What's your sexual frequency when you are in vanilla mode?
How about letting him have a playmate or two to take the pressure off you from time to time?
Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
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Happymcshove
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
I'm usually busy with my career, i am happy with sex 1-2 times a week
He's good for 4-5 times a week.
When I find a lover, I'm usually to tired and sore to have sex more than once a week with hubby.
Lovers demand more of my attention.
We've tried to have hubby take another woman but he's not really into that.
I'm all he wants.
He's good for 4-5 times a week.
When I find a lover, I'm usually to tired and sore to have sex more than once a week with hubby.
Lovers demand more of my attention.
We've tried to have hubby take another woman but he's not really into that.
I'm all he wants.
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Happymcshove
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
4-'5 times a week really doesn't sound like much. I was expecting to hear 10-16 times a week.mrs_reese wrote:I'm usually busy with my career, i am happy with sex 1-2 times a week
He's good for 4-5 times a week.
When I find a lover, I'm usually to tired and sore to have sex more than once a week with hubby.
Lovers demand more of my attention.
We've tried to have hubby take another woman but he's not really into that.
I'm all he wants.
4-5 times a week seems like an average vanilla couple.
Me personally I couldn't do once a week. I'd get divorced at once a week or less. But that's just me.
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
There isn't enough time in the week to have sex more than 5 times a week.
But hubby getting off my my feet, pussy and butt happens a lot more than I can count every week.
But hubby getting off my my feet, pussy and butt happens a lot more than I can count every week.
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Looks like Mr Reese might have his sex allowance... reduced...
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Re: Hotwife going out salone/why is it too difficult for me?
Lol......it's really funny how many non Hotwife couples tell me that they have sex once or twice a month.
Men mostly always complain..... Not getting enough!
I've always felt lucky to have my wife 4-5 times on average a week.
There are times when we fuck more but realistically, it's not possible to have sex 2-3 times a day.
Busy lives!
Now getting off thinking of my wife playing with other men, that's another subject!
I'm sure you've realized that my wife and I are in discussion with her latest
opportunity. She's hesitant because of me.
I truly can't help myself.
She proved a point to me this week.
My promise was to confess my "sins"'on our thread.
She asked me to honor her wish and not discuss her new opportunity with her other than this thread if I needed to.
She yet again proved to me that if we didn't focus on her hotwife play, that I would calm down, stop being aggressive for her to fuck him, stop questioning and asking her if he texted her or set up a date.
That I would be back to being more focused on work and not "up her ass!" As she claims all the time!
She won! I guess!
I AM calmer.
I AM more focused on life and work.
I CAN think normally.
My cock isn't hard all the time.
I'm back to being ME again!
BUT.....
I knew that I was somewhat out of control, but didn't really care.
I need to feed my desire and obsession.....it's such a powerless feeling.
I'm kindof helpless....
But as of this post, I'm more at peace.
Somewhere inside of me I can still feel that emotional "twinge" tugging at my heart as I wish for her to be taken, feeling denied, losing her to him.
It can be put aside, but it never goes away.
The intensity is held in check.
But the desire never leaves me!
Men mostly always complain..... Not getting enough!
I've always felt lucky to have my wife 4-5 times on average a week.
There are times when we fuck more but realistically, it's not possible to have sex 2-3 times a day.
Busy lives!
Now getting off thinking of my wife playing with other men, that's another subject!
I'm sure you've realized that my wife and I are in discussion with her latest
opportunity. She's hesitant because of me.
I truly can't help myself.
She proved a point to me this week.
My promise was to confess my "sins"'on our thread.
She asked me to honor her wish and not discuss her new opportunity with her other than this thread if I needed to.
She yet again proved to me that if we didn't focus on her hotwife play, that I would calm down, stop being aggressive for her to fuck him, stop questioning and asking her if he texted her or set up a date.
That I would be back to being more focused on work and not "up her ass!" As she claims all the time!
She won! I guess!
I AM calmer.
I AM more focused on life and work.
I CAN think normally.
My cock isn't hard all the time.
I'm back to being ME again!
BUT.....
I knew that I was somewhat out of control, but didn't really care.
