How long do your lovers last?

[geoffrya]

It depends on which one it is

[annarborhw]

The older I've gotten the longer I last. I wonder if the HWs out there experience that with men they play with. In my 20s I tended to cum faster than I wanted but I was ready to go again pretty quickly. In my 50s now I last long but sometimes lose my erection.

[bltn1966]

The older I've gotten the longer I last. I wonder if the HWs out there experience that with men they play with. In my 20s I tended to cum faster than I wanted but I was ready to go again pretty quickly. In my 50s now I last long but sometimes lose my erection.

This remind me of this time me and my wife played with an older couple. My wife was in our early 30's and the older guy was in his mid 50's.My wife had been makde a few jokes about old men. She jokingly told the old guy to pace himself so he won't have a heart attack. The old guy took that as a challenge. He started pounding my wife hard as hell. After a few minutes of watching my wife getting her brains fucked out, the old guy's wife asked me to accompany her to a store to buy more drinks. We were gone for almost an hour. When we got back the old man was still hammering my hapless wife. A few minutes after he was finish, with my wife, she took a long nap. So we all laughed about the old guy putting her ass to sleep that day.

[Hawke82]

My wife's last regular lover varied. When they got together, they often fucked more then once during a night together. Usually, they would have a very passionate round of hard pounding fucking, and he would be so wound up and turned on, he would cum within 20 to 30 minutes. Of course this was after a lot of mutual oral, so I'm sure that was a contributing factor, and he still lasted longer than I tend to do. After a very short recovery, he would fuck her again, and last much longer, often 30 to 40 minutes of lovemaking, instead of the lustful fucking of the first round. On nights she stayed the night with him (as opposed to her more typically coming home afterwards), they would often fuck at least once more during the night, and she said those were slow long fucks that could last up to an hour, with lots of tenderness, sweet talk, and kissing.

[rackjack]

My wife's two regulars have some similarities and some interesting differences. This is one of their differences. One lasts and lasts, delaying his orgasm a very long time, sometimes hours. He is definitely a marathoner. My wife sees him only when she has a block of time. The other uses a lot of foreplay but the sex itself is fast and hard and he is very dominant in taking my wife. He is a heavy cummer and sends her on her way, generally in less than 30 minutes total, often with cum running down her legs. She loves both approaches.

[zorro]

Hard to engage in this calculation, especially since some of the guys cum multiple times in a get together. The time for the second or third ejaculation can be longer than for the first. For some odd reason, it takes me less time to cum the second than the first time. But all of this makes calculating time to ejaculation kind of tough.

And how do we include the guys who don't make it over the ridge to cum even after a couple of hours of continuous fucking? Do we exclude them as missing data or count the time until they give up?

[MyAznHW]

My wife's boyfriend takes a long time on foreplay and then builds himself up very close to cumming before stopping and getting semi-hard before starting over again. He does this a few times and says it builds him up to his biggest orgasm. Of course that's the first time of their evening together and a 2nd time could be shorter along with morning sex before she returns home. On average though still has to be over 60 minutes.

[Mrs E]

Most of the time my lovers go more than once in a session. The younger guys sometimes don't last as long the first time - the man who I was with today who is 33 lasted a little less than 15 minutes (excited to see me, lol) but there's time for oral, fingering, cuddling, and then we went again. It's all good.

Experienced men who are a little older in my experience have the control and stamina to go much longer the first time, a half hour to 45 min or so and ready to go again after a half hour. Then there was one man who I was with for a while who could cum 3-4 times in 2 hours or so. If he came and stayed inside me for more than a few minutes, he'd get hard again and we'd be off to the races! And he was in his late 40s. There aren't many like him, sadly.

[zorro]

My wife's boyfriend takes a long time on foreplay and then builds himself up very close to cumming before stopping and getting semi-hard before starting over again. He does this a few times and says it builds him up to his biggest orgasm. Of course that's the first time of their evening together and a 2nd time could be shorter along with morning sex before she returns home. On average though still has to be over 60 minutes.

I think the average is 1 hour 10 minutes. When I answered, I figured it that way.

Some guys get nervous and can't cum, try as they might.

