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Unread post by RichNile » Sun May 17, 2015 12:06 am

Thanks Mrs E. I'm hoping to get my lady active on the forum soon in her own right. I'm sure she'll appreciate the support.

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Unread post by MrLust » Sat Jun 06, 2015 1:52 pm

I've got one for all you gorgeous wives and hope that you deem it appropriate enough to reply.

How do you personally know when this lifestyle is something that you really want for you and your wife?

Just very brief bit of back ground about us, been together for 20 years. Always had decent sex life. Last 3 1/2 years it's been incredible as the fantasy for her to fuck someone (hung black guy to be specific) has entered the bedroom. I think about it a lot. I get turned on by the thought of it. She does too. We talk. She is pretty adamant that it's not going to happen although she has been asking a few logistical questions more recently so it's certainly on her mind. She loves it when we play with our favourite dildos (especially when use the harness). Im on here. She enjoys reading some of the threads I follow. I mean these are all classic signs from other threads but how do you really know?

I kind of think I'm answering my own question here but is there a eureka moment when you say to yourself that you really want this to happen and to get past the fantasy stage?

Hope this makes sense. MrLust

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Unread post by wykedjasmine » Sun Jun 07, 2015 3:44 am

Sounds to me like she is almost ready and on her way to making this a reality! Seems she is just wrapping her mind around those last few fears and desires and guilty feelings. patience and support is all you need MrLust..IMHO!
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Unread post by Mrs E » Sun Jun 07, 2015 5:51 am

I agree! Your patience and support is what she needs. She might find some of the threads that address some of her questions and concerns useful to you as well. Maybe she should ask us some questions herself if she wants. Most of us hotwives had to address the issues of guilt and fears -often fears of opening up our sexuality, that our husbands will stop respecting us, as two examples. Also, keep communicating to each other honestly and lovingly - no matter what happens that's all good for your relationship.

Good luck!

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Unread post by MrLust » Mon Jun 08, 2015 1:07 am

Thank you ladies.

I too believe we are close and I am very supportive. We have a fantastic marriage and couldn't love each other more if we tried. I've been reading stuff on here for over a year now and have really picked up on the communication thing. This is easily the single biggest single reason the last few years have been so amazing.

All of the shit I've been bottling up all my married life (life actually) about cock size insecurities (I actually discovered by reading sites like this that I'm ok in that department) came out and made us closer. I discovered this as part of getting this off my chest. I remember the majority of that conversation like it was yesterday.

For your information, I'm second biggest she's had (biggest was fucking huge and black but that didn't work out so well) and I was first to make her cum on our first time together! It was the discovery of her previous black lover (one of 2 actually, but the other was smaller than me) that has brought us to this moment.

So here's where I think our main stumbling blocks are.

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Unread post by MrLust » Mon Jun 08, 2015 1:15 am

Arrrggghhh. I can't get my whole reply in single post!! I tried to reply last night and annoyingly lost half of it. I'm not sure if this is as eloquent as last night but here are my thoughts on our main stumbling blocks.

1) She thinks I'm fucking amazing in bed. Which is obviously very cool. Truth is that I am pretty good! I've always put women's needs first (back to insecurities) and because of that and the fact I'm not as small as I think I am, she fucking loves my cock to the point that even when comparing me to our friends (black dildos), she squirts all over the bed when fucking her from behind (I can make her squirt but with far less regularity) she still maintains that that my cock is the best she's ever had. I'm not totally convinced by this argument though, going by her pussys reaction to one of them in particular!

2) The emotional side of things and fucking someone else I can see will be a big problem because of how much she loves me. She knows if she wants to explore this further she can. As our next step, and I suggested this fairly recently, I thought that she should set up a profile on AFF or something similar and get chatting to a few blokes. I thought that would be a good way to see how horny that makes us. The thought of her speaking to a suitable stud makes me very horny but I am yet to discover if the reality of that is the same! Needless to say nothing like this has happened yet.

