Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[Buttercream]

Sadly.. the first guy she was interested got coldfeet(cock) with the idea that the husband knew.. She needs to know it had NOTHING to do with her and all about his issues. He was fine with helping her cheat, but the idea that he might be compared to you was what did it in. Let her see that it was his issues. Let her know the excitement she felt at the possibility is still there for her to grasp, it just won't be with him.

[manmuscle]

My question is regarding cycles.

I have tracked many women's rhythms over the decades for the simple goal of knowing when they were in estrus. I could practically guarantee when they would be horny. There were some women that would have raging hormonal swings that would motivate some to be hornier than others. I also learned that if they were comfortable with opening up and trusting me, then they wanted everything I could give them. One in particular would just point blank say "I am hungry!" She would fuck many guys for 3 days straight and then want to be left alone.

When a women is horny like this she gives off pheromones that drive men wild. It is worse that crack . Men instinctively respond and see a woman that is "hungry" as a natural turn on. I even think wanting her creampie is a natural way for a man to win the sperm wars. Maybe we have been reproducing for so many centuries that the natural instinct is like breathing. We just do it.

Have the HW's paid attention to this pattern and do you agree?

[tacoshare]

I track my cycle just so I know when I'm "out of service". I had always assumed that there would be a time that I was more "hungry" so I kept track of that for a while as well. I am fairly hungry most of the time so this falls flat for me. No pattern that I've been able to detect.

[Buttercream]

I'm with Taco. I haven't really found a set pattern for horniness.

[SSQ]

I use an app to track my cycle as well, and it confirmed what I already knew. Despite having a Mirena IUD, I still ovulate. For 2-3 days per cycle, I notice that my sex drive is much higher than normal (and that's saying something). That's generally the time when I engage in "riskier" activity (at least for my tolerances), such as posting for a random ONS hookup on Craigslist. If I'm not in a situation where I can see a partner, I'll often masturbate for hours until I'm finally satiated.

My body definitely produces physical signs of ovulation. One of my partners told me once that he could tell because my clit was engorged much more than usual and a darker colour. My body also gets more responsive, and I feel wetter and more sensitive.

I also love period sex- I feel more sensitive then as well. And of course, a partner who has his red wings is always appreciated.

[curvy_1]

Manmuscle: I'm definitely hornier when I'm fertile, and increasingly so, right up until ovulation. My body is more sensitive. I get wetter. I orgasm harder. Typically within 2 days of ovulation, my sex drive is less demanding.

[wild70]

This is a very helpful thread. ThePilotswife and Buttercream have given great answers to questions I wanted to ask and I just wanted to say thank you!

[Buttercream]

Anytime wild70.. And you are most welcome!

[Salsonero]

OK, you girls are going to hate me for asking this. Well, go ahead and hate me. But tell me the answer to this question before you march away in a huff.

Is there a polite way to ask a woman how many men she has been with?

Or is it a question a guy should never ask? I do ask you, however, because experience is a big turn on for me, so I want to know. It's not even so much the size of the experience, just that she has had other experiences before me. Lots to talk about! I also get an enormous kink from knowing my own number in her history.

Am I as sick as I think I am?

[jane]

a polite way.
hmm, well tact plays a big part in a lot of conversations, doesn't it? i wouldn't ask it right away, it would have to be a part of a conversation. i've actually been asked by men, since i've been a hotwife.
of course i don't always um, tell them everything either. anyway sometimes we might be curious how many you all have been with.
then again, sometimes we don't want to know.

[Salsonero]

Are you looking for conversation points? Someone more experienced than you? Why?

Well it's nice to know how our experience levels measure up, for instance, don't you think? If she has been with 200 men (gulp!) I think I would behave differently, more interested in learning. If she has been with only 2 men, well you can see how it would make my relationship to her different, right? I might be the teacher in the latter case. Nice to know if she has been with women and how she feels about that too. I also like to picture a gf with her previous or current lovers. This wouldn't apply to a first date or one-time deal. It would be more relevant as part of an ongoing relationship of some sort.

sometimes we don't want to know.

