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Unread post by alloverit » Sat Jan 19, 2019 11:40 am

Would this be a thrill to a Hot Wife in any way?

PsuedoCucking (kinda-sorta)

Have(want) a non-bull go down on them while or after their husband(or bull) is inside them? No expectation of penetration or other relief, just a pseudocucking.




I did post this in Personals as a reply but I truly am curious if that kind of thing turns any of you on?

AllenGT, I think this is in bounds but please forgive me if not.

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Unread post by wykedjasmine » Mon Jan 21, 2019 6:28 am

alloverit wrote:Would this be a thrill to a Hot Wife in any way?

PsuedoCucking (kinda-sorta)

Have(want) a non-bull go down on them while or after their husband(or bull) is inside them? No expectation of penetration or other relief, just a pseudocucking.
I do this often...love it!
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Unread post by Ikguapo » Thu Jan 24, 2019 11:25 am

I have a question. I love this site that I have found and it is great to communicate anonymously with like minded folks. Thank you all! I have been working on lossening up my wife since before we were married and it has worked to some extent (26 years and counting ) We have a ways to go still tho but I am patient :)
It seems soooo many of these threads lead to the wife ending up posessed by some bbc bull and that is fine. It just doesn’t seem to be my desire tho. I would love to see her go wild and enjoy herself and even see is a larger cock will satisfy her more. But I am no submissive cuck. I just want to see her explore and enjoy her sexuality. If and when we do get her a bigger penis will that lead down a slippery slope?

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Thu Jan 24, 2019 12:17 pm

Ikguapo wrote:I have a question. I love this site that I have found and it is great to communicate anonymously with like minded folks. Thank you all! I have been working on lossening up my wife since before we were married and it has worked to some extent (26 years and counting ) We have a ways to go still tho but I am patient :)
It seems soooo many of these threads lead to the wife ending up posessed by some bbc bull and that is fine. It just doesn’t seem to be my desire tho. I would love to see her go wild and enjoy herself and even see is a larger cock will satisfy her more. But I am no submissive cuck. I just want to see her explore and enjoy her sexuality. If and when we do get her a bigger penis will that lead down a slippery slope?
You haven't read my thread then ;)
No in all seriousness every couple takes a slightly different path on this journey. It is up to the two of you to make decisions that work for the both of you.
Not every hot wife is looking for the stereotype of a "bull" and not every hot wife wants BBC either. Each one of us has our own preferences and interests. Adding to that not all hot wives are size queens either ;)
Has she said she is looking for a bigger penis? Or is that your interest? Make sure you are both on the same page with that one.
There are a lot of men on this board that are not submissive and have no interest in any humiliation. There are plenty of hot wives that have strong marriages to strong men, who are exploring their sexuality.
This journey is what you make it - enjoy!

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Unread post by hotmom_ma » Sat Jan 26, 2019 5:45 am

2inUPMichigan wrote:
Ikguapo wrote:I have a question. I love this site that I have found and it is great to communicate anonymously with like minded folks. Thank you all! I have been working on lossening up my wife since before we were married and it has worked to some extent (26 years and counting ) We have a ways to go still tho but I am patient :)
It seems soooo many of these threads lead to the wife ending up posessed by some bbc bull and that is fine. It just doesn’t seem to be my desire tho. I would love to see her go wild and enjoy herself and even see is a larger cock will satisfy her more. But I am no submissive cuck. I just want to see her explore and enjoy her sexuality. If and when we do get her a bigger penis will that lead down a slippery slope?
... every couple takes a slightly different path on this journey. It is up to the two of you to make decisions that work for the both of you.
Not every hot wife is looking for the stereotype of a "bull" and not every hot wife wants BBC either. Each one of us has our own preferences and interests. Adding to that not all hot wives are size queens either ;)
Has she said she is looking for a bigger penis? Or is that your interest? Make sure you are both on the same page with that one.
There are a lot of men on this board that are not submissive and have no interest in any humiliation. There are plenty of hot wives that have strong marriages to strong men, who are exploring their sexuality.
This journey is what you make it - enjoy!
You said much of what I was going to say. Find what works for you. I’m not a fan of labels - don’t worry about them. Just find what works for you and be clear about expectations with one another and any potential partners.
Good Luck & have fun!

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Unread post by Cuckoldedhello » Sat Jan 26, 2019 5:53 am

Hello!

How do i tell my wife i want her to fuck other men?

I dont know if she would want to do this or might even think i am weird for wanting this, how did you bring this up and can someone please give me some advice here.
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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Sun Jan 27, 2019 6:42 pm

Cuckoldedhello wrote:Hello!

How do i tell my wife i want her to fuck other men?