3) We have this thing we call our bubble. Inside the bubble, pretty much anything goes! It's where all the fantasy chat, IR porn and friends live! Any attempt to chat outside this have been shot straight down. (I did finally get her to admit that one of our friends does feel better than me from behind last week - a very horny moment indeed) but she was hugely uncomfortable in admitting that/telling me in the cold light of day! Something that is less of a problem in the bubble but I'm never too sure if she's just saying that, just to make things more horny!

I would therefore welcome your comments on this too?

Can I also ask if you think it's time I started my own thread? I've enjoyed off loading and it's certainly nice to get some answers from a woman's point of view. Thanks again for replying by the way. I think I've got a lot I can share on how I got to this point. I mean I have given it a lot of thought over the years. Moments that have changed the direction we are taking etc..

Bit of history on me. Up until that conversation I was always the jealous type. I wasn't an idiot over it, (as I said, I just bottled up my insecurities - my wife called me a sulker) I just didn't talk about what was going on in my head. So to get to this point where I'm interested in her fucking someone else is unbelievable really.

Before answering that though, please consider that I still believe that even though we're close to making our fantasy a reality, I still don't thing it will ever happen. I also don't want a thread where I'm just talking to myself. I appreciate that that may be largely down to the content, but considering that my gorgeous wife is unlikely to become a hot wife, is there any interest out there for a story like mine?

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Unread post by wykedjasmine » Mon Jun 08, 2015 2:34 am

OK let me take this point by point Mr Lust...

1. she may not be squirting as regularly for a number of reasons. you have not told us your age but her body has gone though a ton of changes...In the time span you have been talking possibly onset of pre menopause, maybe she has added or lowered weight, just all kinds of things that may have affected that out of both of your control!

2. Emotional side...this will be the big one...for her, but especially you. If she is like at least a few of us here...once we knew we had the green light and how much confidence it gave us and the pleasure we derived from having awesome husbands who support us in this endeavor, the can will be open and will be very hard to put the genie back in the bottle so to speak! So once she gets over that stumbling block and wraps her head around it...The talk of this is really hot to many ...but what I see is, in particular, men/husbands, can actually handle the emotional roller coaster.

3. I am confused...I thought you said you were new to this and it has not happened...but you say here that your wife had trouble telling you your friend feels better from behind? How can that be??? Either she has not done this, or she has fucked your friend? which is it? The bubble is good but once you start this your bubble will get bigger as others will now be intimately involved in your life in some ways...That can be very powerful...good and bad!

starting your own thread...you will probably get some help and answers. Some really good and knowledgable...and experienced people here. You will have other men who have been through this to help you I am sure. but you will not know if you do not put it up and put it out there. What will it hurt to put up a thread and get no responses? Nothing ventured - nothing gained! and you may find at least one you can confide in!
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Unread post by MrLust » Mon Jun 08, 2015 4:12 am

Hi wykedjasmine.

Thanks for your thoughts. I'm 44 and my wife is 49. She is on HRT so I appreciate that her body creates Mary hell for her at times. And yes we are new to this and didn't mean to confuse you. Our 'friends' is our reference to the dildos we play with a couple of times a week. How horny she gets is definitely a factor although I still maintain that she squirts more with them than me.

You are right on the thread and will post something this week. Thanks again.

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Unread post by uniporn_69 » Wed Jun 10, 2015 4:52 pm

Question for the hot wives...

My girlfriend and I have talked about having a threesome with another guy for a while, and finally have it scheduled for Friday night. I'm wondering what I can do for her or buy her to show her how much I appreciate her fucking another guy for me.

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Unread post by Mrs E » Wed Jun 10, 2015 6:19 pm

uniporn_69 wrote:Question for the hot wives...

My girlfriend and I have talked about having a threesome with another guy for a while, and finally have it scheduled for Friday night. I'm wondering what I can do for her or buy her to show her how much I appreciate her fucking another guy for me.
I could think of some things, like shopping for lingerie, encourage a trip to the spa for some pampering, but I think the best thing to do is ask her. I would ask her what would increase her enjoyment, or help her feel less nervous if she is. That could be dinner and drinks before. Has she met the guy? Does she like him? Have they talked a bit? Is he also devoted to her pleasure? Does she have any particular wishes or fantasies she'd like to try out?