I need to feed my desire and obsession.....it's such a powerless feeling.
I'm kindof helpless....
But as of this post, I'm more at peace.
Somewhere inside of me I can still feel that emotional "twinge" tugging at my heart as I wish for her to be taken, feeling denied, losing her to him.
It can be put aside, but it never goes away.
The intensity is held in check.
But the desire never leaves me!
Reese!!!!
"I think therefore I am"
"I think therefore I am"
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
LOL!
I am not so sure that is a confession, Mr Reese!
Most of us would give our left nut to be in your place...
Not sure any of us would do any better handling an amazing woman like Mrs Reese.
Cheers!
I am not so sure that is a confession, Mr Reese!
Most of us would give our left nut to be in your place...
Not sure any of us would do any better handling an amazing woman like Mrs Reese.
Cheers!
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Thank you Sir!
Reese!!!!
"I think therefore I am"
"I think therefore I am"
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Mrs. Reese is a wise and thoughtful woman.
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Thank you for being so open about your feelings. I am sure it helps alot of husbands with 'pre date stress' 
including me. I hope you don't mind if i add my store and my feelings.
We had a first date almost 1 year and half ago. While we ended up doing MFM, it took us 4-5 hours of teasing before we got into action. It was intense. My wife enjoyed it alot and i know she still thinks about it often. I also enjoyed the moment alot, but not the mental hangover.
Now we meet again in a week and i'm thinking non stop about this. Right after we arranged the date we were both sexually arroused like never before. We had some great times, but then it seems as if my brain takes control and tells me 'stop it' - 'you are crazy' ... and i think about cancelling it all the time. The worst is that i'm playing (not litterally) with my wife and i dont want to play her like this. I tell her 'i need to get a grip'. She is very kind and patient with me.
The guy is a seducing god, he brings up the best in us. My wife and me were both sexually illiterrates when we met. We only 'had' each other. You can imagine what this thing opens for us.
But always these doubts. I love her, she is my godess and i would never never forgive myself if i lose her because of me following, well, yea, my dick. When we stop this we will get sexually bored out again, and i dont want that. I'm a pervert, i want to discover alot of things but i'm not the guy who will cheat, i only can make love to people i, well, love. So stopping it means stop having the time of our/my life. Not having great sex with my wife ever again ... Then i think : why cant we have sex like gods, love each other like crazy, without playing this game. Does she still love me? Doubts. Doubts. Brain against dick against the heart. Maybe after 20 years of marriage, where you start with the heart, continue with the brain, we should follow up with letting our sex drive do the talking.
Other options like role playing, ... all didnt work for us.
I read alot of very nice advice already on page 1. Thank you all for that!
including me. I hope you don't mind if i add my store and my feelings.We had a first date almost 1 year and half ago. While we ended up doing MFM, it took us 4-5 hours of teasing before we got into action. It was intense. My wife enjoyed it alot and i know she still thinks about it often. I also enjoyed the moment alot, but not the mental hangover.
Now we meet again in a week and i'm thinking non stop about this. Right after we arranged the date we were both sexually arroused like never before. We had some great times, but then it seems as if my brain takes control and tells me 'stop it' - 'you are crazy' ... and i think about cancelling it all the time. The worst is that i'm playing (not litterally) with my wife and i dont want to play her like this. I tell her 'i need to get a grip'. She is very kind and patient with me.
The guy is a seducing god, he brings up the best in us. My wife and me were both sexually illiterrates when we met. We only 'had' each other. You can imagine what this thing opens for us.
But always these doubts. I love her, she is my godess and i would never never forgive myself if i lose her because of me following, well, yea, my dick. When we stop this we will get sexually bored out again, and i dont want that. I'm a pervert, i want to discover alot of things but i'm not the guy who will cheat, i only can make love to people i, well, love. So stopping it means stop having the time of our/my life. Not having great sex with my wife ever again ... Then i think : why cant we have sex like gods, love each other like crazy, without playing this game. Does she still love me? Doubts. Doubts. Brain against dick against the heart. Maybe after 20 years of marriage, where you start with the heart, continue with the brain, we should follow up with letting our sex drive do the talking.
Other options like role playing, ... all didnt work for us.