I dont know if she would want to do this or might even think i am weird for wanting this, how did you bring this up and can someone please give me some advice here.
The truth is you don't know if she will want to do this and she might think you are weird :D
But then again she might just come to think it is a great idea too!

I would recommend you not just tell her you want her to fuck other men ;)
Actually the best way in my opinion is to think of this from her point of view. What I am talking about is you are after fulfilling your fantasy but what does she get out of it? Most couples have some differences sexually. Maybe there is something she is interested in that you aren't? Could you present this as an opportunity for both of you with her getting the chance to explore those things that interest her and you getting the fantasy of sharing her?
That might make it easier for you to approach her.

You could start out with some pillow talk and role play and incorporate some fantasy for the both of you - things she would like that you don't and the sharing that you want. If she is receptive to that you can talk to her (outside the bedroom) about how much fun you had and ask if there was a chance she would like to live it out in real life.

These conversations take nerves of steel sometimes :mrgreen: but if they go well and it can be a wonderful journey!!

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Unread post by Cuckoldedhello » Mon Jan 28, 2019 1:40 am

2inUPMichigan wrote:
Cuckoldedhello wrote:Hello!

How do i tell my wife i want her to fuck other men?

I dont know if she would want to do this or might even think i am weird for wanting this, how did you bring this up and can someone please give me some advice here.
The truth is you don't know if she will want to do this and she might think you are weird :D
But then again she might just come to think it is a great idea too!

I would recommend you not just tell her you want her to fuck other men ;)
Actually the best way in my opinion is to think of this from her point of view. What I am talking about is you are after fulfilling your fantasy but what does she get out of it? Most couples have some differences sexually. Maybe there is something she is interested in that you aren't? Could you present this as an opportunity for both of you with her getting the chance to explore those things that interest her and you getting the fantasy of sharing her?
That might make it easier for you to approach her.

You could start out with some pillow talk and role play and incorporate some fantasy for the both of you - things she would like that you don't and the sharing that you want. If she is receptive to that you can talk to her (outside the bedroom) about how much fun you had and ask if there was a chance she would like to live it out in real life.

These conversations take nerves of steel sometimes :mrgreen: but if they go well and it can be a wonderful journey!!
Thanks for the helpful answer! :)
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Unread post by SpareTireDixon_66 » Thu Jan 31, 2019 3:41 pm

Hi,
From a woman's perspective, can anyone elaborate on the sensation of being penetrated by a much smaller unit shortly after a much bigger one? Is it harder to feel?
Also, what about after a long term relationship and not having the bigger one any more; or "getting used to" a bigger piece, but being only with a smaller one after that?
Thanks.

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Unread post by alexandros » Fri Feb 01, 2019 8:41 am

pervo2 wrote:
Sat Jan 05, 2019 7:52 am
There is a lot of talk about hotwifing in other kink communities, and this is the one thing that seems to separate hotwifing from them. Women post and say they feel like fetish dolls in their husbands' fantasies. That they don't believe that the men really think it's about their wives' sexual pleasure at all; that it's about the wives giving their husbands wank material.

For all the comments here about doing it as a team and such... there seems to be an awful lot of men who aren't doing it as part of a team, but for themselves, and just paying lip service to the concept that it's for the wife. Especially since after she does it, he tends to have a meltdown because she didn't do it exactly the way he fantasized about, or she enjoyed it too much, or maybe she wants to see the guy again.

But honestly, this is a thing that happens in vanilla sex, too. Men keep pestering and women eventually say yes because it's easier to say yes than to keep fending off someone pushy. But they don't actually WANT to. And who on earth wants to have sex with someone who actually doesn't want to have sex with you? Except maybe someone so self centred that they don't give a shit about anyone's desires but their own. And yes, this is applicable to hotwifing too. Why would you want to do something sexual with your wife that she doesn't want to do?
Thanks for your reply and input. I think that your insight is spot on for a lot of couples. On this web site there seems to be a tremendous amount of energy expended on convincing wives to do something that they really don't really seem to want to do. It seems that this is really something that is much more for the husband.
If the wife is really interested in or thinking about sex with other guys, she really isn't going to need much persuasion or she is already doing it. I speak from experience. I almost ruined my sex life with my wife by constantly returning to this theme.
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We like to think of ourselves as rational creatures, and we try to be, but as women and men, we follow love and seduction, excitement and pleasure, and we avoid that which makes us afraid. Often, we don’t really know what we will like until we try it.

If your main goal was to make your spouse happy, you might ask, Do I think my wife will be more or less happy if she becomes a hot wife, and if she does will she be happy it happened or regret it? Realizing you might be wrong. If you honestly think the answers are yes, than there is a good argument for seducing your wife into hotwifing, leading her down that path, while giving her outs if that’s not her feeling in the end. Most women probably find sexually, they end up liking and loving many different things and experiences that they feared at first. This is often true of submission, of certain physical types of sex, and of playing with others.

