Just Beginning

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Mlghten » Wed Aug 15, 2018 5:05 am

Thank you for the encouragement. Helps keep me focused and my mind in the right place.
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Mlghten wrote:You are correct, this has proved challenging. We are being patient and moving slow. Very hard from my standpoint, but this is not about me - its US
This is a great attitude to have. She has to work through a ton of conflicting messages (assuming) American women grow up with as well as their desire for intimacy in a long term relationship. In all the sharing about the potential suitor, she is making/discovering a path that works for her.


Don't forget to have fun with everything going on in the bedroom! There is lots of material there for her and you to explore in the bedroom right now. That might help you be more patient.

You two are so lucky to have each other. Best wishes for continuing a rich and meaningful relationship.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by MTHotWifeHubby » Wed Aug 15, 2018 7:58 am

We had the same story and its documented here. Last weekend she officially became a hotwife after little more than a year. I was in your same scenario. Keep encourage her and showing her you love her. And BTW if she wants someone to talk to my wife may be a good source of information. She has helped others on the board.
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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by MTHotWife » Wed Aug 15, 2018 8:21 pm

I would love to share my story with others if it would help. I am an open book

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by subtoall » Wed Aug 15, 2018 8:44 pm

Great journey so far. I just read the whole thread.

Based on what you've written, you've really improved in the last few months with backing off with the pressuring, and being very supportive of her. Something I think you could do more of (at least based on what we know from your posts) is saying things to build up her confidence in herself and help her feel desirable. As you recently discovered, this takes a big hit when things go off the rails (as they so often do at this stage) when the potential bf flakes.

For example, based on the things you've told us, saying things like this to her:

"I can understand why he'd get cold feet. He's probably worried he can't perform well enough for a woman as hot as you."

"You were so sexy in those pictures you just texted him that I just had to go down on you."

"Of course you're his girlfriend, you're the most beautiful woman in the office!"

These comments do two things: they demonstrate your support and also give her confidence in her attractiveness to take a risk.

Also, be playful. When out at a bar or a party, say things like:

"Did you see how much that guy was checking you out? Man, he could hardly keep his eyes off your breasts. You're really rockin that dress."

"Damn, where'd all these good lucking dudes come from all of a sudden? I'm gonna have to up my game with you tonight when we get home if I wanna hold onto a hot lady like you!"

Just my thoughts. Always be building her up. You're doing great!

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Mlghten » Thu Aug 16, 2018 10:16 am

subtoall wrote:Great journey so far. I just read the whole thread.

Based on what you've written, you've really improved in the last few months with backing off with the pressuring, and being very supportive of her. Something I think you could do more of (at least based on what we know from your posts) is saying things to build up her confidence in herself and help her feel desirable. As you recently discovered, this takes a big hit when things go off the rails (as they so often do at this stage) when the potential bf flakes.

For example, based on the things you've told us, saying things like this to her:

"I can understand why he'd get cold feet. He's probably worried he can't perform well enough for a woman as hot as you."

"You were so sexy in those pictures you just texted him that I just had to go down on you."

"Of course you're his girlfriend, you're the most beautiful woman in the office!"

These comments do two things: they demonstrate your support and also give her confidence in her attractiveness to take a risk.

Also, be playful. When out at a bar or a party, say things like:

"Did you see how much that guy was checking you out? Man, he could hardly keep his eyes off your breasts. You're really rockin that dress."

"Damn, where'd all these good lucking dudes come from all of a sudden? I'm gonna have to up my game with you tonight when we get home if I wanna hold onto a hot lady like you!"

Just my thoughts. Always be building her up. You're doing great!
Thank you for these suggestions. I have done some of this over time. Work in progress. Your specific quotes are helpful. Thanks for following

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Mlghten » Thu Aug 16, 2018 10:18 am

MTHotWife wrote:I would love to share my story with others if it would help. I am an open book
Thank you for following, will take you up on your offer

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by MTHotWife » Thu Aug 16, 2018 11:49 am

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by JeffS » Tue Aug 21, 2018 9:21 am

Perhaps this is the time for some bedroom roleplay? You could tell her a detailed story about her and her boyfriend based on the texts you’ve read while you make love. Or perhaps introduce a dildo.

Let her know you are fantasizing only so she is in her safe zone.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Mlghten » Tue Aug 21, 2018 12:05 pm

JeffS wrote:Perhaps this is the time for some bedroom roleplay? You could tell her a detailed story about her and her boyfriend based on the texts you’ve read while you make love. Or perhaps introduce a dildo.

