Sadie, thanks for pointing out what were clearly a poor choice of words on my part. I should have phrased it different.sadie wrote:Hmm, lots of people have unprotected sex with strangers and aren't always rational about it. I had a lover who started using barriers (dental dams) with me after I played another woman also using barriers and yet a few years later she chose to spend an entire week fucking a guy she met at an ashram, most of it anal. Her choices were decidedly not rational given even unprotected lesbian sex has incredibly small transmission rates and of course unprotected anal is the highest to the receptive partner. P was quite rational about her choices most of the time, she had her reasons in this case and no STI was transmitted.stillcanhang57 wrote:
Totally get the whole sexually dangerous turn on aspect but...WITH A RANDOM STRANGER! Now you've not only exposed yourself to some possible serious health issues but in turn Frank, Mike and anyone else the three of you may come in contact with. Condom play is fun but with established partners. Hopefully all test come back clear.
Still curious about Mike's feelings about Frank and his choice to discuss your relationship and basically attempt to pimp you out to random stranger.
I think the term random here is wrong, Carrie hooked up with this guy of her own free will and that selection process was decidedly not random. Random would be she opens a phonebook and chooses a name to proposition. Same for my former lover P.
Carrie is the individual in this room at greatest risk (receptive vs penetrative partner), it's really her call and clearly Mike was informed.
Same thing as to "pimping". Frank's selection didn't look random to me and while I'd question his judgement and selection criteria at this point I still think "networking" would be a more apt term.
Carrie, keep up the great work good, Mike you're no slouch in putting the fingers to keyboard, glad you're weighing in :-).
Carrie and Mike have asked opinions here about their brand new exploration in this kink. I know there's a ton of different ways people approach involving new sexual partners and our particular hard rule is protection until verification. Meeting a stranger, then fucking him multiple times in less then 24 hours without protection is clearly risky behavior. Especially when multiple people are at risk. However that's just us and I shouldn't had projected my feelings so harshly.
Also in regards to Frank and pimping. Again maybe too harsh of a word and a case of us projecting. The idea that one of my SO's play partners would be openly discussing our kink and basically recruiting a different individual, without first having an real conversation with us first is yet another hard rule. We expect and demand 100% discretion from all of the people that we give the privledge of fucking my SO. The idea that our kink is the topic of watercooler conversations would be delt with swiftly.
Again, we have asked both Mike and Carrie their thought process about these things but probably came across as to aggressive thus the lack of response.
Thanks again Sadie and I will try to be more open to choices in this kink that are different then our own.
I do agree that it's amazing when Mike jumps in .