An alternate way of looking at the problem is that there are many choices people will make, or want to make, if they feel comfortable and non judged in making them. Some women would never choose hotwifing but enjoy or love it if seduced. Others fantasize it, or love imagining they might have lovers, so it’s all about introdcing the the idea to give them permission to experiment about what they already want.

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Unread post by Cuckoldedhello » Sat Feb 02, 2019 2:31 am

How long have you been a hotwife? :)
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Unread post by chingchang » Tue Feb 05, 2019 8:03 am

Ladies,

New here with a long time HW fantasy. I'm 45, she's 44. Two kids in highschool. One going to boarding school next fall and the other leaving for college in 1.5 years. I've brought up my fantasy with her during mutual masturbation several times, but the last time she was more receptive than ever before. I said "but I could never do it" and she said "why not?". I dropped it because she hasn't been receptive in the past, but I should have said "only if you were comfortable with it and totally into it." She's been very stressed lately, so I'm waiting for the right opportunity to bring it back up. I honestly think she doesn't have much of a fantasy life.

My question for you is, how can I make this MMF fantasy a shared fantasy with her and possibly a reality one day?

Thanks!

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Unread post by hornedhubby » Tue Feb 05, 2019 8:39 am

I notice there is a new thread from the administrator above the Hotwife Forum, admonishing the men of OHW to increase their response rate to the offerings and sharings of the Verified Hotwives. Otherwise, these wonderful women have made it known to the administrator that they intend to restrict their posting activity to the Women-only lounge.

As a veteran member, I would be deeply bummed out if this happened. IMO, this forum is at its peak in terms of fun and insight when the women are actively engaged in the stories and threads. When I started reading OHW, there were numerous couples where both partners posted about their mutual adventures. There is less of that in recent years, especially from the wives. What I know for sure is that I really appreciate hearing from the women. Frankly, it is their strong presence and perspective that have differentiated this forum from others.

Replies to questions in this thread are supposed to be limited to women. Please do not reply here if you are a guy.

So, for women only, what are the guys doing wrong and how can that change for the better?

Thanks for your consideration and participation, ladies. So many of us admire and adore you for being yourselves.

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Unread post by sadie » Tue Feb 05, 2019 3:18 pm

hornedhubby wrote:
Tue Feb 05, 2019 8:39 am
Thanks for your consideration and participation, ladies. So many of us admire and adore you for being yourselves.
nb, that post is from Feb 3 2014, so not exactly recent :-)

I don't think Allen's post from back then even scratches the surface (no offense Allen, it's good as far as it goes)

Look at a few recent and not so recent threads where *every* woman who's weighed in on something found a given post or whole thread to be offensive (demeaning, mansplaining, ...) to be met with nearly all the guys responding that they saw nothing wrong *and* told the women we were off base / oversensitive ... Hell I don't mind being objectified during sex, that's often what (I find) makes it hot. That doesn't mean that I find it sexy or even "OK" to see women generally referred to in terms the feel disrespectful their autonomy, right to determine their own sexuality ... I'd think this was all just common sense, however I know my idea of what is common sense differs a lot from other rational peoples' ideas.

The recent subjects have involved the male half asking how to arrange a subterfuge to get the wife on board with engaging in a HW or cuckold kink. I stand by what I said then: if you have to lie or give out some private information about your partner to get her to join in then you're doing it wrong! (In the thread I'm thinking of it began with sharing her phone number with a prospective partner.

So yeah generally, I get that men tend to get very focused / obsessive about fantasies - especially ones that are hard to meet.

And to be clear I'm the dyke at this party, I don't generally fuck men so in a sense I don't have a dog in this fight. I do, however have a partner who does like getting wriggly with guys and so I get a fair bit of exposure there and god knows I've read / watched plenty of porn / erotica and 99.9% of that is aimed at men.

Oh and don't refer to *me* at least as "ladies". I'm a woman to you, thanks .. not a girl, not a lady. ;-) (yes you got it right 6 times and only flubbed on the 7th / last :-) )

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Unread post by Wisher » Fri Feb 08, 2019 1:17 am

Question of the day .... Can the board be rescued from the Extremists' Takeover?
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Unread post by Trixkat » Sun Feb 10, 2019 9:36 am

hornedhubby wrote:
Tue Feb 05, 2019 8:39 am
So, for women only, what are the guys doing wrong and how can that change for the better?
my typical replies here show me to be kind of a peacemaker, I want fairness, honesty and equality but this particular question has been festering in my head for a while.

and I'm kinda pissed. not at the question or the asker of this question, but at the fact that it NEEDED to be asked.

