Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?

[reese]

Update........

He just texted me and asked me if I am OK with making MY wife his full time GF.
Everyone must be very apprehensive right now...........

I told him that MY HW is IN complete control....I have NO decision priviledges....whatever she decides I will honor.

HE replied........THANKS.

Hmmm, what does that mean?

THANKS.

I wonder IF he already knows that A part of HER will be his!
I wonder IF she already realizes that SHE has a burning desire to be with him!

THEY have texted and talked so much this past week..............THE PERFECT SCENARIO is playing itself out!

HE IS ONE LUCKY FUCKER!


WHY DO HW HUBBIES HAVE TO DO ALL THE WORK TO MAKE THIS HAPPEN? Dont get me wrong...she is playing...but not working! We bust our balls setting this up.....dealing with the torment....hoping she IS OK...safe! Hoping that she wont look at you with disgust or disappointment that YOU are asking her to give herself freely to another man(yes I know she has the final say so)


I HAVE TO GO............work out time...have to make those muscles as big as his...

the competition starts.................AND I LOVE A COMPETITON!!


Lucky fucker.....that's IS...............my hotwife too..........she will have a husband ON TOP OF HIS GAME NOW!


Like mrs_hotwifecplsa says.....................ITS like dating all over again!

[juststarted]

In some ways, I feel in control as I suggest that, persuade her to, allow her to see other men. But, once she walks out that door to go on a date, I am no longer in control. She is in control and what happens from that point on is wherever she wants to take it. That can be exciting but it can also be nerve-wracking.

[reese]

THANKS MR_HOTWIFECPLSA,

AGAIN, very helpful info for me.

I am home now....and going to make a great marsala chicken dinner for us!(her fav)
I purchased one of those hallmark cards and NO I DIDNT GET THE GOLD SEAL..........THAT'S too girly for me!
Sorry to all those guys who get the seal....I am trying to throw some humor here as well....so laugh for me right now!

He texted me right now........(I like the fact that I told him how I want HIM to be with her/when we first talked as I was determining if HE was going to be HW material for my HW).

He asked me IF I am ready to give to him MY WIFE'S PUSSY!

I sent him a text back..................MY MAN...SHE WILL MAKE YOU WORK FOR IT....
MY HW is being very compliant with him...but I know her...she will tease the shit out of him..and just when she thinks that HE is going to have mind blowing sex with her...she will push him away. BUT I am not anticipating that...I dont want to be disappointed if she tells me that they had sex sooner.

I wish I could have YOUR attitude right NOW....MR_HOTWIFECPLSA.......again, not to sound like a pussy BUT you seem so cool and collected with your lifestyle............DO YOU HAVE ANY BAD DAYS? It miust be b/c MRS_hotwifecplsa is an extraordinary woman that you seem so satisfied!

I know this is a redundant post........not much happening....THE CALM B/F the STORM!

SHE WILL BE HOME IN 30 minutes.................OMG..........when she comes HOME...IT WILL ALL BE STARTING!

I promise all of you....I will be very calm, confident, and supportive! Those attributes are what attracts her to me....NO TIME TO ACT LIKE A WHIMP!


Talk to you before WE leave at 630pm!! EDT!

WHO IS WISHING ME LUCK RIGHT NOW!

[kcpa]

Gook luck sir, love the posts, detail and looking forward to following along.

[HerLittleGuy]

We wish the best for you both (and her BF too, I guess). Hold it together reese.

HLG

[reese]

Thank-you everyone!

She is dressed to thrill..........I am embarrassed....I am literally walking around with a bulging...well you know!

I am going to take some pics...hopefully they will come out....using my camera phone.

I am very calm right now...........

OMG.........she looks delicious.

WE havent talked about the meeting.

SHE loved my card...and dinner...
She is being very loving to me.....probably b/c she knows that her pussy is going to be shared very soon.

M is like a lottery winner!

ONE lucky fucker!

We will be leaving very soon..............I want to thank everyone again for all the words of encouragement and advice...I will write asap...and will continue to write about OUR adventures after tonight!

IT ALL STARTS tonight....................With her other lover, HER ONLY LOVER AS AN ACTING HW...she just knew we were meeting. BUT SHE WASNT ALWAYS EXCITED OR HORNY BECAUSE I SET EVERYTHING UP...SHE HAD NO CONTACT WITH HIM AT ALL....THE ONLY TIME SHE TALKED TO HIM WAS IN MY PRESENCE!
..
BUT This is different for us..............SHE IS in control!

