MrsTruckstar wrote:The question directly above. It was me that started it not him. OMG does that make me a whore? I hope so because I worked as a sex worker within my first year of wedded bliss and I loved it.
I'm not every woman, there are many more reasons out there.
Buttercream wrote:Well.. Kinda lol. When my husband 1st mentioned this, I was lucky enough to have my Very best friend visiting in the area. I wanted to know her thoughts. Now I didn't tell her we were thinking of getting into a lifestyle, but that husband's fantasy included another guy.SFnMDW wrote:I appreciate the societal judgement aspect of this life and the desire for privacy....but have you ever confided in a friend of your lifestyle and that interested them to move into this life?
She told me that she could see it, that our marriage was strong enough to handle it.
Now. 5yrs later, I was visiting her.. She & I were enjoying wine on the porch when... She mentions some of their own fantasies & she trusted that I'd know how to handle it. Let's just say, they might be heading in this direction.
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mundyman wrote:In a public setting, how do you hotwives prefer to be approached??
do you mean in a meeting type situation or just a random guy approaching?
In public a couple cannot reveal much I had thought. So my question was about the "signs emitted" from a couple standing together in public. A single woman can communicate with discretion in any kind of environment.MrsTruckstar wrote:No anklets, (some people maybe), sexual confidence and a flirtatious nature. When the men are suggestive, you roll with it giggling and flirting back.
Occasionally the phrase "do you want to have sex with me?" Works wonders - from the woman that is.....
Vow at last I understand why she is looking forward to get her spiral put in place ASAP.. She doesnot use pills.Hooker wrote:Yes, can feel the explosion, the dampness and agree its not easy to describe. Its the moment when we own the situation the guy is ours.
No temperature issues
and yes can feel dampness of course.
Really nice If I may say so
Consider thisAnnesHubby wrote:My beautiful wife has agreed to make my fantasy real but it is something she says she is doing for me. I want to make this an enjoyable experience for her. It doesn't feel right. Do I go forward and set something up? I really want to share my wife and there is hope that she would like it after the mfm happened.
I definitely WILL continue to praise her. I always have but she always says "sure you HAVE to compliment me... you're my husband!" I wish there were other guys that would make her feel sexy.MrsTruckstar wrote:She is suffering her own demons, give her some space. The big five ohh, is a massive hurdle for us women to overcome. We suddenly feel very old. Keep praising her.
I will keep it short.Luvinlife wrote:I definitely WILL continue to praise her. I always have but she always says "sure you HAVE to compliment me... you're my husband!" I wish there were other guys that would make her feel sexy.
Thank you for the advice!
WOW! You got all that from my posts? If she were reading this post I think she herself would not even remotely characterize me as a husband who is "screaming to do this for me, fuck him for me," as you just suggested. Based on the way she has expressed her love and appreciation to me on how I treat her, I also doubt she would agree with your comment about me being a "selfish husband." Of course, she's not here to read this ... yet anyhow. I would be very curious to know her thoughts on your comments.MrsTruckstar wrote:I will keep it short.Luvinlife wrote:I definitely WILL continue to praise her. I always have but she always says "sure you HAVE to compliment me... you're my husband!" I wish there were other guys that would make her feel sexy.
Thank you for the advice!
Personally, she has just had her fiftieth Birthday, she likely feels old, fat and unattractive, I know I did when I had my fiftieth. She probably feels a little (or even a lot) taken for granted by a husband who is screaming do this for me, fuck him for me.
Do you know what, there is nothing worse than feeling old, fat, unattractive and taken for granted by a selfish husband. She probably just wants to curl up with a hot chocolate a lot more than with a hot man. Give a girl a break. She needs to feel good about herself, her home life and everything else first. Fifty is a massive deal for a woman. I'll say it for her, "back off".
You're very welcome always. I hate it when people pussy-foot around what they really mean. It takes courage to express exactly how you feel and if people don't like what you say, FUCK THEM!MrsTruckstar wrote:Thank you,
I do, do my research.
Yes I did I will break it down for you and delete the parts that don't matter. My observations will be in red.Luvinlife wrote:WOW! You got all that from my posts? If she were reading this post I think she herself would not even remotely characterize me as a husband who is "screaming to do this for me, fuck him for me," as you just suggested. Based on the way she has expressed her love and appreciation to me on how I treat her, I also doubt she would agree with your comment about me being a "selfish husband." Of course, she's not here to read this ... yet anyhow. I would be very curious to know her thoughts on your comments.