so, what are the guys doing wrong? in my opinion, they aren't noticing that there are actual opinions and facts being stated by the VHWs on this board. don't talk down to us, don't treat us like little girls, don't see us as discardable objects. FFS, this website is called "Our HOTWIVES", not "Our fantasies about subjugating women in our lives for our own kinks and fetishes to be satisfied". when we reply to a hot button topic, don't try to silence us because you had to stop wanking to the idea that we're all some sort of bimbo, only here for your pleasure. WE ARE MORE IMPORTANT TO THIS THAN YOU GIVE US CREDIT FOR!!

if it weren't called Our Hotwives, then sure....go right ahead with the misogyny and belittling of our thoughts and ideas but WE WOMEN ARE ON THIS BOARD TOO.

the part about how this can change for the better...this is simple. get your dick out of your hand when you read a thread where a woman posts something contrary to your kink. we women know what we're talking about and men should NEVER speak for women and vice versa. none of this "I know of a woman who...." . if you aren't a woman, then it is not your story to tell.

we've been discussing this sort of thing over in our private, no men allowed forum, and in general, we aren't thrilled by the way things have been here lately. sure, a number of male posters are aware that we women are vital to this site, that we're valuable here. to those gentlemen, I say thank you. we see you, we appreciate that you know our worth and are champions for us. for the rest of the males who post otherwise we see you too.

and trust me.

we are not happy with you.
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Unread post by Wisher » Sun Feb 10, 2019 10:46 am

Trixkat wrote:
Sun Feb 10, 2019 9:36 am
this website is called "Our HOTWIVES", not "Our fantasies about subjugating women in our lives for our own kinks and fetishes to be satisfied". when we reply to a hot button topic, don't try to silence us because you had to stop wanking to the idea that we're all some sort of bimbo, only here for your pleasure.

...


and trust me.

we are not happy with you.
In a large part, the extremist kinksters and bullies are why so many long time posters have stopped posting or moved on all together. And staff doesn't seem to be making any effort to curtail them.
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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Sun Feb 10, 2019 11:25 am

chingchang wrote:
Tue Feb 05, 2019 8:03 am
Ladies,

New here with a long time HW fantasy. I'm 45, she's 44. Two kids in highschool. One going to boarding school next fall and the other leaving for college in 1.5 years. I've brought up my fantasy with her during mutual masturbation several times, but the last time she was more receptive than ever before. I said "but I could never do it" and she said "why not?". I dropped it because she hasn't been receptive in the past, but I should have said "only if you were comfortable with it and totally into it." She's been very stressed lately, so I'm waiting for the right opportunity to bring it back up. I honestly think she doesn't have much of a fantasy life.

My question for you is, how can I make this MMF fantasy a shared fantasy with her and possibly a reality one day?

Thanks!
For some it will remain a fantasy and for others they will live the fantasy. Only the two of you can decide what is best for you. This is something you will need to carefully think through before going forward because if you have any doubts it is best to keep it as a hot bedroom fantasy for the two of you to share.
Not all women have specific fantasies- this has come up more than once on this board.
You mention a MMF fantasy, so is she comfortable with you interacting with another man sexually? Or did you mean to say MFM, where all the focus is on her?
Have the two of you only talked about this in the bedroom? If so you really need to have an honest conversation outside the bedroom when you are not distracted. Be honest about your interest and when you talk about it also think about what she will get out of this. What is the benefit for her? She has to get something out of it, not just be doing it to fulfill your fantasy.

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Unread post by coastalkid » Mon Feb 11, 2019 12:52 pm

What is your favorite way to tease your husband/bf? Has it ever not worked or had the wrong effect?
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Unread post by Whosbeensleeping » Mon Feb 11, 2019 1:22 pm

O and J, agreed.

Thank you to the ladies for their generous time and thoughts. And for your forthrightness!

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Mon Feb 11, 2019 2:46 pm

hornedhubby wrote:
Tue Feb 05, 2019 8:39 am
So, for women only, what are the guys doing wrong and how can that change for the better?

Thanks for your consideration and participation, ladies. So many of us admire and adore you for being yourselves.
I’ve been giving this some thought because I didn’t want to rush into answering this question. From the tone of some of the threads recently and some of the responses of my fellow VHW’s here on the board I hope that everyone is beginning to understand that we are taking this seriously and we are paying attention.

This is very real to us, this is our lives and this is about being respectful. When we are treated as if our opinions are irrelevant, useless, unnecessary or just plain nonsense we start to wonder why we are even still here. Should we all find somewhere else to go where the environment is truly accepting and welcoming?

Look at the first page of the forum and the tag lines under the headings of the forums. Do they still apply? “Hot wife Forum for hot wives and the men that adore them.” “Cuckold Forum for cuckoldresses and the men who serve them.” We have to ask ourselves as a community are “Our HotWives” being adored and served according to those board descriptions or are they instead being ridiculed and dismissed if their opinions do not further someone’s fantasy?