I read alot of very nice advice already on page 1. Thank you all for that!
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Thanks for your post sjoof!
Very helpful reading what you feel.
Update:
They texted for most of the night yesterday while I was asleep.
My wife made the decision to go at this 100%
He admitted that he's holding back because she's married.
She promised him that she wants this..... She thinks about him all the time and to go with "your feelings" that something like this is hard to find.
This is happening!
Very helpful reading what you feel.
Update:
They texted for most of the night yesterday while I was asleep.
My wife made the decision to go at this 100%
He admitted that he's holding back because she's married.
She promised him that she wants this..... She thinks about him all the time and to go with "your feelings" that something like this is hard to find.
This is happening!
Reese!!!!
"I think therefore I am"
"I think therefore I am"
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BallSpanking
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Mr Reese, you have a HW...
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
I don't know why this one is more difficult.
It's crazy, turning off my HW lifestyle was difficult, then as I've said before, I learned to adjust and put "it" away, now that it's part of our lives again, I'm more apprehensive and worried that I'm losing a part of her that I really enjoyed having for myself over the past year.
It's crazy, turning off my HW lifestyle was difficult, then as I've said before, I learned to adjust and put "it" away, now that it's part of our lives again, I'm more apprehensive and worried that I'm losing a part of her that I really enjoyed having for myself over the past year.
Reese!!!!
"I think therefore I am"
"I think therefore I am"
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Mr1SexyGILF
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
The roller coaster has started down the slippery slope.reese wrote:I don't know why this one is more difficult.
It's crazy, turning off my HW lifestyle was difficult, then as I've said before, I learned to adjust and put "it" away, now that it's part of our lives again, I'm more apprehensive and worried that I'm losing a part of her that I really enjoyed having for myself over the past year.
Use every ounce of restraint you possibly can to let Mrs Reese enjoy this on her terms.
I know I don't even need to tell you to, Enjoy the Ride.
Mr GILF
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. - Dr. Seuss
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
LOL!
There is a 5 year old at a children's party.
With the birthday cake there is ice cream.
At first he wants chocolate, and he gets chocolate.
Then he wants vanilla, and he gets vanilla.
But he still seems very anxious.
When an adult asks why, he explains he is now missing out on the chocolate!
And so it goes...
There is a 5 year old at a children's party.
With the birthday cake there is ice cream.
At first he wants chocolate, and he gets chocolate.
Then he wants vanilla, and he gets vanilla.
But he still seems very anxious.
When an adult asks why, he explains he is now missing out on the chocolate!
And so it goes...
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Oh I'm gonna enjoy the ride...
But expressing my concerns with the friends I've made here gives me some comfort.
But expressing my concerns with the friends I've made here gives me some comfort.
Reese!!!!
"I think therefore I am"
"I think therefore I am"
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CuckPride
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
I'm excited and anxious for you. Please keep us updated.
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Want to hear about my moment at home?
arriving home from work, my wife said "baby want me to read the text messages that J and i shared?"
Of course!!!!!
Heart racing, crazy unsettled mind firing off kinds of extra neurons!
I almost wanted to tell her to wait.... I wanted to let this moment sink in.
I feel that this is slowly leading to intense feelings as they continue to seduce each other with words.
But we I sat next to her and said... Go ahead im can't wait to hear!
This is close to exact.... Her words and his as it was not difficult to remember this moment:
Wife: you busy?
J: just working but what's up?
Mrs: I can't stop thinking about your amazing body, send me a pic.
J: ok
He sent her a pic in his work clothes, short off, pants pulled down to lower waist, my first time looking at this guy- he has a perfect 6 pack.
The guy is absolutely perfect.
Not as good looking as I assumed, but she said he's drop dead gorgeous.
Me: he looks perfect.
Wife: oh baby he really is.
She reads more,
Wife: I'm happy we talked today.
Cleared some things up.
The last time we met, I can't thinking of that 1 amazing night.
J: me too all I can think about is you.
Wife: tell me more what do you feel?
J: your married I don't want to make a fool of myself.
Wife: sometimes u just have to go for it.
J: I can but it'll do me no good.