Let her know you are fantasizing only so she is in her safe zone.

Thanks for following. We have done a little role playing. She isn’t into it too much.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Mlghten » Wed Sep 05, 2018 7:57 pm

Been a while since posting an update. Things have slowed as of late as life has been real busy. The guy from my wife’s work as a flake. After all of the texting and talk, he backed out and told her he wanted to stop. This was a huge setback for my wife but we have worked through it. After several discussions, she understands it was not her, it was all him.

My wife is such a beautiful woman and I hated seeing her sad over this guy being a flake. I have been moving slowly and allowing her time to recover from this guy. Our next step will be to focus on other avenues in finding a good guy to fuck my wife. This discussion will be forthcoming. Thanks for following

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Her number1 » Thu Sep 06, 2018 5:42 am

Sorry about her having to deal with a flake for her first guy. Though, it is the norm. Continue to be supportive of her, she will find the right guy and will enjoy the hunt as she now knows she is desirable. Having that mindset, she will want to flirt and the more she flirts, the more excitement and fun. Men will begin to see her as sexual while she is out and about.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Mlghten » Mon Sep 10, 2018 5:43 pm

Her number1 wrote:Sorry about her having to deal with a flake for her first guy. Though, it is the norm. Continue to be supportive of her, she will find the right guy and will enjoy the hunt as she now knows she is desirable. Having that mindset, she will want to flirt and the more she flirts, the more excitement and fun. Men will begin to see her as sexual while she is out and about.
Just one of those frustrating parts of life. We will recover and move forward.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Mlghten » Tue Sep 25, 2018 5:09 am

Life has been really busy as of late. Wanted to bump my post so it doesnt get deleted. Hopefully can update you soon

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Mlghten » Thu Oct 04, 2018 5:52 am

Wife and I are doing well as we have been dealing with a lot of ups and downs life threw at us. We are both ready to get back to where we were five months ago. The guy at work and my wife are still friends and talk daily. Nothing sexual as he couldn’t handle it. His loss.

Next week we are going shopping and it’s time to get back to pampering my sexy wife. She is excited about it. I brought up hotwifing and my wife just smiled. No rejection which is a good thing. We both talked about her need to have fun and let her hair down. She doesn’t deny my comments about other men, but at the same time she doesn’t come out and agree to it. I know I’m not reading into her non verbal signals and I think she wants to move forward. Just needs more confiedence in herself.

Today I challenged her to flirt with another guy and she can tell me about it tonight. Felt it will make her feel better about herself and know she is sexy. Thanks for following.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Her number1 » Fri Oct 05, 2018 5:58 am

Mlghten wrote: Today I challenged her to flirt with another guy and she can tell me about it tonight. Felt it will make her feel better about herself and know she is sexy. Thanks for following.
This is an excellent way to move forward.
Encourage her to flirt, for her to make flirting just her natural way. She will love it and grow comfortable being a flirt as she does more of it. It will make her feel sexy and cause her to think sexy. It is kinda like building a new habit. Maybe odd at first, becomes okay, and then becomes normal, just a part of her. She will then look for ways to flirt and men will pick up on her sexualness.
If she sees herself as sexy, desirable, and as a flirt, she will become that. She will exude sexuality that others will pick up on.
Once she has that confidence, men will flock to her. Not all will be bold and plenty will not cross that final bridge but, they will flirt with her and that will feed her growing sexuality.

Farmgirl learned to flirt long ago and has it mastered. There is no man she doesn't flirt with, it is simply a part of who she is.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by soyazacchu » Mon Dec 03, 2018 10:45 am

Can you pls update us Mlghten ??

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Des 31 » Mon Dec 03, 2018 12:04 pm

Life for us changed permanently when she agreed to do what I wanted her to do. "Date night" around our house means somebody else is fucking my wife. She just set up two of those for the next two weeks and recently told me again she could never go back to when it was just the two of us.

I like that.
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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Mlghten » Mon Dec 03, 2018 2:21 pm

soyazacchu wrote:Can you pls update us Mlghten ??