There is a lot of lip service given to how important communication is in this lifestyle but the lines of communication do not seem to be as open here and that has been a frustration. The hot wives of the board are such a valuable resource and it really doesn’t make sense why our input is subjected to such negativity. Those of you that say you want to bring this out of the fantasy and into real life should be the ones seeking our advice the most as we are living it!

We are not toys or dolls to fill a spot in your fantasy we are women. We have value. Let me repeat that…. We have value. Your dreams of living this lifestyle will not be a reality without a hotwife.

The Verified Hot Wives of this board (and all the hot wives) are all very different in their paths but we are supportive of each other. We do not tear each other apart and we seek out advice from each other and listen to the wisdom of others. We could very easily stay in the “ladies lounge” where it is a supportive environment and never subject ourselves to the criticism and offensive know-it-all behavior that has been prevalent when it comes to what “all women think” according to some of the men of the board.

I have thought of leaving however there are some supportive members that post in the general forums. I’m hoping that continues and that we can see some improvement in the current atmosphere. So for now I will stay in hopes that things will change.

Here are the basics:
Tricking someone into this lifestyle is unacceptable! (This includes all “setups”)

We are women that means we really do know more about how women think, act and feel than men do.

Please do not argue with us and tell us that we are wrong when we express a feeling!

All women are not the same so please stop lumping us all together. No all women don’t like or want the same thing we are individuals with thoughts all our own, ask us.

Don’t speak for us, we can do that all on our own, thanks.

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Unread post by stillgreat38 » Tue Feb 12, 2019 3:45 am

To all hotwives, As a true hotwife lover and a traveler with many experiences behind me, allow me to ask a question that has nagged at me for a while now. I feel that tricking the wife into sleeping with another man is wrong, or at least I think I do. my question is, do you feel that if you make plans with someone to meet your hotwife without her knowing about it is "tricking". I have done this in the past due to my saying she didn't want to feel pressured into having sex with someone by advertising. She didn't have any idea that I had contacted a black gentleman and told him where we would be. This way she was under no pressure at all to accept his advances. She had wanted to meet a black man for a long time, but where we live there were none. They met and he became her favorite ever. Also she was told about it after. If she has free will in the situation, is that in any way harming her? She later thanked me.

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Unread post by Trixkat » Tue Feb 12, 2019 5:19 am

stillgreat38 wrote:
Tue Feb 12, 2019 3:45 am
To all hotwives, As a true hotwife lover and a traveler with many experiences behind me, allow me to ask a question that has nagged at me for a while now. I feel that tricking the wife into sleeping with another man is wrong, or at least I think I do. my question is, do you feel that if you make plans with someone to meet your hotwife without her knowing about it is "tricking". I have done this in the past due to my saying she didn't want to feel pressured into having sex with someone by advertising. She didn't have any idea that I had contacted a black gentleman and told him where we would be. This way she was under no pressure at all to accept his advances. She had wanted to meet a black man for a long time, but where we live there were none. They met and he became her favorite ever. Also she was told about it after. If she has free will in the situation, is that in any way harming her? She later thanked me.
Here are the basics:
Tricking someone into this lifestyle is unacceptable! (This includes all “setups”)
how is this still unclear???
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Unread post by MyWifeLMPhubbyACE » Tue Feb 12, 2019 5:44 am

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I've been with my wife for over 3 years, My SexyWife is very petite and kinda shy too. It took us a year and 2 months to finalize our Top 7 Fantasy's. Both are willing to explore our top 4 Fantasy's. Our top 4 Fantasy's are FFM threesome & Stranger Fantasy usually stayed in the top 3. I knew those would be the top 2 since we already did one of ours already. Let me say Swinging came in #4 and
What was a big surprise was MFM in #3. How did it get there? Honestly I had been the one who made it into something she would be very interested in. Here is how i went about it. In the beginning she was just okay with a MFM threesome but was really into ffm. Her only rule for me was NO Penetration she would not feel comfortable seeing me penetrating another woman so that was off limits. And to this day still no penetration also she starts out with the other female in 1 on 1 action for 30 min's that's how she wanted & I wanted to watch her so sexy, later she would signal me to join the action, anyway 2 months later she watch a movie called, "Savages" it really turn her on and what she described was a woman had two men in her life, one who made soft & slow passionate love, and other one was rough & hard. She said that if we did MFM she would want it that way. Her rules started out with new guy only allowed doggy style, & no kissing, must wear condom, no anal, and definitely our favorite 2 positions off limits.
In the months to come I started to read forums and websites about all Fantasy's. I found myself turned completely on by this fantasy known as Sharing your wife. Allowing another man fuck your wife and her enjoying it and the husband Watching with a hard on!
How did I get so hard imagining my wife and another man I asked myself? I was confused. I knew both of us wasn't keen to the idea of Cuckholding. The more I thought about the MFM I had to make it exciting for my wife. So making it Sensual & unique is what I did. Next move was great on my part I turned it into a Sensual Cuckhold MFM Threesome. It went from being #14 & my #11 to making it in the top 5. I explained how this was much better than a regular threesome. This one started out with Sensual massage to get her relaxed. ((What She said to me make sure new guy does Doggy Style & he Spoons her & that he didn't forget to do those 2 positions. However, final rules were light kisses short not long or heavy and that it showed gratitude & appreciation. I explained how it would start out w/ us giving her a Sensual massage, then a twosome with me and the new guy so she didn't feel like it was constant threesome action so I said new guy and her start right after the massage. I asked same as FFM on time limit
She said no 15 min's would be good enough as I sense her nervousness. Then I would join in making it a threesome. After awhile he would relax and I get 15 min's wit my wife and then threesome action. Now Second time around the new guy would get last Twosome with my Wife anywhere from 25-35 min's a bit longer than the 1st time with my wife. I would watch my wife much better this time around intrigued & interested. Hoping new guy satisfied my SexyWife.