You may have done all this but if you haven't I'd recommend you do at least some of it.

Good luck and hope all of you have a lot of fun!

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uniporn_69 wrote:Question for the hot wives...

My girlfriend and I have talked about having a threesome with another guy for a while, and finally have it scheduled for Friday night. I'm wondering what I can do for her or buy her to show her how much I appreciate her fucking another guy for me.
I could think of some things, like shopping for lingerie, encourage a trip to the spa for some pampering, but I think the best thing to do is ask her. I would ask her what would increase her enjoyment, or help her feel less nervous if she is. That could be dinner and drinks before. Has she met the guy? Does she like him? Have they talked a bit? Is he also devoted to her pleasure? Does she have any particular wishes or fantasies she'd like to try out?

You may have done all this but if you haven't I'd recommend you do at least some of it.

Good luck and hope all of you have a lot of fun!
She's not nervous. She had a threesome years ago in Vegas with a guy she met in the bar and one of his roommates who walked in on them.

She hasn't met the guy. We've emailed him, and I suggested we meet before hand, but she said that since this is going to be a one time thing with this guy (we're moving Saturday morning), she doesn't really care to get to know him.

I asked her if there was anything she wanted to try, but she said that since she's doing it for me, she just wants to do whatever I want her to do.

I want to do whatever it takes for her to enjoy it, because she's doing this for me; I really want her to enjoy it enough that she wants it more than me next time; and because she's all around awesome (as is demonstrated by her "you and some guy you found on aff can do whatever you want to me" attitude).

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Unread post by suzieqpe » Thu Jun 11, 2015 6:14 am

Hello

I am new to the site and browsing. My partner asked me about 2 months ago to fuck another man while he watches. We have since done some research and have met one or two guys. (No fucking yet - just some flirting and fondling- dying for the fucking part to begin)

I am very much in the dark. I know the basics. He gets to watch, I get to play. A certain element of humiliation is key.

What I am starting to learn is that the "hotwife" also has a dominant role with her cuckold husband.

Please could some of the experienced hotwives tell me about the role I must play?

New to this, shy, but OH SO KEEN! :)

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Unread post by Mrs E » Thu Jun 11, 2015 8:40 am

There are lots of ways to be a hotwife. Humiliation doesn't need to be involved. Couples do everything from always being together doing full MFM's only, to cuckold couples where the woman is completely dominant, and she completely controls his sexual gratification.

I'd ask - what role do you want? What role does he want?
Also the answer to this question can and does change over time. Make sure you both communicate openly to each other about your thoughts and feelings.

Read around the website.

You can also think about becoming verified which will give you access to the women's only section. Instructions for this are in a sticky at the top of this forum.

Sounds like you're ready to have some fun. Hope it goes well for both of you!

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Unread post by wykedjasmine » Fri Jun 12, 2015 5:19 am

suzieqpe

Mrs E is right on!!!!! While Hotwifing can have a variety of aspects including humiliation, cuckolding, and domination, it does not have to. Some couples...the man just enjoys sharing his wife for the pure pleasure. Knowing that you are his and the other guys wants you is a turn on. some Men do like the above mentioned aspects, some do not. it is about you as a couple and what makes the two of you tick. While it seems you are ready to jump in, my humble advice is you two need to talk more. what is it you want out of this...what are his expectations, his needs in this...What is you you want as a COUPLE out of this? Do you have boundaries and rules in place. what is ok, not ok to do. Can you date and fuck alone, or is he always there? Pictures? These are all moving targets and you get more experience but you need a baseline to start! *S