My apologies for not posting for a bit. Things have been very slow. Life got in the way (family death, illness) and all the HW stuff was placed on hold. My wife and I just started to reconnect, we have been going in different directions for several months now. None of this by choice of course just pulled in different directions. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and I’m hoping it shines on my wife releasing her inner self. :D

I hope to get things moving forward soon. Really appreciate you checking on us and I will try better at posting more frequently.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Her number1 » Tue Dec 04, 2018 6:03 am

Great to hear from you and that things are well.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Treborn » Thu Dec 13, 2018 8:24 am

Thanks Mighten, I am still following your thread.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Mlghten » Thu Dec 13, 2018 7:24 pm

Treborn wrote:Thanks Mighten, I am still following your thread.
Thanks for following our journey.

Update:

Things have settled down even though the holidays are approaching. The other night the wife and I found ourselves home alone for most of the evening. We were both in good moods and had a few drinks. Enjoyed each other’s company and after a few drinks in, we found ourselves looking at a few porn videos to set the mood. It ended up her watching them more than me and boy was she enjoying them.

Not a big fan of hotwife/cuckold porn but my wife was enjoying them. Some of the videos involved white wives with a black bull. She was intrigued by the size of some of the cocks. Yikes :o We quickly ended up in the bedroom and it was unbelievable sex. Of course there was a lot of pillow talk and we both had a blast.

Being nervous the next morning, my wife immediately told me she had so much fun and really enjoyed the entire night. Today we exchanged text and I laid it out there. I asked if she was interested in moving forward as a hotwife and trying it out. She text back, “maybe, but I just want to be with you”. WOW. MAYBE. I told her it will be about us and we can take it slow and see where things go. It seems at the moment we are both more comfortable initiating the conversation by texting.

Hopefully more to come soon. Thanks for following

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Rockhard11 » Mon Dec 17, 2018 8:04 am

That’s a great update! Thanks for sharing what ‘might’ happen! That’s a positive step.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Mlghten » Mon Dec 31, 2018 1:58 pm

Happy New Year to all our followers here on OHW. Hoping life finds all of you well.

Wanted to give an update and share some thoughts as we enter a new year. My wife an I had a lot of challenges this past year. Life pulled us in several directions with little time for the two of us. That is all past us and we are ready to move forward. Since I last posted, my wife and I have had several nights of hot pillow talk. We are enjoying it and I hope after all the activity of the holidays is past, we can enjoy taking things to another level, whatever that means :D

My wife told me a few weeks ago that the guy (flake) from her work is flirting again, but she is on to his game. It is flattering for her and makes her feel desired which makes it all worth it. Hope he continues even though we don’t see anything ever happening.

Some of our pillow talk has been pretty hot, however, my wife has a tendency to convieniently forget some things she said the next day. She told me she would like her boyfriends cock to be big and black. This is not the first time she has said this, but it was always after several drinks. I can tell she is comfortable talking when she has been drinking, but backs away during the day. This tells me she still is not totally comfortable with talking about it with me. I am working on this part of our intimacy. Still a work in progress.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by Mlghten » Fri Jan 18, 2019 8:48 am

Just wanted to post an update for those of you still following us. I know there hasn’t been anything really exciting in my thread, however; things are moving forward.

Wife an I made it through the holidays which contained a lot of drama and problems, all of which were external (family, work etc). We are past that and my wife went out with a girlfriend last night. This girlfriend dresses just like a hotwife, which is the opposite of my conservative wife. Not sure if she is a hotwife, but she dresses and gets men’s attention. It was an innocent outing and my wife came home and told me she was going to start getting fixed up when she goes to work and out. She explained that they had a discussion and she want to feel good about herself by dressing sexier. To me this was a small but I feel significant step forward.

Now if you have been following us, my wife has been dressing sexier but a lot of that fell off with all of the family/outside pressures of the last year. I am so excited for this change and we talked a lot about it. The discussion lead into my wife going out more with this friend and her finding ways to decompress from everyday life. This was my opportunity to support this, which I did. I got real excited as her excitment about the change lead to me getting really excited, knowing she felt good about it. By the way, I did encourage and support her going out for “ladies night” etc. A reminder that I was my wife’s second boyfriend and second lover. She didn’t get to experience going out and having fun.

Just a short update, but I feel we are moving in the right direction again. Thanks for following and please let me know what you think.

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Re: Just Beginning

Unread post by cuckedinNH » Fri Jan 18, 2019 11:00 am

Hey there, I'm late to the party! Just finished reading through the whole thread!. Great story! don't get discouraged you seem so close! Hopefully your wife has more social oppurtunities to meet other men. You'd be right to move on from that other guy who keeps flaking out. Good luck and I look forward to more posts!

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