>>>Now for me I'd picture this in my mind & play it out.<<<

(((Occasionally I would imagine him spooning my wife then adjusting himself & lifting my wife's leg over him and quickly he slide into missionary position before my SexyWife realize he was on top slowly entering her at a nice pace and she allows him on top not thinking bout it and he notices that I give him a thumbs up for being so smooth. He appreciates me being so cool. Soon she starts having nice small orgasms, going with his flow of going In & out of her at a steady pace, still on top in missionary he moves in kissing her her lips lightly & she returns short light kisses too, then he takes control by kissing her longer more passionate and deep long kisses as he fucks her a bit harder and longer for she is about to have a Huge orgasm while she is kissing him back deep and Passionately heavy and she has a loud hard huge orgasm. Then he starts to cum really hard inside her as she feels him making her have another nice size orgasm as she holds onto him keeping her legs open to him and wrapping them so she can make sure she returns the favor letting him fill her up until his last drop and the look on her face enjoying him being inside her and loving every minute of him and how I see that she catered to his needs making him feel like the man he is))).

Wow I sure fantasize quite a bit and what I did next was i join a few forum's and websites filled out a couple of Profiles with a pic of her (2) and (1) of us. Joined websites like "Slutwifes" and "Wife wants to play" I learned a lot and not only I saw my SexyWife as sexy but got lots of compliments like she's really Sexy or So Sexy and So Beautiful this was from April to early June.

Around June 7th or 8th I told her bout the forums and the compliments she had gotten she was surprised which I used this one pic as a profile pic another one and also a pic of us. She couldn't believe the compliments she got said it was nice.
I said let's check out this site AdultDatingXXX for Threesomes & Swinging she agreed to check it out. They gave us a sweet deal 17.95 + tax one month which ended up having an additional 2 more weeks free. She liked her new name which I called her SexyWifeLPE she and I took it slow did it only on the weekends not thinking she got lots of hits like anywhere from 30-35 Messages a week. We took a break and we got back on in September 21st 3 month membership I remember last day was December 22nd.
However I made one big mistake she found out I made a profile of us on Cuckhold Contacts at the same time we joined AdultdatingXXX and after 7 days told her look we got over 85 messages but she didn't like that I made another profile of us, and I quickly APOLOGIZE and Took us off and deleted our profile back in late October 2018.
It did put a damper on things making us move at a slower pace. So far on AdultdatingXXX we had one meet and greet she said he was nice and he will come in town in mid to late February to hangout shoot pool sing Karaoke this is a possibility he loves how petite she is. I love the fact she's into it still shy but talking to another 4-5 prospects for a while now. I hope she doesn't shy away. Now it's December before action got hot again, we decided to take a break during holidays til my birthday January 17th. Slowly getting back into it but had life get in the way obstacles.*
However, I have learned about her preferences which is so Cool. Her preferences are Caucasian male circumcised, 5'9" or taller, for size no smaller than 5" no bigger than 7", and girth from average to thick also likes eye color to be blue, green, or Hazel. Body type as long as he's not real big. She said from Athletic to few extra pounds.
So far on the site she has told guys she doesn't want a one hit run away Joe lol or demanding or aggressively wanting her & fakes pretending to be a couple then ends up saying he can play alone without wife.

Would she be good about having a steady threesome partner she has mentioned 2-3x a year steady. What you think?*

My Inquiry's or Q's? Are things I Wonder about.

Which is better (2-3x) or (4-5x) a year good for a steady threesome partner?
Do you see a possibility it could change to something else somehow?

