First Hints You Gave to Encourage Hotwifing

[Sharing One]

Looking back, I remember some of the following hints I gave to my wife to see if she was interested in becoming a hotwife.

The first was when I came our of the bathroom as we were leaving a theater. I said see that guy walking in front of us and she said yes, then I said well he was standing next to me at the men’s urinals. He pulled out the biggest penis I have ever seen and when he finished he started shaking it off, but I think he was really trying to show it off. She just looked at him and did not respond. This was the first of many signs I gave to my wife.

The next time we were having sex and I aske her it she wanted me to push it in deeper and she said yes, then I said sorry thats all I got. She said oh thats a shame.

These were hints I gave to my first wife who was not interested in becoming hotwife, but that did not stop me from dropping occasional hints. I think she would have went in that direction if the conditions were right.

My second wife got on pretty quick after a few hints, but I still remember my early attempts. Its like bating and hook and casting it out to see if you get a bite.

[Wifewithothers]

In college leading her out of a party after she just sucked off some random guy in front of practically everyone....not to fight but to fuck like crazy while she told me how much she liked it.

[diver_guy]

For me it was gradually asking here more and more about her past sex history, and showing how excited it made me and us. Then being somewhere and having her dance with other guys... And showing how excited that made me. Then asking if she wanted to take it further, and so on.

[Sharing One]

Love the story, getting her to talk about her prior sex life and letting her know that you enjoyed the stories. Also the dancing was a stroke of genius. We all have interesting stories to tell, even the hotwives.

[DedicatedHubby2013]

The hints that I gave my wife were that every time she told me she was going to hang out with her new friend that she was attracted to and she was actively trying to seduce, I ended up kissing her passionately and having hot sex with her.
Took me a week or so to come to terms with the fact that I actually was turned on by her being slutty. I found it very confusing, because I was angered by what I thought were her attempts to replace me, but was still turned on.

So she was the one that awakened it in me instead of the usual way for most other HW couples.

Before this happened, I had no idea that I would find this appealing.

[Parsifal]

Our first forays were softcore. Games like 20 questions over drinks during a dinner date babystepped us into ever expanding areas of openness between us.

[ProfBaw]

I was a complete and utter nightmare. An idiot and an ass if truth be told. I told her pretty much as soon as we got into a serious relationship. Like i went on and on about it A LOT. So much so, looking back, I now annoy myself how much i harped on about it. she always refused. Sometimes she'd entertain me in bed, but 90% of the time she told be to stfu for want of a better expression.

Props to her for not dumping my ass if i have to be honest. She put up with that for around 18 years before she just suddenly changed her mind. I think the change came on a visit to Reddit by myself. For years i told her i was into the cuck thing, but not the cuck thing. I wasn't a cuck. Not into the denial, humiliation, the sitting next to her watching etc etc. None of that. Not got the temperament for all of that, nor was exclusion ever a desire of mine. So things never really added up for her, in her mind. Was saying i was something, but then also telling her i was not that. Then the epiphany happened. I stumbled across a "hotwife" discussion on Reddit. I had never heard of a "hotwife" in my life. Read more, and realised that was my actual kink. That was me i was reading about.

The term "hotwife" also change stuff for her too. Because not only did i find myself, the hotwife part made it about her, not me. She could take ownership of all that if that all makes sense. Before it was me thinking this sort of thing began and ended at the term "cuckold". It was a label for myself and excluded her.

Before I didn't even know what i was wanting, yet expecting her to know it all and read my mind. So i can see why she always refused. I would have too.

We had 2 3-somes before this over the years, but they never really did anything for me. Didn't dislike her being in bed with another guy, and me on the other side of her, but it never did anything for me either. It was all a bit flat. My kink is all about hearing stuff. Don't need to see anything, it's all about listening to what she's been up to. I also like the subtle stuff, more than the hardcore sex or whatever. I much prefer the flirting, the texting, the eye contact she makes and all that boring stuff. She gets the sex and whatever else she wants from the situation, i get to hear about the lead up.

[ProfBaw]

The hints that I gave my wife were that every time she told me she was going to hang out with her new friend that she was attracted to and she was actively trying to seduce, I ended up kissing her passionately and having hot sex with her.
Took me a week or so to come to terms with the fact that I actually was turned on by her being slutty. I found it very confusing, because I was angered by what I thought were her attempts to replace me, but was still turned on.