SHE wants him.
HE wants her.


ONE more thing...when she came home,,,she was talking to him...laughing and teasing him.....already joking like lovers do!

OMG..............I lost her to HIM...........

I AM A LUCKY FUCKER TOO!!!

[reese]

One last comment from ME!

WE are leaving right now...my HW is in the SUV waiting for me...I feel like a crack junkie...I am addicted to this forum...my new best friend! NOT REALLY...LOL!

I am not scared.....I am very assertive and looking very good!

I love the competition!

She told me on the way to the car....."are you oK baby"..........b/c if you want to stop this WE will right now...but once this starts....I probably wont want it to stop"!

I know this.................she read my loyal friends posts to me....MRS_hotwifecplsa....AND I told her that I wanted her to take the same approach..................DAMN my wife is my hero! AND MRS_hotwifecplsa is still my rock star!

BYE FOR NOW.................we are leaving right now!

[watchman570]

Best of luck Reese. I'm in exactly the same space. Mrs. Watchman called and asked if I was really okay? I replied with a rather dry throat that I was. I know what you're feeling.

Watchman

[luxxluthor]

well I hope everything is going well. So many things that can possibly go wrong...

[reese]

Hello everyone!

First of all........I apologize for not writing sooner.
Last night......4am WE both passed out.
Up for work right away........both of us........and NOW A BREAK TO WRITE ABOUT OUR WONDERFUL NIGHT!

We walked in together to the meeting place. She was very confident and gorgeous. We sat at a secluded section of the martini bar. He immediately came up to us and introduced himself. WOW........my 1st impression is that I am taller, in better shape, and more handsome that he was.......YES!!! NO insecure worries about that now! Selfishly, I was very happy from that moment on! It's a very silly thing to say............and it is very competitive of me to size UP my competition! My HW told me right away as he went to the bar to buy us a round of drinks that I was so much more handsome than he is!
Hmmmmmmm was she reading my mind? Or was she just re-assuring me that I am HER MAN, the LOVE OF HER LIFE!

He came back to us and sat at a distance from HIS GF. Conversation flowed freely, I could notice my HW checking him out with every sip of her drink that she would put to her mouth.
Scoping and probing his face, body, mouth..........OH, she loves straight teeth and his were crooked. I began to worry......would this man be attractive to my HW. HIS PICS were awesome......we both knew upon our 1st meeting that PICS and face to face contact give you 2 different perspectives. Needless to say, I knew that there was an attraction and I decided NOT to jump to conclusions before the night was finished.
MY HW excused herself to go to the restroom. M told me how stunningly beautiful she was. HE was in love with her ass. He told me that he had to focus NOT to continue to stare at her sexy breasts.
When she came back from the restroom, M immediately left to go as well. I was happy that HE left for this would be the 1st chance that my HW and I could talk without M present! WE both looked at each other, she again told me"baby, you have nothing to worry about you are much better looking and in much better shape that he is". I again thanked her...those words were comforting to me. I had this fear that I may not have focused too much with my posts about this man being TOO HOT FOR HER....MORE sexy and better looking than me. I AM sure some of you hubbies understand that inferior feeling.

He came back and I scooted her closer to him by sitting closer to my HW. Hmmm, funny that they both were telling me that they were going to have a passion filled night but both were very shy and reserved.
I decided to excuse myself....restroom break and I wanted to give them a chance to be alone! After the restroom break, I went to the other side of the bar....I was able to visually watch THEM.........but not able to listen to their conversations.
MOST at the bar HAD to be confused. THEY saw us walk in and now they saw M and my HW sitting cozily next to each other....flirting BIG TIME!
I was somewhat embarrassed...but decided to suck it up and watch the ball game on the television. I thought to myself....damn I am being "cucked "by them right now!

Within the next 15 minutes....(it seemed like 15hrs) MY HW and M were laughing....flirting....I noticed her leg tucked over his leg.....rubbing her foot against the back of his leg...all of the HW's know what I am talking about....MEN LOVE THAT!
I saw his arm wrapped around her shoulders. He was MOVING IN! HE was taking MY HW and claiming her like HE said!
MY stomach was churning now...but it was a different sensation that I was feeling! I wasnt nervous now...I was happy to watch MY SEXY HW play with her new BF.