I mentioned to her don't worry if it comes down to 2 guys and they both pass everything I told her we could have a threesome with both at different times to see which one was more in tune, was that a good idea on my part?

As far as preferences what do you think to much or it's expected because everybody has their own likes?

Knowing I'm different in what she prefers like I'm Hispanic and uncircumcised also I have brown eyes and for size when we were dating at the beginning somehow we got on the subject on men's hands that you could compare that to their penis size and she said watch and what she did was measured me at that time and I was a good 6" that was back in January 2016. From September 2018 to New year's I only get up to at best 5⅛" about 5% of the time but most of the time I'm either right at 5" or barely 5" bout 70% of the time and 25% of the time a solid but good 4¾" when I measure usually around 4¾" or 12.1cm to 12.3cm idk what's up.

Anyway Knowing that what do you think about the difference regarding size & girth? About her wanting Caucasian and circumcised and for size from 5-7" and do you think she notices me now being 5" or just thinks a bit Smaller like she might think her man is around like 5½?

I Love my SexyWife hoping she lets me know her desires and what she is thinking is that too much to ask?

Thank You

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MyWifeLMPhubbyACE wrote:
Tue Feb 12, 2019 5:44 am
Latest update
I've been with my wife for over 3 years, My SexyWife is very petite and kinda shy too. It took us a year and 2 months to finalize our Top 7 Fantasy's. Both are willing to explore our top 4 Fantasy's. Our top 4 Fantasy's are FFM threesome & Stranger Fantasy usually stayed in the top 3. I knew those would be the top 2 since we already did one of ours already. Let me say Swinging came in #4 and
What was a big surprise was MFM in #3. How did it get there? Honestly I had been the one who made it into something she would be very interested in. Here is how i went about it. In the beginning she was just okay with a MFM threesome but was really into ffm. Her only rule for me was NO Penetration she would not feel comfortable seeing me penetrating another woman so that was off limits. And to this day still no penetration also she starts out with the other female in 1 on 1 action for 30 min's that's how she wanted & I wanted to watch her so sexy, later she would signal me to join the action, anyway 2 months later she watch a movie called, "Savages" it really turn her on and what she described was a woman had two men in her life, one who made soft & slow passionate love, and other one was rough & hard. She said that if we did MFM she would want it that way. Her rules started out with new guy only allowed doggy style, & no kissing, must wear condom, no anal, and definitely our favorite 2 positions off limits.
In the months to come I started to read forums and websites about all Fantasy's. I found myself turned completely on by this fantasy known as Sharing your wife. Allowing another man fuck your wife and her enjoying it and the husband Watching with a hard on!
How did I get so hard imagining my wife and another man I asked myself? I was confused. I knew both of us wasn't keen to the idea of Cuckholding. The more I thought about the MFM I had to make it exciting for my wife. So making it Sensual & unique is what I did. Next move was great on my part I turned it into a Sensual Cuckhold MFM Threesome. It went from being #14 & my #11 to making it in the top 5. I explained how this was much better than a regular threesome. This one started out with Sensual massage to get her relaxed. ((What She said to me make sure new guy does Doggy Style & he Spoons her & that he didn't forget to do those 2 positions. However, final rules were light kisses short not long or heavy and that it showed gratitude & appreciation. I explained how it would start out w/ us giving her a Sensual massage, then a twosome with me and the new guy so she didn't feel like it was constant threesome action so I said new guy and her start right after the massage. I asked same as FFM on time limit
She said no 15 min's would be good enough as I sense her nervousness. Then I would join in making it a threesome. After awhile he would relax and I get 15 min's wit my wife and then threesome action. Now Second time around the new guy would get last Twosome with my Wife anywhere from 25-35 min's a bit longer than the 1st time with my wife. I would watch my wife much better this time around intrigued & interested. Hoping new guy satisfied my SexyWife.

>>>Now for me I'd picture this in my mind & play it out.<<<

(((Occasionally I would imagine him spooning my wife then adjusting himself & lifting my wife's leg over him and quickly he slide into missionary position before my SexyWife realize he was on top slowly entering her at a nice pace and she allows him on top not thinking bout it and he notices that I give him a thumbs up for being so smooth. He appreciates me being so cool. Soon she starts having nice small orgasms, going with his flow of going In & out of her at a steady pace, still on top in missionary he moves in kissing her her lips lightly & she returns short light kisses too, then he takes control by kissing her longer more passionate and deep long kisses as he fucks her a bit harder and longer for she is about to have a Huge orgasm while she is kissing him back deep and Passionately heavy and she has a loud hard huge orgasm. Then he starts to cum really hard inside her as she feels him making her have another nice size orgasm as she holds onto him keeping her legs open to him and wrapping them so she can make sure she returns the favor letting him fill her up until his last drop and the look on her face enjoying him being inside her and loving every minute of him and how I see that she catered to his needs making him feel like the man he is))).