Wife: please tell me, I've made a decision that I want you, just let go and let this happen you know you want it.
J:I really do!
Wife: then don't be afraid, I can really do whatever I want to.
J: but your married.
Wife: it's easier than you think.
J: I hope so
Wife didn't answer for a while,
J: ?
Wife: sorry was busy.
J: free tonight?
Wife: in with my family, not sure yet.
J: np let talk later.
That was all.
Wife is now sleeping as she was off day with her family in the sun, lunch and playing with sisters kids!
This will be officially a SLOW wild ride, nothing will be as planned or expected.
I'm back to 100% being consumed by this.
I'm happy my wife is sharing this with me!
More to come!
arriving home from work, my wife said "baby want me to read the text messages that J and i shared?"
Of course!!!!!
Heart racing, crazy unsettled mind firing off kinds of extra neurons!
I almost wanted to tell her to wait.... I wanted to let this moment sink in.
I feel that this is slowly leading to intense feelings as they continue to seduce each other with words.
But we I sat next to her and said... Go ahead im can't wait to hear!
This is close to exact.... Her words and his as it was not difficult to remember this moment:
Wife: you busy?
J: just working but what's up?
Mrs: I can't stop thinking about your amazing body, send me a pic.
J: ok
He sent her a pic in his work clothes, short off, pants pulled down to lower waist, my first time looking at this guy- he has a perfect 6 pack.
The guy is absolutely perfect.
Not as good looking as I assumed, but she said he's drop dead gorgeous.
Me: he looks perfect.
Wife: oh baby he really is.
She reads more,
Wife: I'm happy we talked today.
Cleared some things up.
The last time we met, I can't thinking of that 1 amazing night.
J: me too all I can think about is you.
Wife: tell me more what do you feel?
J: your married I don't want to make a fool of myself.
Wife: sometimes u just have to go for it.
J: I can but it'll do me no good.
Wife: please tell me, I've made a decision that I want you, just let go and let this happen you know you want it.
J:I really do!
Wife: then don't be afraid, I can really do whatever I want to.
J: but your married.
Wife: it's easier than you think.
J: I hope so
Wife didn't answer for a while,
J: ?
Wife: sorry was busy.
J: free tonight?
Wife: in with my family, not sure yet.
J: np let talk later.
That was all.
Wife is now sleeping as she was off day with her family in the sun, lunch and playing with sisters kids!
This will be officially a SLOW wild ride, nothing will be as planned or expected.
I'm back to 100% being consumed by this.
I'm happy my wife is sharing this with me!
More to come!
Reese!!!!
"I think therefore I am"
"I think therefore I am"
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
It sounds like he's finally opening up to your wife.
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MustBeDenied
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
A slow burn, to be sure. Mrs. Reese seems to be taking the approach that the longer the build up, the better the ride. I am excited for you.
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Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Cuckpride- yes I now realize that he wasn't being arrogant or conceited but nervous bc she's married.
Wife wants to play the cheating role still.
Mbd.... I used to thrive in this situation but as I've written the past 2 weeks...
I've lost my touch- thankfully I guess.
If I was immune to these feelings of torment, denial and losing her... I guess we'd have trouble on our hands.
Wife wants to play the cheating role still.
Mbd.... I used to thrive in this situation but as I've written the past 2 weeks...
I've lost my touch- thankfully I guess.
If I was immune to these feelings of torment, denial and losing her... I guess we'd have trouble on our hands.
Reese!!!!
"I think therefore I am"
"I think therefore I am"
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CuckPride
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
I wouldn't say you've lost your touch. You're just out of practice.
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Cuckpride I feel for you.
Always supportive! Thanks
Tell me your story!
Your wife doesn't play at all?does she know your feelings?
Always supportive! Thanks
Tell me your story!
Your wife doesn't play at all?does she know your feelings?
Reese!!!!
"I think therefore I am"
"I think therefore I am"
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CuckPride
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
I'm still a single 30 year old wannabe trying to determine if I'm truly cut out for this lifestyle.
Re: Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?
Ok. Have u ever been cucked by a GF?
Or participated?
Or participated?
Reese!!!!
"I think therefore I am"
"I think therefore I am"