May I describe this feeling to you?
HW hubbies will understand!
MY HW, MY WIFE, THE LOVE OF MY LIFE............OMG, she looked so delicious, radiant, beautiful beyond words...........she looked so confident, she looked so slutty, she looked so HOT for HIM at that moment! I was overwhelmed with this intense love for her.....I was overwhelmed with this INTENSE passion for HER!

While watching our barmaid came up to me and REALITY came crashing down upon me....asking me if I wanted a drink, she appeared to look at me with either pity or sympathy. I hated that moment! I hated being "cucked" but i also loved the feeling of losing her RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF EVERYONE!

After receiving my drink...I continued to watch them.

They were inches apart...laughing, touching each other...she was rubbing his bald head.....HER hands are so sexy...long straight fingers....I NEVER KNEW that I could be so hot for a womans hands at this moment!
DAMN....................A HOTWIFE HUBBY has to have HIGH BLOOD Pressure from all the intensity and blood rushing moments that she brings to him! Yes............my cock was throbbing....and NO I didnt leave my spot.....I felt like I was in highschool again.....raging hard-ons with NO SELF CONTROL! Damn HOTWIVES!

THEY KISSED..........................DO I need to say MORE! Watching MY HW kiss him almost killed me!
I was immediately struck with jealousy and LUST FOR HER! I have been with her b/f with mfm encounters....but I have never been away from her/ or at a distance for this long. Watching her assertively put her hand in the back of his neck...watching her kiss him...deeply...I knew that she was subtly touching his tongue with hers....she is a pro at kissing like that....instant HARD ON! SHE IS seductive when she kisses like that!
They embraced for 100 hrs......NO ! It appeared to me to be that long! TO be accurate....they must've kissed for 40 seconds. WHEN they released.....they both hugged each other!
YES....my fears were confronted..............hugging each other with a long hold meant to me that they have a chemistry that has developed. After they released their hold......they looked in each others eyes smiling. TOTALLY unaware of anyone but themselves......I watched M take my wife as HIS possession. I watched my HW allow M to take her!
I knew that I was placed in the back of her mind....HE was the focus of her attention!
I HATED THAT!
I dont really care about words of encouragement...(thanks for thinking of that) I hated losing my wife!
I hated giving away the woman whom I married...the woman who told me during her wedding VOWS to be faithful to me!
Was I creating a "BLACK HOLE "OVER MY MARRIAGE?
I knew that she was acting per my fantasies....I knew that she would never willingly commit adultry against our marriage.
THAT was re-assuring to me!
Once I thought about that...I felt somewhat relieved!
THEY kissed a lot...............many many times!
Soon, they both got up and put on their coats.
WHAT WAS HAPPENING?
MY HW moved her head to the side; a signal for me to get up also...they were leaving!

GUESS WHAT?
MANY questions were swirling around my brain!
WERE they leaving to go to a hotel?
OMG..........they both told me that they were not going to have sex on the 1st night!
HE TOLD ME that he was time restricted...that he only had a few hours tonight...due to the fact that HE had to be home early.
WAS that an excuse?
I didnt wear a coat....THE MACHO MAN IN ME...LOL!
I followed behind them.
THEY were holding hands....everyone saw that!
I followed behind them like a good cuck............I do not like that word!
I wish I could make this next part dramatic....but I wont lie!

THEY went to our vehicle....and HE played the hard to get role...smart man.
THEY held each other and kissed deeply IN FRONT OF ME.
HIS hands were covering her sexy butt.
HER hands...one as in the back of his neck...the other was feeling his cock............YES...she was feeling his cock!
I couldnt help myself....I was stunned and couldnt stop looking at her hands touching his cock thru his pants.

THAT WAS IT............they released............he shook my hand and thanked me.
WE went to the car.....................

PART 2 will continue in a few hours...I have some work obligations to attend to.

ps....tell me what you think!

please!

I will also have a few pics posted.....one of them together...and one of her on the drive to meet him.

[kcpa]

Wow, such a great post with emotion. You and the SA couple are my first reads every time I get on the site now.

[reese]

Part2 of the 1st night!


