MrsTruckstar wrote:SM, when there has been a break any contact, good or bad is contact. You are perpetuating the deal, you are continuing the motion by contacting him. No contact is the only way. You contacting him is indirect communication vicariously with Sam. You monitoring him is keeping him in both of your lives.
Like SSQ says, unless you are a complete arsehole, leave him alone, it was all consensual, nobody cheated (as far as we know) and now it is over. Close it down tight and move on.
No, no, no - you misunderstood. There was only ONE time contact. The breakup call came from me and then Sam a few days ago. I'm just restating what I said to him at the single time of contact a few days ago. We called together and that is what I said. I have not contacted him in any way since then and I don't intend to and I don't believe Sam has either.
There was only the one time contact to say it's over. I have no intention in contact him again, unless he provokes further action.
I'm not harboring Ill feeling towards him at this point. I even feel some empathy for him because I know he is hurting too. However, the relationship was clearly terminated permanently, and I made my intentions clear at that time that any further contact would be dealt with.