Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?

[CuckPride]

There will be no shortage of passion.

[BallSpanking]

Well, I think Mrs Reese's intentions are clear.
If you were worried about her carrying through, I think you can let go those worries.
If you are worried about her lacking interest... that too you can let go...

If you are worried that he will fill her with cum to overflowing, and whether she will fall for him...
You might have a little reason to worry...

[zoe]

Is that good or bad in your opinion? Lol

My opinion matters not, if she rocks your world strap in and enjoy the ride

[reese]

Zoe, I was just curious what you thought....
Ballspanking, it's really different for me this time.
I've literally reprogrammed myself over the past year to live and think vanilla when it comes to Hotwife play.
Did I think of the memories? Yes.
But in order to maintain my sanity, I changed.
Now I worry about losing her to another man.
My wife will give him 90% of herself when they are together.
The only way for her to be intimate is if she falls for him.
She has proven to be that I will always be her number 1 man....
But I'm not sure if I'm ready to go through this again.

Do I want her to play and come home to tell me about her adventure? Yes.
I'm just hoping this won't become more than Hotwife fucking a lover.
But if that crazy link to my cuckold past finds it way back to my libido....
I'm gonna encourage her to give it her all.
I don't know if I want to go back to being that man again.

Time will tell I assume.

[CuckPride]

You obviously had to do some serious compartmentalizing when you both took a break from hotwifing. I hope it proves to be even more enjoyable the second time around.

[reese]

It'll be amazing cuckpride.
When my rational mind isn't active.... The jealous feelings are a tremendous rush.
It's a constant energy wave that starts at my stomach and tinged at my heart.
It hurts and it's exciting all jumbled up.
I can't focus, I can't eat nor sleep.... Not until she is back with me!

[CuckPride]

I can only imagine reese. I'm currently reading your thread from the very beginning. It's interesting to compare your thoughts when you were a novice to where you are now, on the verge of reentering this lifestyle.

[zoe]

Did not take it wrong and hope you did not either.

From your past stories I know that she focuses very strongly on her lovers and that you have to wait her out, then she returns. The angst and excitement you tell us of is such a high, and I suspect this next LARGE lover will be no different.

Mrs R is such a horny lady

Bon chance

Z

[reese]

Zoe,
It's really odd!
I'd love to tell everyone that she's always horny flirty and wanting sex with other men as well as myself.
But it's quite the opposite.
It's like she activates an internal "let's get horny" switch!
Over the past year when we had our meltdown ( she was sick and tired of playing around) we focused on our marriage! There was NO talk of HW play! I didn't dare talk about it or she'd be turned off sexually!
I adjusted. I reprogrammed myself where I was able to orgasm without Hw talk or action.
I also realized that I couldn't masterbate 5 times a day to her used panties or heels that she wore the night before bc she wasn't being a Hotwife! The urges became less and less and the days moved forward!
Vanilla life was becoming easier!
Having an orgasm 3-4 times a week was so much easier than I thought!
Nothing triggered me!

But then it all ended when she asked me what I wanted for an early bday present.
I said earlier on this thread that I wanted her to be a HW again!
I wanted her to cheat on me.
To carry out an affair!
To start something without my knowledge.
And "out of the blue" she started something.
Never telling of her intentions until that night when she saw an old friend of mine and she thought they she needed to call me with the news before he called me to inform me that he saw my wife with another man... Which he did.

She's amazing at turning this on and off again.
It's overwhelming though bc she is much more experienced and will do whatever she feels comfortable doing now!
I can't influence her anymore!

[BallSpanking]

Giddyap!!

[CuckPride]

She's ready to be a hotwife again .

[reese]

I need to talk
I apologize in advance because I should know better and I also realize this thread is so damn long and drawn out that it's hard to figure out what is "IN or OUT!"
But I have no idea where happening to me.
My wife met me at a friends house for dinner after she was finished with work.
Fun night!
On the way home ( I drove home as she had too much to drink) we talked about how much fun our marriage is... And how amazing we are!
Tesla song came on..... "What you give" one of our favorite songs. On our driveway we sang out loud and kissed..: intense!
While at home I did the normal stuff to lock down the house ... Safety and security.
When I went into the bedroom my wife was laying in bed talking to Jeff.
Wow I thought to myself, first time I see her in action.
I was excited.
Laying in bed, listening to her conversation - she had no intention of keeping it private.
She conversed openly.
Looking at me a few times and smiling... I thought YES.... Sex will be awesome soon!
BUT then I really listened to her talk.
I heard his voice.... He sounded ignorant!
He also told her why.... Why now!
Later, my wife informed me that she and Jeff had a thing... Flirting only about 6 yrs ago but he was
Freaked out bc she was married.
That was it!

But as I listened to her she was practically trying to convince him to have an affair with him.
I thought he was acting like a stuck up player... I know the game.
Act like he doesn't want her... And my wife definitely will practically do and say anything to be with him.
She hates rejection!

So after the conversation I told her that was bullshit.
My wife doesn't beg for sex!
I protested and told her I wish I would've never heard her talk to him.
She never told me why did you lisoten... She accepted the fact that she openly talked I him while I was in bed bc she thought nothing of it.
Like many times before.