I will tell you the fantasy is REALLY Hot....for us the reality was hotter but we communicate well and had our bumps in the road for sure...we all do! Many women, once past the guilt tend to love it and get into it I think...some of the men start with high horny expectations then when their wife is enjoying it find these little jealousies/insecurities and feelings creep in. So some find the reality really hard to take...esp the men when insecurities can set in...I have heard things like the other guy is bigger, you moan more with him, you like his cock better, you never do that with me, on and on...these feelings are not bad...we all have them...it is how we deal with them that is the key. You might want to check out the book I reference in my signature...it may help you both as you venture into this wonderful lifestyle and dealing with things head on! communication is of course the key! you are a team...keep the team solid....let the others add to the team! *S

you do not have to play a "role". You need to be you and who you are...that is where you find the most joy in this lifestyle. The role you need to play is just be you...enjoy yourself, enjoy your husband, enjoy your partner(s)!!! *S
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Unread post by davelover » Fri Jun 12, 2015 7:54 pm

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lex3 wrote:This weekend we were talking about it as she had just returned from a business trip out of town and I made my usual comments about her extra-curricular activities. She told me "no one wants an old lady" (she is only 45) and "all the men think I am too stiff."

So I sense a lack of confidence - any ideas?

I'm in my late 50s, and I said about the same thing to my husband last year when we were discussing hotwifing. He posted a Craigslist ad in "Casual Encounters" in a distant city with an anonymous version of my picture, my stats at the time (redhead, 5'8", 240 lb. - I'm about 25lb. lighter now). We received an amazing number of responses, and a reasonable number of them were guys I'd actually consider, most at least 10 years younger. More than one said "I love older women". This was a great confidence booster, and soon after that I told my husband he could start looking for partners. I can't tell you that I still don't worry about being too old but since last September I've had sex with five different men, all but one 10-15 years younger than me, all nice, good looking, and great in bed. Two of the guys are looking to be regulars. Between travel plans and out of town visitors, I will likely add at least four to that total this summer.

Not bad for an old lady. I hope she can see herself in a better light, as I'm sure you see her. I hope you show her this post.
I know this is an older post but thanks so much for writing this. This is exactly what I was looking for in regards to my wife's insecurities. This is a great help thank you.

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Unread post by sextiescouple » Mon Aug 10, 2015 12:55 pm

Ladies, I have questions on moresomes up to and including gangbangs.

If you’ve participated in such, are you able to orgasm as easily as with just one partner, or in an MFM?

Also, why is a larger group of men pleasurable for you (assuming it is?)

Very Sincerely,
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Unread post by wykedjasmine » Mon Aug 10, 2015 3:02 pm

Oh I orgasm more!!! *LOL More men means more variety...more cocks to order around and control which gets me even hotter!!! And then all the boys are vying for my attention...wanting and desiring me all at once...yes a huge rush!
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Unread post by sextiescouple » Fri Aug 14, 2015 7:36 am

Thanks, Jasmine

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Unread post by D+D » Fri Aug 14, 2015 8:29 am

Great question. I've often wondered the same thing. I would like to hear more on the subject.

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Unread post by Buttercream » Mon Aug 17, 2015 7:58 pm

Personally, 3 men is my top. I have no interest in more.
I am buttery soft and full of cream ;-)

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Unread post by occams_razor » Mon Aug 17, 2015 8:14 pm

Did u start with online stuff first? Pics, chat, cams etc?

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Unread post by Mrs E » Tue Aug 18, 2015 2:48 am

We started online, and still that is where I still meet most of my lovers. If you go to my story thread I talk about my first bull, who I chatted with on Yahoo messenger for a couple months before we met. We've also used SLS and Ashley Madison and a couple of specialty sites.

More recently though we've branched out and have been going to clubs and have been having a great time. We've been to the occasional house party but those, as SCS noted, are hit or miss (though the last one went well for me).

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Unread post by Communication is Key » Mon Aug 24, 2015 9:56 am

So my question would be what emotions/thoughts go through your mind when your husband is watching you get fucked and the dicks you are feeling feel have you feeling great ?

What things have you found yourself having said to your husband in that moment that you never thought you would say ?

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