So she was the one that awakened it in me instead of the usual way for most other HW couples.

Before this happened, I had no idea that I would find this appealing.

This actually made me laugh. Not just in my head, but actually laugh.

It's amazing how the smaller head wins out in this situation almost every time.

I'm still giggling like a wee schoolgirl at this.

[Sharing One]

I started out bringing home penthouse forum magazines and sharing them with her. Before pillow talk I would get her to pick out an article she liked and read it to me, then I would pick out an article and read to her. After we both got hot and had sex while reciting the exciting parts of each article. This passion grew in us until it was a reality for us.

[Whosbeensleeping]

I was a complete and utter nightmare. An idiot and an ass if truth be told. I told her pretty much as soon as we got into a serious relationship. Like i went on and on about it A LOT. So much so, looking back, I now annoy myself how much i harped on about it. she always refused. Sometimes she'd entertain me in bed, but 90% of the time she told be to stfu for want of a better expression.

Props to her for not dumping my ass if i have to be honest. She put up with that for around 18 years before she just suddenly changed her mind. I think the change came on a visit to Reddit by myself. For years i told her i was into the cuck thing, but not the cuck thing. I wasn't a cuck. Not into the denial, humiliation, the sitting next to her watching etc etc. None of that. Not got the temperament for all of that, nor was exclusion ever a desire of mine. So things never really added up for her, in her mind. Was saying i was something, but then also telling her i was not that. Then the epiphany happened. I stumbled across a "hotwife" discussion on Reddit. I had never heard of a "hotwife" in my life. Read more, and realised that was my actual kink. That was me i was reading about.

The term "hotwife" also change stuff for her too. Because not only did i find myself, the hotwife part made it about her, not me. She could take ownership of all that if that all makes sense. Before it was me thinking this sort of thing began and ended at the term "cuckold". It was a label for myself and excluded her.

Before I didn't even know what i was wanting, yet expecting her to know it all and read my mind. So i can see why she always refused. I would have too.

We had 2 3-somes before this over the years, but they never really did anything for me. Didn't dislike her being in bed with another guy, and me on the other side of her, but it never did anything for me either. It was all a bit flat. My kink is all about hearing stuff. Don't need to see anything, it's all about listening to what she's been up to. I also like the subtle stuff, more than the hardcore sex or whatever. I much prefer the flirting, the texting, the eye contact she makes and all that boring stuff. She gets the sex and whatever else she wants from the situation, i get to hear about the lead up.

Your perspective sounds much like me. Especially the whole preference for the subtle/boring stuff. Only at this point I'm still a wannabe (at least this time around, lol) with the exception of a distance flirtation she had that never panned out.

[I_watch_Mermaids]

I pretty much told her I wanted her to get comfortable with fucking other guys (or girls).

I went through a period where I had erectile disfucktion BAD. She is a horny bitch, and I will NOT see her spend the rest of her married life to me rubbing on my tater tot. We tried toys, dirty talk, talk of bringing in a second woman, sex with a couple... anything to get me going.

epilogue? My testosterone had fucking collapsed! Less than what a woman should have, confirmed by blood panels! I got on treatments for T and Cialis and I'm good to go, but it still makes me hot to send her out. She's now embracing her former slut self as she was before THIS slut married her. It is HOT.

[Sharing One]

I love the beginning stories!

[funkyfitter]

It all started when we were fucking and my wife started talking about how her and a couple of other women were commenting on hot a friend's nephew while chopping wood with his shirt off when we were at a party that night. My cock got harder instantly and I started fucking her faster as she described how she wanted to run her hands over his arms, chest and stomach. We were fucking for all we were worth until I blew my load into her sweet pussy and rolled off her before collapsing next to her. That was our usual sex routine until it got to the point where I couldn't get or stay hard unless she talked about other guys. She got tired of that and told me that she may as well just fuck someone else. I didn't really think that would happen but a couple of weeks later we were at a wedding in Virginia and it did.

[DavaoMike]

I’m over 30 years older than Maricel, my Filipina wife. When she was my live-in girlfriend in Davao Philippines, she cheated on me with her first Filipino boyfriend. When I caught her, she was very apologetic, and her boyfriend was scared shitless. That’s when Maricel and I had our first heart-to-heart.