MY HW and I drove away. Within minutes, he called ME and told me how lucky he was to have been given the opportunity to take MY wife as his girlfriend. He asked that I call him tomorrow(today) and tell me if she is sure that she wants to go to another level with him. Funny........I am thinking that he seemed at one point very quiet...just sort of playing along slowly..and now he is telling me that IF my HW is sure, he wants to go to another level very soon. I told him that I would call him and thanked him for making my HW feel very sexy on this night.

After talking to M....MY HW looked at me and asked me again if I am ok. Of course I told her, she made my fantasies come true. I wasnt in her company for the 1st time when another man is present! She grabbed my cock and felt how firm I was. SHE smiled at me and unzipped my pants and told me that she is feeling so slutty that she wants to suck her HUSBANDS COCK! Playing along, I suggested to her that she call M right away and ask him if HIS GF can suck her husbands cock. I was actually joking..but she grabbed my phone and called M. HE told her...HELL YES.....AT least that is what I thought I heard over the phone. She layed the phone down next to me. I pulled over...there was NO way I could drive with my HW's mouth over my cock. IF you saw some of the pics I posted...her mouth looks heavenly over a mans cock.
SHE knows how to get me off....and YES...I am very weak but there was NO way that I could hold out for later tonight..knowing she was being naughty, knowing M was listening on the phone, knowing my HW was going to be fucked soon by M...and knowing that she asked for his permission to suck me....I had a major orgasm that i felt build up from my lower legs all the way through my cock. I wish I could lie...but MY HW is not a swallower. After I cummed in her mouth, she kept milking my cock......and then she spit my seed out the window. Once she rolled up the window, she grabbed my cock...and HELL YES...IT WAS STILL SEMI HARD...and this time licked and sucked out the remaining cum from the tip of my head.

SORRY about turning this into a written porn page..but I had to post that.
SHE told M to call her tomorrow as she and I had a lot to discuss.

We went to a few other local bars...a lot of our friends were out. Funny how she turned into my loving wife....hanging out with her friends.....playfully teasing the entire bar crowd as everyone found her extremely sexy!
I was somewhat jealous....she didnt spend a lot of time with me....I had a good time talking to many of my friends...but I was so proud of her....I just wanted her next to ME!
WE went home very late....and she was totally exhausted. I wish I could tell you more...but SHE was having bad cramps and starting her period! UNFUCKING BELIEVABLE..........ON ONE OF THE HOTTEST MOMENTS OF OUR MARRIED LIVES...SHE HAS MOTHER NATURE CALLING! GOT TO LOVE WOMEN!

WE fell asleep in each others arms...........

TODAY................5PM............MY HW TOLD ME THAT SHE TALKED TO M AT WORK AND SHE HAS A LOT TO TELL ME WHEN SHE COMES HOME.

I ASKED HER TO GIVE ME SOME INFO..ITS KILLING ME...

SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE IS GOING TO BE WITH M VERY SOON...AND THAT SHE WILL TELL ME WHEN WE ARE HAVING SEX IN BED.
MOTHER NATURE MUST NOT BE AFFECTING HER TODAY.....LOOKS LIKE I NEED TO GET THE TOWELS OVER THE SHEETS TO COVER THEM UP FROM THE "YOU KNOW"................EVERY GOOD HUSBAND WILL NEVER REFUSE HIS WIFE EVEN WHEN MOTHER NATURE IS CALLING.

TO BE CONTINUED VERY SOON!

SORRY ABOUT THE QUALITY OF ONE OF THE PICS...I CAN NOT LIGHTEN IT UP.
I DID ADD A FEW MORE JUICY PICS FOR ALL TO VIEW.

TODAY........................

[reese]

SHE has been texting him all night.......they havent set up another date yet!
BUT another development happened last night that I just remembered...
her 1st lover...the one that i have pics posted with her performing oral sex...my HW told me that she wants to fuck him this weekend...........I asked her tonight if that was just a HW teasing comment...or a drunk comment...and she told me NO baby.............I have been thinking about fucking him..........and now that I found M....I am not sure that I will have the time to have sex with both of them and you. "So I want to be with E one more time" she told me!

I am feeling very funny right now................I AM NOT SURE IF MY HW IS GIVING ME AN OVERLOAD OF HW SEDUCTION OR IF SHE REALLY WANTS TO DO THIS. I DARE NOT ASK HER IF SHE IS SERIOUS BECAUSE I KNOW THIS........I ASK HER ALL THE TIME TO "KEEP THE FANTASY OF ALL THIS AS REAL AS POSSIBLE" AND SHE IS DOING THAT RIGHT NOW!

