Did she keep you guessing?

[hikingwiththekdog]

I read lots of stories here where the hotwife was reluctant or completely against the idea at first, but eventually decided to give it a try. I'm curious about those out there who were interested right off the bat, but took a long time to get comfortable with making it reality and then mustering the courage to go for it.

It obviously takes a lot of time to process the decision, and the general wisdom would suggest to give her lots of space to sort it out on her own. Still, I think it's important to pay very close attention to her words and feelings whenever it's brought up.

Did any stags/cucks out there notice their wife/gf seem to "turn off" to the idea for awhile, even though they were making steps forward and you felt optimistic? When it finally happened, were you caught off guard?

[isinlarsa]

My second wife knew of my background of being in open relationships, including with my first wife. She felt my interest in her being with other men was to objectify her as a sexual piece of meat. She would say to me, "I won't be your porn queen."

Then, completely on her own, in her 40s she decided to date other men. Her hotwife activities ended up fulfilling most all my fantasies.

[radio4ron]

She didn't really keep me guessing. As we spoke about taking the plunge she made it clear that she wasn't saying yes and wasn't saying no either. She just needed time to process it.

As we completely opened up to each other about our pasts and really grew through that, it was clear that someone with her past wasn't going to not do this. It was kind of at that point that I really understood how lucky I was to have married the perfect woman for me ♥ and I honor her every day for it ♥

[adamgunnauthor]

We talked about opening up our marriage for over three years, when we did we started swinging. We had a great amount of fun with other couples for a few months, I really wasn't thinking about what was going to come next.

One night after we'd been in a foursome at our club, she was still randy and this single guy was hitting on her. She asked me if she could. It sort of surprised me, but after thinking it over for fifteen minutes I really couldn't think of any reason not to. I watched them, it really turned me on, ten days later we had our first true threesome.

[Des 31]

I encouraged my wife for about a year but she persistently insisted she could never do that. It wasn't until I came home a day earlier from an out-of-town business assignment that I learned she and a then-coworker had been fucking for three months. She had usually been coming home after work around five p.m., but that night she didn't get in until very late. At that time, I was then traveling about three weeks each month. She was then 28 and now 34.

I was set back but held my temper. She confessed they had been regularly fucking at his place whenever I was away. At times, the two were also having sex not far from their workplace at an abandoned graveyard in his car during lunch hours. When confronted. she agreed it would be difficult to remain monogamous after his and her hot experiences. I didn't think it was necessary for her to break off their relationship, but she felt it would be best. We placed a personals ad for men interested in dating married women. Soon, she was having sex often with other men, and that was just what I wanted. It works out well for the two of us. My wife loves our arrangement.

The night I learned about her and her first-other man was more than six years ago and - to this day - I still enjoy her narrating experiences in great detail.

~ Des

[Bull_323]

Great thread. I’ve enjoyed reading the posts and look forward to more responses. Good to read the varied ways things have developed for people.

[wildrollercoaster]

The possibility of (her) sexual non-exclusivity was the subject of conversation and fantasy from an early stage in our relationship. I had little doubt that it would eventually happen, but I didn't know how or when.

When it did, I was taken by surprise -- like a lightning bolt. We didn't yet live together, but I had a key to her place -- which I used to let myself in, unexpectedly, late one Friday night.

She didn't hear me over the sound of music/TV, but I heard her immediately -- sounded like she was thrashing about on her bed on the verge of orgasm, presumably with her vibrator. The vivid reality, however, was that she was being driven powerfully into her mattress by a mysterious lover -- whom I hadn't even known existed -- atop her and pistoning his rigid cock into her glistening pussy, approaching an orgasmic crescendo. What an awakening -- words fail.