[zorro]

What you also did not share from the medical literature is that the average time from intromission to ejaculation is somewhere between 5.4 minutes (median time) in one direct observational study of 500 couples in 2005, with variation by age, country, but not circumcision or condom use -- and 7 minutes according to a 2008 study with variation from man to man and for the same men from session to session. Time of menstrual cycle also predicted faster ejaculation closer to ovulation. Overall, 75% of men ejaculated within 2 minutes at least half the time, according to a 1991 Kinsey study.

These studies tend to be with stable partners. Experience with new sex partners may vary. And your mileage may vary.

[tunafish]

I have a different situation in my house.

We've been together for 40 years married for 37. My wife cums very quickly and very hard. She loves it hard deep and cums vaginally and when I massage her clitoris. The trouble is don't want to cum quickly at least not usually. I love to prolong it for say a good half hour or longer. My wife will have cum two three four or more times so she wants to get me off and take a break.

It's not a bad situation by a long my shot. I'm blessed that I can still get it up easily at age 76. We still enjoy sex immensely. I do accommodate her when she says " I want you to cum"

[LongTermHubby]

My wife says her current lover's stamina varies according to how many times he's fucked her in the previous twelve hours. It takes him longer to cum each succeeding time. As she is multi-orgasmic, she prefers him to take longer.

[Cdncuck]

It varies. Some of her guys have cum fast others last a long, long time. Everyone is different

[54321]

But if that is the case, our poll is very suspect. 34% of the 52 polled so far say 30 minutes or longer...assuming the mean is 10 minutes and the standard deviation is even a very generous 5 minutes...a guy lasting 30 minutes is 4 standard deviations above the mean...ie, would be as rare as someone with an IQ of 140 (4 standard deviations about the mean IQ of 100).

Yes, but:
This is not an average sample of the population here. People on this site are particularly interested in sex and have probably worked on their skills over time. With my wife, I just go as long as she wants which is anywhere from twenty minutes to an hour and twenty typically. If she wants to go longer, that's fine with me!

To up the ante, she decides whether to allow me to ejaculate or not at the end. I never know what her decision will be! Right now, it's 11 days since my last ejaculation. (My record is 3 weeks!) This is no problem for me as I have learned the tantric skill of orgasming without ejaculation. You can learn it quickly from:

The Multi-orgasmic Man: The Sexual Secrets That Every Man Should Know 2001
by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams Arava

You might also google "Devotional Sex". That site is very interesting.

54321

[wardc]

My wife loves stamina and endurance, but she says most men have trouble even getting to 15 minutes.
She say while some young men do have the moves, they tend to cum quicker. She loves older men with big cocks who can keep it hard.

[Her number1]

According to my wife, most have trouble making it to 15 minutes. She prefers 20 to 30.
Younger guys are fun to teach to last longer while the older ones just seem to know how.

[D_Lited_HubWife]

I put 20-30, but she doesn't have any lovers besides me yet. but this time is if we don't pillow talk about her and other guys, then I am done in no time.

[SandyWho]

Really, I think this depends on how much foreplay you enjoy. Hot and furious--less than 5 minutes but sweaty, satisfied, and exhausted. With lots of foreplay and exploring-- 10 to 20 minutes with lots of shifts in positions and finding what excites each other-- a perfect way to enjoy my lover. Frankly, guys who think they are trying out for a porn movie and pound me for 20 minutes, leave me sore and not too happy.

[co-husband]

I have witnessed my wife with only one of her lovers and I can attest that he lasts usually about 15-20 minutes inside her. He is 66 years old and I think he could hold off his ejaculation even longer but he gets overall fatigued after about 15 minutes of fucking, then cums so he can rest.
I on the other hand have ALWAYS struggled with my control. To be honest if I can last 5 minutes inside my wife, it is a very good night for me. Typically it's half that.
I think another interesting poll would be to ask wives or husbands how long HE (the husband) lasts. Would be an interesting comparison to know the difference in stamina between the husband and the lovers.

Mark

[pancuckold]

guys who think they are trying out for a porn movie and pound me for 20 minutes, leave me sore and not too happy.

My X has never gone in for foreplay as much as just getting down to penetration -- I have to initiate foreplay if I want it and usually she is pushing me to let her mount me. Yes she's always sore after a long bout and also has rarely complained as long as the sex was good.

T has significantly moved the bar, I answered this poll a year ago when the guys she was fucking then came in at a respectable 20-30 minutes of penetration before finishing, somewhat less than my then usual 90 minutes of sex with 45 min or more of penetration. T now has consistently fucked her for 2+ hours, most if that time spent with his cock inside her cunt.

