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by Husbands Kandi » Sun May 01, 2016 5:26 pm
Bobby update
Let me break from chronological order and just update on Bobby. I’ll also condense as much as I can and HEADS UP, this post is not sexy. Every time I think things are going well with him, they are not. Every time I think things are over with him, he messages me. Men!
He returned from vacation on 2/9. We texted the whole time he was on vacation. That morning we agreed I’d pick him up from the airport around 11pm.
I didn’t know what to expect. He might be tired and not want to play. I went to pick him up and things felt off. Like this was a bad idea (there’s a story there). His energy was odd, it was an awkward drive, until I told him I wasn’t wearing panties. OH! That changed the mood in the car right away.
He felt up my skirt, started to finger me, but I couldn’t focus on driving so he stopped. Soon he had his dick out and he put my hand on him and I was stroking him (while I was driving). I couldn’t go back to his place to fuck (there’s a story there) and said he knew a place we could go. I was thinking, dark deserted parking lot and fuck in my backseat. But instead…
We parked and walked to a park. I stopped and said, “Wait, I’m not dressed for this.” He assured me I would not get dirty. I didn’t, but I wasn’t satisfied with what happened either. We stopped just far enough to be out of sight of the road and started making out. His hands were everywhere and then he asked me to “give it a little kiss.” I blew him, standing up, bent over, while he had pulled up my skirt and was playing with my ass. After he came in my mouth, he pulled me to him, kissed me, and he asked, “What’s THAT look?” I told him I wanted to do more than what we did. He apologized that I was disappointed.
We talked when to meet next. “How about Thursday?” It’s yours. Where will we go? “You let me figure that all out.” We walked back to the car, I drove him where he was going, and headed home.
I didn’t hear from him at all the next day or on Thursday either. I sent him an email and a text message. No response. I felt crushed. It would have been okay if he needed to cancel. He just got back from vacation and went right back to work. I’d understand if he were tired or wanted to be alone, or hell – had another date planned. No problem. But nothing…
At this point in my journey (February) I still felt hurt when a FB didn’t pan out, or fell off the face of the earth (like my Moroccan) with no indication of why. But I don’t chase. I’m not that girl who is going to light up your phone. So, instead, I started looking at this as “another one lost.” A guy I really liked but disappeared.
Two weeks later Bobby apologized “for going silent,” just needed some “me time.” That was all well and fine, but he could have communicated that to me TWO weeks ago. However, I learned a valuable lesson!! This crap communication from him helped me accept the fact that this is going to happen more often than not. Get over it girl! And I was sticking to my “I’m not going to chase you,” stance. I’m positive I can find another suitor who would actually communicate with me (and fuck me).
In March our conversation was mostly him wanting to know “what fun” I was having with other guys. SMH. I gave him few details and always closed with, “So when are we going to play again?” and he always avoided the question. Kentros and I went on vacation in March.
At the beginning of April he again apologized for not responding timely. I told him “That's okay. I don't get hung up on when someone disappears now. If you want me, you'll let me know.” He responded that he didn’t know I got upset over that and hoped he wasn’t one of those guys. But guess what, he fell silent again until 4/25 when I got a message asking if he’d “lost” me. What?! I replied that he just needs to message me! THEN! On 4/29 I got a message from him: “Ok I get it, guess it's payback and I've been replaced. Well hit me up whenever I cross your mind and maybe you'll want to get together.” W! T! F! I always replied to his messages pretty quickly. Which I did this time and guess what… crickets. I think I’m done wasting my time on him (eeffing men!)