I explained to Maricel that, in my younger years, I had lots of wild times with multiple girls, but now I’m content to have only one. But I recognized that she was in her young years and that it would be unfair for me to expect her to be monogamous with a man who wanted sex only every couple of weeks when she’s in her prime. So, I told her that I don’t consider her outside relationships to be “cheating” unless she lies to me or is secretive. From there, she felt free to make love with her boyfriend and share everything with me.

Later, of course, we moved to the US and got married. The rest is history, as described in the link below.

DM

[Treat yourself girl]

It turned me on to see her flirt and watch other guys hit on her. So I used to encourage her flirting. If we were going to a party we'd talk about who might be there. I'd ask Amy who she was going to prick-tease tonight. Then I'd tell her to go turn him on. She annoyed a few wives and girl friends though!!

This progressed over time to me telling her how much I'd enjoy seeing her fuck another guy. She didn't believe me at first but I kept telling her. Eventually she granted my wish.

[isinlarsa]

As we were getting to know each other when we started dating, I disclosed to her that I had a history of various types of open relationships ranging from swinging to being monogamous while my wife or girlfriend had sex with other men. Indeed, when we first started dating, she also was still seeing another man, and she revealed he was fucking her on weekends when she and I weren't dating. Since we were "exclusive" at that time, I let her know it didn't bother me.

However, after we became a couple, she said she wasn't interested in other men, even though I let her know it would be okay with her if she did. She would become offended, and said she would not be my "porn queen."

None-the-less, the seed must have been planted, because after 16 years of marriage in her mid-40s she came to me and said she wanted to date other men. She ended up meeting all my fantasies, included getting fucked by a black man half her age in our marital bed.

[dinoo]

IN FACT IT WAS SHE WHO ENCOURAGED ME
(NO QOUTE MARKS BECAUSE IT IS AN IMPRESSION OF WHAT WAS SAID)
Once, while fucking, she asked me if I ever imagined to fuck another woman while I fucked her.
My answer was no because I was very satisfied with our sex life and thus with her.
Of course I asked her if she did.
Her answer was affirmative.
I asked her if she had someone in mind.
She answered again affirmative but added there were in fact two guys.
Do I know them, I asked.
One very well, yes.
Who is it?
There are a few secrets she wanted to keep for myself.

Many years thereafter on holidays she asked me if I would be angry if she would have sex with another man.
No I said but I would like to watch.
Do you have in mind what you would like to see?
Yes, you giving him a BJ and he cumming in and around your mouth.
Would you kiss me then?
I would do everything you have in mind.

To shorten this conversation, we agreed upon to find a club where there could a possibility to let it happen. And to shorten this story too: after entering this club she turned to a HW within 15 minutes. And I became the watcher.
I have to say she chose for the nudist evening where single men were allowed to come in. The site warned that this was an evening for real diehards so I was somewhat astonished that she chose for this evening. In fact single men outnumbered couples by far. The management told me that the average was 3 to 4 single men per couple. My next question was how many visitors were present. His answer: more than 200.

[isinlarsa]

IN FACT IT WAS SHE WHO ENCOURAGED ME
(NO QOUTE MARKS BECAUSE IT IS AN IMPRESSION OF WHAT WAS SAID)
Once, while fucking, she asked me if I ever imagined to fuck another woman while I fucked her.
My answer was no because I was very satisfied with our sex life and thus with her.
Of course I asked her if she did.
Her answer was affirmative.
I asked her if she had someone in mind.
She answered again affirmative but added there were in fact two guys.
Do I know them, I asked.
One very well, yes.
Who is it?
There are a few secrets she wanted to keep for myself.

Many years thereafter on holidays she asked me if I would be angry if she would have sex with another man.
No I said but I would like to watch.
Do you have in mind what you would like to see?
Yes, you giving him a BJ and he cumming in and around your mouth.
Would you kiss me then?
I would do everything you have in mind.

To shorten this conversation, we agreed upon to find a club where there could a possibility to let it happen. And to shorten this story too: after entering this club she turned to a HW within 15 minutes. And I became the watcher.
I have to say she chose for the nudist evening where single men were allowed to come in. The site warned that this was an evening for real diehards so I was somewhat astonished that she chose for this evening. In fact single men outnumbered couples by far. The management told me that the average was 3 to 4 single men per couple. My next question was how many visitors were present. His answer: more than 200.