Wow... but you got all that information about me from my posts? Amazing.
Thank you again for your input.
I am a Psychologist, this is what I do for a living, so yes I got that from your post, singular. When you put it all together it does shout do this for me. However, she will get her confidence back and things will improve, however she has a lot to cope with right now and throw a whole heap of menopause in for good measure, tough times indeed.Luvinlife wrote:~My wife gets bored rather quickly and our sex life had gotten dull.. I tried everything to pleasure her but making her cum eventually became impossible.
~My wife and I got involved in the cuck/hotwife lifestyle for a while (maybe a year or so.) I was in heaven!! Watched her spread for a number of men.... truly wonderful. First bit, reference to you being in heaven, which is ok, however it is self centered and you may have forgotten to include her feelings here
~She agreed to me setting up a few meets with strangers. So this suggest that it was you idea to set up the meetings with strangers
~She preferred to be submissive and let me be matchmaker and make the arrangements most times. I was always present. You are doing all the running in this relationship and all the organising
~Other men were able to make her cum but I would be lying if I said she was always thrilled with the encounters. Many men are quite selfish and just enjoyed the free pussy! You explain that she was not always thrilled with the encounters that you set up, you then qualify it with your opinion not hers on how it went. If she is not happy, irrelevant of why, she is not happy
~About 3 years ago she decided we should "take a break" from the lifestyle. I NEVER force or pressure her so I agreed although inside I was extremely disappointed. Oh you were disappointed, not empathy here but disappointment. Can you see where this is going
~The reason she gave me for stopping was that she had gained some weight and the sexy things she had bought for play time didn't fit well and she wasn't feeling sexy. She feels heavy and unattractive
~She occasionally says she might be open to returning to the lifestyle but so far nothing. :-( Your sad face, is the selfish stuff again
~In the mean time we have no sex. I mean zero, zilch, zip, NADA!! Selfish, she doesn't feel good about herself
And in case you're wondering, she is NOT fucking around behind my back (I wish!!) Personally, I would be very content to have her spreading her legs to tons of men and jerking off as she tells me about it. Again, a bit of what would be good for you, as tongue in cheek as it might be
My question to you fine ladies is simple:
Is there some way I can help my wonderful wife (who I love to the moon and back) Ahh that is so nice. to rediscover her sexiness, get her appetite back for new cock and raise her self-image despite having a hot voluptuous body? Calling a girl who has issues with her weight is the same as calling her fat. saying you love her curves is also the same. It takes time to get used to being a little heavy and comfortable with it
BTW, she just passed her 50th birthday but looks younger. Fucking bingo, this is the clincher, to you and the world she might look 25, but in her head she has passed that number when we are old, we are fifty and we feel fat, unattractive and fucking old.
Thank you.
EXCELLENT!! Thank you so much! YES, I will definitely take your counsel to heart. Yes, you are right there's a lot of "me,me,me!" in there but, it is also hard on me because I'm a married man is a mutually loving and warmly affectionate relationship who is also living in a CELIBATE relationship!! Many men would have been unfaithful to her- something I will NEVER allow myself to do. I couldn't live with myself if I betrayed her.MrsTruckstar wrote:Yes I did I will break it down for you and delete the parts that don't matter. My observations will be in red.Luvinlife wrote:WOW! You got all that from my posts? If she were reading this post I think she herself would not even remotely characterize me as a husband who is "screaming to do this for me, fuck him for me," as you just suggested. Based on the way she has expressed her love and appreciation to me on how I treat her, I also doubt she would agree with your comment about me being a "selfish husband." Of course, she's not here to read this ... yet anyhow. I would be very curious to know her thoughts on your comments.
Wow... but you got all that information about me from my posts? Amazing.
Thank you again for your input.I am a Psychologist, this is what I do for a living, so yes I got that from your post, singular. When you put it all together it does shout do this for me. However, she will get her confidence back and things will improve, however she has a lot to cope with right now and throw a whole heap of menopause in for good measure, tough times indeed.Luvinlife wrote:~My wife gets bored rather quickly and our sex life had gotten dull.. I tried everything to pleasure her but making her cum eventually became impossible.
