partners to a party before (although they've met at a munch) and I'm a little nervous about budgeting my time and making sure they're both happy. I think it'll work out, though.
I'm also both excited and anxious about having Henry meet H. I mean, he's met my partners before, including Jennifer, but I feel like things are different with Henry so I really want it to go well. I mean, it can't really go badly... but I'd like it if they liked each other. There may or may not be a MFM happening tonight since Henry is sleeping over, but it'll be good either way. The possibility excites me but if not, I'm just happy spending time with Henry again.
So I'm on pins and needles with excitement and anticipation and nervousness. It should be a good night.
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I imagine Henry and H meeting for the first time with their respective cocks sunk balls deep in your delightful body -
H: "Pleasure to meet you - feel like I know you already!"
Henry: "Same here, heard a lot about you - all good, of course!"
SSQ: "slurp, slurp, o god o god o god ..."
OK, it's just a fantasy ...
H: "Pleasure to meet you - feel like I know you already!"
Henry: "Same here, heard a lot about you - all good, of course!"
SSQ: "slurp, slurp, o god o god o god ..."
OK, it's just a fantasy ...
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LOL, I like your line of thinking, Bubbajack. I guess we both fall into the category of "deep" thinkers. I'm sure there's a pun there somewhere.bubbajack wrote:I imagine Henry and H meeting for the first time with their respective cocks sunk balls deep in your delightful body -
H: "Pleasure to meet you - feel like I know you already!"
Henry: "Same here, heard a lot about you - all good, of course!"
SSQ: "slurp, slurp, o god o god o god ..."
OK, it's just a fantasy ...
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I'm on my way to the party!
You know, bubbaJack and MrAres, it could kinda happen like that... Except it'd be more likely that I'd have my cock in Henry's ass and H's in my pussy
You know, bubbaJack and MrAres, it could kinda happen like that... Except it'd be more likely that I'd have my cock in Henry's ass and H's in my pussy
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Yum, my fav. I have my fingers crossed. I am totally with Bubbajack on this. Maybe he could direct it. If there is an MFM I know that it is going to be angelic.SSQ wrote:There may or may not be a MFM happening tonight since Henry is sleeping over
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LoL. How shall we describe you? Perhaps "delightfully nasty" would be appropriate!SSQ wrote:I'm on my way to the party!
You know, bubbaJack and MrAres, it could kinda happen like that... Except it'd be more likely that I'd have my cock in Henry's ass and H's in my pussy
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I'm sure some of you will be disappointed when I report that H requested we hold off on the MFM since he's still not feeling 100%, but he did tease me this morning about hearing Henry and me having sex. Apparently I was a bit loud, but it was really good sex.
I'm riding an incredible endorphin rush right now. Cliff Notes: party was amazing and I played with both Jennifer and Henry. It was so good and so intense. I'm incredibly happy and feel like life is good right now. Details are up if anyone's interested
I'm riding an incredible endorphin rush right now. Cliff Notes: party was amazing and I played with both Jennifer and Henry. It was so good and so intense. I'm incredibly happy and feel like life is good right now. Details are up if anyone's interested
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:
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I think we will get our MFM at some point in the future. And anticipation is the most exiting part. So thanks for leaving us wanting more!SSQ wrote: H requested we hold off on the MFM since he's still not feeling 100%, but he did tease me this morning about hearing Henry and me having sex. Apparently I was a bit loud, but it was really good sex.
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Halloween was pretty awesome. My friends all found it amusing when I went to the BDSM house party as a nun, given how much I enjoy and indulge in casual sex!
I didn't have any plans last night so I figured I'd just hang out and enjoy chatting with friends. I was happily surprised to accept two requests to play last night, once with a friend who just wanted to experience electricity mildly, and one from a heavy masochist who loves it when I hurt her. And one thing led to another, and I found myself in the basement getting my pussy licked and then fucked by a new partner while people around us were watching TLC's "Sex Sent Us To the ER", which is pretty funny, come to think of it!
Life is good, and boy did I need those orgasms! Sometimes, I like surprises!
I didn't have any plans last night so I figured I'd just hang out and enjoy chatting with friends. I was happily surprised to accept two requests to play last night, once with a friend who just wanted to experience electricity mildly, and one from a heavy masochist who loves it when I hurt her. And one thing led to another, and I found myself in the basement getting my pussy licked and then fucked by a new partner while people around us were watching TLC's "Sex Sent Us To the ER", which is pretty funny, come to think of it!