Well, I always want to know, but I can live without knowing too. I am a guy: I like to get stuff nailed down.

[LYNX]

My question is this my wife is not real comfortable with me watching her with her FB. she has been with him 3 times I watched 2 times mostly in a low light situation, she says she does not want to feel like a pornstar. Is this normal at first. do you think it will change? I would rather be there and be able to be a part of it. She decided have sex with another guy to please my fantacy of watching her this took 20 years almost to get her to this point, I love her having fun and getting the sex that she wants just have my own issues of dealing with feeling kinda left out and on the backburner when shes with him. Also I don't think he really cares to play all togather or for me to watch and I think that's one of the reasons she is reluctant for me to watch and be in the midst of things(fear he will not want to play anymore). All of your Hotwife answers will be greatly appreciated.

[SSQ]

OK, you girls are going to hate me for asking this. Well, go ahead and hate me. But tell me the answer to this question before you march away in a huff.

Is there a polite way to ask a woman how many men she has been with?

Or is it a question a guy should never ask? I do ask you, however, because experience is a big turn on for me, so I want to know. It's not even so much the size of the experience, just that she has had other experiences before me. Lots to talk about! I also get an enormous kink from knowing my own number in her history.

Am I as sick as I think I am?

Sal, there is no really polite way. I mean, if the topic of other people/experience comes up, I'll usually disclose that I've been around the block once or twice. But if I was asked, my reply would generally be like Buttercream's, why do you want to know. And I am not sure there really is a good reason for wanting to know- I mean, why not just have sex with her and then get an idea of her experience level? Someone who fucked only one person every day for ten years is still going to have more sexual experience than someone who had a few one night stands a year. As for whether or not she fucks women, too- really, that's none of your business unless she chooses to share it.

My question is this my wife is not real comfortable with me watching her with her FB. she has been with him 3 times I watched 2 times mostly in a low light situation, she says she does not want to feel like a pornstar. Is this normal at first. do you think it will change? I would rather be there and be able to be a part of it. She decided have sex with another guy to please my fantacy of watching her this took 20 years almost to get her to this point, I love her having fun and getting the sex that she wants just have my own issues of dealing with feeling kinda left out and on the backburner when shes with him. Also I don't think he really cares to play all togather or for me to watch and I think that's one of the reasons she is reluctant for me to watch and be in the midst of things(fear he will not want to play anymore). All of your Hotwife answers will be greatly appreciated.

Lynx, my perspective is that there's really no way to know if she'll change her mind. I've been a hotwife for nearly three years now and my husband has never seen me play. He's never had the desire to, but certainly if he'd wanted to early on, I wouldn't have wanted him there. It's only now that we both really feel comfortable and secure in our arrangement that I would be okay with him watching me if he chose to, and he had a standing invitation to join in.

And yeah, those things applied just to him and how I was feeling about our relationship, because I've fucked in front of strangers or friends many times at swinger clubs and dungeons.

[tacoshare]

Salsonero - I think it's pretty well been nailed down. But I think in meeting someone face to face you can usually tell if they're experienced. Mannerisms usually give it away. However, you can't tell if anyone is any good in bed. Like SSQ said, one partner every day for 10 years and she could be a way better more experienced lover.

LYNX - I agree with SSQ. You can't tell the future. My husband is usually present when I play and I like it that but that's my/our thing. All you can really do is be patient and keep talking IMO

[Mr Ares]

Major big intense question here. Lets say that a guy wanted to make it with every sexy VHW on this site, how does one go about convincing his HW of the wonderful nature of such an idea. Secondly, how does one go about convincing all those VHW's that they really should offer their bodies up in support of this important issue as a show of solidarity and support for another VHW?