~My wife and I got involved in the cuck/hotwife lifestyle for a while (maybe a year or so.) I was in heaven!! Watched her spread for a number of men.... truly wonderful. First bit, reference to you being in heaven, which is ok, however it is self centered and you may have forgotten to include her feelings here
~She agreed to me setting up a few meets with strangers. So this suggest that it was you idea to set up the meetings with strangers
~She preferred to be submissive and let me be matchmaker and make the arrangements most times. I was always present. You are doing all the running in this relationship and all the organising
~Other men were able to make her cum but I would be lying if I said she was always thrilled with the encounters. Many men are quite selfish and just enjoyed the free pussy! You explain that she was not always thrilled with the encounters that you set up, you then qualify it with your opinion not hers on how it went. If she is not happy, irrelevant of why, she is not happy
~About 3 years ago she decided we should "take a break" from the lifestyle. I NEVER force or pressure her so I agreed although inside I was extremely disappointed. Oh you were disappointed, not empathy here but disappointment. Can you see where this is going
~The reason she gave me for stopping was that she had gained some weight and the sexy things she had bought for play time didn't fit well and she wasn't feeling sexy. She feels heavy and unattractive
~She occasionally says she might be open to returning to the lifestyle but so far nothing. :-( Your sad face, is the selfish stuff again
~In the mean time we have no sex. I mean zero, zilch, zip, NADA!! Selfish, she doesn't feel good about herself
And in case you're wondering, she is NOT fucking around behind my back (I wish!!) Personally, I would be very content to have her spreading her legs to tons of men and jerking off as she tells me about it. Again, a bit of what would be good for you, as tongue in cheek as it might be
My question to you fine ladies is simple:
Is there some way I can help my wonderful wife (who I love to the moon and back) Ahh that is so nice. to rediscover her sexiness, get her appetite back for new cock and raise her self-image despite having a hot voluptuous body? Calling a girl who has issues with her weight is the same as calling her fat. saying you love her curves is also the same. It takes time to get used to being a little heavy and comfortable with it
BTW, she just passed her 50th birthday but looks younger. Fucking bingo, this is the clincher, to you and the world she might look 25, but in her head she has passed that number when we are old, we are fifty and we feel fat, unattractive and fucking old.
Thank you.
My friend, I am not disrespecting you, you asked a question, I answered it. Your response led be to think, I should point out some stuff, I have. Doesn't mean you don't love her or shower her with praise and gifts, mentally, she is more than likely at the toughest time of her life, soon she will change and emerge as a beautiful butterfly, strong and resilient again. Give her some time.
lots of love
T
I agree with Mrs Truckstar! She is right on.Luvinlife wrote:WOW! You got all that from my posts? If she were reading this post I think she herself would not even remotely characterize me as a husband who is "screaming to do this for me, fuck him for me," as you just suggested. Based on the way she has expressed her love and appreciation to me on how I treat her, I also doubt she would agree with your comment about me being a "selfish husband." Of course, she's not here to read this ... yet anyhow. I would be very curious to know her thoughts on your comments.MrsTruckstar wrote:I will keep it short.Luvinlife wrote:I definitely WILL continue to praise her. I always have but she always says "sure you HAVE to compliment me... you're my husband!" I wish there were other guys that would make her feel sexy.
Thank you for the advice!
Personally, she has just had her fiftieth Birthday, she likely feels old, fat and unattractive, I know I did when I had my fiftieth. She probably feels a little (or even a lot) taken for granted by a husband who is screaming do this for me, fuck him for me.
Do you know what, there is nothing worse than feeling old, fat, unattractive and taken for granted by a selfish husband. She probably just wants to curl up with a hot chocolate a lot more than with a hot man. Give a girl a break. She needs to feel good about herself, her home life and everything else first. Fifty is a massive deal for a woman. I'll say it for her, "back off".
Wow... but you got all that information about me from my posts? Amazing.
Thank you again for your input.
If she says she is only doing it 'for you', then don't expect her to enjoy it, or to want to do it again. And it could lead to bitterness and be used in future fights. She may be fine with a one time experiment, but don't expect more. A wife has to also want it for herself for it to the deep and meaningful and lasting experience and situation youre hoping it will be. She may be surprised and like it, but don't have high expectations of that. If she isn't enthusiastic about it, personally I wouldn't have her follow through with it. It could lead to more problems. The very fact that you tell her, 'honey it's ok, it's enough that you were willing to do it', may have the effect of making her think about it and later actually want to do it. This 'tactic' may seem a little manipulative, but it also shows that you love her and care about her feeling and your relationship with her. Good luckAnnesHubby wrote:My beautiful wife has agreed to make my fantasy real but it is something she says she is doing for me. I want to make this an enjoyable experience for her. It doesn't feel right. Do I go forward and set something up? I really want to share my wife and there is hope that she would like it after the mfm happened.