THE THOUGHT OF HER CARRYING OUT AN INTIMATE AFFAIR WITH M AND CONTINUING OUR MFM ENCOUNTERS WITH HER 1ST LOVER(E)............I LOVE IT!

IAM VERY TIRED RIGHT NOW..SHE IS SLEEPING....AND TOMORROW I WILL HAVE A BETTER OPPORTUNITY TO PUT ALL MY THOUGHTS TOGETHER AND WRITE MORE.

MY DREAMS ARE COMING TRUE..........I HAVE A HOTWIFE WHO IS REALLY GETTING INTO THIS!

MY BIGGEST QUESTION IS WHETHER SHE IS REALLY GOING TO MOVE FORWARD WITH M....AND CONTINUE HER INTIMATE TEXTING....AND SET UP ANOTHER DATE ONE ON ONE!


TALK TO YOU TOMORROW!

[zorro]

THE THOUGHT OF HER CARRYING OUT AN INTIMATE AFFAIR WITH M AND CONTINUING OUR MFM ENCOUNTERS WITH HER 1ST LOVER(E)............I LOVE IT!

This is arguably the best arrangement for you. The presence of other lovers will dilute the tendency for her to fall too much for just one other guy.

But tell us, Reese: Since you have shared your wife several times with other men in MFM's, what do you think is adding so much emotional intensity to her wife's taking this extra step of being alone some of the time with one of her lovers? As a HW ex-husband, I had to start with my wife being with her lover alone right from the get go. It would have seemed even more intense for me if I had been present. So, please fill us in.

[reese]

Zorro,
Thanks for reading my thread again and offering me an interesting question.
Remember that I initiated every hotwife encounter as of today.
MY HW was cautiously eager to satisfy my fantasies by participating.
We started HW play after many months of conversations. I would tell her how HOT it would be to watch her have sex with another man. SHE could not understand like most women why I would feel that way.
Moving ahead...I set up our 1st HW encounter by meeting a man at the bar on a Saturday night. HE was to become her 1st lover. She had no idea that I set this encounter up with E. Knowing that she was apprehensive but eager to play into this fantasy, I knew that SHE would not seek a man on her own. SHE is not hard wired to do that. SHE is a very loyal vow abiding wife! Never in her world would she have any type of affair with another person as long as she was in a marriage/commitment with me.

THAT first night when she became a HW.....it went very well. I was the MANIPULATOR of the situation. I would plant the seed by asking E how sexy my wife looked.....asking my HW how handsome E was....asking them to dance....or kiss each other. THEN that moment happened...she actually went to dance with E. I walked over to her and asked her to grind him..kiss him....and like a innocent wife...she did all that but always looking at me to see if I approved. I had to encourage her continuously all night. MY heart was pounding....looking at my wife play like that for the first time is gut wrenching but totally erotic!
THAT night...I wrote about it in my first ever thread...............they had sex in our SUV while I sat in the front seat watching and jacking off.

SHE was a wreck driving home. I DID what every HW hubbie does...re-assured her that SHE is the love of my life...told her that she fulfilled my deepest most guarded fantasies......and over the next few wks..I showered her with my attention, love gifts....all the necessary requirements to convince my wife that her act of HW play only added another element to our marriage.....convincing her that WE gained a stronger bond of trust and love.
OVER time...we would have E as our 3rd.

We had mfm sex with E three times. But something was different for me after the 1st time when my wife became a HW. I wasnt into being the 3rd with her. Its somewhat confusing sharing your most treasured wife with another man. I would sit back and hold her hands...or kiss her feet...or rub her hair...while E was enjoying my wife. Once he would climax and eventually leave...MY HW and I would enjoy intense sex one on one!


NOW an answer to your question I HOPE!
I have watched her play and its so intense. I have shared her and been active with her 1st lover E. I have watched her get HIT ON at bars for a long time now...THIS IS VERY INTENSE...but something was missing for me! I was the ONE who always set up the encounters....I WORKED IT.....I planned the encounters and couldnt enjoy this lifestyle as much as I thought b/c I felt that she was NOT INTO IT! THAT she was only playing b/c she knew how HOT it made me to watch her!