Life is good, and boy did I need those orgasms! Sometimes, I like surprises!
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:
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how would you compare your female dates vs. males?
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In terms of what, Jane?jane wrote:how would you compare your female dates vs. males?
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no i was thinking more of the relationship dynamic
but that's true Ares
but that's true Ares
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Most of the heavy masochists I've played with have been men, but I am aware that there are some freaking hardcore female masochists. Childbirth doesn't seem to have anything to do with it (although I vaguely recall reading something about orgasmic childbirth. In my experience, those people are fucking nuts ).
But yes, the relationship dynamics are different. I played with women before, but I never dated one until Jennifer. Our relationship is different and meets different needs than the one I have with Henry. Jennifer is kind of like my best friend- we can talk about absolutely anything for hours and just enjoy each other's company. Getting to play with her and fuck her is like the icing on the cake. Henry arouses a lot of primal urges for me because we do the D/s, while I don't with Jennifer although I do take the lead in our relationship. My relationship with Henry, while we're also friends, is more on the passionate and romantic side.
So since I've only had one relationship with a woman, I can't say for sure if it's the lack of D/s or her gender that makes it different for me. Either way though, it's good
But yes, the relationship dynamics are different. I played with women before, but I never dated one until Jennifer. Our relationship is different and meets different needs than the one I have with Henry. Jennifer is kind of like my best friend- we can talk about absolutely anything for hours and just enjoy each other's company. Getting to play with her and fuck her is like the icing on the cake. Henry arouses a lot of primal urges for me because we do the D/s, while I don't with Jennifer although I do take the lead in our relationship. My relationship with Henry, while we're also friends, is more on the passionate and romantic side.
So since I've only had one relationship with a woman, I can't say for sure if it's the lack of D/s or her gender that makes it different for me. Either way though, it's good
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:
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Maybe it's just a little thing, but I didn't even have words.
I was just chatting with Jennifer, and she asked me if I'd found a babysitter for a specific BDSM discussion group she knows I really want to attend. I told her I was still working on it and she commented the topic interested her, too. I suggested she come out to it and she told me that she'd actually been keeping the night free in case I couldn't find a sitter because she was going to babysit for me.
THIS is why I'm poly. I want to keep people who are fantastic and show me they genuinely care about me in my life. I'm so touched.
I was just chatting with Jennifer, and she asked me if I'd found a babysitter for a specific BDSM discussion group she knows I really want to attend. I told her I was still working on it and she commented the topic interested her, too. I suggested she come out to it and she told me that she'd actually been keeping the night free in case I couldn't find a sitter because she was going to babysit for me.
THIS is why I'm poly. I want to keep people who are fantastic and show me they genuinely care about me in my life. I'm so touched.
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Associating with fantastic people is a complicated thing. I can't help but think that the people you associate with become a little more fantastic because of their relationship with you ... not to say that you don't also grow because of them. It's something like symbiosis, I think. Or maybe it's karma. I get the two mixed up.
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Morgan just left I'm a happy me. I forgot how much I enjoy being fisted.
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Could you elaborate a little about fisting? I recently read about it and got the impression that it is a very intimate and gentle thing. Previously I had thought that it was a violent and forceful act. I have not had any real world experience with it.SSQ wrote:Morgan just left I'm a happy me. I forgot how much I enjoy being fisted.
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Well, it's all in what you want, right? I know people who do use fisting as a sadistic act, although either way, you still have to be very careful not to cause real damage. So it's more an attitude than actually the way it is, if that makes sense. Obviously, I did not want that!Salsonero wrote:Could you elaborate a little about fisting? I recently read about it and got the impression that it is a very intimate and gentle thing. Previously I had thought that it was a violent and forceful act. I have not had any real world experience with it.SSQ wrote:Morgan just left I'm a happy me. I forgot how much I enjoy being fisted.
Gloves are always de rigueur, of course. Lots of lube, lots of patience. Taking things slow and communicating about how things feel. And of course, clit licking during is fantastic and helps me relax. So yes, I find fisting to be an intimate act. And so sexually fulfilling. No cock will ever give me a feeling as full as a nice fist, nor would it be flexible enough to gently stroke all the deliciously intense places inside me. I really enjoy it and I'm not sure why I waited so long to do it again!
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:
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