How do you like it

[pixwellguy]

We've done them all and enjoyed them all, and I almost didn't answer since I had to pick just one. But seeing as you're looking for the "normal" situation, our normal is currently her seeing her lover alone. That's how both she and he want it...they prefer to meet privately to make love.

I have to say that over the years I've come to feel that *my* favorite is #4...listening from another room nearby. While I love watching her, I really find that listening to her cries of pleasure can be even more exciting...my mind fills in the details I can't see.

I rather agree that I'm surprised that the results are so heavily lopsided in favor of the wife seeing her men alone. I can understand why, but I though there might be a more even distributions of the results.

[satisfy_ur_wife]

She usually meets (and fucks) a guy solo 3 or 4 times before I get involved. Personally, I find it more exciting because they have generally established a level of familiarity that let's her comfortably show passion. I think it also gives the bull a little more stable ground so he's not instantly intimidated by a couple situation. If I guy has fucked her a few times, he's usually hooked and wants more. More than once we've met a guy together for the first time and they get stage fright and can't perform.

[satisfy_ur_wife]

She usually meets (and fucks) a guy solo 3 or 4 times before I get involved. Personally, I find it more exciting because they have generally established a level of familiarity that let's her comfortably show passion. I think it also gives the bull a little more stable ground so he's not instantly intimidated by a couple situation. If a guy has fucked her a few times, he's usually hooked and wants more. More than once we've met a guy together for the first time and they get stage fright and can't perform.

[NikkiMySunshine]

We, at the moment, are playing with Nikki going out or meeting her boy toy. Its someone through common work interests. It works for us... for now.

[Baldyellow]

I have done all but waiting in the next room, but prefer being there and joining in the sexual liaison. Each of the other has their merit and excitement, but I don't think I could be in the next room and not be there and at least watch.

[PnG2010]

She usually meets (and fucks) a guy solo 3 or 4 times before I get involved. Personally, I find it more exciting because they have generally established a level of familiarity that let's her comfortably show passion. I think it also gives the bull a little more stable ground so he's not instantly intimidated by a couple situation. If I guy has fucked her a few times, he's usually hooked and wants more. More than once we've met a guy together for the first time and they get stage fright and can't perform.

I like your approach. Makes a lot of sense. A lot of men aren't comfortable with a hubby watching. Allowing them time to bond together might lead to a longer relationship.

[CoupleFun555]

I am not a cuckold, so I don’t want to be in another room while she plays. We do MFMs where I go in and out of play, taking pics or videos, and watching. Also, if we’ve planned for a long sex outing, we might get a suite so each guy can “rest” while she’s playing with the other.

The majority of the time, however, she plays alone. I always meet the guy first with her and have significant conversations with the guy before any sex to make sure he understands basic start up rules and to give her a second opinion. We try very hard to protect her safety.

I love that she is experiencing pleasure. She deserves it. And, there is a level of sexual confidence that is so hot when she is playing with others.

[TheHandjob]

I ALWAYS join as it's OUR fantasy and I also like to SEE her with her lover. Hearing about it afterwards wouldn't do it for me.

[Sun79]

For us it’s different from time to time, i think being there is more of a cuckold type of thing and i have evolved from prefering cuckold meets to the hotwife situation. Hotwifeing for me is her going out on dates, sleeps over and spending time alone with her lover. She on the other hand has evolved into a real cuckoldress, she loves having me there and humiliating me, showing off infront of me and so on.
So, for me, I like not being there at all. (Worse is being sent out of the room)

[verkitwme]

Hubby is there 90/95% of the time

[Curioushubby99]

We enjoy them all, sometimes it will be decided in advance such as when she goes to his, or when a guy visits while I am away, but on most other occasions it will be a case of what feels right on the night. If the guy is struggling then I will almost certainly go to another room to take the pressure off, and sometimes if my wife feels really comfortable with a guy she will ask for some alone time so she can totally let go without worrying about me. Likewise if a guy is sleeping over following a threesome she will probably ask me if I mind sleeping in the guest room. Basically I will always go with whatever gives my wife the most pleasure/satisfaction .