Over the past few months I expressed my desire to have my HW take charge. TO have my HW set up her own encounters with another man. THAT has been somewhat difficult for her. SHE asked me to find her potential lover...and allow her the opportunity to call and talk to him. MY only role was to find HIM and set up the meeting/conversation.

She likes this way better! She told me that she actually enjoys the stimulating conversations....setting up the intrigue!
SHE feels like she is now the ONE IN CHARGE......she feels like she is now a HW by doing everything on her own. Yes...reading my thread...one would think that she is taking baby steps...and she is! SHE likes playing the HW role NOW much better b/c she is the one in charge!

This new BF(M), he and my HW are going to meet very soon one on one.
MY HW knows that we have learned from our previous experiences...that MY biggest turn on is the mystery of all of this HW play. Knowing that she will develop feelings of emotion for this man allows my HW to feel more comfortable with having sex with HIM. ITS more than an act now....its life playing itself out. ITS about being competitive for me...sharing my HW..reclaiming her back to me....about her making choices and feeling that SHE has control...its about losing her to another man.....

that is why she is setting up an emotional but non loving affair with M........I know I have her love...she knows in her heart that she will love no other man but ME!

SHE knows that she is in control and can find any lover she chooses for the rest of our marriage(we hope).

THIS WAY................this new approach to HW encounters.....THIS WAY...is the best for US!

[zorro]

And, perhaps, the erotic driver in this is allowing yourself a chance not to be the dom but to be the sub for a change . If you've always been the "in charge" guy, letting go of that kind of responsibility can be a real turn on. But if your security -- or the illusion of such -- has been by being the dom, you will find yourself scared to let go.

Your wife having sex with another man or with a lover may not be the issue for you, after all. Another new guy's dick in her pussy is just another dick in her pussy. But it may be your allowing the power relationship in your marriage to teeter someplace new and unfamiliar that scares you and threatens you with powerless feelings.

Interesting journey you are on.

[watchman570]

Reese,

I agree with Zorro. It has a lot to do with the power exchange. Since I'm more passive/submissive it was fairly easy for me to fall into the cuckold role when Mrs. Watchman revealed to me that she wanted to experience another man. I think it shocked the socks off of her that I agreed almost immediately. She, like most wives, wondered if my motivation was to have another woman. I assured her that was not my reason for wanting to share her. She could tell somewhat by the power that came from me when we made love while talking about it. I'd say that happened over a period of a month or so. She's a take the bull by the horns kind of person (pun intended) so she naturally began to look for a lover. She flat out told me that she wanted an affair with a younger, harder and most of all hot lover. I found this less intimidating that her having a lover closer to her age or mine. My wife the cougar...never in a million years. I can clearly feel the power shift in our marriage. She's a lot more confident with her sexuality and her appearance, especially after her encounter with K. Now she cums so easily I wonder if she's on the verge at any moment. Your wife will undergo a similar change when she makes the leap. Zorro's right YOU have to learn to let go, let her find her way without you and then follow her. The journey not necessarily the destination is the turn on. I find that I get off on the unknown, knowing but not knowing everything. The emotional roller coaster of knowing she's out playing without me. Learning to let go of your power is not an easy thing but one you must accept if you're going to derive the maximum pleasure with your Hotwife.

Watchman

[reese]

Mr Zorrro and Mr Watchman.

I never thought of that...shift of power. I assume since I am so caught up in the daily events, I didnt analyze my feelings properly.
I believe you are correct.
The dynamics of our marriage is that I am the take charge person. She is quite content taking the passive role. In life...I take charge with everthing....so in a way...it's refreshing to watch events unfold without my input.

Is this why I get so turned on by NOT KNOWING?
To think that she is being a "bad girl" is exciting for me.

I am not as scared as I was before.
I am feeling more powerless but less anxious.

I am content today.

NOT much to report.

I will update all of you very soon!

[reese]

THANK YOU Mr_hotwifecplsa..

Very good advice.
This helps me step back a little which I NEVER DO!

Watching everything that is happening to my HW....its exciting to have NO control finally!

[watchman570]

Reese wrote:

"Watching everything that is happening to my HW....its exciting to have NO control finally!"