Yes she's very sore at the end of that, if she and I usually wind down at an hour of sex because she's had all she can take it seems he gives her so many orgasms that she just keeps going. Of course the flip side is I don't get to fuck or even lick her after - she's really done and not receptive to more.

I look forward to being there to watch the next time they're going at it.

[ArizonaGuy]

I have witnessed my wife with only one of her lovers and I can attest that he lasts usually about 15-20 minutes inside her. He is 66 years old and I think he could hold off his ejaculation even longer but he gets overall fatigued after about 15 minutes of fucking, then cums so he can rest.
I on the other hand have ALWAYS struggled with my control. To be honest if I can last 5 minutes inside my wife, it is a very good night for me. Typically it's half that.
I think another interesting poll would be to ask wives or husbands how long HE (the husband) lasts. Would be an interesting comparison to know the difference in stamina between the husband and the lovers.

Mark

Mark,,,, I have the same problem when we have sex. It seems after watching her and when its my turn I don't last more than a couple of minutes. I think it because of the sexual excitement of seeing her being fucked and probably with me putting his cuck in her. Her FB will fuck her for 20 plus minutes and when he gives her back to me, HW's pussy in red and puffy from his fucking along with his cum dripping from her pussy. Partner, it doesn't get any better.

[co-husband]

I have witnessed my wife with only one of her lovers and I can attest that he lasts usually about 15-20 minutes inside her. He is 66 years old and I think he could hold off his ejaculation even longer but he gets overall fatigued after about 15 minutes of fucking, then cums so he can rest.
I on the other hand have ALWAYS struggled with my control. To be honest if I can last 5 minutes inside my wife, it is a very good night for me. Typically it's half that.
I think another interesting poll would be to ask wives or husbands how long HE (the husband) lasts. Would be an interesting comparison to know the difference in stamina between the husband and the lovers.

Mark

Mark,,,, I have the same problem when we have sex. It seems after watching her and when its my turn I don't last more than a couple of minutes. I think it because of the sexual excitement of seeing her being fucked and probably with me putting his cuck in her. Her FB will fuck her for 20 plus minutes and when he gives her back to me, HW's pussy in red and puffy from his fucking along with his cum dripping from her pussy. Partner, it doesn't get any better.

Hey Arizona..I agree. You and I have very similar experiences. This lover is the first one that I have been present for and followed. So yes, the visual of watching another man have my wife, and then feeling his semen inside her causes me to cum even faster than I normally do. And like you said...it doesn't get any better than that!

Mark

[findingout1]

Anecdotally, I would say there is something to that "5-minute" idea. I've been with 7 married women in the last several years. All were online "wanting more." Aside from those getting nothing from their hubbies, three used nearly identical words to describe their dissatisfaction with hubbies -- they talked about getting an occasional "5-minute poke." A fourth -- in her late 50s -- told me about having tried three younger lovers who only "wanted to fuck for five minutes and then cum on my face." (I attributed that to those guys having learned about sex from porn.) So I checked the 5 to 10 minute box on behalf of these women, who all definitely needed and very much deserved more.

[wardc]

I know I tend to cum pretty quick in a cunt that is already full of cum.

[aztd]

But if that is the case, our poll is very suspect. 34% of the 52 polled so far say 30 minutes or longer...assuming the mean is 10 minutes and the standard deviation is even a very generous 5 minutes...a guy lasting 30 minutes is 4 standard deviations above the mean...ie, would be as rare as someone with an IQ of 140 (4 standard deviations about the mean IQ of 100).
Does that mean in a session or per penetrate. I have found changing positions felays5 coming.
At 59 I can control it lasting for a long time.

Yes, but:
This is not an average sample of the population here. People on this site are particularly interested in sex and have probably worked on their skills over time. With my wife, I just go as long as she wants which is anywhere from twenty minutes to an hour and twenty typically. If she wants to go longer, that's fine with me!

To up the ante, she decides whether to allow me to ejaculate or not at the end. I never know what her decision will be! Right now, it's 11 days since my last ejaculation. (My record is 3 weeks!) This is no problem for me as I have learned the tantric skill of orgasming without ejaculation. You can learn it quickly from:

The Multi-orgasmic Man: The Sexual Secrets That Every Man Should Know 2001
by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams Arava

You might also google "Devotional Sex". That site is very interesting.

54321