[Anonymousrachel]

Over the years, we have progressed from hubby being in the room and participating a little, to just watching, to being in another room, and now to me mostly playing alone.

Why the progression? Just curious…

[SRKnight]

I’m surprised at HW going out alone being #1. I thought we were unusual in that wife goes alone but appears it is more common than the threads reflect. We both like the other man thinking she is a cheating wife and I have no idea.

[Hildasw]

I ALWAYS join as it's OUR fantasy and I also like to SEE her with her lover. Hearing about it afterwards wouldn't do it for me.

I agree. If I don’t get involved it won’t work for me.

[Des 31]

I don't really think it's odd, just wasn't the results I was expecting. I also find it interesting that the other three options are relatively equal.
I was expecting one of the 'hubby in the room' options to be #1. Yet those two together still can't hit the top option.

Intellectual sadomasochism indeed!

It isn't necessarily masochism on my part or sadomasochism on my 34-year-old wife's, but I understand your meaning. She is alone with one of her friends almost every time, either at our home or another man's home often for the reason she gets more excitement and fulfillment when I'm not in the same room.

When my wife was 27-28, I most often was in the same room, usually sitting nearby in a bedroom chair or laying on a side of the bed. As time went on, she learned it was better for her and most of her partners if I wasn't in the same room. Since that time, I have almost always slept in the guest room when she and another are having sex at our home.

I estimate that she is instead at one of her friend's homes for fucking about 40% of the time but I haven't thought that through, so it might be higher. Either way, I'm either jerking off in the guest bedroom or almost as soon as she's backing out of our driveway. At those times, I'm usually naked and standing at our front bay window as she is leaving or not long after somewhere else in our house.

For about the past two or three years, she sometimes drives over to one of her guys' homes when leaving about four p.m. from the bank where she works. Most times she does that, she is home around 8 or 9 those nights but has stayed overnight on some first nights of weekends. Either way, she always lets me know her plans for those nights so I know when to expect her home. And she phones when she arrives and when she is on her way home.

We're usually fucking (or if I'm spent from masturbating, she's stroking my rod) as she tells me about her night. I'm out of town for business last night through Monday and haven't yet checked in to find whatever she may be doing in my absence. She said when I and my accompanying assistant left to fly out yesterday she will phone me sometime tonight.

~ Des

[Tryagain]

Over the years, we have progressed from hubby being in the room and participating a little, to just watching, to being in another room, and now to me mostly playing alone.

Why the progression? Just curious…

I guess it is because it becomes routine and perhaps somewhat boring.

[Tryagain]

I find it amazing that a hotwife's retelling of what happened can be truly exciting. Sure, after the first 1 or 2 times maybe. But can someone tell me what their hotwife actually says about the encounter? I mean they meet, kiss, go down on each other, and fuck.

I know I LOVE to witness their, kissing, embracing, some things they say to each other, hearing her wild screams and moans, see her suck his big cock, etc. I also take vids and pics to remember it all if it is a good one. You get none of that if she is solo. Fixed cameras cant do it justice as well.

I think getting off on solo is getting off on just the idea that she is lustful and naughty. For me that cannot compare since i can see her lust right in front of me.

Cam someone clarify what gets them excited?

[Anonymousrob]

I can’t even imagine not being there. We haven’t done sharing yet, but we are moving toward it, and I can’t imagine not being there to enjoy the whole process. Maybe that’s what a lot of people like, but for me, at least at this stage, I want to see and experience and partake in everything.

[hbstel]

I've always been present so far, usually participating in a way or another, although I do prefer to take a less active role -- caressing her body while she's being fucked, getting sucked every now and then and my favorite, licking her pussy between fuck sessions or while she is sucking someone else (the scent of a wet and fucked pussy just drives me crazy).