OMG isn't that the truth! Along with knowing but yet not knowing comes the realization that she CAN and WILL fuck who she wants, when she wants and you have no control over that. When you get the call, "I'm meeting him now" or when as my own wife did this morning wears her new matching bra and panties and packs her "playing bag", kisses you and leaves you'll know all you need to know for now, control of her body and her emotions are no longer yours.

Watchman

[reese]

To all readers:

Its funny...I have 2 simultaneous issues happening. A few nights ago when my HW told me she wants to have sex with E.........her 1st ever lover as a HW.....and the source of some of those steamy pics....I emailed him and told him that my HW has found a new fulltime BF...and that she told me to tell HIM that if he doesnt have time to fuck her...then HE is out!
Of course she was drinking and feeling very bold. SO here I am with my dueling personalities.....one side of me is somewhat being "cucked" where I am letting GO.......WHERE my HW is taking charge with M....her now FULL TIME BF......and the other side of my is continuing my dominant side of setting up a MFM setting with E.
I wonder how much more interested I will be participating in a 3some with my hw and E. I am eager to try it again since our last episode with E....my HW has really grown in the role.............we have learned a lot......and we have more of an understanding TOGETHER as a HW couple!

ANYWAY............E wants to come to our house Friday in the late morning to have wild sex with my HW. HE is the only guy who she has allowed to fuck her tiny hot butt.......there is one pic of him entering her pussy...but later he fucked her butt the same way as the pic depicts.

SO.....................I am happy to report that WHILE my HW is continuing her text romance and eventually date WITHOUT me...she and I will most likely be entertaining E on friday morning!


THIS Is really getting exciting for us.......and those fears are still there...but I feel somewhat more comfortable.

[Mr_Butterfly]

Reese,

I have found that the best way to enjoy this is to just relax and let her guide the activities. If she is good, she'll take care of your relationship and you can just sit back and help when she asks for it.

As far as going out alone, if she wants to then it's best not to suppress that. To grow as a hotwife she'll need some freedoms that only you, as her husband, can give. Its a gift to her, but the rewards are many.

[zorro]

I am feeling more powerless but less anxious. I am content today. NOT much to report.

Au contraire! This is progress. Allowing yourself to be powerless and go "with the flow" is probably what you need to do to grow, given what you have said about yourself. Your attempts to put the screws on E, on the other hand, does belie the residual need to control and feel power, both over your wife and her FB. From the outside looking in, I can only wonder why? The less you need to control your wife's exploration, assuming you trust her, the less anxiety you will feel. Feeling you have to control your wife's sexuality and knowing you can't is a surefire recipe for anxiety.

[reese]

Mr Zorro,
Again, thanks for your input. I welcome comments from you because you are so insightful regarding my situation.
I am curious with your idea of somewhat taking control with E and attempting to set up another encounter with my hw and E while she is attempting to set up a fulltime boyfriend......and attempting to control my anxiety!

My HW asked me to contact him. I only have access to his email number. It was decided a while ago that we share no phone numbers. Again, he was our 1st ever.......so BOTH my hw and I were very inexperienced with the lifestyle.
Today, we set up a possible meeting Friday morning. My hw and I will talk today about whether we are going to see E on Friday or not. I will leave this decision totally up to her. I have listened to a lot of comments including yours I believe...that maybe adding another person will pervent her from developing feelings for M that could be damaging to our marriage.
This is one reason why I am contacting E.
Another reason is that MY HW took the bull by the horns and asked me to contact him.........SHE wouldve never done this before.....before we started this new phase of our lifestyle with HW attempting to date alone.

SO my question to you and my readers...............IS this the right thing to do?
Should I encourage my HW to include E in her life to prevent possible feelings with her new BF (M)?
Am I possibly interferring with her independence?
Should I encourage her not TO SEE E so she can focus on M?
By the way....M told me that he wants to see HIS GF next week WITHOUT ME!
I will stop now and wait for any comments...

Ps...I will admit to you that it does help me with my anxiety by having some control again!
I am taking baby steps with letting GO!

thanks again everyone!

[Matt2]

To all readers:
...
A few nights ago when my HW told me she wants to have sex with E.........her 1st ever lover as a HW.....and the source of some of those steamy pics....I emailed him and told him that my HW has found a new fulltime BF...and that she told me to tell HIM that if he doesnt have time to fuck her...then HE is out!

Pretty bizarre

Sounds like Mrs. reese is really at the top of her game right now