With those numbers it seems unlikely that any husband would score with any of the other wives; so it must have been an evening for the wives to be fucked by the single men. That's makes it very interesting that your wife picked that night. If this was her first time being a hotwife, it sounds like she took to it like a duck to water. So what was it like to watch turn into a hotwife within 15 minutes. Did she get fucked by multiple men? How did you feel about being the watcher?

[Tank Turner]

My wife didn't need hints. Our dirty talk during sex revealed her fantasies that she wanted to experience. I expressly encouraged and supported her.

[BBCfan]

I thought anyone who encouraged it was crazy and never understood how anybody could find it a turn on.

Then we were going to a wedding and my wife said, "remember that guy I told you about I dated briefly after college that had the biggest cock I ever experienced?"

"Well he might be there, and there's more to the story. I didn't lie to you, we did stop dating BUT we stayed fuck buddies off and on whenever I was single until you and I started dating.(15years)
Just wanted to give you a heads up in case he interacted with you at all."

After that I began asking more questions about them, the more details she divulged, the hotter it was to hear. I began to get unbelievably aroused at the thought of her getting fucked by him again.

So one day a few months later I just came out and said if you want to hook up with him again I'm totally okay with it, as he's only a fuck buddy. It sounds like you guys had awesome sex, and you must miss that huge cock sometimes.

[dinoo]

Isinlarsa, you wrote:

1a With those numbers it seems unlikely that any husband would score with any of the other wives;
1b so it must have been an evening for the wives to be fucked by the single men.
2 That's makes it very interesting that your wife picked that night.
3 If this was her first time being a hotwife, it sounds like she took to it like a duck to water.
4 So what was it like to watch turn into a hotwife within 15 minutes.
5 Did she get fucked by multiple men?
6 How did you feel about being the watcher?

Before I answer, you have to know she loved to edge me, challenge me with other men.

1a You are completely right; subsequent visits were sometimes different
1b Not only fucked unless you mean her mouth too
2 Yes, because it had been warned on the site that that evening was only for experienced and non-reluctant visitors.
3 Yes, but as she said: "I never thought I could be so desirable for men. It became, against my expectations, MY evening."
4 On beforehand I never thought she would changed so quickly into a HW
5 Again, out of our diary you can count that she was fucked two times but gave nine men a BJ; three to he end
6 In the beginning it was "strange" for me; but after half an hour that changed: I was happy that she was enjoying herself like a child in the playground.

If you have any more questions, I will be happy to answer them.

[54321]

Our first forays were softcore. Games like 20 questions over drinks during a dinner date babystepped us into ever expanding areas of openness between us.

You have a list of those questions?

54321

[canadianwittol]

I was pretty blunt and brought it up after a few weeks of dating, because I knew its what I wanted.

I told my then-girlfriend that I had been cheated on for two years during my undergrad and that it had made me curious to explore the cuckold fetish; which she'd never yet heard of. She had, however, earned her undergrad in psychology and did study some sexual psychology and was familiar with the general concepts of the erotic influence of power dynamics in a relationship.

I would learn later too that she had a certain comfort level with the idea based on her parents' marriage, which while not a "Hotwife lifestyle" relationship per se, was well known to her and her sister from the time that they were teens that their mother often had lovers and that her father looked the other way. So she knew, in a way, that it was possible to be a happily married cuckold.

And so, I was lucky that she was incredibly open-minded to it. She was adamantly against doing any cuckold play until after we were married. She did tease me, tell me about past lovers, but no actual cuckolding until after we were married.

We married September 18, 2009. Our first cuckold experience was November 4th, 2009. Been at it ever since.

[dcdb]

Ironically I gave no hints or never even put a thought of "Hotwife" into it. Ours came from what I would consider the holy grail to a great marriage and relationship. We encouraged each other to share what our turn-ons were, what tripped us, with no holding back. In a roundabout way I found out what hers were by having her read the old Penthouse Forums and telling me what she was reading and if she found the story hot, asked her questions. Really it was her body language that gave it away, she couldn't even hide it. What turns her on is what eventually turned me on. I would never have dreamed either of us felt that way. Open honest communication, that's the key. Don't be afraid of it, always tell the truth to your intimate partner, don't hide your thoughts.

[Teensy1]

When we were first married my best friend came over to visit. He playfully pushed my wife the guest bed and began dry humping her. We all giggled but when he got off her she noticed that I had an erection. That’s all she needed to know.