Wow I sure fantasize quite a bit and what I did next was i join a few forum's and websites filled out a couple of Profiles with a pic of her (2) and (1) of us. Joined websites like "Slutwifes" and "Wife wants to play" I learned a lot and not only I saw my SexyWife as sexy but got lots of compliments like she's really Sexy or So Sexy and So Beautiful this was from April to early June.

Around June 7th or 8th I told her bout the forums and the compliments she had gotten she was surprised which I used this one pic as a profile pic another one and also a pic of us. She couldn't believe the compliments she got said it was nice.
I said let's check out this site AdultDatingXXX for Threesomes & Swinging she agreed to check it out. They gave us a sweet deal 17.95 + tax one month which ended up having an additional 2 more weeks free. She liked her new name which I called her SexyWifeLPE she and I took it slow did it only on the weekends not thinking she got lots of hits like anywhere from 30-35 Messages a week. We took a break and we got back on in September 21st 3 month membership I remember last day was December 22nd.
However I made one big mistake she found out I made a profile of us on Cuckhold Contacts at the same time we joined AdultdatingXXX and after 7 days told her look we got over 85 messages but she didn't like that I made another profile of us, and I quickly APOLOGIZE and Took us off and deleted our profile back in late October 2018.
It did put a damper on things making us move at a slower pace. So far on AdultdatingXXX we had one meet and greet she said he was nice and he will come in town in mid to late February to hangout shoot pool sing Karaoke this is a possibility he loves how petite she is. I love the fact she's into it still shy but talking to another 4-5 prospects for a while now. I hope she doesn't shy away. Now it's December before action got hot again, we decided to take a break during holidays til my birthday January 17th. Slowly getting back into it but had life get in the way obstacles.*
However, I have learned about her preferences which is so Cool. Her preferences are Caucasian male circumcised, 5'9" or taller, for size no smaller than 5" no bigger than 7", and girth from average to thick also likes eye color to be blue, green, or Hazel. Body type as long as he's not real big. She said from Athletic to few extra pounds.
So far on the site she has told guys she doesn't want a one hit run away Joe lol or demanding or aggressively wanting her & fakes pretending to be a couple then ends up saying he can play alone without wife.

Would she be good about having a steady threesome partner she has mentioned 2-3x a year steady. What you think?*

My Inquiry's or Q's? Are things I Wonder about.

Which is better (2-3x) or (4-5x) a year good for a steady threesome partner?
Do you see a possibility it could change to something else somehow?

I mentioned to her don't worry if it comes down to 2 guys and they both pass everything I told her we could have a threesome with both at different times to see which one was more in tune, was that a good idea on my part?

As far as preferences what do you think to much or it's expected because everybody has their own likes?

Knowing I'm different in what she prefers like I'm Hispanic and uncircumcised also I have brown eyes and for size when we were dating at the beginning somehow we got on the subject on men's hands that you could compare that to their penis size and she said watch and what she did was measured me at that time and I was a good 6" that was back in January 2016. From September 2018 to New year's I only get up to at best 5⅛" about 5% of the time but most of the time I'm either right at 5" or barely 5" bout 70% of the time and 25% of the time a solid but good 4¾" when I measure usually around 4¾" or 12.1cm to 12.3cm idk what's up.

Anyway Knowing that what do you think about the difference regarding size & girth? About her wanting Caucasian and circumcised and for size from 5-7" and do you think she notices me now being 5" or just thinks a bit Smaller like she might think her man is around like 5½?

I Love my SexyWife hoping she lets me know her desires and what she is thinking is that too much to ask?

Thank You
When I am out there looking at profiles I think to myself - this is my chance to find something different. Why would I look for the same exact replica of my hubby? I'm out there to have an adventure and explore a little. I think she has a good idea of what she is looking for and shouldn't settle for less than that.
Let me put this another way....I have a stepson and when he became a teenager I gave him some advice "why you look at and what you look for are two different things". Translating that into this situation what you look for in a life long partner is different than what you want to look at when you play. ;)
Frequency of play is very individual and something that needs to be decided between the two of you. The only right answer is what the two of you agree on. For some couples play is weekly, others monthly and still others less then once a year. Your journey is unique to the two of you.
It is my understanding that penis size can change as men age.

Is your wife interested in finding one consistent man to play with? Is she interested in "test driving" a couple men before deciding on one?

I read over your fantasy of how you would envision this happening. I hope that you realize that time limits on playtime are unrealistic (15 minutes for one person etc...) as when the action starts you will have to be prepared to let go of the fantasy in your head and be in the moment. Things have to happen naturally and to interrupt the action to be tagged in because of a time limit could kill the mood for everyone.

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