Personally, the idea of the mrs going out alone and playing with her lover also excites me a lot. I don't think it'd be something we'd do often though, the way I see it is we'd have played with someone a couple of times and she'd feel comfortable and safe without me being present. Thinking that they'd maybe do different things and hearing about all the details afterwards always makes me hard :-)

[jw_kk]

As a long-term average, I've been present for somewhere between 70% - 75% of KK's encounters (discounting pre-hot wife life infidelities).

Of that percentage, I'm an active participant for probably 60% of those encounters, passive/voyeur for the nominal 40%.

[parklife]

I have never been present. We use the idea of me being present in fantasy talk while we have sex often, but I’m not sure I’d ever actually will live that one out in real life. I thoroughly enjoy her having her one on one time and then sharing with me later.

Cam someone clarify what gets them excited?

Honestly, I probably can’t. I just know that it does. I love hearing her words, words she doesn’t use in normal conversation describing deeds she doesn’t normally talk about. My mind playing things in my head, imagining what she is describing. I realize seeing it would be different, but it’s exciting nonetheless. I will say though, that it isn’t exciting in the same way as it was the first few times she ad her hotwife fun. I now often go days or a week or more before hearing about it. Not out of boredom, but there is a level of acceptance that it happened, as a snippet in time. I crave her for those days or weeks like a hungry man at a buffet but until that reconnection time, I’m stuck looking at the food as that desire to eat just grows.

Seeing it live, I wonder if that same feeling would be there. That intense longing and desire. That build up is exciting…. Not sure I’d have that if I were present.

[Tryagain]

I have never been present. We use the idea of me being present in fantasy talk while we have sex often, but I’m not sure I’d ever actually will live that one out in real life. I thoroughly enjoy her having her one on one time and then sharing with me later.

Cam someone clarify what gets them excited?

Honestly, I probably can’t. I just know that it does. I love hearing her words, words she doesn’t use in normal conversation describing deeds she doesn’t normally talk about. My mind playing things in my head, imagining what she is describing. I realize seeing it would be different, but it’s exciting nonetheless. I will say though, that it isn’t exciting in the same way as it was the first few times she ad her hotwife fun. I now often go days or a week or more before hearing about it. Not out of boredom, but there is a level of acceptance that it happened, as a snippet in time. I crave her for those days or weeks like a hungry man at a buffet but until that reconnection time, I’m stuck looking at the food as that desire to eat just grows.

Seeing it live, I wonder if that same feeling would be there. That intense longing and desire. That build up is exciting…. Not sure I’d have that if I were present.

If you were there you could video the whole thing. And man...when you see her going fucking nuts - again - well...you know you will be jerking off a lot because it it is the possible porn show!

[deffle]

I think getting off on solo is getting off on just the idea that she is lustful and naughty. For me that cannot compare since i can see her lust right in front of me.

Cam someone clarify what gets them excited?

Just the idea that she's having a romantic experience and getting by her married pussy rocked by her big dicked boyfriend is arousing on a perpetual basis for me whether I watch, participate or not.

Also, that she - and he - can enjoy and express themselves freely and have their intimacy is highly erotic. I like that they can talk, kiss and fuck whenever they want, and say and do whatever they want privately.

[CU4A2on1]

Voted alone due to both her preference and how it’s practically how they get together due to him living in another city where she flies to visit. That being said there are times I’ve joined, watched in webcam, or been in another room and all were fun.

[Pufferfish]

I originally thought she would want to, and I was afraid of, her wanting to have sex alone if that was an option and wouldn't tell me everything, or would not do a very good job telling me about her experiences. I made it clear that I really wanted to be there for at least the first time, and be included in her experience. I was actually VERY surprised and happy that she considers me being there a necessary part, both for inclusion sake, and because she feels this is something we're doing together. I couldn't be happier than to be there when it happens, and can't imagine not being there. I would of course completely accept if something did happen alone and she told me about it, but I would much rather be there to see it.

I haven't "joined in the fun" yet, although I'm sure it will happen sometime. But I imagine the vast majority of our experiences will be me watching and enjoying her afterwards.