Yes, these are serious times, and serious times require the most serious and thoughtful of questions.

[jane]

one would first have to find a bull with suitable abilities to offer up.

[Mr Ares]

My wife tells me that I am "full of bull" all the time. Does that count, thereby making me eligible?

[tacoshare]

Mr Ares - has Ares disappeared from the boards again?
Good communication, patience and lowered (no) expectations are key here.

[SSQ]

Major big intense question here. Lets say that a guy wanted to make it with every sexy VHW on this site, how does one go about convincing his HW of the wonderful nature of such an idea. Secondly, how does one go about convincing all those VHW's that they really should offer their bodies up in support of this important issue as a show of solidarity and support for another VHW?

Yes, these are serious times, and serious times require the most serious and thoughtful of questions.

You tell your lovely HW that she might enjoy a hands on demo of some new techniques to use on you

[Buttercream]

Sal.. No, no polite way. Kind of like asking weight.

LYNX.. You have to talk to your wife. Find out what exactly she's nervous about & if it's something you can address or not.

Mr Ares... Tsk Tsk... Playing with fire you are!

[katorce]

I searched around and did not find where you ladies answered this so sorry if i am asking again.

My wife generally dresses pretty sexy when we go out - mini skirt FM shoes etc. and she has long had guys hit on her "secretly" such as when I go to the restroom etc.. Some even when i am there. she has also been hit on in less obvious places such as on hikes. this is good and bad. often the guys who do the hitting are a bit whack while others that she sees and wish would hit are less inclined to do So when they see she is with me. Because it has been a long dry spell she fears it is because she is looking old or getting fat (neither of which are true of course) She does not hit bars or clubs by herself, although she has the freedom to if she wants. she is not the type to approach a guy and can only do so much to look available. I am wondering if there is some universal sign that you HW's have that you find advertising to guys that you are approachable even with your husband near

[Liz88]

I searched around and did not find where you ladies answered this so sorry if i am asking again.

My wife generally dresses pretty sexy when we go out - mini skirt FM shoes etc. and she has long had guys hit on her "secretly" such as when I go to the restroom etc.. Some even when i am there. she has also been hit on in less obvious places such as on hikes. this is good and bad. often the guys who do the hitting are a bit whack while others that she sees and wish would hit are less inclined to do So when they see she is with me. Because it has been a long dry spell she fears it is because she is looking old or getting fat (neither of which are true of course) She does not hit bars or clubs by herself, although she has the freedom to if she wants. she is not the type to approach a guy and can only do so much to look available. I am wondering if there is some universal sign that you HW's have that you find advertising to guys that you are approachable even with your husband near

Is the idea for her to get hit on by a man who knows her husband is right there? Or for you to watch her getting hit on? Because if it is just about you watching, you could enter the bar separately and sit in a way that you can observe the action without being obviously attached to her. Walt and I did that once and it was pretty amusing because we both ended up getting hit on.

If you really are wanting men to hit on your wife *knowing* that you are right there with her, then I think she needs to do more than just look sexy. Because as you said, most decent guys are going to restrain themselves around a woman's husband. She needs to be more actively flirtatious, smiling and actually starting conversations with men she is interested in. Personally, this is why I like sports bars as pickup places, because it is easy to start conversations about whatever game is on tv. Once she has a man's attention, it will be easier for her to keep it, even with you there.

[jeffisBIGGER]

Sometimes my wife's panties have HUGE white stains in them, is this normal? She has told me she thinks a guy at work is sexy, handsome, and goodlooking------could the thought of him be turning her on be part of the reason?

[eldiablo311]

My ex had that too, I always wondered if she was cheating and it was another guys cum leaking out or if it was normal vaginal discharge type fluids.

[Buttercream]

Well... Since you asked, it's normal discharge from a woman, not cum.
It can change depending on time of month & with hormonal changes. It's natural, and I like the taste of mine lol. Hubby likes it when I'm all creamy as well.