We debated about the facts I stated above.
She was defending him telling me he's just nervous.
I said if he was nervous why did he make out, kiss her breasts and jack off on her belly 10 days ago.
She said I was making too much of this!
We decided to let it go until tomorrow.
She said she wanted to be with him more than ever now bc he kindof told her no.
I knew he would challenge her.

But now I'm torn.
I thought I was back.
But honestly.... I feel like this is 2008 all over again.
I'm apprehensive and feel that I will lose her to him the way she was before.
I let go of those crazy "Russian roulette" ideas that i used to ask her to act
Out upon.
I'm not sure when "that guy" will be the guy to take her away from ME!

Help!
Someone tell me the chill the F out!
I don't want to push her away from HW play.
This may be the "last straw" if I freak out on her!
But she really seems different this time.


All the past event.::: so many men and trips.... But all along she went out of her way to make me feel like I was HER man!
Why do I feel different this time?
Help!

[CuckPride]

While you and your wife are no longer new to hotwifing, things came to an abrupt halt. You believed that you were both turning your backs on this lifestyle for good, and consequently you made every effort to suppress your desire for your wife to be non-monogamous. Now that your wife is actively pursuing another man again it will take as much effort to kick start your desire for her to be a hotwife as it did to suppress those very urges in the first place.

Hotwife husbands as well as wannabes can go through periods where the fantasy is all-consuming, and others where the fantasy has little to no appeal to them. During these stretches where the desire to live out this fantasy is at its lowest point, it always seems like the urges will never return, but if and when they do, they return with a vengeance. You've been living a vanilla life for some time, and it will take more time to rediscover what it was that you loved about hotwifing.

[Zona]

Reese, you feel what you feel. You cannot change that.

If this is freaking you out, stop. Stop now.

You know what 2008 was like for you. And you know how, no matter how hot it was at the time, it ultimately made you miserable in the EXTREME. You do NOT want to turn back the clock to that time.

My advice, for what it is worth, is to thoroughly discuss your thoughts with Mrs Reese before going one inch further.

This simply might not be what is best for you right now.

And HE, Jeff, does not seem to be what is best for you right now.

All of that might change. But don't let it happen without you and Mrs Reese being on exactly the same note in the hymnal.

Best of luck to you on this one, my friend.

[Morgan]

If you didn't care it wouldn't hurt.
Let her know how you are torn.
She needs to know all the feelings you're having so she can make the right decisions.

[BallSpanking]

Hi Mr Reese.

The feelings you have for your wife are deep and abiding, and seeing her seduce a man actively this way is rekindling your old fears.
Probably by now you are perfectly aware that you will not be losing Mrs Reese to another man.
You know he will be fucking her (very well), and then she will come home.
You really have nothing to worry about, she's a big girl and definitely has enough experience to know what's up.
Whatever you do, try not to freak out in front of her and give her second thoughts about this happening.
Probably you are unaccustomed to see her seduction tactics, and know full well she is not the kind of weepy girl that acts this way, but like I said, the girl knows perfectly well what she is doing, and what is more, she is letting you in on her seduction of Jeff by openly having the conversation with you present in the bedroom.

Breathe, Señor Reese, breathe.

[zoe]

Reese,

You know she is going "on vacation" from reality and will feed her inner slut with as much erotic fun as she can handle and then return. Can you get on her rocket ship and be part of her space voyage cause as Jimmy says, "it's gonna be a hell of a ride!"

Z

[reese]

Thank-you everyone, your opinions and thoughts were helpful!
We talked a little more last night and she's taking it day by day!
She feels like she more or less "begging" him to take her and that's a NO go w her!
Per my wife... by her own choice, he's going have to make more effort and convince her that he's worth her time!
I believe he'll reach out to her in a few days and try both will work through these questionable moments!
This is never as easy as one assumes!

[BallSpanking]

There's a saying...
"Hell knows no fury like a woman scorned".

Jeff better shape-up, if he has any illusions of getting close to Mrs Reese.

[reese]

Thanks.
I know right now my wife is mentally exhausted ... Too much talking about this!
Part of my DNA caused me to go 100 MPH with anything I pursue.
I'm relentless! I'm very analytical.
Because of this behavior, I really enjoy discussing issues continuously.
This drives my wife crazy at times.
I need to be careful that I don't push my wife into hibernation now!
So I will be patient( lol!) and wait for my wife to come to me if and when she has a discussion with him.
It may take a week.
But I'm gonna put this all aside and wait for things to happen at its own pace.
Impossible for me .... But approachable.
The grand prize is a Hotwife!

[BallSpanking]

[Mr1SexyGILF]

But I'm gonna put this all aside and wait for things to happen at its own pace.
Impossible for me .... But approachable.
The grand prize is a Hotwife!

Remember the words of the infamous Mr Miyagi "Patience Grasshopper"

If you play your cards right this hand, if things don't work with Jim, I would think the odds of her playing with someone else, down the road are greatly increased.

Mr GILF

[reese]

Thanks MR GILF....good advice.
And I realized something else.
My wife told me his name once. But damn it... Now I'm not sure if it's Jim or Jeff.
Funny.... I guess his name never registered with me!.. I only remember details and how I felt when she was talking about him.

Pardon me everyone... I'll call him J from now on.

[BallSpanking]

Very on point, Mr Gilf.
Whether Mrs Reese proceeds with this FB or not, her take on this recent experience will likely set the tone to her further considering other FB's down the road.

[CuckPride]

Let's hope that J takes the initiative.